How to determine your sexuality when in doubt. Sexual orientation test. How to do it? I'll explain now

Issues of sexual life are among those that will always concern humanity. Especially issues of sexual identity. There is a special tool for this - the Kinsey scale. Let's get to know him in more detail.

Alfred Kinsey: biographical information

He is a biological sexologist who spent most of his life on a university campus in Midwestern America. Now the institute is named after him.

His path to science began with an interest in entomology. He prepared and published a biology textbook for high school students. But Kinsey remains in history more as the father of sexology than as a great biologist. Studying the variations in mating among insects led him to the idea that humans may also have different types of sexual behavior. The professor developed the Kinsey scale, which allows you to determine a person’s orientation.

In 1935, Kinsey publicly expressed the results of his research in the field of sexology for the first time. The reports, based on interviews with thousands of people, became bestsellers, made their author famous, and remain popular to this day.

Discussions of Kinsey's work

Coincidentally or not, the professor’s research coincided with the period known as the “sexual revolution.” Of course, they caused fierce controversy. He was accused of debauchery, his work was considered morally corrupting, he was accused of having sexual relations with children, and also that his research was based on interviews with prisoners. To this day, the name Kinsey can cause an aggressive reaction, as it is believed that he legitimizes homosexuality. Indeed, thanks to the research of Professor Kinsey, homosexuality was excluded from the list of mental illnesses.

Even decades after the death of a scientist, one can hear the continuation of the controversy. There are attempts to accuse his research of statistical and methodological errors. However, all this does not change the scale of the scientist’s contribution to those areas of science that were previously under a cruel ban.

Kinsey?

It is a tool for measuring people's sexual orientation. A six-point scale has been developed for this purpose. At one end of the scale there is absolute heterosexuality, at the other end there is absolute homosexuality. Despite the fact that the scale is six-point, it actually has eight gradations: 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,x.

The researcher says that there is no absolute discreteness; in most cases it is a union.

Features of the scale

This is not a psychological test. Although under the name “Kinsey Scale” you can find a huge number of tests on the Internet. This is a method of self-esteem when a person defines himself based on the sexual experiences that he has had over the past three years.

This means that the scale will not reveal hidden biases or anything that the person himself is not aware of. Another important conclusion is that the assessment can change throughout life depending on how the nature of a person's sexual communication changes.

A test also exists based on an instrument such as the Kinsey scale, but these are modifications created by other researchers based on the professor’s work.

How to use the scale?

The Kinsey scale is exactly the same for men and women. To find your place on it, you need to take into account the number of sexual contacts with people of the same or opposite sex. The important point is contacts! And not fantasies, erotic dreams, watched videos and conversations on intimate topics. Only real contacts matter.

If you have no homosexual experience at all, this corresponds to a value of 0.

If contacts with people of the same sex were episodic, and with people of the opposite sex - regular, this situation corresponds to value 1.

If there is quite a lot of experience with people of both sexes, but still more with the opposite sex, this corresponds to value 2.

Equality of experience corresponds to number 3.

Accordingly, with a slight advantage on the side of homosexual contacts - 4, with a significant advantage - 5, and with experience of sex only with the same sex and no sex with the opposite sex - 6.

If during the three years studied there were no sexual contacts at all, this corresponds to the value x - asexuality.

Essentially, this is one question and seven possible answers to it. That's all. No mystery or mysticism. Therefore, if you dreamed of identifying the secret inclinations of your husband or girlfriend and thought that the Kinsey scale in Russian would help you with this, then you will have to be disappointed in this idea. Nothing will work out.

Test modification

If you still want to play, there is a modification of the test developed by Fritz Klein. The Kinsey scale for women is especially interesting from this point of view. It's easy to take the test online online.

Why for women? They are the ones who most often ask questions about sexual orientation, although men do too. Klein's variation is known as the "Sexual Orientation Grid" and contains 21 questions. This test contains questions not only about real experiences in the past, but also about what gender people are attractive to you, including in a situation if you were free from fears and prejudices. With which gender would you like to have a sexual experience if there was an ideal situation when you are free from prejudices and fears, who is present in fantasies and dreams? The test even includes questions about emotional preferences and communication preferences. The result is given as a percentage of homosexuality, bisexuality, heterosexuality and asexuality.

Try it and perhaps you will learn something interesting about yourself or your partner. But don't take the test results too seriously.

Take 12 questions to find out your true sexual orientation. Many people repress true sexuality due to their upbringing or accepted norms.

But you can’t fool yourself! Sexologist Alfred Kinsey developed a scale to measure sexual orientation, and testing was based on it. If you have repressed tendencies, today you will learn about them.

How to pass

First, indicate your gender, and then proceed to the main tasks - look at fancy pictures and choose associations from several proposed options. Testing will require utmost honesty, answer questions without any pretense. This is the only way you can count on an objective assessment.

What will the test tell you about?

You will find out your result on the Kinsey scale. will show whether you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or heterosexual. If your answers were truthful, then you can have no doubt about the verdict, since this one is very accurate and reveals even those intimate needs that are securely hidden in the respondent’s subconscious.

Like check yourself and your friends whose hands you shake every day.

Most likely a fake, like the old Finnish test ( fritzmorgen I did a great job promoting this topic at one time):

If you do not see numbers in only one circle, then you have and may possibly develop one of the following deviations:\

Circle 1. Increased aggressiveness, conflict. It is recommended to pay a lot of attention to contrast showers and physical exercises.

Circle 2. Reduced mental abilities. When serving in general branches of the military, no additional measures are required.

Circle 3. Gasterimargia (gluttony). Increased rations, more physical exercise, sedentary work and work in the kitchen are contraindicated.

Circle 5. Latent (hidden, suppressed) homosexuality. Attacks of uncontrolled attraction to persons of the same sex are possible. No additional measures are required.

– Sveta Gogol

Knowledgeable people claim that you can learn quite a lot about a person’s personal life simply by looking closely at him. No, you will not need a crystal ball, and we cannot guarantee that all information will be one hundred percent accurate. No magic. Just science.

1. Do you want to know how she feels about you? Look at her feet

Remember that girl you were crazy about in high school? You never decided to confess - you were afraid of getting rejected. Do you remember how you experienced the same thing last week? Maybe it will be much easier to ask a girl out if you know the answer before you ask the question?

Psychologists will tell you that it's all about body language. Yes, you probably know this yourself. The problem is that other people (and women in particular) also read about it and became adept at imitating indifference with amazing virtuosity. So don't jump to conclusions.

Look at her feet.

Usually, people try to control the movements of their body, especially if they want to hide something. But they are the worst at it with their legs. So legs are more likely to reveal the secrets of their owners.

Scientists at the University of Manchester conducted a study examining the foot movements of different people in different situations. They found out, in particular, that if a woman, while communicating with you, stands or sits with her legs apart, you have a great chance. But if she crossed them or closed them tightly, alas, most likely she doesn’t like you.

2. A person’s political views can be determined by their eyes.

In most cases, we learn about people's political views from them themselves. However, not everyone constantly shouts slogans or puts up bumper stickers declaring their political leanings.

Fortunately, with the help of science, you can easily determine who is in front of you - a liberal or a conservative.

How is this possible? I'll explain now.

By the look. Literally. Eye contact can give away your interlocutor's political beliefs.

Scientists have conducted a number of experiments and found that people who hold liberal views are most likely to repeat your eye movements when communicating. Suppose you are talking to someone, and suddenly you look away from the other person and look at something to the right of him. Maybe they saw an acquaintance or a beautiful woman passed by. A liberal will probably turn around to see what caught your attention, even if it has nothing to do with the subject of the conversation. If you look away again, they will repeat your movement again and again...

Conservatives usually don't care what you're looking at. They will continue to look at you without being distracted. Scientists are inclined to conclude that adherents of conservative views do not look away because they like to decide for themselves what to do.

3. A person’s sexual orientation can be determined by their hands and hair (usually)

Suppose for some reason you desperately need to determine a person’s sexual orientation. Sometimes it's not that easy. But probably.

How? I'll explain now.

Look at your hands and hair.

One of the indicators of possible homosexuality is the ratio of the length of the index and ring fingers. This ratio is determined even before birth. In the mother's womb, the development of the ring finger is promoted by the male sex hormone testosterone, and the development of the index finger by the female hormone estrogen. Therefore, the ratio of the lengths of these fingers in men and women is usually different.

The ring finger of the stronger sex is longer than the index finger; in women they are approximately the same length. Deviation from this rule may indicate non-traditional sexual orientation.

In other words, if a guy has approximately the same length of his index and ring fingers, it is quite possible that he is gay. Or if a woman’s ring finger is much longer than her index finger, this may also mean she belongs to sexual minorities.

Now pay attention to the hair. More precisely, in which direction they curl on the top of his head. The results of one study have revealed a mysterious connection between the direction of hair growth and sexual orientation. It turned out that 23% of gay men have cowlicks on the back of their heads that curl counterclockwise. While among all people in general, the hair on the top of the head is directed counterclockwise only in eight percent.

4. Eye color can determine how much alcohol a person can drink

There may come a time in every man's life when he desperately needs to get another man drunk to the point of complete insanity. Maybe you made a bet that you would outdrink someone, or you want to prove how cool you are. Or maybe you are the hero of a mediocre romantic comedy, but you never know...

Suppose you have an argument and you need to choose your opponent. Naturally, you will choose from the whole company a pitiful, slender creature with sky-blue eyes. And in an hour you will curse everything in the world. But all this could have been avoided if you knew how to choose a simpler opponent.

How to do it? I'll explain now.

Choosing blue-eyed was a big mistake. Eye color turns out to be an excellent indicator of the amount of alcohol a person manages to drink before becoming drunk.

Scientists conducted a study involving thousands of white men. It turned out that those with light eyes (blue, green, gray) can drink much more than those with dark ones. Experiments involving women yielded approximately the same results.

What’s even more interesting is that the results of these studies could be predicted in advance. Brown-eyed people are known to be more sensitive to medications and other irritants. This sensitivity makes them stop in time. Blue-eyed people, on the other hand, need more alcohol to get high, so they easily chug down drink after drink. On top of that, as it turned out during the same studies, blue-eyed people tend to be more prone to drunken brawls.

5. You can tell a rich person by the way he communicates.

If you are one of those people who didn’t care about the socio-economic status of others, we are very happy for you. But for many of us, the ability to quickly determine the level of well-being of a stranger can help avoid awkwardness, or even trouble, with subsequent hospitalization in a pre-heart attack state.

Want to know how to spot a moneybag? Very simple. Look what car he arrived in.

Kidding. The scientifically proven method that I want to offer you is even stupider.

In 2009, two California universities conducted a psychological study. The goal is to establish the relationship between a person’s socio-economic status and the nonverbal means of communication that he unconsciously uses when communicating.

Participants in the experiment, unfamiliar with each other, were divided into pairs. One person in each couple was significantly wealthier than the other. While they were getting acquainted and communicating, scientists recorded all conversations on film. The results were as follows: those who were richer behaved more separately. While the interlocutor was trying to capture their attention, they often changed their position, twirled a pencil in their hands, etc. Those who were poorer did not twitch, nodded, smiled and actually listened to their partners with interest.

The theory is that people with higher socioeconomic status, due to their wealth and education, are less dependent on others. Therefore, they are not very interested in communicating with other people.

However, if someone behaves like this towards you, and you know for sure that this person is broke, then most likely he simply does not like you.

Sometimes the simple answer is the best answer.

Svetlana, good afternoon.

It seems to me that you have mixed a lot of questions into one pile at once and this is preventing you from understanding yourself. Sexuality develops and undergoes changes throughout life, therefore, by the age of 20 it cannot be considered mature and complete, and this is especially evident in women, whose peak development of sexuality occurs at a much more mature age.

The irritation that arises in your relationship with your boyfriend has nothing to do with sexual orientation. This is just your relationship with your boyfriend, in which there are contradictions and conflicts. Exactly the same contradictions and conflicts arise in both heterosexual and homosexual couples, regardless of the gender of the partners. These are communication problems, not sexual ones.

In male or female couples or groups, relationships can be very easy and attractive in the short term and this is clearly visible in many situations, regardless of the sexual orientation of the people. It is easier for us to communicate with those who are more like us. For example:

Men love some kind of joint activities (bachelor party, fishing trip, hiking in the mountains or sailing regatta, and so on)

Women love some kind of joint activities (bachelorette party, get-togethers with women's conversations, joint shopping, joint creative activities, and so on)

At the same time, the attractiveness of the opposite sex is associated precisely with dissimilarity. It is the differences that cause a certain tension and interest.

Moreover, in female groups, competition or envy associated with sexual attractiveness can arise much more acutely than in male groups. This happens for two reasons: a societal stereotype associated with the eroticization of female appearance, and the fact that women tend not to express aggression and restrain it, which leads to the accumulation of suppressed aggression and, as a result, deformation of communication.

In men and boys, competition, envy and competitiveness are based more on other indicators, which can be expressed more simply and directly, or transformed into other values ​​of a purely masculine type, and therefore not accumulated.

You write: " Sex rarely brings true pleasure; more often I just endure it so as not to offend him. ....and now my boyfriend has gained serious weight and the attraction has practically disappeared."

All people who, without experiencing attraction, have sex out of pity for their partner, fear of offending, or other similar motives, have problems with receiving pleasure. This is a purely psychological factor in the loss of sexual pleasure and is also not related to sexual orientation.

At the same time you write: " Only women always excite me. As for erotic videos with a man and a woman, I hate looking at them, and only videos, photographs and thoughts of same-sex themes excite me."

Many people are interested in photographs and videos of same-sex themes, but this does not indicate real sexual orientation. In your particular case, such interest can be determined by many factors, and is mainly based on the perception of yourself and your body, and not the perception of others. The relationship with your mother, and how it developed from your early childhood, also plays an important role in this.

Next you write: " I don’t understand what’s wrong with my sexuality, I constantly want to be close to a girl or just lie next to her in an embrace, stroke her hair and so on. I'm seriously wondering if I should continue the relationship."

There are two questions here:

1. The need for intimacy and closeness, which apparently you cannot get in your relationship. You are hiding from your boyfriend the fact that you are having sex with him without desire, and you explain this by saying that you do not want to offend him. But in fact, you yourself may already be offended by him, and such a condescending attitude may simply be an expression of suppressed aggression.

2. Whether you continue your relationship with your boyfriend or not is up to you. But if you do not learn to build trusting relationships, then you will have problems with intimacy with any partner.

I wish you clarity of thoughts and feelings, harmony with yourself and mutual understanding with others.

If it is important and interesting for you to discuss issues of your sexuality, your relationships and choice of a sexual partner, call and make an appointment.

Anastasia Biryukova, Gestalt therapist in St. Petersburg, Skype from anywhere in the world