How to understand if a girl is suitable. The only sure way to know that she's your destiny
In general, you should first figure out why a man starts dating a girl. If your goal is only intimate relationships, then you should not start dating for this, there are many other ways and partners who lack male intimacy and do not need a serious relationship. People begin to meet with the goal that in the future they will create a family. Remember that a serious relationship is very painful to break, so do not start a serious relationship just to satisfy your animal needs. One of you can fall in love and just a moment of weakness can turn into a headache.
What to do with a serious relationship?
But still, it happens that people start a serious relationship. At first, you don’t see anything wrong with your chosen one, since you are now in the candy-bouquet period and always a few days or weeks ago. I myself know that even at this moment you try not to notice all the shortcomings, and even if they are noticed, they are considered insignificant. If this continues after two or three months, especially if you had an intimacy with a girl, then you can be glad that this girl is right for you. You are ready to forgive her for everything, support her in difficult times.
And now I want to give a few facts that can start in a relationship that is not worth continuing.
1) You are jealous of a girl even for the first time you meet, sometimes jealousy is transferred to friends. In addition, it seems to you that the girl dresses too vulgarly.
2) The girl does not give you time at all to be without her. This is especially true when meeting with friends. A partner must be trusted, and if as soon as you leave, endless calls begin, then this can hardly be called trust. This should come from you as well. How can you value a serious relationship with someone you don't trust.
3) Against the background of the previous two points, attempts may begin to raise a hand against a partner or insults, especially those that go beyond all limits.
If this happens to you, then you should not hope that in the future everything will change for the better. It won't change for the better, it will only get worse. It is better to leave right now, while there are no obligations.
It should be recognized that it is impossible to live without quarrels, sometimes there are simply critical days or there is no mood. And this should be understood, such relationships built on understanding and trust deserve to last forever. But nothing in the world is eternal. I wish you to find a girl with whom you will be fine. Everyone has flaws, find such a person and you will be happy.
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Probably, more than one man going on a first date is interested in the answer to the question - will there be a second date? And what should you pay attention to in order to understand whether it is necessary, this second date?
Let's try to figure it out together. Here are five guidelines for you, according to which, perhaps, you will understand whether your new passion suits you or it is better to end the relationship without starting it.
1. See how she treats others.
Did you make your first date at a restaurant? Great! Now pay attention to how she will treat, for example, the waiter. Do not forget, she wants to make the most rosy impression on you, and this is always a little slyness and deceit. But in a conversation with a waiter, she will most likely behave the way she used to behave with people who are serving her at the moment.
If your new acquaintance shows rudeness, intemperance towards the employee of the institution, then this is a hint that you should think about another candidate as a bride. You don't want to feel compelled to pay the waiter double the fee whenever and wherever you may end up with this girl to make up for your girlfriend's bad manners!
2. She asked about the restaurant bill?
Of course, a man should pay the bills, especially on a first date. It's not a question. And every normal man will turn out the latter, but will not allow his girlfriend to climb into his wallet. And now an unexpected turn - fix in your brain, did she look into the restaurant "sentence"? A trifle, of course, but in subsequent relationships it can play an important role. No one, of course, expects that the girl, inquiring about the amount, will take over the payment. But complete indifference to the account can also mean complete indifference to your boyfriend in principle. Do you need it in the future? Think!
3. The rule of conversation between two
Tonight is the first time you meet a pretty girl that you like. Get ready for lovely girlish chirping, think in advance about the questions, the answers to which will give you an idea about her, her life, interests and plans. But be sure to pay attention to one nuance. If she will willingly answer your questions all evening about herself, her beloved, but does not ask ANY counter questions about yourself, your life and your interests, you should know - most likely, she wants to see in you a spectator of her successful career and a wordless admirer of her talents, but not a co-author of your common future life.
4. The rule of drinking alcohol
Worse than being rude, for a girl, is being rude and drunk. On the first date, if you order alcohol, don't be shy and take a closer look (invisibly to her, of course) how much she drinks. For many experienced guys, the benchmark is whether she drank more than her new friend or less. If from the very first minutes of your date she knocks over a glass of tequila and squeals with happiness when the waiter brings you new strong drinks, if she fills her mouth with alcohol more often than throws a snack there, know that this is an alarming bell for you.
5. Her ability to say "thank you"
It's nice when a girl on a first date after dinner at a restaurant says this magic word. This is especially nice if dinner for some reason was not perfect. But gratitude for communication in a restaurant immediately after the interlocutors got up from the table is, let's say, a general rule of etiquette. And it’s a completely different matter if the girl finds an opportunity the next day to call you or send an SMS with words about how pleasant the last evening was and how grateful she is to you for it.
Experienced people say that if a man does not receive such recognition within 48 hours after the first date, then it is not out of place to think again whether he made the right choice. And in no case do not try to be the first to ask her if she liked your first date! You have your own manhood, don't you?
If on the first date you ask a girl if she has a piercing on…. (well, you understand), most likely she will send you away, and you are unlikely to shine. Even an innocent question, what is her favorite color, can cost you the desired second meeting. Why? You may seem superficial to her. She has enough life experience, she can tell a lot, and you are only able to ask her a meaningless question!
Women have strange logic. Therefore, we have come up with 50 questions for you that will help you not to disrupt the date and get to know your girlfriend inside and out. Of course, you should not ask all these questions at once on one date, choose a few and dilute the conversation with them.
1. What would you never repeat in your life?
2. What would you choose: to be twice as smart or twice as happy?
3. For what reason did you cry for the last time?
4. In what situation did you feel the most nervous?
5. What fact about you might surprise your parents?
6. What is your worst habit?
7. What superpower would you like to have for one day?
8. What superhero do you think is the most attractive man?
9. What's the weirdest thing your pet does?
10. Where would you live if you could choose any place on Earth?
11. Who knows you best?
12. What clubs did you go to at school?
13. Finish the sentence: “Probably best of all I…”
14. What was the last book you really liked?
15. The best show of all time?
16. At what age did you like to live the most?
17. If you could go back in time, what advice would you give yourself?
18. Finish the sentence: “Most of all dawn, I would be upset if I never…”
19. Apologize or ask permission?
20. Endless love or money?
21. If you knew you were going to die in a week, what would you do?
22. What song have you listened to most times?
23. Lie down on the beach or wander around Europe with excursions?
24. If you were a child prodigy, what would you do?
25. What is the first thing you will do if you win the lottery?
26. Which celebrity would you trade places with?
27. If you were a musician, what would you name your first album?
28. What life story do your friends remind you from time to time?
29. If there was only one seasoning left in the world, what would you choose?
30. Ideal number of people for a Friday party?
31. The most unpleasant age for you?
33. What fictional character reminds you of yourself?
35. What program did you love to watch as a child?
37. In any game where you choose a category of questions, what would you choose first?
38. In what things are you superstitious?
39. Tell me about the worst thing in your life.
40. Which non-political person would you support in an election? Or whose election race would you be interested in watching?
42. Which dead person would you like to have lunch with if it were possible?
43. Do you think it's important to follow the news?
44. What is the best present you have ever received?
45. Would you agree to sacrifice one of your fingers if in return you got free Wi-Fi everywhere you go?
46. What would be the first thing you would do if you turned into a man for one day?
47. If you could give a gift to anyone for any amount, what would you give and to whom?
48. A large comfortable house in a residential area or a tiny house with a great view?
49. What is the nicest thing others can say about you?
7. She raises an eyebrow
This is an implicit sign of strong sympathy, so it should be considered in conjunction with others.
8. Position of her hands
If a girl crosses her arms over her chest, you can be sure that she is either cold or cold towards you.
9. Position of her palms
Another clue to the presence of interest on the part of the girl is her open and inverted palms.
This position of the palms shows openness and willingness to develop relationships, while clenched fists are a bad sign.
10. She leans towards you
If she leans towards you when she doesn't really need to, consider it a sign. For example, she may lean in under the pretext that it is difficult for her to hear what you are saying.
11. Showing off your body
Women know that men cannot resist female charms, so a sure sign that a girl wants you is showing you to your beloved the open area of \u200b\u200bher chest, legs, shoulders.
12. Physical contact
Did she casually touch your hand or hit you on the knee while laughing? Women don't touch people they don't like.
A girl may not be fond of makeup, but if next to you, thanks to cosmetics, her level of beauty rises, do not forget to take note of this.
In addition, her outfit, which is, for example, a tight dress, is an additional argument to think about.
16. She initiates communication
If a girl does not wait for you to call her, but calls you first, then she is very interested in you and in developing relationships.
True, this happens very rarely, and much more often a girl initiates the development of communication implicitly.
For example, she might spontaneously give you 2 flyers to a nightclub, without really explaining anything, in the hope that you will invite her with you.
17. She invests in communication
The girl takes the initiative to do something for you, offers to help or treats you to something, such as coffee.
18. She asks if you live alone
Why do you think she might ask you about it? That's right, to make sure no one bothers you when you're alone.
19. She talks about your possible girlfriend
This is a classic. When the interlocutor throws something like “Your girlfriend must like this!”, The purpose of the spoken words, of course, is not related to caring for your passion, which may not be at all.
It's just that your new friend is trying to determine your status to make sure you're a guy who isn't burdened by a relationship and she's not wasting her time.
20. She makes it clear that she has no one
Has she already told you that she doesn't have a boyfriend? And why do you think? It is clear that the girl wants you.
21. She initiates intimate conversations
If a girl is not a journalist on the staff of Eros magazine, she is unlikely to raise intimate topics in communication with you.
Women won't have these kinds of conversations with men they don't see as love partners.
22. She teases you
If the girl is gently teasing you, then the flirting toggle switch is set to the “On” position.
23. She tickles you
The girl wants to touch you, but doesn't want it to be too obvious, so the attempt to tickle you should be taken into account for the presence of attraction.
24. She can't look at you without smiling.
A smile is one of the main indicators in an attempt to find out a girl's attitude towards you.
When a girl smiles at you, it is a good sign that she feels positive and enjoys your company.
If she flirts with you and constantly smiles, then most likely she wants you.
25. She kisses you
This does not mean that a friend will sleep with you 100%, but she is clearly preparing a springboard, so 99% is already yours.
As a result of the kiss, the girl will find out if she wants more, in connection with which give her a really worthwhile kiss.
26. She notices details.
It's all about the details. If a girl notices that you have a trendy haircut, a toned torso, or a delicious smell of toilet water, this is a clear indicator that she is breathing unevenly in your direction.
27. She compliments you
How to understand that a girl wants you? Listen to what she says. Especially if a friend gifts you, tells you that she likes the way you look, or praises your intelligence, humor and your talents.
28. She runs into a compliment
A girl may ask you: “What do you think of my hair?” or “How do you like my dress?”. Satisfy the interest of the interlocutor, say that she is beautiful.
29. She doesn't check her phone.
Today, people rarely look up from their mobile gadgets. But if the interlocutor hides her phone and, having entered into a conversation with you, simply forgets about her mobile friend, completely focusing on you, know that there is not so much left before sin.
30. She asks questions
By asking questions, the girl shows that she is interested in you and wants to get to know you better.
31. She laughs at your jokes
If a girl constantly laughs at your jokes, she definitely likes you.
Does this mean that a friend is ready to sleep with you? Probably not, but you are definitely moving in the right direction.
32. She agrees to do everything you suggest.
Even your most boring suggestions seem like a great idea to her. A girl wants to spend time with you, no matter what you do.
33. She shares her food with you
“Take it, try it.” Has this happened to you? That's it. No one will share their food with people they don't like.
34. She borrows your clothes
Have you noticed that your sweater is increasingly hugging the girl’s shoulders, instead of warming its owner?
Maybe it's just cold outside, but most likely your girlfriend wants to feel you closer to her.
35. She texts you at night.
If a girl texts you after midnight, she thinks of you in a context that is definitely different from purely friendly.
Just don't get ahead of the curve by trying to dilute the correspondence with spicy texts. Let her lead this topic.
36. She always answers messages
Does the girl always respond to your messages without making you wait long? If so, then you will soon get to know her as closely as possible.
37. She really wants to meet
If a girl herself offers to meet you, especially if you accidentally bumped into somewhere, she is clearly up to something. Or maybe the girl just wants you.
38. She herself offers to exchange contacts
In this case, the girl wants to get to know you better and, apparently, meet again. A great sign of her strong interest.
It's great when a girl herself asks you to exchange phone numbers, because this does not happen often.
The desire of the girl to exchange contacts in order to quickly get rid of you is not taken into account.
I often see that people approach the choice of a partner based on some kind of general verbal constructions, which are very vague. They describe the current stereotype of the current idea of what a girl should be, for example, “beautiful, smart, kind, with a rich inner world” - everything is vague and vague. Some details that are not related to communication and sexual contact are thought out, such as the length of nails, professions, etc.
If you are looking for a girl with whom you will be pleased, who fits your psychotype, then all sorts of little things should be discarded. Any girl with whom you communicate, you subconsciously perceive as a sexual partner. If you are pleased to communicate, if the girl is attractive to you, then she is most likely suitable for you - in this way, you are prompted. If her appearance does not correspond to the ideal imposed by the media propaganda, does not look like those girls with whose participation you watch porn and reject her on this basis, then you are engaged in self-deception.
Even if you find a girl who meets the generally accepted standards of beauty, you still will not feel sexual satisfaction with her. Perhaps you will be pleased with yourself, feel pride when you flash in front of your acquaintances, but you will not get personal physical pleasure. If you have never followed your instinct in your life, have not built relationships with girls that you really like, then most likely you have nothing to compare with. You have never experienced real sexual pleasure.
If you approach the search with a closer attitude to nature, then the partner should be determined by smell. If you like the smell of a girl's clean body, then this is the right partner. Studies have found that the more you are attracted to the smell, the more you have a different composition of DNA, a set of genes, which means that the better your offspring will be. Nature provided for this for the maximum diversity of the population. This approach is instinctive and in sexual matters it is correct. In the US, there are even "pheromone parties" where people are given the opportunity to choose a scent partner. They come up with different options for organizing such parties, I won’t describe it in detail. If you are interested, you can easily find the information you need on the Internet.
How to smell a girl if you're not at a pheromone party? This is an interesting question. Now all the girls pour themselves abundantly with perfume and drown out the natural smell, but you can still find a way. The easiest way to do this is in a club, in a disco, where everyone is hot and excited. There is no need to make a conscious effort, the instincts themselves will tell you who is the ideal sexual partner for you. But this is for those who like to hang out. If you get creative with this issue, you can easily find ways to smell the natural smell of a girl in any conditions.
You will like a lot of girls by the smell, I'm sure. If you are looking for a partner for one time, then you can just rely on your instincts. This is a very important, but not the only criterion if your plans go a little further. You also need to consider how communication goes, how comfortable you are with this girl. It would be nice to improve your own communication skills as well. There are other articles on this site about this.
