What is giving pickup lessons. If flattery is not to your liking. Myths about pickup trucks

« Pickup. Antidote” is a project that brings understanding, with the help of which a woman gains awareness of what is being done to her and how, and freedom of choice is born in awareness.

After reading the articles Why does the pickup work? ” and ““, you might be thinking, “Okay, I figured out that all he does is show off the False Alpha suit. But after a while, rose-colored glasses will fall off ... ".

Of course they will fall! Because the higher the status of a woman, the higher the intelligence. In order for the "rose-colored glasses" to remain in place, the pick-up artist introduces additional techniques into the Game. I call them "training" techniques.

What's the point? A pickup artist needs to force a woman invest as many resources as possible into a relationship. This is how our psyche works, no matter if it is male or female: the more we invest in something, the more expensive it is for us! And when a man is able to evoke the full range of emotions in us, then the attraction becomes even stronger. From hate to love is one step. Therefore, the pick-up artist begins to artificially stimulate emotions in order to tie a woman to himself. And, instead of giving only "positive" emotions, Player stimulate the whole range, including curiosity, jealousy, resentment, indignation, sadness, fear of loss.

Let's look under a microscope pickup truck tricks, forcing to see in the False Alpha a man of all life, for the sake of which a woman becomes capable of anything. I want to draw your attention to the fact that the techniques can be used in a light version or a heavy one - you can just touch it with a hammer, or you can bang your head. The strength of the blow depends on who holds the hammer in his hands. But the fact that in relations with a pick-up artist, “blows” are present- definitely.

EXPECTATION

One of the most important tools of the pickup master - keep waiting. In the Engage and Get Close phases, he showed up to meetings on time, so a sudden change will lead to conflict, so he lengthens his lateness gradually. How he does it?

You agreed to meet at a restaurant at eight in the evening, you left in advance, at this time you receive an SMS with the text: "I'm late for half an hour." There is no point in returning home, so you come to the appointed place. At 20:30 the phone rings - he is in a traffic jam or he was kidnapped by aliens, but he will be in fifteen minutes. He usually arrives in half an hour. Pick-up artists try to keep the waiting time in the restaurant less than 1 hour. You don’t even notice, because this is the first time and he warned, so you wait.

The next round of development − waiting time increase.

"I'll come by tonight!" When asked to indicate the exact time, you receive a vague answer: “As soon as I get free, I will immediately.” Evening is a flexible concept, you are already ready for seven, it is not there at eight, and at nine, and even at ten. At first you don’t call or write - he’s busy, why bother him, but after ten you break down, an SMS comes in response: “I’ll be there soon.”

You started preparing for the meeting at six, he arrived at eleven, What are you doing those five hours? Right! Thinking about him. That's why they keep you waiting! They make you wait even with a phone call. You call, he doesn't answer, he calls back in ten minutes. What is happening at this moment? The thought involuntarily runs through: what is he doing? And you wait for the call back. It turns out that when he is late, you think about him and put emotions into it. When he doesn't call, you think about him. When he picked up the phone and said that he would call back - you think again! Why would he? The more we think about someone, the more emotions, the more we become attached to him.

The question arises: why is he not afraid of being sent? Answer: because there is a technique by which irritation disappears: appear unexpectedly. Sorry. You are giving a compliment.

Therefore, when he suddenly appears on the threshold with the words: “Forgive me! You're so beautiful! I miss you! ”, instead of giving him a brazen, you rejoice - like a dog. Sorry for the harsh comparison, but it's true, this technique suppresses to the state of an animal waiting for the owner. And some pickup masters have reached such a “level” of confidence that they don’t even say “sorry”, instead they jokingly bow their knees or look with a plaintive look. Enough compliment and the very appearance of the owner.

The next training method is lowering self-esteem.

REDUCTION

Already expectation affects self-esteem, but in the arsenal of a pickup truck there are harder tricks. We have already talked about the Minus-Plus technique in the article “ Pickup basics. quick seduction". Negative compliments remain in the arsenal, but at the stage RELATIONSHIP they add a new version. The player chooses something in you that he does not like, and constantly focuses on this:

If you lost five kilos, you would be perfect.

If you cut your hair (dye your hair, start wearing short, wear long, quit smoking, do fitness).

The list is endless!

He cares control your self-esteem. For what? If you try to please him, then he is above you. The main indicator of the effectiveness of technology: desire to meet the requirements. And when you lose weight or cut your hair or start wearing short, you get something like this in response:

Short dress? It suits you very well! But you look even better in a little black dress, hope to see you in one!

The second frequent trick for a pickup artist: intellectual pressure. He constantly uses words in his vocabulary that you do not understand:

Do you have haptophobia?

I have dystinia today.

You give me a frisson.

I'm a deviant.

After such words, you hang out and agree with his opinion. He is so smart! But the aftertaste remains he is smart, and you are the antonym of this word. In fact, in most cases this memorized phrases- a technique for lowering the victim's self-esteem and for raising one's own in the eyes of the girl.

Next reduction method − comparison with former.

Masha cooked better! And what a figure Lena had! Here Ira was much more liberated than you! But you are a good person.

You are trying to be better!

And one of the toughest types of demotion is the presence of a third party. By the way, it is far from a fact that he chooses between you and her, but he creates an appearance.

I can not decide. I see myself with you today, but I don’t see myself in my old age ...

He turns himself into a "prize" to fight for.

After applying such techniques, the victim's self-esteem drops over time, while a song from his own lips sounds in the background:

How lucky you are with me, how smart, beautiful and in demand I am.

By the way, many of them are very far from “beauty, intelligence and demand”. Along with a drop in self-esteem, the importance of the presence of this man in life grows, and the pick-up artist connects more powerful tricks. And all your friends are very surprised: “How do you meet such a strange guy?”.

UNCERTAINTY

You are in a relationship, but their status is not defined. And when you try to talk about it, the response is something like:

I thought it was clear!

You are so smart! What questions!

You're so beautiful! What a bright blouse!

I thought you were different!

Do you want to ruin the evening?

Could such a great woman be bothered by this?

The last one is tearing me apart. That is, if you continue, then you are no longer great and, of course, you will fall silent. You never manage to discuss your relationship and come to certainty. As a rule, such conversations Player reacts with a different method of education - includes techniques cancellation. So that you know your place!

CANCEL

All technicians cancellation are a kind of quintessence of "Closer-Further". We have already talked about the near-far technique in previous article. At the beginning of the "Convergence" stage (the first long communication), he did the maximum "Closer". He came to the meeting on time, joked, read, told, while he did not show too much interest. But in relations the Closer-Further technique in different variations takes on a different meaning.

What's happened " Closer-Further"? Imagine that our emotions in a relationship can be measured on a scale: plus a hundred− maximum positive up to minus one hundred- the biggest negative: gap. When a pickupper does "Closer" it's plus fifty, when it does an advanced "Closer" it's eighty. Now imagine that there is a sharp drop in emotions, for example, from fifty to thirty - this is “Next”. Variations of the fall of the scale of emotions are used to keep a woman on her toes.

Their use begins, as a rule, immediately after sex. For example, he comes to you and you communicate without intimacy. More calls and SMS: used to call and send messages, now - no, or - may not answer them. That is, it lowers emotions from fifty to thirty. This change in behavior suggests: what's happening? And you do “Closer”: you call, write, pester - you start to catch up with him. Naturally, if you invest more emotions, then these relationships become more important for you. A woman is like a cat, it is difficult to make her hunt, but you can captivate her. And even if you didn’t take your relationship seriously at first, after these techniques it seems to you that you need it.

The second option, the most common use, I call training. That is, every time you try to find out something or bring up a topic that he does not like, he makes a sharp “Further”, increasing the gap from fifty to zero. You have an unconscious desire to avoid an uncomfortable situation, and you do “Closer” - you smooth out the conflict yourself.

AND the toughest undoing technique is called"And gla". The “needle” is used to create a long-term relationship in order to “calm down a presumptuous girlfriend” a little (quote from the guru). For some time, the pickup artist plays the advanced “Closer” - his relationship with you consists only of positive emotions, he brings emotions to a maximum - to 80, and sometimes 90. And at the most unexpected moment, a “needle” injection follows. Moreover, the injection occurs suddenly - and the more unpredictable it is, the stronger the effect of this technique is manifested. The technique is to make a concentrated "Further", and with the greatest possible intensity for this woman. This is a technique of a sharp drop in emotions. The greater the gap in the shortest period of time, the harder the hammer blow on your psyche.

Is it true, the use of the "needle" is risky: the girl can immediately leave. Therefore, the pickup artist prepares for this. At first, in order to insure, a technique is used, which I call this: donkey carrot«.

We'll go on vacation.

I need time to decide.

Everything will change tomorrow.

We knights are strange at first, but then we change.

He puts a "carrot" that gives hope for change. You don’t notice her, but at the moment when you want to break off relations, you remember her.

Second take- preparation for the "minus". For example, he says that he is afraid of losing you or that you are the most important thing in his life.

Third - input in « minus«:

You'll be mad at me again, but...

I don't know how to tell you, but...

I'm letting you down again, but...

I know we agreed, but...

In real "needle" occurs as follows: everything is good in your relationship. You meet, have fun, nights of love and joyful prospects. You agree that in the evening after work he will come and you will spend the weekend together. And then bam! At best, a phone call is heard, which begins with the words: "I know we agreed, but ...". At worst, the pick-up artist disappears for no reason. He does not answer calls and SMS, he is not there, and if he answers, then to the question: “What happened?”, You get something like: “Everything is fine.” And from his answer breathes such a cold that the withers stand on end. You are brought into the zone of non-existence. That is, from plus eighty» you were sent to « minus fifty“and sometimes minus eighty.

The larger the gap, the worse the condition. There is a feeling that every cell in your body is on fire from irritation and misunderstanding. Really shakes. And suddenly the next day he appears with the word: "I'm sorry." You are hysterical! But he presents evidence that you made it all up for yourself. You come up with different things, depending on the prepared scenario: from treason to he was killed.

When you experience such a range of emotions - from the maximum plus to the maximum minus - it works like a binding to a man! We forget about negative emotions, only the memory of the strength of these emotions remains in the unconscious. Therefore, it is difficult for a woman to leave such a man. They are trying to explain to her that it is necessary to break off the relationship, but she cannot - she is emotionally attached. And when the relationship ends the women lie "in the fetal position on the couch". This - result application of this technique.

UNHEALTHY GUILT

The next stage in the development of "relationships" − cultivating unhealthy feelings of guilt. I want to draw boundaries right away. Guilt is our subconscious reaction to actions that violate our “right or wrong”. If I did something wrong in my understanding, then feeling guilty is a normal reaction. I am convinced that a healthy psyche should have the “guilt feeling” option and, conversely, its complete absence signals an unhealthy one. But in a relationship with a pick-up artist, it is precisely an unhealthy feeling of guilt that develops.

After applying the technique cancellation for a normal person, this behavior is illogical, so we start looking for reasons. We think: “How did I offend him?” and after a few days of such reflections, we come up with what, and make ourselves guilty.

The illogicality of his behavior introduces a sense of guilt. Time after time passing you through the circle of hell "plus-minus", "closer-further", you lose your orientation in space. More and more often the thought comes to you: “I am wrong,” and his behavior assures this. “He is calm, does not apologize, leaves with his head held high, so something is wrong with me.” You start to blame yourself though did nothing wrong!!! The boundaries of a healthy psyche are destroyed, your "right-wrong" is no more. From now on, he can ask for everything.

DEMONSTRATION TECHNIQUES IN RELATIONSHIPS

Naturally, if a woman receives only negative emotions, the relationship will end very quickly, therefore, in parallel with all this, he includes demonstration techniques. I call it that! Because it only words without action.

pickup artist demonstrates interest: constantly asks what you think about.

pickup artist demonstrates jealousy. Jealousy for a woman is an indicator of feelings.

Where were you today? Doesn't sex with an ex count? sounds periodically from his lips.

pickup artist demonstrates desire to start a family

I dream of a normal family. I would like children.

pickup artist demonstrates false sense of guilt. Sometimes from his lips sounds:

I am a beast! How could I do that!

And your naive female heart whispers to you: “But he understood everything!!!”. In fact, this is the technique he uses when he goes too far with " training«.

pickup artist demonstrates serious attitude towards you

I take our relationship seriously! hear from his mouth.

It turns out that, on the one hand, you get a lot of “Further”, but on the other hand, there is “Closer”. His words keep you from making a decision at critical moments. Why? Because all these techniques “turn on” emotions and “turn off” logic. While emotions are “on”, you yourself are looking for an excuse for him!

Confirmation of the effectiveness of the pick-up technique is blind pursuit. And over time, a woman is ready for anything in exchange for his presence alone! All acquaintances say: "Break up with him!". But you think it's love. Although in reality this feeling has nothing to do with love. This adrenaline pseudo love. In one of the articles we will talk about this.

In two articles, pickup tricks» we have covered the steps described in the guru's books. For a pickup truck, they sound like this:

Find → Get Acquainted → Attract → Get Close → Sex → Relationships

And for the victims of the Game:

"Turn on" → "Demonstration" → "Sex" → "Training".

Therefore, the pickup truck and its techniques are much more than a one-night stand. This is a traumatized psyche that will take much longer to get rid of hammer blows than the period of the relationship itself. And the consequences of these blows are horrendous - low self-esteem, nervous exhaustion, health problems, professional degradation and, as a result, taking antidepressants or alcohol. That is why it is important to be attentive in a world where such knowledge has been received by many.

Do you want success with girls and don't know where to start? In this article, we asked one of our regular contributors Andrey Vysotsky to talk about his rich experience in seducing girls. You will learn where to start your journey in a pickup truck: what to read, where you can learn, what you should pay attention to, what mistakes await you ahead.

What is this article or introduction from the author about

I can't cram all my knowledge and experience into one article. But I can tell you about the fastest ways to achieve the goal, and about the possible mistakes that lie in wait for you ahead.

Is it possible to learn a pickup truck on your own

So, you want to be great with girls. It doesn't matter if you want to wake up every morning with a new beauty or you need the one and only. In any case, you only have three options:

Sitting at home on your favorite couch and waiting for success to come to you

Waiting for fortune to shower you with money and beautiful girls lining up to jump into your bed? This will never happen.

The only thing that comes by itself is old age. Everything else needs to be achieved. It is difficult (sometimes very difficult). To do this, you will have to pull yourself out of your comfort zone: learn new things, try new things, change your habits, change your social circle. If you want results, you have to sweat. This is the law of life.

Go to a special training where you will be taught everything

I think this is the best option of all. It has two decisive advantages:

The presence of feedback. Live communication with the trainer is an important part of training. The coach will always point out your mistakes to you. If you have any questions, he will answer, tell, show, explain the incomprehensible.
Motivation. Often, all you need to succeed is a magical kick in the ass. A good coach always has a stick and a carrot (which is callous and they are also beaten) in reserve, with which he will make you move in the right direction.

But, unfortunately, there are several serious drawbacks:

It is expensive. Good training is expensive. If you don't have a good financial background, you won't get anywhere.
Lots of charlatans. Finding a good coach is a difficult task. There are a lot of different pseudo-coaches and dubious specialists who will take your money, but will not teach you anything, because they themselves do not know how. I advise you to contact trainers who have been in this topic for a long time, who already have a good reputation. Another option is serious organizations with a wide representation and their own party, for example, RMES.
Not available everywhere. The same RMES members conduct their trainings only in large cities. If you are a resident of a small town, you have additional problems with travel to the training site and accommodation.

Learn everything on your own

If you didn’t get along with a good coach, this is not a reason to give up. You can learn everything on your own.

You will not get feedback and no one will give you a magic pendel (except yourself), but if you are determined enough, you will definitely achieve your goal. And in this article, I will help you do just that.

Where to look for information

The network has a huge amount of free and paid information about seducing girls: books, blogs, forums, mailing lists, articles, etc.

Digging through this heap of slag and finding useful information in it is a very difficult task. But I also have good news: I already did it for you. Here's what I recommend reading.

Free books

On the Internet you can find many useful and interesting and, most importantly, free books from different coaches. Here are a few options that I find the most useful for a beginner.

Egor Sheremetiev

My first impression of Egor is that he is a nondescript guy, he tells something about seduction - nothing so special. When I got to know him better, I realized that the first impression is deceptive. No matter what anyone says, he can communicate with girls phenomenally. Here is a video where he immediately gets acquainted with a girl right in a traffic jam:

He holds many different events: trainings, master classes, bootcamps, etc. including "Bachelor Party in Asia" in Pattaya. Here he talks about it himself:

In short, he definitely has a lot to learn. I advise you to definitely read his free book Secrets of Successful VKontakte Dating. The book is very interesting: little water, a lot of practical information and examples of successful phrases and dialogues from real correspondence. In order to download the book, you must go and leave an e-mail address. You will then receive an email with a link to download the pdf file.

Another must-read book by the same author is Little Kick to Big Sex. It contains a lot of interesting information about how to properly meet girls: how to approach, what to say, how to overcome shyness, etc. To download .

Roman Vinilov

I have been following Roman for a long time. He has been in the subject of seduction and pickup for 10 years already. Author of courses, seminars and trainings. Trainer, coach, writer, etc. I don’t see the point in listing his entire track record - read it for yourself if you are interested. Here are some of his books to read:

Effective dating. There is a lot of useful information about dates here: how to invite, where to go, how to behave, what to talk about, etc.
7 steps to building a relationship with a girl. All about how to build harmonious relationships and remain the best man for her.
How to surprise any girl. More than 70 pages of different examples for all occasions, which will help to surprise her and make a good impression.

Many modern men simply do not know how to get acquainted. This is not an unfounded statement, but a fact established on the basis of information from various sites, forums, social networks on the Internet. Young people, hiding under nicknames and avatars, openly write about it. Some of the guys who really care about this problem go into the pickup truck. What is it about? This can be found in this article.

How it all began

Uninitiated people may think that we are talking about such a little car with a small body. In our case, a pickup truck is a set of techniques and methods that allow you to effectively “shoot” girls.

The doctrine originated in the United States at the end of the last century, which is why it got its name. Around the same time, masters of seduction started giving pickup lessons to guys.

In Russia, one of the gurus is Philip Bogachev, who simply used the information of foreigners, slightly adapting it to our reality.

There are a lot of people who have written books on pickup trucks. There are foreign authors and domestic ones. Each of them has their own view on dating and seducing women. But there are also many similar thoughts.

Literature can be easily found on the Internet. It is possible to read online, buy and download a book. Different prices. It all depends on the online store and the particular book. You can get literature for free if you rummage through the search.

Let us formulate the basic principles on which the art of seduction is based.

pickup base

So, what is the basis of the doctrine:

A man should think not only about how to seduce a girl, but first of all about himself, his condition. Success in business can only be achieved by a person who: looks good, is self-confident, calm, has a good job and interesting hobbies. Therefore, first, as many masters believe, you need to take care of yourself, “pump” your internal state. Women are looking for male men, not insecure losers.
Much attention is paid to "openers" or "templates". This is a set of phrases with which a young man can start a dialogue with a girl, interest her and, perhaps, charm her. The use of your own blanks is welcome, and not those set out in pickup books. Some authors call for the use of "openers", which in their meaning represent an expression of great interest in the personality of the lady. Other gurus say that the "pattern" should be "neutral", the guy initially does not have the right to mention the high significance of the girl for him.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming - NLP. Almost any pickup manual, one way or another, concerns psychological techniques. The authors of books on seduction do not shy away from techniques that can charm a girl by touching her subconscious. At first glance, the use of NLP may seem like quackery. However, it is not. If you delve deeper into the essence of the issue, you can understand that you can fall in love with someone with the help of cunning manipulations.
Serious attention is paid to non-verbal things. For example, in pickup schools, they learn to recognize how a girl is disposed to communicate by her gestures, movements, and facial expressions. It is very important to learn to understand body language. After all, such signals appeal to the human subconscious. At pickup courses designed for men, they often emphasize that you can make a girl fall in love with you if you “adapt” to her: you need to repeat the poses of the interlocutor and, to some extent, copy her behavior. A lot of attention in training beginner pick-up artists is given to touch. A lady needs to be touched in order to take possession of her. At first - gently, as if by chance. A little later - "intentionally." As a result, as the gurus promise, it will come to intimate caresses.

Of course, within the framework of a small article it is difficult to outline all the ways of dating and seduction. But the above is about extremely important points.

In general, a pickup truck, as a teaching, can be given such a characteristic - this is a kind of art of seduction, the essence of which is as follows:

"Pumping" a man of himself. As a result of passing, for example, trainings, guys get rid of fears, gain confidence in communicating with girls, learn to make their life more interesting and richer.
The study of the secrets of female, and sometimes universal, psychology. Firstly, in order to understand what girls want and what they are guided by when performing certain actions. Secondly, to predict the behavior of a lady in different situations. Thirdly, so that you can apply tricks related to weak points in the psyche. Example: "routines". These are a variety of funny stories that you can and should tell the girl you met. They are very convenient to fill in the gaps that arise. Moreover, the use of routines is such a psychological thing that allows you to interest a lady and develop love in her. The internet is full of good stories.
Gaining an experience of easy and relaxed communication. Indeed, by practicing in a pickup truck, young people acquire the skill to talk to anyone on any topic without any problems.

For some free guys, it is valuable and useful. However, not all men approve of pickups. Often his opponents are also girls.

Why is a pickup bad?

There is actually only one male argument: a pickup truck is, first of all, a doctrine of seduction. The vast majority of those who have mastered this skill use different tricks and "chips" in order to drag the girl into bed after the third date at the most. It seems that the pick-up artist is a seducer who is only interested in sex. Some young people want a long-term serious relationship.

Girls have a little more complaints:

Pikapers are only interested in sex.
Often a dismissive attitude towards ladies is promoted.
Psychological tricks are used, girls are being manipulated.

What can be said in response?

Firstly, a pickup truck provides tools not so much for dragging a woman into bed, but for a man to become a real alpha male: strong, interesting and successful. Every girl's dream. Naturally, with this you want intimacy.

But if the young man himself is looking for a companion for a long time, pickup skills can only help in this, but not interfere in any way. If it is only a tool, how it will be used depends on the individual.

As for the manipulation and disrespect for women, Gregory Madison wrote about this even at the birth and formation of the pickup truck. He gives an example from boxing in his book: if the opponent fights according to the rules, you need to give up punches in the eye and other dishonest tricks. When the opponent himself decided to use dirty moves, he thereby unties your hands too.

It should be noted that girls do not always act honestly. For example, they make scandals, refuse to get acquainted even when they themselves want it, etc. Naturally, men are looking for instructions that give them the opportunity to "bite" the lady.

The ladies themselves come up with difficulties for the men with whom they are trying to build relationships in order to make sure that the young man is worthy of getting a girl. Pick-up artists figured this out a long time ago and came up with their own ways of fighting.

Do not forget that only in pickup training courses now you can learn:

arrange romantic evenings;
give gifts to a girl;
defend against attempts to recapture the lady;
fall in love with her more and more each day.

That is, a pickup truck is not magic, where girls are bewitched with the help of conspiracies. This is an art in which, by improving the quality of communication, guys fall in love with girls. Pikapers are perhaps the most cheerful and romantic men. They take better care of others.

Pickup types

Of course, every practitioner of "Casanova" uses in his activities the most liked ways of dating and seducing one or more authors. Someone pays more attention to unusual "openers", looking for the most effective one. Someone is trying to achieve a high class in the field of NLP. But now let's talk about something else.

Pickup develops, taking into account the circumstances of life.

For example, in the 90s of the last century there were no social networks, Skype, YouTube and dating sites. Of course, Madison in his book could not address the issue of seduction on the Internet. Now a whole direction has been formed, connected with the virtual world.

Pickup on the net

There is an opinion that dating girls on the Internet is not worth it. Gurus advise beginners to go out into the streets more often and look for women there. Correspondence is supposedly a waste of time.

Although many choose to ignore such advice simply because there are a huge number of interesting girls on the network that you can meet.

come up with original first phrases;
develop tactics for obtaining phone numbers in order to make a call later;
think about how not to get ignored.

In a word, develop pickup methods on the network. It should be taken into account that all this cannot be limited only to virtual communication. You need to be able to take the conversation from the Internet into reality in a timely manner. In addition, on a date, you will also need to interest the lady.

The Internet pickup acts as an addition to the standard one. In general, it doesn't matter if you walk the streets with a partner, trying to arrange a meeting. Or sit on a dating site to dial phone numbers and call girls later.

female pickup

Ladies also learned to "hook" boys. There are many videos on the web on the subject. Of course, women's pickup is different from men's: girls, as a rule, are looking for a guy for a long-term relationship. Ladies don't disappear immediately after sex. This is the main distinguishing feature. But the list goes on:

girls are not recommended to take a partner “into the fields”;
lessons are learned mainly after reading books, since there are few trainings for ladies;
own description of methods.

There are not many female pickup followers because the ladies mostly prefer to sit and wait for the prince rather than be active.

Probably, with changes in society, the pickup, as a teaching, will have new methods and directions. But he himself will not disappear anywhere, because at all times people want to get to know each other and communicate.

Thus, a pickup truck is undoubtedly needed by not very self-confident people who want to find their soul mate or just a sex partner. The most important thing is practice. If you remain a theoretician in a pickup truck, you will, as before, live in a company with a bunch of complexes.

We hope that this article has generated interest in this teaching and will encourage you to become more familiar with the issue using books or attending special trainings.

0 In Russia, a pickup truck appeared relatively recently, although it is worth noting the fact that historically it happened that everything that associated with learning to get to know each other with the weaker sex we call Pickup. Before you go to classes to develop this wisdom in yourself, ask yourself this question, do you need it? Or maybe you can get acquainted without an omniscient guru, while saving a specie? And besides, if you have little money, you should not get acquainted with breathtaking beauties, there will be no point and you will lose the rest of your self-respect.

At one time, I myself was fond of Pickup. Therefore, I decided to write a short article about my impressions of attending various courses.
Imagine you come to a training, and some person starts telling you common truths, what does pickup mean. He himself looks fit, well-groomed, attractive (at least I had such a "teacher"), and around him are young people and teenagers, far from the most charming appearance. Guru begins to share with us his successes, how easy it is for him to get acquainted with girls. As for me, such an alpha does not need any tricks to drag a lady into bed.

Pickup(Pick Up) - this is a special art of seducing girls, they teach this wisdom to a pickup master

So, he starts to broadcast that for starters, it will be a big success, take the lady's phone. In addition, you need to communicate in such a way that she wants to see you again.
What I want to add on my own, it turns out that in order to stick some kind of maramoyka, you need to climb out of your skin, creep in front of her, like a lochosaurus. Here I have a sense of pride, and because of the vagina, I'm not going to become a clown.

Then he continues to explain what they say is necessary draw a girl into your world, open up to her, show that you are an interesting person and you will feel comfortable with you.
But what if I like to play computer games, for example, or ride a bike outside the city? How to involve her? Again, you need to climb out of your skin. For what? Again for the vagina? Cheaper to find a prostitute.

Continuing to explain, the guru says that the main task of a pick-up artist is not to have regular sex, but to make your Nyasha happy every day, and when the girl is happy then you will be in seventh heaven. And how do you imagine that? Do her Cooney anywhere and anytime?
Therefore, after listening to such a guru, I realized that This is not for me. I meet on mambe", and in the process of communication it turns out that the girl is ready for intercourse. It is clear that you need to write to several hundred persons of the opposite sex in order to get a worthy candidate for sex. It is also clear that the ladies are not beautiful, but give without problems. And most importantly, you know what?
It takes a minimum of time, since online communication can be combined with watching a movie or playing a game, and also for free.

Therefore, you drop these stupid ideas, what should you say so that she understands that you are smart, how to "squeeze" the girl you like. Just teach you how to "throw" girls. I don’t understand at all, why throw them if they give? Did you find better? So what? An alternate airfield is always needed, especially since they all have their periods. This one can't, but another will do.

I'll tell you an open secret, guys. Most Pickup trainings are so surprising in their stupidity that I don’t understand why they are needed at all. Although they probably have a goal, to give courage to those who are afraid to even look at a beautiful girl - nerds, nerds and other notorious teenagers.

You are asking, what exercises were given to us at the training?
Okay, I'll tell you a little secret.

For example, we were forced to go to the supermarket and harass the guards, pester them with claims, something like: "What are you standing here for, go to work, you get paid for this."

Stick to a stranger on the street and ask why she doesn’t have condoms and other garbage with her.

It's good to meet a girl in order to sing a song with her.

In addition, you need to behave in such a way that the lady sends you three letters or hits you.

Go to a cafe and go to the girls so that they treat you with something, at least a glass of coffee.

It is equally important to ask a stranger to kiss you, at least somewhere - on the neck, forehead, crown or lips.

You yourself understand that this is rather disgusting, after this I felt unpleasant. In general, in my opinion, young guys in these courses are made into some kind of asocial

Everything, in general, is simple (albeit complicated). When studying the advice of pickup artists or reading the book "Sure Ways to Manipulate a Woman", keep two things in mind.

1. Women differ from each other not only in appearance. A seduction technique that knocks one of them down will cause (at best) nervous laughter in the other. Carefully, making mistakes and trying, pick up for each of them an individual set of "master keys" from your rich pick-up luggage.

2. The same woman can react to the same tricks in different ways, depending on her mood and season. Make adjustments for the wind.

These are the rules. And examples of them will be given to you by the sex editor of the British edition of Cosmopolitan magazine Rachel Morris, whom we asked to comment on some common tips from pick-up forums.

Tip #1
“Always radiate self-confidence, women are programmed to respond to confident men. A straight posture, ease of eye contact and a relaxed hand position will help you with this.

Comment by Rachel Morris:
In fact, women are drawn to men with a certain balance of self-confidence and modesty. You don't have to force yourself to be macho on a first date. If you fake, she will easily figure you out - and this will be a danger signal for her.
The good news is that women understand how difficult it is to take the first steps in dating. So we even sympathize with your nervousness, it flatters us - you can see how important this meeting is for you. You don't need any special technique, just ask for a date - and you will already show yourself decisive.

Tip #2
“Her body language is a set of sex traffic lights. In the bar, she moved closer to you - frankly, almost hung on your shoulder? You are green."

Commentary: This could be unambiguously true if all of us had the same boundaries of personal space. But maybe she grew up in an elevator and for her such a convergence of bodies is in the order of things. We must not forget about the mood, about the drunk alcohol and the environment. All this affects the distance between the interlocutors. But if she touched you, the green one really caught fire. Just give her the right to the first touch, and for the time being, keep your hands to yourself.

Tip #3
“In the restaurant, she goes to the toilet. When she returns, it is clear that she was doing herself there. I mean, I straightened my hair, put on makeup. Preening for you to notice."

Comment: Or - as an option - he wants to attract the attention of the guy who is sitting at the next table. Using one man to show another how sexy, attractive, and attractive she is is a standard technique. Sorry.

Tip #4
“She licks her lips while talking to you or bites something - a pen, the edge of a napkin, a chair leg. She is excited and waiting for you to go to her right now.

Comment: Possibly, but it could also be a sign of boredom. We sometimes cover our mouths to hide unspoken thoughts - not only "Let's have sex right now", but also "God, when will he finally leave me!"

Tip #5
"She plays with her hair, twisting it or tossing it... She lures you in."

Comment: During her life, a woman spends on hair, on average, an amount equal to her salary for a year. It's more likely that she's just checking to see if everything is in place. Or she read somewhere that men take this as a positive signal.

Tip #6
“You don’t seem to be the new Petrosyan, but she doesn’t stop giggling at your jokes. This is a good sign. It amuses your pride, encouraging you to be more active.

Comment: Here you need to figure out what made her laugh so much - your jokes or you personally, a sort of blockhead (there will be something to tell your friend!). Everyone says that the shortest way to a woman in panties is to make her laugh. But this only works if you have already passed all the pre-tests. If she laughs right in the third minute of dating, then one of the two of you is an idiot.

Tip #7
“To hit the jackpot, you just need to press the right buttons. Set your internal timer to do what she wants before she asks you to. You know that she will come home tired after work today, so it's time to pull your joker out of your sleeve: "Honey, let me wash the dishes today." All this will count, and you will be rewarded.

Commentary: Relationship advice in men's magazines is a little one-sided: how to get what you need from her right here and now. "Make her a romantic dinner, it will make her feel special and she will be ready to continue the evening in bed." Almost true: nobility will always open a woman's heart (and legs) for you, but only if she believes that you are always like this, and not zealous for sex. Seeing sex as a reward means creating a dangerous story with your own hands, at the end of which you will get sex only for something - and lose it as a punishment.

Tip #8“When conflict is brewing, take advantage of this unique opportunity to channel the energy in the air into an unforgettable reconciliation in the bedroom. Just follow these tips and the explosion will be under control."