Can there be anatomical incompatibility throughout. Clinical manifestations of incompatibility. What is Rhesus conflict

EXERCISE

"CONTACTS OF FEMALE POWER AND HEALTH"

Target: Harmonize the flow of energies in the body, increase blood circulation in the area of ​​the diaphragm, which enhances the cleansing of the body, and "saturate" the organs of the abdominal and chest cavities with oxygen. Strengthen the "cellular", deep breathing of the entire surface of the skin.

Initial position: Lie on your back on the floor or on a hard flat bed, put a hard pillow or roller under your neck, close your feet and palms, spread your knees as far as possible. Pull closed feet together to the pelvis, hands in front of the heart center are closed with palms. All exercises are accompanied by conscious breathing. For greater efficiency, apply luminiferous breathing.

Implementation of the whole complex:

1. press the fingertips of both palms against each other (8-10 times);

2. press with fingertips, and then on the entire palm of the left and right hands alternately (8-10 times);

3. press both closed palms with the entire surface (8-10 times);

4. Stretch your arms with tightly bent palms to full length, throw them behind your head, then draw them slowly over your face to the solar plexus, as if moving along the spine in the middle of the front surface of the body, fingers pointing forward (towards the head). Do back and forth 8-10 times;

5. then turn the fingers of closed palms towards the legs and move them in the same way as in the previous exercise, but from the bottom up - from the pubis to the solar plexus (8-10 times);

6. stretch your arms to full length with closed palms up and down (10 times);

7. place tightly closed palms on the chest above the solar plexus and move the closed feet 1-1.5 lengths of the foot back and forth, preventing them from opening (8-10 times);

8. move your closed palms and feet at the same time back and forth as if you want to stretch the vertebrae (as many times as it will be comfortable).

9. Spread your arms along the body and take a breath, raising them up, as if capturing heavenly energy, closing your hands with your palms above your head, hold your hands down, as if filling the uterus with life-giving energy of force. (8-10 times) This exercise can be done independently without all the previous ones.

SUBTLETS OF INTIMATE LIFE

Prevention of disorders that reduce reproductive health is largely associated with well-being in sexual life, one of the components of which is compatibility partners. Compatibility can be considered on several levels.

genetic compatibility (by histocompatibility antigens) correlates with the similarity of the odors of individuals and, of course, can be assessed by odors. The olfactory subcortical structures of the brain are the oldest and are involved in the maintenance of the sexual sphere. If the partners differ too much or, on the contrary, do not differ enough in smells (respectively, in terms of histocompatibility antigens), the embryo will be rejected by the mother's body, since it causes either an excessive strong immune reaction (the mother reacts to the embryo as if it were an allograft), or this reaction, which is necessary in certain limits to strengthen the embryo in the uterus, is too weak and in this case a miscarriage occurs. Women are much more sensitive to smells. Thus, the optimal variant for carrying a pregnancy is the average variant in terms of the degree of histocompatibility between the mother and the fetus. Antigenic incompatibility can manifest itself in the immune response of a woman's body to a man's sperm, which prevents conception.

Physical and physiological compatibility includes the degree of anatomical correspondence of partners, the similarity of rhythms and plastic manifestations (the nature of movements, touches). This, in particular, is well defined in the process of dance, so dance can serve as a testing moment for plastic compatibility.

Mini test for physiological compatibility:

3 feelings must match with partners: a sense of rhythm; sense of tact and sense of humor

The similarity of biorhythms plays a huge role in creating comfort in a relationship. Spouses who have a high biorhythmic similarity in terms of the main psychophysiological indicators are more calm, healthy and feel a sense of security in the family.

Syndrome "Without 15 to eleven"

The woman is ready for sex, and the man is tired at work. In the morning it's the other way around. Biorhythm mismatch.

And it's not a coincidence that when they go to bed at different times, over time, the need to hug his wife will decrease dramatically. What is eaten unconsciously always manifests itself in consciousness and therefore in a dream you need to kiss and hug each other.

There is a psychological technique in the art of communication: in order to win over another person to yourself, you need to enter into the same rhythm of movement, speech, breathing, etc. with him. A similar long-term mutual adjustment of spouses makes them similar in behavioral patterns over time. Differences in biorhythmic activity (for example, daily biorhythm - "larks", "owls") sometimes deform the natural way of life of each of the partners so much that they can serve as a reason for parting.

Sexual Compatibility is determined primarily by the similarity of temperaments, the level of sexuality. These parameters are determined by nature and age. The peak of sexual activity in a man falls on the age of 20 years, and then there is a gradual decrease. In women, the maximum sexual disclosure falls on 35-40 years, this activity is kept at a fairly high level during menopause and after it. After sixty years, the possibilities of the sexes are equalized. Based on this dynamic, unions between a mature man and a young woman can be considered biologically justified, and vice versa. Sexual temperament for its satisfaction requires the same level of sexuality from a partner. This is clearly reflected in the classification of women (gazelle, fallow deer, cow, elephant) and their corresponding men in the Indian treatise "Kama Sutra".

Really existing and at the same time still full of mystery is the mutual attraction of a man and a woman, associated with a certain ratio of masculine and feminine in them, i.e. with a sexual constitution.

It is known that in a person with a normal genotype, the sexual constitution is determined mainly by the amount and ratio of female and male sex hormones in the body. Hormones, in turn, model the morphological and psychological manifestations of the individual. According to O. Weininger, the union of a man and a woman is considered ideal if it is organized according to the principle of addition: the more masculine a man is, the more feminine outwardly he chooses a woman and vice versa. Together, the combination of these qualities, the couple should represent one ideal man and one ideal woman.

A similar conclusion can be reached by analyzing the psychological complementarity of a couple from the standpoint of C.G. Jung. According to Jung, in the depths of the unconscious part of the psyche, every man has a feminine principle (Anima), while women have a masculine principle (Animus). Moreover, external behavioral manifestations are in reciprocal relationships with these qualities. The ideal man is externally logical, consistent, firm in decisions, but internally irrational, emotional, soft, in need of love. A woman, on the contrary, is outwardly irrational, emotional, soft, plastic, and internally rational, consistent, practical, stable. Therefore, it is much more difficult to raise a wife than a husband. The most charming women on the outside can be "samurai in a skirt" on the inside. Anima and animus are formed under the influence of the image of mother and father. The choice of partners for living together is largely determined by their behavioral similarity with the Anima and Animus. We are looking for external correspondence to what we have inside. Therefore, masculine outwardly men (but soft inside) choose the most feminine outwardly women and vice versa.

Questions psychological compatibility , including in the union of a man and a woman, are quite fully developed in many ancient medical systems, as well as in astrology and socionics. However, the principles are the same everywhere: optimal unions are either between similar types, or complementary. In the astrological system, signs of the same element are considered similar, in socionics - identical types. Complementary relations in astrology are relations of signs of fire and air, water and earth elements (ie through 60° of the zodiac circle through a sign), in socionics they are dual relations. However, you should be aware of the differences between these two types of compatibility. Between similar types, knowledge is more easily transferred, understanding arises, a person learns himself through another. These relationships are good in the first third of life, when a person gets to know the world and himself. The addition is favorable for joint activities, which corresponds to the tasks of the union of people of a more mature age, striving for social self-realization.

However, there is that sphere of relations between a man and a woman, which is relatively associated with somatic or mental compatibility and is the result of individual inner work and upbringing of each of them. It is expressed in the ability to love and understand another. In the realm of higher needs, a person seeks reliability, respect, emotional and intellectual resonance, he wants sympathy and understanding.

QUOTE:

"In the other we love our pleasure" . I.M. Sechenov

If a man and a woman get satisfaction in the altruistic sphere of their relationship, giving (and love is always giving) and receiving tenderness, sympathy, understanding and help, then for mature individuals this is the key to the strength of their union. The commonality of worldview, philosophical and religious platform, subject to mutual love, gives a new quality to the union of a man and a woman. The unity of language and purpose allows them not only to form a strong family for raising children, but also to create something more in the field of universal human values. Such alliances are said to be "alliances with purpose."

sex culture. This concept is immeasurably broader than the culture of sexual relations. And it is in this vein that the sexual education of society should take place. The formation of harmonious relations between a man and a woman is based on understanding phenomenon of man and woman.

A man and a woman are two different worlds, two mutually generating and complementary principles (yang and yin). Both sexes are equal. A man is an expression of an active, conscious, giving principle, realizing itself in material life, a woman is an expression of a passive, material, perceiving principle, striving for self-knowledge. Together they symbolize the involutive and evolutive parts of the same ring of life. The vector of a man's activity is directed towards material life. A man is more social, concrete, logical, instrumental; he must know what and how to do, and be responsible for it. A woman, being the embodiment of the material principle, strives, on the contrary, for spirituality, self-knowledge; she is more subtle, sensitive, intuitive, receptive, less socialized, but more biological, for life comes from her womb.

Biological differences between men and women determined at the chromosomal level. Additional genetic material in the second X chromosome in a woman determines not only the signs of sex, but also greater viability. To create a man, nature makes extra efforts, because. intrauterine formation of the male is more complex than that of the female. More boys are born, but the life expectancy of men is less. This is consistent with the population role of the male, which is the carrier of genetic diversity. The faster the "turnover" of men, the more genetically diverse the population. A woman is the bearer of a quantitative beginning, because the number of children born cannot be more than a certain number.

Despite the genetic belonging to a certain sex, every man and every woman carries elements of the opposite sex. The specific proportion of these elements is determined by the amount and ratio of female and male sex hormones, which leave an imprint on morphological, physiological, mental and sexual manifestations.

AFFIRMATIONS

Positive thinking is the key to a healthy lifestyle.

I love my body. I send the light of Divine love to every organ of my beloved body.

My body is wise and knows how to heal itself.

I enjoy life, I am learning optimism, and at the same time my health is getting stronger, day by day all my organs and systems work better, I have more strength and vigor.

I live by the principle: the older - the younger. The body is a shell for the spirit, and my spirit is always young, which means that the body is also young.

Every day I get younger.

I am going to live long and keep my youth for a long time, I feel how the duration of my life is increasing every day, how my strength is growing, my faith in myself.

I live in peace and harmony with my body, I love and respect it and always help it to be healthy, feel comfortable and confident.

My body is wise, it knows what it needs, and I just need to listen to its voice. My body always strives to be healthy, it knows how to recover, how to gain strength.

I am the embodiment of strength, health, energy, cheerfulness. My body works like a clock.

My eyes burn with the fire of youth, health and love.

Miracles happen in my life every day. I rejoice in them and continue to love and develop myself.

From now on, I let the healing power within me work. This force unwinds like a spring, it has tremendous energy, it expels all diseases from my body and fills me with a clear, even radiance of health.

I forgive myself and others for all wrongs I have caused. I am calm and happy. My soul shines, and the light of my soul is transmitted to other people.

I love my body, I thank it for all the opportunities that it gives me, I take care of it with love, giving it the opportunity to always remain strong and healthy.

I have a young, healthy, strong, strong body, my muscles are strong and flexible, I am mobile, energetic, all organs and systems of my body work normally, and this will always be the case.

I feel good in my body and I keep it healthy every day.

I'm always lucky!

I am a Goddess capable of creating herself and the world around!

EFFECT OF ODOURS

Sexual sphere of man and woman also has significant differences. Due to their biological purpose, the sexual and reproductive spheres occupy a much larger share in the psyche of a woman than that of a man. A man is more impulsive, initiative, but his life is less than women, subject to the "call of the sex." A woman is less active behaviorally, but this does not mean that her desires are weaker, they are less sharp, but more powerful and constant. Her tactics are not conquest, but seduction.

MYTH: It is said that over time a man who lives with one woman becomes less sensitive due to the fact that the woman releases the same substances to which he adapts and which no longer excites him.

REPLICA: Good excuse for cheating.

The individual smell of a man and a woman depends on many reasons, but mainly it is associated with the characteristics of the hormonal and immune systems, the bioenergy field and the bacteria that live on our skin. This smell is as unique as fingerprints and determines to a large extent for us the attractiveness of a particular person. "Each species of plants and animals has its own smell, each race, people and individual genera. Each individual has its own specific smell"("The Edges of Agni Yoga", vol. 7.)

When a man communicates with a woman, the incoming signals in the form of smell are converted by his brain and lead to a change in the biochemical processes in the man's body. At the same time, the amount of testosterone increases in him, the aura and energy potential change, which pushes the man to sexual exploits. "Each thought is accompanied by its characteristic smell, causing a corresponding aromatic reaction in the human body" ("The Facets of Agni Yoga", vol. 7.)

In turn, after receiving the appropriate response signal in the form of smell, biocurrents, the amount of estrogen in the woman increases even more, and she becomes supportive and receptive to the courtship of this man.

Thus, at the first stage of communication, a man and a woman, as it were, “sniff out” each other, and then “addiction” already occurs. This sensitivity to each other is especially evident during the period of ovulation, when the amount of estrogen in the woman's body increases, which involuntarily enhances sensual aromas. A woman has a special aura that attracts men. In one survey, 71% of men and women identified smell as a strong trigger. Nearly a third of women believe that sexy men smell stronger.

It was the need to choose a man "by smell" that made nature reward living beings with the ability to "sniff out" each other.

INTERESTING FACT

In 1992, research on monkeys was carried out at the University of Melbourne. Scientists have established a relationship between stressful situations in females and a disease of the urogenital organs in males who have sexual intercourse with them.

It turns out that microorganisms live on the walls of the vagina - Duderline's sticks, which are in contact with thousands of nerve endings. Under stress, the nervous system of the female is excited, and electrical impulses reach the walls of the vagina. In the blood at this time, the amount of adrenaline sharply increases. Under the influence of these impulses and adrenaline, the Duderline wand becomes poisonous and is the cause of inflammatory processes in males. They suggest that the consequences of stress, quarrels, troubles at work and at home cause a similar reaction in a woman's body.

QUOTE:

“When people have very emotional experiences related to relationships with a partner, they tend to place them in the genital area. Women, for example, can hide their experiences in the uterus. And the more often they return to them, the more likely to form a cyst or tumor." Louise Hay

PSYCHOSOMATICS OF WOMEN

Pain is not the cause of pain, but the effect.

Pain diagnosis steps:

1) Psychological reaction. If the sudden sharp pain during the transformation is gone, then this is already a signal of violations in the system.

2) Transformation and breathing practices do not help. It is removed by painkillers or other medicines. Deep pain that becomes chronic. Quick vacation and relax. Engage in awareness Why?

3) If the pain recurs, it is better to see a doctor to diagnose the condition. A reason to evaluate the effectiveness of work on oneself by non-drug harmonization.

Grievances are the accumulation of mental laziness, hidden stubbornness, isolation and the desire to insist on one's own. A means of manipulation and pity.

Exercise

Holodynamic tracking of grievances against men.

1. Brought out of themselves
2. Transformed
3. Invested back
4. We thanked the man for the new qualities.

Conclusions:

1. A woman should not go to bed immediately after troubles, quarrels, etc.

2. It is necessary to put the nervous system and psyche in order, eliminate the consequences of stressful situations, and then have sex. Instead of using tranquilizers, doping agents, alcohol, aromatherapy recommends the inhalation of fragrant substances, erotic massage or baths with "sensual mixtures", which, firstly, normalize the nervous and mental systems, and secondly, excite impulses in the receptors of the nervous system that respond for excitation in the erotic-determining zones of the brain, which, in turn, give a command to the genitals

CONCLUSIONS

Harmony and Grace

The highest levels of beauty and charm

women are generated by her inner world.

A. Meneghetti

A harmonious woman carries within herself a state of grace. She bestows it on others as something special and specific. In theology, this state is considered discouraging and fascinating at the same time.

A person in this state exudes a spiritual presence, and he achieves the glory that arises from the perfect performance of all functions by this person. He lives, feels and enjoys every moment of his life.

The light of a prosperous person does not reach you from outside, it penetrates you from within. Charisma is a vital eroticism, therefore a person endowed with it seems to be the embodiment of the spirituality of other worlds.

Grace is expressed not only in a rational aspect, in personal maturity, in biological health, in a mental state of existential positivity; it comes with the power to change and do whatever you want. (A. Meneghetti)

A woman in a state of grace becomes the "holy of holies" and no one has the right to destroy it, neither the man nor the woman herself. She at this moment become a manifestation of Life itself, Being itself, and for this service is rewarded with success.

If a woman has felt the energy of grace, then she should invest it, but not waste it:

1. Personal and spiritual growth - to invest, unwanted sex - to squander.

2. Invest in business and actions, “blame” with friends - squander.

3. Communicates with undesirable people or boasts of his grace - squander, develop intuition and creativity - invest.

-A woman is endowed with the ability to enjoy everything that happens to her and around her. Pleasure is a necessity, the highest form of the order of life.

-A woman can get everything she wants, because she has gained the ability to create everything herself.

-A woman must create beauty, holiness, and order for her own sake.

All elements combine with each other and are born thanks to the Law of Love. All primary elements (earth, air, water, fire) contain consciousness. They react to Love as the highest manifestation of the Divine.

Unconditional love is a state. It is quiet, filling, nourishing, giving, bestowing. This is Love - the Light that fills everything around, this is grace. Unconditional Love gives thanks. She does not brag, does not shout, is not put on display. She just is. It exists, regardless of anything, without restrictions and barriers. She is free, without bindings.

In contrast, there is personal love. It is more familiar to a person. There is a certain “self-interest” in this love. It's more like love for something. It can be a thirst for unconditional love. Once we have experienced a state of grace in unconditional love, we long for it. Personal love is not freedom. These are bindings and restrictions, these are manipulations.

Brings you closer to God

Exercise "LAUGHTER"

Laughter is incompatible with fear. It also energizes us. It charges with optimism, makes self-confident.

Relax. Recall a comical situation when it was unbearably funny. Watch how laughter fills you from the inside. Breathe. Start laughing.

Look around. Make faces at each other. We laugh out loud together. Do not stop. We imagine that you saw something very funny in each other.

To overcome sexual incompatibility, you must first understand it. It can be physiological, psychological and psychophysiological. And in order to understand the nature of incompatibility, you do not need to see a doctor.

Physiological incompatibility is the least common. But, often, it is the most difficult to eliminate. Even from the name, it can be understood that this kind of incompatibility is based on human physiology. And it's easier - the structure of the organs of partners does not bring satisfaction in sex.

For example, a man may have a large penis while a woman may have a small vagina. Of course, in such a situation, a woman may experience pain. Therefore, she does not receive even a minimum of pleasure. Correcting this situation is simple - you need to purchase a ring in an intimate store that will limit the length of the entry of the penis. Or find positions where penetration is minimal. Well, do not forget about the foreplay, because when a woman is poorly excited, it can even injure her organs.

It is much more difficult in a situation where a man has a small penis and a woman has a large vagina. Both partners may not enjoy. The most radical solution is to surgically change the size of the vagina. This option can radically change the situation. But, of course, not everyone is ready to undergo surgery even for a loved one.

Another way out of this situation is to engage only in those positions in which the vagina is maximally narrowed. Naturally, this greatly limits the sexual life of partners. You can also try using special nozzles that increase the length of manhood. This can worsen the feeling of a man.

Psychological incompatibility arises from different needs for sex and improper sexual education of one or both partners. Different people need different amounts. For some, it is enough to do it once a week, or even less often. Well, for whom - daily lovemaking. In this case, this issue needs to be discussed. Make certain concessions. Let's say we slightly increase the number of acts. And the rest of the partner's needs are met in a different way. You can use oral stimulation of the partner's genitals or use devices from sex shops.

If the desire for intimacy arises among partners at different times, this can only be corrected by mutual concessions. Getting rid of sexual incompatibility is not only a long and complicated process, it is also a limitation of one's desires.

If one of the partners has received the wrong sex education, he may limit the activity of the other. Sometimes just talking is enough to overcome this problem. But if the lover refuses even to talk on this topic, it is necessary to visit a sex therapist or psychotherapist. You need to defeat modesty and make sure that the whole process brings joy and pleasure to both partners.

When overcoming psychophysiological sexual incompatibility, it is necessary to use a complex effect. Solve problems with both physiology and psychology. Of course, only sincere and mutual feelings will help to cope. Remember, whatever the problem is, it needs to be discussed frankly with your loved one first.

Oddly enough, but precisely because of sexual incompatibility in 80% of cases, couples break up. Family psychologists give the first place to the incompatibility of the couple on a psycho-emotional background. But, after all, you need to deal with problems in intimate relationships, why do they arise and what to do about it? Is it possible to find some way out and save the relationship?

Sexual incompatibility - what is it?

It is necessary to understand what sexual incompatibility is. Not everyone understands this definition, many couples break up without realizing that the reason for the separation is incompatibility in intimate relationships. Some couples end relationships due to elementary illiteracy - both in sex and emotionally. If we talk about real physiological incompatibility, then one of the partners must be impotent, and the other -. True sexual biological incompatibility, which needs to be treated at a professional level, occurs in 5% of couples, in other cases everything is fixable.

So, the biological incompatibility of couples is rare and some couples mistakenly believe that they have just such a violation in a joint relationship. To understand the true cause of the problems in, you need to learn the elementary basics, which, unfortunately, couples do not know even after several decades of living together.

How to expand your knowledge in sex? Read specialized literature (Kama Sutra, etc.), communicate with sexologists, discuss problems in sex on forums, watch movies, read information on the Internet.

Conclusion #1- biological (true) sexual incompatibility is extremely rare (in 5% of cases), in all the rest you need to deal with elementary sexual illiteracy.

Causes

Why does biological incompatibility arise between a man and a woman? We list the reasons that couples name:

• Didn't fit;
• Different daily routine - someone is an owl, someone is a lark;
• Ideas about sex and pleasure from this process do not match;
• Bad mood and the standard reason “the woman has a headache” (although, it’s elementary to talk about why the partner does not want intimacy today).

According to sexologists, all of the above reasons have no basis. Initially, neither couple has any problems with sexual compatibility. The thing is that partners even know little about themselves. No one can accurately answer the question: what position in sex gives the most pleasure, is foreplay necessary, what should be the duration of sexual pleasures, etc.? In practice, couples cannot answer these and other questions regarding their intimate life. Start studying your desires and the desires of your partner, and then the relationship should improve.

Another reason for sexual incompatibility is that couples have stopped talking to each other. It’s easier to be offended at each other, not to communicate, to escalate resentment and misunderstanding to the limit, rather than start talking, figure out the problem and build relationships further. The reason for the omission in a couple may be insignificant, but its consequences are devastating for the relationship.

Conclusion #2- as such, there may not be a problem in a relationship, perhaps you have not discussed your sexual and partner relationships in the context of exciting problems for a long time. It is enough to start a conversation and explain to your partner in it what you want from a relationship and what worries you today.

Sex is not enjoyable

Despite the high intellectual abilities of a modern person, sexual intercourse, sex in all its diversity and understanding plays an important role in relationships. Sexual intercourse has long ceased to be an action for the purpose of procreation. But, sexologists here make an important remark: it is impossible to get real pleasure from sex with a partner if there are no feelings for him. Otherwise, intimate relationships turn into ordinary copulation, or in sexology such an act is defined by the term coitus. It is impossible to build relationships on sex, initially there must be respect and something more, and only then - intimacy. If something goes wrong in a relationship, then you need to start from the basics - get to know each other on a psycho-emotional level and at the same time increase success in sex.

Sexy man - who is he?

It is generally accepted that a man is much more temperamental in sex, stronger and more aggressive. And supposedly all these qualities are inherent in the stronger sex by nature. Men need less time to be aroused, they take an active position in intimate relationships and, as a rule, they take the initiative to start sexual pleasures.

But, here you need to look for another reason for sexual incompatibility and a mistake in relationships. A man should not think about his pleasure and ultimate satisfaction in the form of an orgasm, but about reaching the culmination together with his woman and getting a surge of emotions. Basically, men complain that they cannot hold back, which, naturally, women do not like (they do not get satisfaction after such an intimate act). Such sex can be considered aggressive, because the man is the leader, and the woman simply obeys the conditions put forward. In such intimate relationships there is no game, foreplay, caresses and tenderness - everything happens very quickly and spontaneously.

Conclusion #3- sexual incompatibility begins at the moment when a man stops thinking about a woman in sex. If in the process of intimate relationships only one person gets pleasure, then they can already be considered inferior.

Sleep together or apart

If a couple wants to get closer not only on an emotional level, but also on a physical one, as a result of which harmony is achieved in relationships, then there can be no question of any separate dream. Even if your partner snores, behaves restlessly in a dream, these problems need to be solved at the medical level, but by no means through separate sleep. This will not only alienate partners, but will also lead to relationship problems in the near future. Intimacy in a couple, according to family psychologists and sexologists, should be maintained at all levels - both sexual and psycho-emotional.

It is believed that intimate incompatibility is just a myth, that is, the problem is completely far-fetched. To resolve this issue, you should contact a sexologist, but many couples do not consider it necessary to visit this specialist. But the reason for such failures for the most part lies not in the unwillingness to seek psychological help, but in the wrong, illiterate sexual education.

Psychological sexual incompatibility: possible causes

Today, experts identify 3 reasons that cause disharmony of sexual relations, the existing sexual interaction in a married couple:

1. Psychological. In this case, the incompatibility will not be associated with illiterate sexual education, but with the trauma of one of the partners, usually in childhood or adolescence. It is caused by unhealthy sexual fantasies, undecided orientation. As a result of this phenomenon, there is a decrease in libido, a beginning attraction to people of the opposite sex.
2. Psychosocial. In this case, incompatibility manifests itself under external, social pressure. For example, the formation of homosexual inclinations is observed, but a person cannot admit this, as he is afraid of the opinions of others. Because of such fear, he begins to literally forcibly pay attention to the opposite sex, but there is no real attraction here. The cause of a psychosocial nature can also be rejection by a partner, which was observed in the past, loss of a partner for various reasons.
3. Psychoneurological. These are depressions, neuroses, fears of "sexual failure". Such causes are observed not only in men, but also in women, especially during menopause.

Anatomical sexual disharmony

One of the most important causes of sexual discrepancy is the disproportion in the size of the female and male genital organs. With strong differences in size, sensual pleasure does not occur, one of the partners may begin to form complexes.

Physiology of correspondence in numbers

Women are physiologically arranged so that the vagina in a calm state usually has a length of about 7.5-10 centimeters. The first figure shows the length of its front wall, and the second - the back, that is, the total depth of the passage is 10 centimeters. When excited, this value increases by 5 centimeters. The length of the penis during an erection is also this value - 15 centimeters.

The figures shown indicate the presence of a natural fit, while the walls of the vagina have elasticity, they can stretch, adapting to the size of the penis during long-term relationships - this phenomenon is called "vaginal accommodation". In this regard, sexologists argue that after a while any couple can achieve harmony in sexual relations.

Problems of physiological discrepancy and possible ways to solve them

It is difficult to argue with such a statement, but it should be noted that the female vagina narrows by a couple of centimeters during orgasm, and the penis tends to penetrate even deeper during ejaculation. This leads to some complications, including thinning of the vaginal walls, erosion of the cervical tissue.

Can help with sexual incompatibility well-chosen postures, mechanical devices that either prevent the penis from penetrating too deeply or add missing centimeters to it.

This is very important, because a discrepancy of just 3 centimeters is already classified as a disproportion. If the vagina does not reach 10 centimeters just a little, and the partner's penis is more than average in length, then positions such as "officer" or "rider" will be contraindicated. In this case, the most comfortable position would be the following: the woman will sit facing the man on her knees. At the same time, the walls of the vagina will reflexively lengthen, which will make intercourse comfortable and easy.

It must be remembered that complete incompatibility of the genitals with no pathologies is extremely rare. You can always find an option that satisfies both partners by experimenting with different poses.

The difference in biorhythms and temperament

Different biorhythms in owls and larks

Quite often, sexual partners believe that the cause of incompatibility is different biorhythms. Each person has his own peak of activity, for most men, according to studies, it is greatest in the morning, for women - at night. The reason may be that one of the partners needs to wake up very early, while the other can still sleep. Different biorhythms are also caused by habits - there are people who can lie in bed in the morning, but for others, getting up later than nine in the morning is simply unacceptable.

The solution to the problem is very simple - you need to adjust to each other, choose a convenient time for both. But we must remember that the problem often lies not only in the mismatch of cycles, but in fatigue, lack of mood, too hard working day.

Temperament difference

Sexual needs in people can vary greatly - one partner may be enough once a week, and another and daily sex is not enough. At first, such a problem manifests itself little, but after a short time it begins to cause severe discomfort, showing a true attitude to intimacy.

A different sexual temperament will still manifest itself, but this issue is resolved as well as with mismatched biorhythms.

Family sexual disharmony and orgasm

Orgasm as a measure of a successful sex life

Many couples fail to reach orgasm, but for some reason they blame it on psychological reasons. Sexologists recommend: do not consider orgasm as the only true indicator of the success of an intimate life, because joint satisfaction can be obtained in various ways.

Some women make the big mistake of giving orgasm too much of a role. In case of failure, and this, by the way, is not such a rare occurrence due to female physiology, the partner begins to be afraid of another “misfire”, there is confidence in inferiority, stiffness of behavior. All this is a direct path to the deprivation of sensual pleasure and disharmony in intimate relationships.

In men, the same situation is observed - in case of failure with the body, a complex of "sexual failure" appears, causing the most negative consequences. You can not get hung up on such an imaginary problem as not achieving a joint orgasm!

How should you behave? What to strive for?

In order for sex to bring positive emotions and pleasure, you should learn to set your own rules, strive for the body and relaxation, but not build it into a cult. It must be remembered that disorders will not make an intimate life harmonious, so there is no need to put pressure on your partner - it is better to jointly find a way to satisfy, learn to understand each other, adapt to the desires of another.

Incompatibility due to age difference

One of the common problems is the age difference, which gives rise to the following situations:

• men have a peak of activity;
• for women, the sexual side of relationships is of little importance so far.

As a result, multiple conflicts arise, the couple is faced with male infidelity, the partner develops an inferiority complex or fear of intimacy.

But here it is necessary to understand that such disharmony is temporary - a man will settle down over the years, while a woman will begin to appreciate intimacy, mature for a full-fledged sexual life.

Different fantasies and ideas about sex

In some cases, incompatibility is born out of fear of being misunderstood. The fact is that everyone has their own fantasies, desires, role-playing games, fetishes and much more can be included in sexual relations. It is necessary to find compromises, jointly decide what will be acceptable in sex, agreeing on acceptable boundaries.

How is sexual incompatibility of partners treated?

To solve the sexual incompatibility of partners, it is necessary to find out the cause of this phenomenon. Based on this, start a gradual restoration of the comfort zone, learn to be more tolerant, take into account the wishes of your partner, and not stubbornly achieve the goal, causing discomfort to another. Perhaps the best solution would be to visit a sexologist or psychologist, only a specialist will be able to gently and accurately deal with the accumulated fears and problems.