He called the girl the name of the former what to do. If a man called you by a different name, what does it mean? "The best defense is an attack"

Good day, Olya!

You write: “But I am convinced that they don’t just call someone else’s name.”. How justified is your belief? Do you deny chance, do you think that everything that happens is natural? In this case, I agree with the opinion of a respected colleague Shupenyuk - such a belief makes you potentially vulnerable (since accidents exist OBJECTIVELY, and attempts to ignore objective reality always increase a person's vulnerability). By the way, if you are REALLY CONVINCED of this, then why are you asking (“is it possible to name a loved one by the name of his friend / girlfriend, is it just an accident?”)?

In addition to this belief that does not quite correspond to reality, you have others - for example, your belief that a relationship requires FULL confidence in feelings and FULL confidence that "he needs ONLY me." But after all, 100% confidence in this is UNREACHABLE in principle, feelings are quite unstable and almost uncontrollable. At some point, a person may feel that he needs someone else - of course, this does not mean that a person will put these feelings into practice, cherishing existing relationships, he will not do this, but 100% guarantee that such feelings, albeit episodic, will NEVER be, no one can. And to consider the possibility of such feelings and thoughts (we are talking ONLY about feelings and thoughts, but not about specific ACTIONS) as an obstacle to a serious relationship is to lay the foundation for future problems.

Finally, pay attention to the "double standards" in your relationship. You don’t have 100% confidence in the “new martyr”, because “while he was waiting for me, he talked with others” - but you yourself have not yet fully decided, “to leave completely for him from your previous young man (while there is chance to return) or not. In other words, you yourself leave yourself a backup option, room for maneuver, and you demand final and irrevocable decisions from the “new martyr”. Are you sure that this style of behavior contributes to trust in relationships, that it will not negatively affect them?

And now you can return to your original question again: “is it possible to call a loved one the name of his friend / girlfriend, which does not mean anything, is it just an accident?” The answer is POSSIBLE. It MAYBE just a coincidence. But it is also impossible to COMPLETELY exclude the fact that this is NOT an accident. And this is just one of those cases that life is full of when it is IMPOSSIBLE to get a 100% correct and unambiguous answer, TOTALLY eliminate the risk and be COMPLETELY confident. Whether we like it or not, there is ALWAYS room for risk. Another thing is that the risk should be reasonable and justified, and if there is an opportunity to reduce it, then you need to use it (in this case, without attaching importance to the reservation, which may well be just an accident, observe the behavior of a young man, analyze your relations - do they suit you, are there any fundamental differences of opinion, how successfully do you interact with him, resolve emerging disagreements, etc.). All this affects the stability of your relationship no less (if not more) than the “strength of feelings”, to which you attach such exceptional importance (in fact, NOT EVERYTHING is determined only by the intensity of emotions).

Understanding and love to you, and greater flexibility and realism of your views and beliefs!

PS. Also, Olya, pay attention to the fact that you write a lot and think about the young man's feelings for YOU, but do not write about YOUR feelings that he causes in you. Do you take YOUR feelings into account when making a decision, or ignore them, believing that the most important thing is the young man's feelings for you, that they be “so strong”?

It is believed that a woman loves with her ears. She can remember some words with a smile all her life, and some, even if it's just a reservation, become a reason for long-term worries or a serious scandal. Especially when it comes to her name. Why does a man call someone else's name, and how to react in this situation?

The guy called by a different name - of course, this is extremely unpleasant, but this is not a reason for serious offense. It's best to keep a close eye on him. Has his behavior changed, has he started returning from work later or going on unplanned business trips - in general, try to find out what lies behind this clause.

Ideally, in this situation, “turn on your head”, abandoning meaningless emotions and calmly (and even better with a smile) say something like: “Darling, who are you talking to now? My name is different. Do you think we should meet again?"

This is extremely unpleasant, but this is not yet a reason for serious offense.

He may be embarrassed and say that he was mistaken, while giving a reasonable explanation. For example, that all day long I was solving a difficult issue with a colleague, whose name is that, and at home I repeated her name on the machine. It is clear that in such a situation it is definitely not worth worrying and twisting the thought in your head - “My husband called me by a different name”.

But a man can react very ambiguously to such a remark, start fidgeting and getting out, saying that he doesn’t know girls with this name, that he just escaped, or, conversely, come up with some strange excuses.

There is something to think about here, perhaps he is hiding something, and he has a "stigma in the cannon." It is worth being vigilant and finding out if he was carried away by another. Most likely their relationship has not yet gone too far, otherwise he would have been more vigilant. And that means you still have a chance to regain his attention and love again.

a man can react very ambiguously to such a remark ... perhaps he is hiding something

Men can often make a reservation and call the name of the former, especially at the beginning of a relationship. This is extremely unpleasant, but it is worth showing wisdom and patience, and it will pay off handsomely. Sobbing into your pillow over worrying about a guy calling me by his ex's name isn't exactly appropriate.

A habit is a serious thing, and men are often rather distracted, they perform many actions automatically, thinking at that moment about something completely different (make grandiose plans, “decide the fate of the world”, etc.). Therefore, finding himself in a familiar situation in which he has been with an ex-lover more than once, he may accidentally call you by her name.

What can be done? Analyze what moments in your life together remind him of the past (he makes a reservation for a reason) and try to change them. Do everything differently so that he does not have any associations with a past life.

Men can often make a reservation and call the name of the former, especially at the beginning of a relationship.

Perhaps the most serious reason for jealousy and worries arises if the husband in a dream called a different (alien, completely unfamiliar) name. You need to sound the alarm and make every effort to find out what is behind it. Especially if this is repeated not once or to all your questions, you get frankly false answers.

Of course, the clause of the clause is different. Someone else's name in the mouth of your man, no matter what a storm of emotions it causes, may just be an accident. And most of the time it's really just a coincidence. But sometimes it is a clear hint that something is wrong behind your back. Therefore, when you hear someone else's name instead of your own, it is very important to show composure and find out what is behind it, and what are the prospects for your relationship.

No one is immune from mistakes, especially from small ones, when by chance, instead of a familiar name, another suddenly pops up, which is pronounced aloud. Of course, such confusion can be unpleasant, but, nevertheless, even such a banality can hide a rather serious reason, which, as it turns out, should not be ignored, because a name accidentally pronounced aloud can mean a lot.

Psychological aspects

According to psychologists, there may be several reasons for the sudden confusion of names. For example, a person in a conversation with several people is able to tritely mix up the names, accidentally calling one of the interlocutors a strange name. This also happens when a person thinks about someone and suddenly someone turns to him. Accordingly, while still not moving away from thoughts about another person, it is also possible to make a mistake.

You can also call a person by a different name by accident, especially if he looks like a friend from afar. Such confusion can occur with those people who really miss their dead or departed relatives, because in such a situation, longing for loved ones can also result in a reservation.

Signs

The slip in the name does not always have psychological roots, some cases can also be attributed to mysticism, since often a reasonable explanation, even taking into account scientific justification, simply does not exist. Let's say there is a sign that if you call someone little known by someone else's name, then soon there will be a visit from the person whose name was pronounced.

Also, they say that if someone is constantly mistaken and calls the same person by a different name, and by accident, there is a possibility that soon the fate of this person will change, because it is no coincidence that they see him in a different guise. Of course, for those who are afraid of such changes, it is best to limit communication with those who have made a reservation, but for those who love adventure, surprises should be expected in the near future.

There is another sign. They say that the person whose name was pronounced by mistake, most likely, at the moment, remembers the one who misspoke. Accordingly, in order to avoid such mistakes in the future, it is best to meet and just talk, because there is a possibility that the reason lies precisely in mutual longing for each other.

In ancient times, the name of a person was taken very seriously, because a change of name could lead to a change in fate and even death. That is why the real name received at baptism, as a rule, was always hidden in order to limit both evil thoughts and banal reservations that could lead to serious consequences.

A name is a nickname that is given to every person at birth. Usually, in a Russian person, such factors as the surname and patronymic are attached to the name. For example, a person may be called Fedor Vasilyevich Ivanov. Although there is such information as the story of Tina Kandelaki that her patronymic is not written in the passport column. And this is not the first time. Americans have no patronymic at all, only the first and last names are present in their family tree. For example, Richard Jefferson. But, at the same time, every person has a name.

Even the very first person on planet Earth. His name was Adam, and his name said a lot about himself. It consisted of three Hebrew characters (letters) - aleph, dalet and mem. Which meant that he was the first who sought to fill the vessel of the inner world of all future humanity with the feeling of the Almighty. Speaking about the meaning of the name, one can also take into account the factor that, in Hebrew, the name Adam means “man”.

In addition to human names, there are names of trade products, names of parts of speech, names of animals, which are called nicknames. The name of a person, in another way, is called a personal name. The role of a name for a person is huge. In ancient times, people were called the way they presented themselves. This is where the name Anastasia originated in ancient Greece. It is also considered a Russian, Orthodox name and means "resurrected, immortal."

For some girls, it is important that their boyfriend's name is exactly what they like. But their guys name, alas, is not the name that I would like to hear. In this case, a situation may arise that the girl, under some circumstances, called her boyfriend by a different name. But what should a guy do if a girl called him a false name?

Many laugh it off, saying that you need to be the one whose name the girl named, then you can get what this "Vasya" gets. But, in fact, for a loving person, this joke is a sharp blow right to the heart. The first thing to remember is that you should never panic and bring the situation to a breakup until there is complete confidence in the existence of "Vasya". It may well be that this name is simply associated in a girl with the appearance of a guy. After all, if you think about it, everyone can be given another, as people think, more appropriate name. The second factor associated with the fact that the girl called a different name is the huge presence of friends and relatives. This, indeed, can lead to a stupid and ridiculous situation with the guy's name. The third factor is the actual presence of a person with a given name, but this can only be determined by one's own ears and eyes. You should never listen to anyone about this.

Called another name of her beloved, but not without reason? Then it’s worth confessing everything, because if it’s love, the guy will forgive, perhaps not immediately, but he will forgive. She called the guy a different name - a serious relationship cannot be started with a lie. You can, of course, without telling the truth, justify yourself by saying that it was a joke. Or to say that this is a kind of role-playing game. But, if a girl chooses the role-playing option, you can expect anything from a guy. For example, he may be frightened, or, on the contrary, for him this girl will become both a red cap and a desperate nurse. Well, if you talk seriously, then there is nothing better than confessing everything.

Love is a bright feeling that cannot be polluted by betrayals and lies. Otherwise it will not be love. To call someone else's name, while having the cunning to lie, is also not an option. It's mean. To avoid this situation and remember the partner's name forever, you need to go a little way. To study the partner's name in every sense, that is, to find out the meaning of the name and the nature of the name. After all, the character really depends on the nickname. You need to find out what color corresponds to the name of the partner. Knowing all these factors, you can immediately remember the name, because the girl will have all the associations associated with the guy's name. In general, girls are the most creative creatures on Earth, so a mistake in a guy’s name is just an image support, a kind of “PR” factor for a female being, although many men do not understand this logic. But it’s worth thinking about and coming to the conclusion that this is not a terrible “vice”, because the mistake in choosing a husband is much more serious than the ridiculous situation with the name.