Dangerous ties. Is an office romance worth it? Romance with a married man. Is it worth it to start

Relationships with married men have become commonplace in the 21st century. According to statistics, over 70% of women try to build relationships with men who have legal wives. But the situation may not always be in their favor. A man's opinion can change at any moment, he can go back to his wife, or simply stop making contact.

This issue is often dealt with by psychologists, who are visited daily by patients who have experienced the hardships of relationships with married people. What does it threaten? Can there be a successful outcome? We will try to answer all questions throughout this article.

First of all, an affair with a married man is a responsibility. Such relationships are concluded on the mountain of a third party, namely, the legal wife. There is a popular proverb: "You cannot build your own happiness on someone else's happiness." In this situation, it will be the most appropriate. Of course, there are exceptions when such a romance arises by mutual agreement and the parties know what they are getting into. But most often, this is only a temporary attraction with unknown final results.

Can such a novel end in success?

Maybe. Often they choose a woman on the side, starting from new surging feelings, a variety of sensations. It is difficult to say what it is based on (kinship of souls, an intimate plan, or simply the opposite of a wife), but over time this may also change. Now you are the wife, and he is again looking for a replacement for you. How to see a losing romance ahead of time:

Ambiguity. The man is in constant thought, running between two fires. In such a case, the choice will be made in favor of the wife, because this is a companion that has already been tested by life.

Lack of trust. It’s a common thing when people don’t get along in character, or just life ruined everything. Take a look at your man. After all, maybe he is looking for temporary relationships without obligations that do not force him to anything.
The initiative is only sexual. If a man is only interested in you as a sexual partner, this is the end without a beginning. Immediately cut off all contacts, in the future, such a romance will end extremely badly.
But, even realizing the reality, many women go to the end. They are looking for any methods and ways to keep a married man.

Is it possible to tie a married person to you?

Again, an ambiguous answer. If the stronger sex has a powerful will, it is unlikely to be able to keep him near you. In choosing his new companion (if the romance seems serious), the male sex is very courteous. They judge not only by appearance and mindset, but also by the household plan, intimate connection and many other factors. Of course, there are several options for how this can be done, namely:

Try to be his closest person. If he opened up to you, and was able to completely trust, success is guaranteed. Men rarely admit their weaknesses or share difficulties. Basically, they keep everything to themselves. If he regards you as a reliable, dear person, the remaining choice will be yours.
Don't pressure him. As a rule, men leave families because of strong pressure from their spouses. Become his friend, adviser, be submissive. For a man, the main thing is support and mutual understanding.
Always leave the final choice to him. He should feel at ease in your romance, feel a whole new horizon of feelings and emotions.
Don't reveal the romance. Try to be in the shadows, but until the winning moment. As soon as a man is ready to choose you, immediately declare yourself. He must see that his chosen one is not afraid of the consequences, and is ready for all possible difficulties.
These are just a few possible options for how to try to keep a man near you. It is difficult to generalize all cases, because it is not always the woman who initiates the continuation of the novel. But what to do if a man chose marriage instead of you? How to stop loving a married man? Psychologists have been able to answer this question.

How to exclude a man from your life?

Every psychologist, throughout their practice, had repeated victims of an unsuccessful romance. The women were practically in a state of apathy, they rejected the reality and the fact of the event that had already happened. As a rule, this is a blow not only to feelings, but also to pride. Potentially, a woman out of wedlock and a lawful wife are seen as rivals.

The main prize is a place near the beloved man. The losing side feels humiliated, broken, betrayed. In exceptional cases, there has been a complete rejection of life, suicide attempts, or insanity. What can be done to avoid this situation:

Break all relationships. This past. We need to move forward. Exclude all contacts, just forget about his existence. Remove from prominent places photographs or things reminiscent of a recent romance. Just make yourself believe that this is not the end at all, but a new beginning.
Don't plot. Who is to blame for the fact that the choice was not in her favor? That's right, the wife. As a rule, outcast women begin to intrigue in every possible way, trying to destroy family life. Appoint personal meetings, send joint photos on social networks or in other ways try to make themselves known. No need to do this! Revenge is a destructive and devastating feeling. Even if the marriage is destroyed, it will not brighten up life in any way.
Make new friends, improve your life. Go on a journey, fulfill a cherished dream. Do not rush to establish a new relationship.
If you stick to all these points, you can stop loving a man, even if the romance was very expensive.

Summing up

An affair with a married man is a double-edged sword. This is a relationship without guarantees, and, as a rule, without a possible future. Psychologists have their own opinion on this matter. They believe that it is not immoral, but unnatural. But if a woman decided to thoroughly climb into this pool with her head, she will need the advice of a psychologist.

• Do not allow strong attachment if you are not sure about the partner. In this case, it will be easier to survive separation. The novel should be taken as a temporary attraction, if there are no hints of its further continuation.
• If the beloved is really yours, it is worth going to the bitter end. Conquer it by any means, happiness is worth fighting for.
  Do not destroy strong family ties. A husband who often remembers his wife, especially bright and pleasant moments, really loves her. Let him go, and if possible, reconcile with your wife. That will be better for everyone.
• In general, there is only one thing to add. Always soberly assess the situation, do not take drastic and unexpected measures, leave the right to choose for a man and listen not only to your ambitions, but also to your mind. Time and action will put everything in its place.

AS A RESULT YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. AND IT'S GOOD IF TWO FREE PEOPLE FLAME WITH PASSION AT WORK. ALTHOUGH THE PROXIMITY OF THE OBJECT OF SENSES AND DISTRACTS FROM WORK, AT LEAST THE CONSCIENCE IS CLEAR AND A HAPPY RESOLUTION IS POSSIBLE. BUT FREQUENTLY AT LEAST ONE OF THE LOVERS IS MARRIED. AND THEN AND BOTH.

AND, WHATEVER YOU SAY IT, IN THIS CASE EVERYTHING ENDS BADLY, EITHER FOR THE NOVEL OR FOR THE FAMILY. IF THE FIRST ONE, THEN WORKING TOGETHER FOR THE FORMER LOVERS BECOME UNPLEASANT, OR UNBEARABLE. AND YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR JOB... AND IF THE SECOND - YOU KNOW YOURSELF... HAPPINESS, BUILT ON ANOTHER'S UNHAPPINESS, HAS THE PROPERTY TO END AS SUDDENLY AS IT STARTED.

Type of relationship: HEAD - SUBJECT

Either the girl seeks to enter into a non-working relationship with the boss, or the boss is eager to get the employee she likes. What to do in the second case - the topic is rather for a men's magazine. Let's consider the first one.

Goal: CAREER GROWTH

Of course, there is a chance to get a promotion thanks to an affair with the boss, but if you are not a very valuable professional and not a workaholic (working in bed does not count), sex is unlikely to help. A successful man always thinks first of all about business and only secondly about his body ... And if you are an excellent worker and are determined to plow tirelessly for a successful career, then what does sex have to do with it? It is better not to fall into the web of informal relationships, unless, of course, you go crazy with passion for your boss. In this case - even in the pool with your head, no one and nothing can stop you.

Goal: FAVORABLE MARRIAGE

Option 1. You are young and beautiful, he is solid and successful - almost a prince on a white horse. True, he is married. Well, so what? - you decide. You start making eyes, putting on exciting dresses, buying perfumes with pheromones... It seems to work! The result... Do you think it's the boss's divorce and a luxurious holiday in the Canary Islands? By no means! Much more real - dismissal. Either he will sooner or later get tired of playing cat and mouse, or the wife will feel something is wrong and will drop by her husband at work to look around. Either way, you'll be the one to blame and fired.

Option 2. You're still attractive, and he's not married. Here's luck! - it seems to you. Is not a fact. Rather, it's a reason to think. If he is already the boss and is still not married, then for some reason he is in no hurry to bind himself with obligations. The reasons can be very different - from the extreme degree of greed to non-traditional sexual orientation. Be that as it may, you are unlikely to succeed in marrying your boss. The maximum - "whack and quit."

Relationship type: PRIVATE EMPLOYEES

Option 1:both are unmarried. This is the most successful case, one might say, exemplary and desirable. After all, at work you have every chance to get to know each other well, you can see how the chosen one is responsible, accurate, attentive, punctual and the like. However, love is a fire that burns as long as wood is thrown into it and goes out when it rains. The participants in an office romance are literally forced to communicate every day, regardless of their mood and well-being, and such a “commitment” sooner or later can become straining and lead to a break. What awaits the former lovers in this case is not difficult to guess. Joint work begins to strain, and someone has to look for a new job.

Option 2: one is married. The heart, as they say, you can not command. Yes, it happens that not everything is going smoothly at home, that family relationships do not stick together. If you are married, and he is free, the situation is much more promising than when the opposite is true. Because the decision in which case is up to you. Of course, various personal factors can play a role in the development of relations - whether you have children with your husband, your own attitude towards your husband, the degree of trust in people ... But if he is married, believe me, it’s better not to get involved. Because in this situation, a scandal of such force can happen that you will not be ready for. For example, your lover's wife comes to work and goes straight to the director - to find out what kind of mess is happening here. Or even worse - he attacks you right from the doorway with fists and shouts: “You bitch, where are you going? We have children!” Believe me, this happens all the time, because no one likes to give their own, and women are ready to go to great lengths to protect their families.

Option 3: both are married. This is a really bad lineup. You can't imagine worse! Even if one of you is ready to go for a divorce, it’s not a fact that both of you as a result decide to say terrible words in the eyes of loved ones (in the sense of spouses). Often such situations last for years in anticipation of a denouement and never end with anything. And getting into the trap of difficult relationships at work, you see, is worse than if two married people met under other circumstances. After all, there is nowhere to retreat, except, again, to quit ...

AND NOW LET'S LOOK AT ALL THIS IN THE EYES OF THE HEAD.

What good can be in the fact that employees have an affair? Yes, absolutely nothing! After all, as a result, in one way or another, literally the entire team has to participate in these relations. For example, consider a romance between a boss and a subordinate. Even if the boss's favorite does not have any advantages over her colleagues, others always suspect that she has a special attitude towards her. And they start arguing. And the work environment is spoiled. And a girl who goes on an affair with her boss, most likely, is counting on gifts and privileges.

At the same time, the bosses, oh, how they don’t like it when they are considered obligated and shake their rights! Or let's take the option when ordinary employees were inflamed with passion for each other. Are they fully committed to work? Surely they correspond in messengers, review, retire, quarrel, reconcile - in any case, their productivity decreases, and the salary remains the same. Apparently, it is precisely because it is not easy to find arguments in defense of office romances that in many firms informal relationships are prohibited by administrative procedure.

In general, an office romance is a very difficult topic. Therefore, before accepting the invitation of the chef to have lunch together, or before making eyes at a handsome employee, think carefully about what goal you are pursuing and whether you are ready for possible consequences.

Oddly enough, the remark will sound, but many women prefer to start relationships not with single (unmarried) men, but, on the contrary, with married men, believing that such relationships do not oblige to anything.

What attracts ladies in the not free Don Juan?

Psychology says that there are two types of such women.

Some try to take their partner away from the family, systematically calculating each step. These ladies are patient and can wait a long time for a significant event.

Other persons start an affair with a married man because they do not aspire to marriage. They value personal freedom and independence in relationships. Ladies do not imagine life in a family, they are not ready for obligations. Sometimes convinced loners, psychology notes, are not ready to talk about the fact that they do not want marital ties, because these desires are considered abnormal for a woman.

A truly confident woman will not be content with a second-rate relationship. She will not suffer in a relationship without a future. So respect yourself! Or ...... They can prove to their friends for years that they want family relationships, dream of love, but their personal life develops in an unfavorable way, of course, without their desire. Despite complaints, women again and again start adultery with a married man, not paying attention to single candidates. All because she wants love and intimate relationships without obligations and responsibilities. What can you expect from a relationship with a married man?

In each case, the novel develops differently, but the ending is often the same. As a rule, the beloved stays in the family, and his girlfriend drinks sedative pills and antidepressants. Very rarely, a relationship with a married boyfriend ends in a divorce of the latter, but this is rather an exception to the rule.

Married gentlemen need a mistress to feel like sexy machos, in demand among the fair sex. In the family, they carefully hide adultery, protecting the peace of the spouse with the child.

And lovers are always a holiday for each other: candlelit dinners, romantic evenings in hotels and resorts, non-trivial situations where you need to be smart to see each other. This is the brightness that is lacking in everyday life. And this is love, passion, adrenaline, this is the time when you can be different, and not the way you are known in the family. A man tries on another life, another woman, another sex.

Will your relationship stand the test of everyday life? This can be understood only by recognizing each other as real: home, everyday, sad, with all the baggage of joys and sorrows. And if your man feels that his attitude is more than a holiday, he will not torment you and himself, he will offer you a relationship without any “buts”, without wasting your time, without wasting your feelings. In the end, if a man loves you, he respects you, and you must admit that being the mistress of a married man is not the image of an ideal relationship that you imagined in your youth.

Therefore, love can be curbed. And if it is love, it must be developed. And the desire for it should be manifested not only in you, but also in him. Otherwise, as I wrote above, run away from this relationship! Run before you get close to him.

Women seeking relationships with married women, psychology notes, value gentlemen for their reliability, reasonableness, and responsibility, which distinguishes them favorably from bachelors. In women's eyes, single men are not worthy of love, they seem to them frivolous and windy.

Some people are attracted to illegal relationships by risk, thrills, a sense of intrigue and adventure. They get used to this form of love between a man and a woman, over time they begin to consider such relationships normal.

A secret affair with a married lover has to be carefully hidden from friends. The couple cannot go to a cafe or to the cinema together. Fearing exposure in the family, lovers try to appear on the street separately from each other. Partners meet in a hotel or at a lady's house, if she does not have a strife with children, about her obscene relations.

The couple carefully hides the evidence of their love, because they are forced to abide by the rules of conspiracy.

Some time passes and partners begin to burden the relationship. A woman feels like the injured party, because she lacks the love and care of a married boyfriend. She gets tired of spending weekends and holidays alone, she wants normal relationships, walks with children in the park, joint trips to the cinema. A woman ceases to like going to bed and waking up alone, she wants banal attention and love that a married man cannot give her.

There are both positive and negative sides to such relationships. Every girl or woman, starting a relationship with a married man, should think carefully about whether she needs a married lover!

1. Pros of a relationship with a married man.

Dating a married man has several advantages. One of them is freedom. You do not particularly need to worry and report to your lover where, when and with whom you will go. Meetings with a married man do not burden you with everyday life, you do not need to wash his dirty linen, cook dinners. He will take you to restaurants, give gifts, flowers. Your meetings will be held joyfully, with overflowing emotions, because the secrecy of the meeting further fuels interest and passion.

Pros of a relationship with a married boyfriend.

Girlfriends of unfree gentlemen note their ability to take care of a lady, tolerance, compliments, attentiveness, and ability to get along with children. However, male psychology is not set up to leave the family, where it is convenient and comfortable for them, contact with their wife and child is established, a stable life, material wealth. In relationships on the side, revelers are looking for sexual variety and adventure. Sometimes the craving for adultery is explained by inferiority complexes and the desire to assert oneself.

What do we find attractive in a married man?

He is clean, healthy, well-groomed (most often).

He is relaxed, because feels more calm and secure (these relationships are "second" for him, i.e. less significant), he risks less.

He is less demanding and more generous, because knows that "it's on time."

He is more creative, with fantasy participates in relationships, because. there are unfulfilled desires, for some reason blocked in family relationships (this is the reason for him, and not for his wife, as we like to think).

We feel like a winner in this implicit (and sometimes explicit) competition with another woman.

For us, he is a prize, a gift, a bonus. There is no this terrible word "responsibility", we PLAY here, we are just children.

We also know that these relationships are only “for a while”, this is a game, training ... But to complete the sensations, we create inside ourselves a “tear”, “tragedy”, something else - which is important for us to live and feel in life according to our life scenario.

This is neither good nor bad. It is important to see and know what actually influences your choice of a partner in personal relationships.

We considered the situation when a woman falls in love with a married man. But the reverse situation (a man falls in love with a married woman) has the same roots and causes.

Without completing a relationship with one partner, it is impossible to build them with another.

It is much more useful to ask yourself questions about your fears, your limitations and solve them with the help of professionals in personal growth trainings, for example.

To see and start using your personal resources to live 100% is the most important thing in life. Take action - and you will definitely succeed!

Sex with a married man.

And what to say about sex! Sex with a married man is just wonderful, full of feelings and emotions. Each of you will try to make this meeting unforgettable. A married lover has not received such pleasure with his lawful wife for a long time. Sex with her has long become uninteresting and boring. With you, he will be able to make all his fantasies and dreams come true, without hesitation and prejudice.

Of course, you can not ignore the financial support from a married lover. He will show you only his best sides, one of which will be generosity and wealth.

However, realizing that you are the mistress of a married man is not always pleasant. This relationship has many disadvantages.

Sex with a married man can be insane, crazy, incredible, and exciting.

The stronger the effect of intimacy will be if the partners know about the danger of their exposure. So now think about what attracts women to mistresses and vice versa?

But it will be only 10-20 or 30 minutes of that most unforgettable and inimitable sex, and it will be followed by the erasure of all traces of this riot of emotions and fast love. No traces of someone else's perfume or lipstick, or God forbid traces of nails or a strong kiss. All this is erased, removed and destroyed with scrupulous, prudent, neatness and accuracy.

What interests me about this thread: WHY? Why so long? Why is it not easy to end this relationship?

The first answer I think of is that this relationship is COMFORTABLE.

First of all, they are convenient for a man: there is always a place where they love you, they are waiting, where you can get a lot without investing almost anything, there is, as it were, a “fallback option” in case a person (man) decides to change his life. (I’ll say right away that it’s unlikely that a man will decide on this, since it is these relationships that are convenient, and not some others.) This is the main reason why a man stays in these relationships and, of course, when a woman tries to break them, he begins to invest more in them, once again giving a “baited hook” to a woman, after a difficult period, everything remains in its place. So, “it’s just very convenient” is the main reason a man stays in this relationship. Yes, of course, there are small difficulties - for example, how to tell your wife, or how to find time, but in general, such relationships are much more convenient for a man than for a man.

Secondly, this relationship SUPPORTS HIS MARRIAGE. Yes, yes, they support, not destroy, as women often think when meeting a married man. The family system is like a scale, if an imbalance is created on any bowl, for example, someone has sacrificed a lot for the sake of the family, or experienced a lot, this imbalance creates tension and other family members try to compensate for it. And compensation is not always possible. For example, a wife has an abortion. And, as a result, she accuses her husband - that he did not create the material conditions for her to be able to safely give birth to a child, or that he did not “dissuade” her, or that he did not take enough care of her in the process, and in general because he lives well, and she is now bad. The scales swung. A husband needs strength in order to stay in a relationship, in order to withstand tension, in order to continue to be accepting, loving, caring at a time when so much is demanded of him and there are so many claims against him, often unreasonable and incomprehensible to him. Where can you get the strength for this? Where to find support? This is where another woman appears - who "accepts as she is", loves, approves, understands, and, most importantly, does not blame. Further, having fed on these resources, the man returns to his wife. He is already more resistant to her demands, he feels stronger, and most importantly, he has a little real guilt that prompts him to make concessions and fulfill part of his wife's demands without discussing their adequacy. Now you don’t need to resent the violation of your boundaries and you don’t need to return your wife to reality. The husband becomes "good," the wife is content to receive an answer to her claims, the family boat stops rocking, and the marriage continues.

So, betrayal has become a resource for continuing a quiet family life. The next time the "family boat rocks" - the man already knows what needs to be done to "restore the balance." There are some families where there is a "tacit agreement" for betrayal, and sometimes this agreement is open, with discussion. For example, a wife is much older than her husband, they have a good family, a child, but all the sexual energy of the husband does not fit into this relationship. Then the husband gets mistresses. Most often, the wife suspects this, but it is not at all profitable for her to break off relations. The husband is satisfied, she is satisfied with the behavior of the returned husband, everyone wins. The marriage continues.

This is the second reason why a man is absolutely not interested in breaking off relationships on the side. Like the first, this reason is not always conscious, but it exists, and his family is better and easier from the fact that there is a mistress.

Even these two reasons are enough for a man not to try to break off this relationship.

But there is a third reason - usually a lover is a woman "pleasant in all respects", she is kind, she is cheerful, she is economic, she is sincere, loving, understanding, she is beautiful, because she is an "image" and not a real person. This is LOVE. Yes, yes, the same love that schoolchildren in the 11th grade have when there is a Beautiful Girl who is ideal and ... unattainable. This is not love, as is often confused, because there is no responsibility, no reality, because there is almost no other person (with his real needs) at all - there is only his image. To destroy the image, to refuse a beautiful picture - it requires too much effort, and will only bring pain and discomfort. Why is it for a man for whom these relationships are also convenient? In addition, the good old “HAVE” mechanism also works here: a man is pleased that he has such a beautiful woman, perhaps he is even proud of her, sometimes they show their lovers to their friends and colleagues: “Look what kind of woman is in a relationship with me.”

So, it is absolutely not beneficial for a married man to break off relations with his mistress. And of course, he will not take responsibility for breaking off relations, he will not try to break them off - he will provide this to the “other side”, and he himself will still leave hooks of hope: “I’m about to leave the family, everything is already bad there” ... In some cases, there may be another scenario when a married man, by his attempts to “break off relations”, provokes his mistress to stay in them as long as possible, because such attempts are actually false and their goal is rather to “refresh feelings”, confirm their value for a woman, see her desire to stay in a relationship, not a breakup.

Rules for your own emotions, desires and moods.

In such a relationship, there can be no bad health, a bad mood, or a sudden lack of desire. A woman should always be cheerful, understanding and cheerful, as well as a man. If a married woman has a lover, then for him she will never have a headache.

Now about the second side of the triangle, about the woman, about the mistress.

Relationships with married men are like drinking binges with alcoholics. During the period when an alcoholic drinks, the world is beautiful. Problems begin in a sober life. Such a relationship is akin to a drug that gives relief at the moment of use, and after which "withdrawal" begins, and then a new breakdown follows. It is very difficult to stop this “romantic intoxication with others”, because a woman also has a lot of reasons that keep her in this relationship.

And the first reason is the "romantic rapture" itself. All "other men" will be worse than this, ideal, but with "one small flaw" - he is married. That is, the first reason is the same LOVE that prevents you from seeing a real person. A married man is also "beautiful in every way" for his mistress. What is most interesting, even when the period of falling in love passes, when the woman already sees that he is not so “beautiful”, then the reason “ALREADY WITH HIM” turns on: so much has already been lived with him, he already knows so much, he is already so close ... - "the other cannot be in his place."

The next reason is also CONVENIENCE, oddly enough. When a man lives separately, this is very convenient: you don’t have to meet with a bunch of unpleasant things (just which usually destroy the illusory image). You don’t need to agree on family problems every day, you don’t need to build a life together. It's EASY to be Perfect for him (and that's another reason) - just as he stays Perfect for her.

So, what exists between a married man and his mistress, what holds in a relationship, is more than just sex. Often there is also "intimacy" - long conversations in which both perform a PSYCHOTHERAPEUTIC FUNCTION for each other. He shares his problems, which he does not do at home or with friends, she talks about her experiences. Both are something of an "outlet" for each other. Often this side is one of the most restraining. For a woman first. But the price for such "psychotherapy" is high.

The pay is your years. The pay is your missed opportunity. The fee is a vicious circle from which it is impossible to get out without loss. Pay is evenings of loneliness and despair. And it's your choice to pay the price. The question is how much this choice is realized and how much it is a choice. Does an alcoholic choose to “go on a binge”? For the most part, he says that “external circumstances pushed him”, that “I can’t live without it”. And this is also true - addiction is a total mechanism that permeates all levels of being, is formed in early childhood and turns on unconsciously.

Cons of a relationship with a married boyfriend.

For every illegal love there is a time limit. Extramarital relationships between partners usually end in separation. For women, a connection with a married gentleman carries a bunch of minuses. The most important of which is lost time. Being in an unregistered relationship with a busy boyfriend, a lady loses her beauty, youth, attractiveness. During this time, she could have her own children and a loving husband.

When a relationship comes to an end, a woman experiences severe stress. After a painful breakup, she, as a rule, is not ready for her own family right away.

Unfortunately, ladies do not know what the male goal of extramarital relations is, so they dream of love and a family with a not free person. In fact, unfaithful husbands start an affair on the side solely for sexual pleasures and thrills. Least of all in such a relationship, they think about a new family, parting with his wife and children, divorce.

The male psychology of relationships is distinguished by the leadership qualities of the stronger sex. If he really wanted to leave the family, he would definitely do it without hiding from his wife and not striving for intrigues.

The most important, probably, of them is that there are practically no prospects for the development of relations with a married man. Few husbands leave their wives and children and go to their mistresses. Well in this triangle only a man. Two women please him, and at the same time suffer from jealousy.

No matter how wonderful trips to a restaurant are, meetings with a married man will always have to be hidden, hiding, which over time will certainly annoy you.

If you don’t have other than relationships with a married man, then you will have to celebrate all the holidays alone, because. he will certainly celebrate them with his wife. And if you are also in love with him, then you cannot avoid the torment of jealousy. After all, the wife is allowed much more than you. Like it or not, but the mistress of a married man is still in second place after his wife.

Sooner or later, the wife will still find out if her husband is cheating. In most cases, men return to the family like delinquent boys.

Everyone believes in a fairy tale, and this especially applies to young and young girls.

Meeting with a married man, the girl still hopes, no matter how she hides it, that the beloved man will leave his family and go to her in order to create a new one. But this is extremely rare, and even if it occurs, the new family will soon break up.

As the saying goes, you can't build your happiness on someone else's misfortune!

If we talk about the relationship of a married woman with a married man, then such relationships will last until one of the partners gets tired of a double life.

After all, both sides will not want to change anything in their lives!

One way or another, each person is responsible for himself, and it is up to you to decide whether or not to be in this relationship. Try to look at the current situation from the outside, and then look at yourself in it.

Whatever the relationship (either a relationship with a divorced man, or a married man, or a single man), a woman has the right to decide for herself what is more important to her: love, position in society, money or her own happiness ?!

Choose the right path for yourself and follow it with your head held high!

We hope we have helped you understand the psychology of relationships with a married man. It is up to you, of course, to decide whether or not to have a relationship with a married man, however, before making a positive decision, remember that after a while you may regret the wasted best years of your life!

Is it even worth starting a relationship if it is doomed to failure? As a study of experts shows, such novels end tragically, sometimes the relationship becomes public, revelers find out about them in the family, which ends with a divorce from his wife and separation from the child.

A new romance between a gentleman and a mistress does not last long if the couple does not have children. In this case, the woman manages to keep the womanizer for a while, manipulating the child. Psychological scams do not communicate a healthy climate to a newly minted family.

If a relationship with a married boyfriend has already happened, it is better for a woman to change the most typical scenario of such situations and break the connection with her boyfriend. Parting will be painful and bitter, but, meanwhile, will allow you to establish a more acceptable personal life, will allow you to start your own family with a child and a loving husband.

The gap will help to avoid a huge number of future problems and experiences, but will give you invaluable experience. Psychologists note that we should not go on about fleeting hobbies and desires, life is one and it takes a long time and carefully to choose a partner who will be there. The least suitable for a life together is an unfaithful boyfriend who deceives his beloved woman with his own child. Such a person does not deserve ladies' attention, wasted time and tears.

It is not surprising that unfaithful husbands prefer to choose inexperienced and gullible girls with or without a child for adultery. They are easier to seduce with gifts and compliments, they agree to go on dates to places that are not distinguished by a presentable atmosphere. A mature lady is harder to deceive or confuse. They have experience of a long relationship between a man and a woman, and will not allow themselves to be played with like a child.

Young girls are waiting for a handsome prince, caring and sympathetic. A family man who has gone through the school of life happily satisfies the expectations of young people. He is helpful, gentle, knows how to give gifts. Meanwhile, the gentleman is sometimes sad that he is not understood in the family, is not respected, is not appreciated, is kept by a young child, because of which he has been living with his unloved wife for years. Inexperienced young ladies here de forget the warnings of parents and girlfriends about quirky boyfriends. Meanwhile, everything that acquaintances frightened the young lady with is gradually becoming a reality. Time passes, it's time for the girl to have a child and a stable family, and the gentleman is still suffering from life with his annoying wife. They make endless arguments and promises that turn out to be empty.

This happens until a young girl gets tired of being a thing and she claims her own rights. Then she puts her boyfriend before a choice between her and his wife with an already grown child. As a rule, in this case, the gentleman rushes in search of the next victim, and she finally finds her prince, with whom she builds a serious relationship.

Ladies with inferiority complexes, infantile persons who are afraid of responsibility, women who do not dare to become adults decide to have a relationship with married gentlemen. They are afraid of disappointment, afraid of the inability to build a stable relationship between a man and a woman. For them, love for a married gentleman is a kind of protection from the need to grow up and become the mistress of the hearth, delaying the meeting with reality.

No matter how young ladies convince psychologists that their affair with a family man is the result of an accident, these are only attempts to justify themselves. No matter how much they claim that they are too young and innocent, that they have been deceived, this is an excuse that is worth considering more closely. Experts advise infantile ladies to love themselves more and not allow themselves to be used by experienced womanizers.

An interesting article about relationships with a married man. Is it worth it to become a lover? Or is it better to search for your true love?

There are many pros and cons to being in a relationship with a married man. Many women are satisfied with being lovers for several years.

First, it's an open relationship. A married man will never bother with his calls and questions about where you are and with whom.

Secondly, he will not be imposed if you are busy and cannot meet him today or tomorrow.

Meeting such a man does not mean that you cannot simultaneously be in search of your true love. You can tell him at any time that everything is over between you, and let each other go without tears and reproaches.

Also, an affair with a married man allows you to avoid attachment and boredom in a relationship.

The biggest plus is the presence of passion. You know that he is dating you to enjoy passionate sex that his wife cannot give him. You also gain experience when dealing with such a man.

A married man is also a man. The male shoulder is still present, albeit someone else's. He can fix a faucet, screw in a light bulb, or offer financial assistance.

Many couples know that home sex is everyday life, and sex on the side is the embodiment of all desires into reality. These are not necessarily the desires of a man, but your fantasies too. Enjoy while you can.

Usually, meetings with a mistress for men are not planned in advance. Therefore, if you are a mistress, you must always look good and be in shape. This is also a plus for you.

Another advantage is that such a man will never reproach you for not preparing food, not ironing a shirt, not washing dishes.

Remember only one rule: do not allow yourself to fall in love and become attached to a married man. Remember that he will not leave his wife for you, you are only a hobby for him. You are in search of real feelings and someday you will find your soul mate.

Women's secrets: Sometimes a man needs a companion on a trip. Such companions can be found in an escort agency or on a dating site.