How to teach a child to eat independently and carefully - a complete guide for parents. Nikolai Zaitsev's technique

1. The child speaks fluently in sentences and understands the meaning of what is said.
2. The child distinguishes sounds (what speech therapists call developed phonemic hearing). Simply put, the baby will easily understand by ear where house And onion, And where - volume And Luke.
3. Your child pronounces all the sounds and has no speech problems.
4. The child understands directions: left-right, top-bottom. Let's omit the point that adults often confuse right and left. For learning to read, it is important that the baby can follow the text from left to right and from top to bottom.

8 tips to help your child learn to read

Set an example

In a family where there is a culture and tradition of reading, children themselves will be drawn to books. Read not because it is necessary and useful, but because it is a pleasure for you.

Read together and discuss

You read aloud, and then look at the picture together, encouraging the child to interact with the book: “Who is this drawn? Can you show me the cat's ears? And who is this standing next to her? Older children can be asked more difficult questions: “Why did he do this? What do you think will happen next?"

Go from simple to complex

Start with sounds, then move on to syllables. Let the words consisting of repeated syllables be the first: ma-ma, pa-pa, da-da, nya-nya. After them, move on to more complex combinations: ko-t, zhu-k, do-m.

Show that letters are everywhere

Play a game. Let the child find the letters that surround him on the street and at home. These are the names of stores, and memos on information stands, and even traffic light messages: it happens that the inscription “Go” lights up on green, and “Wait so many seconds” on red.

play

And play again. Stack blocks with letters and syllables, make up words, ask your child to read you some kind of sign or inscription on the packaging in the store.

Take every opportunity to exercise

Whether you are sitting in line at the clinic or driving somewhere, get a book with pictures and short stories to them and invite your child to read together.

Build Success

Repeat familiar texts, look for already known heroes in new stories. The runaway bunny is found in both "Teremka" and "Kolobok".

Don't force

This is perhaps the most important. Don't take away a child's childhood. Learning should not go through tears.

6 time-tested techniques

ABCs and primers

Traditional, but the longest way. The difference between these books is that the alphabet fixes each letter with a mnemonic picture: on a page with B a drum will be drawn, and next to YU- Yula. The alphabet helps to remember letters and - often - interesting rhymes, but will not teach you how to read.

The primer consistently teaches the child to combine sounds into syllables, and syllables into words. This process is not easy and requires perseverance.

Parents agree that one of the most understandable methods for teaching preschoolers is Nadezhda Zhukova's primer. The author simply explains the most difficult thing for a child: how to turn letters into syllables, how to read Mother rather than start naming individual letters me-a-me-a.

If, when learning from an ABC book, a child consistently masters letters and syllables, then in 52 Zaitsev cubes he is given access to everything at once: a single letter or combinations of a consonant and a vowel, a consonant and a hard or soft sign.

The child effortlessly learns the differences between voiceless and voiced sounds, because the cubes with voiceless consonants are filled with wood, and the cubes with voiced ones are filled with metal.

The cubes also differ in size. The large ones depict hard warehouses, the small ones - soft ones. The author of the technique explains this by the fact that when we pronounce on(hard warehouse), mouth opens wide, neither(soft warehouse) - lips in a half smile.

The set includes tables with warehouses that the parent sings (yes, he doesn’t speak, but sings) to his child.

The child quickly masters warehouse reading with the help of cubes, but may begin to swallow the endings and will face difficulties already at school when parsing a word by composition.

Folders and Towers by Vyacheslav Voskobovich

In Skladushki, Vyacheslav Voskobovich reworked Zaitsev's idea: 21 cards show all the warehouses of the Russian language with nice thematic pictures. Included is a CD with songs, the texts of which go under each picture.

Folders are good for kids who love looking at pictures. Each of them is an occasion to discuss with the child where the kitten is, what the puppy is doing, where the beetle flew.

You can teach your child using these cards from the age of three. At the same time, it should be noted that the author of the methodology himself does not consider it necessary Vyacheslav Voskobovich: “How to keep a child in yourself? Play!" boost early development.

"Teremki" by Voskobovich consist of 12 wooden cubes with consonants and 12 cardboard cubes with vowels. First, the child gets acquainted with the alphabet and tries with the help of parents to come up with words that begin with each of the letters.

Then it's time to learn the syllables. In a teremok with a letter M invested A- and the first syllable is obtained ma. From several towers you can lay out words. Learning is based on play. So, when replacing a vowel house will turn into smoke.

You can start playing towers from the age of two. At the same time, parents will not be left alone with the cubes: the kit includes a manual with a detailed description of the methodology and game options.

Evgeny Chaplygin's manual includes 10 cubes and 10 moving blocks. Each dynamic block consists of a pair - a consonant and a vowel. The task of the child is to twist the cubes and find a pair.

At the initial stage, as with any other method of learning to read in warehouses, the child makes the simplest words from repeating syllables: ma-ma, pa-pa, ba-ba. The involved motor skills help to quickly remember the shape of the letters, and the search for already familiar syllables turns into an exciting game. The cubes are accompanied by a manual describing the methodology and words that can be composed.

The optimal age for classes is 4-5 years. You can start earlier, but only in the game format.

American doctor Glenn Doman suggests teaching children not individual letters or even syllables, but whole words. Parents call and show the child the words on the cards for 1-2 seconds. In this case, the baby is not required to repeat what he heard.

Classes start with 15 cards with the simplest concepts like mothers And dads. Gradually, the number of words increases, those already learned leave the set, and the child begins to study phrases: for example, color + object, size + object.

How to understand that the child understood and remembered the visual image of the word, if the author of the methodology recommends starting classes from birth? It is worth paying attention to an important detail that parents miss in an attempt to make their child the smartest, most developed, the best.

Glenn Doman in "The Harmonious Development of the Child" strongly emphasizes that it is not necessary to arrange tests and checks for the child: kids do not like this and lose interest in classes.

Better to remember 50 cards out of 100 than 10 out of 10.

Glenn Doman

But considering that parents will not be able not to check, he advises, if the child is willing and willing, to play the game. For example, you can put several cards and ask to bring one or point to it.

Today psychologists, neurophysiologists Steven Novella, MD, "Psychomotor Patterning" and pediatricians American Academy of Pediatrics "The Doman-Delacato Treatment of Neurologically Handicapped Children" agree that the Doman method is not aimed at teaching reading, but at mechanical memorization of visual images of words. The child turns out to be an object of learning and is almost deprived of the opportunity to learn something on his own.

It is also worth adding: in order to proceed to the Doman reading stage, parents need to prepare cards with all (!) Words that are found in a particular book.

Montessori reading comes from the opposite: first we write and only then we read. Letters are the same pictures, so you first need to learn how to draw them and only then engage in pronunciation and reading. Children begin by tracing and shading the letters, and through this, they memorize their outline. When several vowels and consonants have been studied, they move on to the first simple words.

Much attention is paid to the tactile component, so children can literally touch the alphabet, cut out of rough or velvety paper.

The value of the technique lies in learning through play. So, you can put a rough letter and a plate of semolina in front of the child and offer to first circle the sign with your finger, and then repeat this on the semolina.

The difficulty for parents is the purchase or preparation of a significant amount of handouts.

conclusions

On the Internet and on posters advertising "developers", you will be offered cutting-edge methods for teaching a child to read at three, two years old, or even from birth. But let's be realistic: a happy mother is needed a year, not developmental activities.

The myth that it’s too late after three is firmly planted in the minds and hearts of tired parents and is actively fueled by marketers.

The authors of the methods all insist that the most natural process of learning for a child is through play, and not through classes in which the parent plays the role of a strict controller. Your main assistant in learning is the curiosity of the child himself.

Some children will study for six months and start reading at three, others have to wait a couple of years to learn in just a month. Focus on the interests of the child. If he likes books and pictures, then primers and Folders will come to the rescue. If he is a fidget, then cubes and the Montessori system will help.

In learning to read, everything is simple and difficult at the same time. If your child often sees you with a book, you have a tradition of reading before bed, your chances will increase significantly.

Teaching a child to use a spoon is not always possible without various misfires. Mom needs to be patient, because meals will become longer, and the process of instilling a skill will take more than one week.

You should mentally prepare for the fact that the baby will start to dirty everything around, including himself. Mom will have to clean a lot, wash her baby face. However, such problems are overcome, but each spoon brings the child closer to independence.

It is important to understand that it is rather difficult to name the exact dates when the child will start eating from a spoon on his own, since there are simply no specific age limits and parameters.

Of course, there are averaged data that at 1 year old a child should hold a spoon firmly, and at 18 months of age he himself confidently wield this cutlery. But since the baby develops at its own pace, the timing of the appearance of this skill is individual.

Some children already at 8-10 months are quite deftly using cutlery, sending cereals, mashed potatoes and other first feeding dishes into their mouths, while others are waiting for their parents to spoon-feed them even at 2 years old.

And yet there is a certain pattern - by the end of infancy (12 months), the child himself tries to serve himself at the table. Increased interest in eating and copying adult behavior leads to the fact that the baby takes the spoon from mom.

In such a situation, the child cannot be denied. Of course, his initial attempts to try a spoonful of mashed potatoes will end in failure or a smeared face. Therefore, the task of adults is to consistently and without haste show and explain how to properly take cutlery and use it.

The popular TV doctor Komarovsky is convinced that there is no need to force children to use a spoon if they are not yet ready for this or if they are not interested in this cutlery. Excessive perseverance often leads to the refusal of the child to feed.

To teach a child to eat on their own, you must first take care of choosing the first cutlery. A properly selected spoon will speed up the process of acquiring a skill and reduce the number of “misfires”.

With the purchase of this cutlery You should pay attention to several important nuances:

• The most important condition is that the spoon must be safe. It is necessary to purchase cutlery in specialized children's stores, which have all the necessary certificates confirming the safety of materials;
• Don't confuse a first feeder with a spoon for self-feeding. The item of kitchen utensils required in our case should be distinguished by a wide scoop so that the child cannot drop the captured food;
• Since children at 1 year old first grab and squeeze the spoon with their fist, it is important to take care of choosing the right holder. The handle of the cutlery should be short and wide. In this case, the child will hold it tighter;
• on sale there are spoons with curved handles. It is believed that such devices are easier for young children to cope with. Another option is products with swivel holders. No matter how the child turns the handle, a special rod inside spins after it, so the collected food does not fall out. Additionally, there is a latch to lock the rod when the child grows up.

For babies from 10 months to two years old, it is better to purchase plastic spoons. They are light, bright, fit well in the child's hand, are distinguished by a variety of shapes and sizes.

It is also better to buy plates and cups from heat-resistant food-grade plastic. Such dishes are lightweight, resistant to shock and falling from a height, as well as environmentally friendly. For the formation of food skills, it is worth buying a plate with a suction cup. She won't roll over.

You should also not forget about bibs made of fabric or made of especially soft and flexible plastic material. Fabric aprons will have to be washed after each meal, plastic aprons do not need to be washed, just rinse off the drops and dry.

It is necessary to teach a child to eat cutlery only after he has an interest in the process of eating. And to arouse interest with the help of games, threats or cartoons is largely useless - this will not cause a desire to learn something.

And in order to speed up and simplify learning, you should listen to the following recommendations of specialists and experienced parents who have already gone this way:

1. It is necessary to voice the decision that the baby now eats on her own, to all household members. Otherwise, it will turn out that the mother teaches the child to hold a spoon, and when he starts visiting his grandmother, she will feed him herself. In such a situation, the learning process will be delayed.
2. To become skillful, a child needs to learn how to use a spoon every day. But if he does not feel well due to illness or, you do not need to force him to eat on his own. On such a day, it is better to deviate from the rule and feed the crumbs from a spoon.
3. Mom needs to be near the baby during meals. Situations are different - the child gets tired, naughty, can choke on even a small piece. Therefore, it is better to sit next to and watch the crumbs.
4. You can teach a child to hold a spoon not only in the process of feeding. The sandbox is perfect for training, where the baby is using a shovel. You should also play with dolls more often, explaining that they also "want to eat."
5. How to quickly teach a child to a spoon? It is important to choose the optimal consistency of the dish - puree, but not liquid. Porridges, vegetable purees, cottage cheese or thick cream soup are ideal. Portions should be small to maintain the required temperature.
6. If the child reaches not for a spoon, but for a fork, let him choose this “toothy” object to start learning. It is only important to purchase a special fork with rounded edges and blunt teeth. But then the food should not be liquid, but pieces (boiled vegetables).

For more information about when it should be in the children's diet and how to properly prepare these dishes, read the article by the children's doctor.

The child will be interested in the process of eating if you decorate the dishes beautifully (make flowers, animals, emoticons) and serve them in plates with drawings on the bottoms. It is necessary to explain to the baby that at the end of dinner a little surprise awaits him.

Etiquette for a baby

For preschoolers, schoolchildren and adolescents are described in more detail in another article. Be sure to read that one as well to get a general idea of ​​good manners for a child.

As already noted, it is foolish to expect from a little silly kid that he will start eating carefully the first time. At first, the product eaten, or rather, brought to the mouth, the product will be everywhere - on clothes, tables and even on the floor.

However, this pattern does not mean at all that a small child does not need to be shown how to behave properly at the table. healthy food Habits are formed in early childhood

1. Before each meal, the baby must wash their hands. This is the basis of the basics of hygiene, so it cannot be neglected. Mom shows the baby how to do it right and why it is so important (the simplest explanation is so that the tummy does not hurt).
2. Do not surround a child who is eating with numerous toys., turn on cartoons for him, trying to catch the moment when he opens his mouth. The kitchen is the perfect place to eat, and play in the nursery.
3. Playing with a spoon is allowed only at the stage of acquaintance with the subject. Then you should not allow games with cutlery. If the baby is spoiled, the dinner is stopped.

You can not scold the baby for inaccurate actions. It's just worth offering him a napkin. A trained baby from the age of two will be able to wipe his hands and face, of course, as far as possible.

Solving the question of how to teach a child to eat on their own with a spoon does not tolerate fuss. If the baby will soon need to go to the nursery, do not rush too much and literally force him to take the cutlery in his pen. Usually, in a team, kids adapt faster, unless, of course, they consolidate their successes at home.

And finally. There are universal principles that will be useful for a mother who wants to teach the baby to self-service. First, don't make unreasonable demands on your child. Secondly, do not do for him those actions with which he himself copes.

Let's start by recognizing the first fact: today's school is so different from the school you went to that it literally suggests that you must spend some of your time helping your child with schoolwork. First - to explain to him what was not heard and misunderstood at school. Then - to control the execution of homework (it is banal that the child does not count the crows over the notebook, but sits and does it). And in the end - to check what he did there. These are three separate moments. Sending a child to school, we can naively hope that the school itself will take care of everything, teach and educate. And the teachers, meanwhile, say: "I have 30 people in the class, I can't explain to everyone!". So let's just deal with first part your responsibilities. If a child misunderstood something at school, then either you explain it to him, or a tutor. No one will help the child, except ourselves.

Please, no matter how sorry you are for wasted time and yourself, don't take it out on the baby, do not call bad words if he does not understand seemingly elementary things. When there are many children in the class, and everyone has their own pace and ways of perceiving information, it is noisy, there are many distractions, you can really miss a lot. This is not a sign of stupidity and laziness. Here, rather, there are problems of organizing the educational process, or concentration of attention.

Second paragraph- control over the execution of homework. Many mothers note that if you do not sit next to the child or do not periodically check what he is doing, then the student is distracted by extraneous things, as a result, the completion of easy tasks is delayed until night. And along the way, the experience of experienced mothers, which gives hope: usually the need to sit next to disappears after the third grade. What does all of this mean?

Primary school students have a deficit of voluntary attention. This is not a disease, not a diagnosis, but property of children's brains that goes away with age. We see for ourselves that the older the child, the more diligent and focused he is, so the popular diagnosis of "ADHD (H)" (attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder) can, if desired, be put on half of the students in the first and third grades. Treat them all? Of course not! But help with the organization of homework is needed in order not to let things take their course and not to scandal for all 10 years of school every evening.

In 10% of children, meanwhile, the attention deficit persists longer than usual. This may or may not be accompanied by hyperactivity. To take your child to the doctor or not - every mother must decide for herself. I would say this: true ADD(D) really and tangibly interferes with learning and often looks like pedagogical neglect. And within a fairly flexible norm, all children are restless and may be inattentive.

Perhaps your child has gone to school too early and his control systems are immature. But why not take him home? Therefore, you just need to accept second fact: younger students need more external control than older ones, because they have not yet "grown" their internal.

How to help a student?

My suggestions are simple. You need to start with the fact that mom will not be able to shirk. Set a schedule for the day, a time frame, a reward system to bring a little more order to the chaos. Over time, your student will get involved, but at first, nowhere without supervision.

1. Schedule

Create a schedule that includes school, lunch, rest, homework, and computer and TV time. You should follow its execution, since children under 9-10 years old, as a rule, do not have self-control.

2. Time frame for completing the task

First, make sure that the child understands in principle what the task is. If he doesn't know, he will hang and all is lost. When the topic is clear, set the time: say half an hour for one task, half an hour for another (be guided by your children, their speed and tasks to get real numbers). For early completion, give bonus 5 minutes of cartoons. This simple technique stimulates to hang less and rustle harder.

In any schedule there should be a prerequisite: first - homework, then - entertainment. And the deadline for turning in all homework, including checking, is 8pm (for example). Who did not have time without a good reason - he remains without a computer. Hard? May be. But it works already with six-year-old children. And the child clearly understands that games are not a privilege, but a reward, whoever did not have time is late.

3. Reward system

The reward system is your personal carrot. It can be the already mentioned plus five minutes of games or cartoons for the high pace of work and effort, or your favorite dish, or something sweet. And for a week of excellent work, a bigger bonus is laid - for example, going to the cinema, park, etc. pleasant pastime.

When it comes time to check homework, always try to find something to praise your student for. Pay attention to what mistakes he makes. There are errors due to inattention, and there are errors due to ignorance. And although sometimes one wants to ask: "Well, why ????", this question is completely meaningless. You can offer your child a choice, simple and obvious: either leave everything as it is and be guaranteed a lower grade, or try to correct mistakes today. If there are errors out of ignorance, try as gently as possible to explain how it will be right and why.

The most important thing that every mother needs to realize is that you cannot refuse help, even if you had other plans. The child is still a child, and we are responsible for him. If the school does not prepare a student well enough, it is not fair to blame him for this. Inattention is a temporary phenomenon that will pass with age, and therefore cannot be punished for something that the child is not yet able to control. But it is possible and necessary to structure the day of the student and guide him, positively motivate him.

I also recommend spending your free time mindfulness and concentration games, so to speak, develop this brain muscle. Tic-tac-toe, checkers, chess, sea battle, memory - this is not a complete list.

While children can be masters at being annoying and at times don't seem to grow up at all, sooner or later they will. And in 20 years, you will be nostalgic for the time spent doing homework. And how this time will be - exhausting or vice versa, interesting and informative, revealing the talents of an attentive, sensitive teacher in you, depends more on how homework is organized and how you feel about this part of your mother's work. After all, this is also a job, and a very responsible one - to teach children to control themselves, plan and delay pleasures.

Ideal children are only with acquaintances, and your child cannot become independent by magic. But it is in your power to teach him to be organized step by step, gradually reducing the level of control over homework. And in the end you will be proud of yourself!

Yulia Syrykh.
Designer. Writer. Mother

Parents of schoolchildren must have faced a situation where the child does not want to do homework. He is ready to do anything, but not homework. Often, these moments lead to stressful situations in the family. Mom and dad start to worry, get nervous about this. Anxiety is transmitted to the child, and depression occurs. Psychologists advise not to allow such situations. To do this, you need to know how to make the child do the homework so that the process is interesting and entertaining for him. Entire methods and a set of measures have been developed, which we will discuss in the article.

Do not feel sorry for the first-grader

Many parents are tormented by the question: “How to make a child do homework?” Remember: it is necessary to teach your baby to do homework without tantrums from the first grade. From the very beginning, you need to make it clear to the child that the learning process has begun, now he has mandatory tasks that he must cope with on his own.

It is important for parents to properly prepare and adapt the baby for a new stage in his life. Even during the holidays, it is worth arranging a place for doing lessons, establishing a routine. After the learning process has begun, you need to:

Hang the school timetable in a prominent place so that the child can make his own schedule. Do not forget to indicate the time of visiting circles and sections. In the first couple, the baby can not do without the help of parents. You don't have to decide everything for the child. Take a pencil and a notebook, make a detailed plan indicating the time for doing homework, walking in the fresh air, watching TV, playing on the computer.

Never do homework for a child. Even if something does not work out for him, it is better to once again explain the rules again, ask leading questions, hint, suggest.

Try to strictly observe the regime from day to day, so that the child is drawn into the process. Deviate from the schedule only in difficult situations (health problems, urgent matters, and so on).

Explain to your child that school is work. And it depends only on him what the result will be.

Parents often feel sorry for first-graders, considering them small. But the educational process is built in such a way that all age capabilities of the kids are taken into account. You should not worry and think that your child has overworked, because if from the first days of classes you do not accustom the student to doing homework, in the future the question of how to make the child do his homework will definitely come up.

The draft is your friend

After the child began to attend school, the question arises of how to properly do homework with him. Teachers recommend using drafts without fail. This will save your child time. It is necessary to write essays, solve examples and problems in a separate notebook. After that, parents need to check what they have written. Only then can it be transferred to a clean copy.

In the draft, the child can correct mistakes, do not ask to rewrite it several times. This is what a notebook is for.

When answering the question of how to do homework with a child correctly, it is necessary to be guided by the rules of psychologists and remember that until the 5th grade, children are not assiduous, their attention is distracted. After 20-30 minutes of doing the lessons, you should take a small five-minute break. The mistake of parents is not to let the children out of the table for 2-3 hours.

Why does the child not want to do homework. We find out the reasons

From many children you can hear the phrase that they do not want to do their homework. In this situation, the question logically arises: “How to make a child do homework without scandals?” First you need to find out the reasons why he refuses to fulfill them. In fact, there are not so many of them:

natural laziness. Unfortunately, there are children who have a similar phenomenon. But there are very few of them. If you know that some processes (reading books, an exciting game, watching cartoons, drawing, etc.) captivate the baby for a long time, then the problem is clearly not laziness.

Fear of failure. This is one of the most common reasons, especially if there have been situations in which adults behaved incorrectly before. Let's say a strict teacher scolded the whole class for a mistake, or parents scolded for a bad mark. Such actions are not allowed. Otherwise, it will affect the further education and success of the child.

The child has not fully mastered the subject. This problem is especially acute for first graders and high school students. Every effort must be made to ensure that the child understands the material.

Lack of parental attention. It would seem, how can not doing the lessons be associated with the love of mom and dad? Psychologists find a direct link in this. Thus, children seek to attract attention to themselves and evoke at least some feelings. As a rule, such situations occur in families of workaholics. There is only one way out of this story - to praise the baby as often as possible and say that you are proud of him.

The process itself seems uninteresting to the child, especially for first-graders who are used to perceiving classes only as a game. The task of parents and teachers is to adapt the kids to learning as soon as possible.

Before asking the question of how to teach a child to do homework, it is necessary to find out the reason why he refuses to do homework. If you cannot manage on your own, you should seek help from a specialist. He will recommend to arrange a family council, and already on it to discuss the possible reason and unwillingness of the child to study. And here the main thing is to find the right demeanor for adults: not to shout, but to engage in a constructive dialogue.



What to do if the child does not understand the subject

Parents can deal with all of the above problems of non-fulfillment of lessons on their own. But what about the situation when the child simply does not understand the subject, or is it difficult for him? Psychologists say that adults solve this problem on their own, simply performing difficult tasks for children. Thus, they further aggravate the situation.

The only right decision is to hire a teacher or tutor. You should not spare money, a few individual lessons are enough to help the child deal with a complex topic.



Do you need help learning the lessons?

Some children do everything to relieve themselves of the responsibility for completing the lessons. To do this, they pretend that they are sick, overtired, ask their parents to help them. Of course, they agree, but do not understand that the child captures them "on the hook." It is necessary to succumb to the trick several times, and such a scheme will work all the time.

To answer the question of how to teach a child to do homework on their own, it is necessary to analyze the following situations:

how often does the baby resort to your help;

How long has he been ill?

What grade is the child in?

If he often resorts to your help, while being a little sick, and even a high school student, you just need to explain to him that from now on he does his homework on his own. But it is better not to bring to such a situation, but from the first grade to teach the baby to do his homework himself.

Teaching a child to be independent

The question of how to make a child do homework on their own comes up quite often with parents. If, with the help of adults, a student still somehow tries to solve problems, then one cannot cope in any way. Against this background, there are scandals and squabbles that only aggravate the situation.

First of all, you need to try to explain to the child that further admission to the university depends on his studies. The better the successes, the more likely it is to get into a prestigious institution. Never do homework for a student. The maximum you can help is to explain this or that rule.

It is not necessary to constantly monitor the process, it is enough to check the draft and the clean copy. This is the only way to develop independence in children. You need to start this from the first days of study, and then in the future you will not have a question: “How to teach a child to do homework on his own?”

Is a cash reward needed?

Recently, a new way has emerged among parents to reward children for good grades in school. The prize is money. Thus, they are sure that the student will try harder, independently complete the lessons. Psychologists say that this is a huge mistake. There should be no monetary relationship between parents and children at this age.

There are many ways to get your child to do their homework without crying or tantrums. It is enough just to gain strength and patience. After all, school time is a rather difficult time, especially for first graders.

As an encouragement, there may be a trip to the circus, cinema, game center. It is desirable that parents spend this time with their children. Thus, they will establish contact even more.

Many parents ask psychologists: “How to make a child do homework on his own?” Using methods of motivation. But cash prizes are not allowed. Indeed, in the future, children will demand rustling banknotes for all their good deeds and achievements.

Algorithm for doing homework

School time is a rather difficult time for children and their parents. The child is required to be independent, more responsible, responsible for his actions. Often schoolchildren (especially first-graders) refuse to do their homework, or do it with great reluctance. This causes conflict. Often you can hear the phrase from parents: “How to teach a child to do homework on his own?” In order for the process to go “like clockwork” and not cause any particular difficulties, you need to know and follow the following rules:

After the child came from school, you should not immediately force him to sit down to complete the lessons. The following scheme will be optimal: a walk in the air, lunch, rest up to 30 minutes.

The best time to do homework is from 15.00 to 18.00. This has been proven by experts. During these hours, the greatest working capacity of the brain was noticed.

Follow the routine. Try to complete tasks at the same time.

Try to immediately choose difficult subjects, and then move on to easier ones.

Do not constantly supervise the child. Teach him to be independent. To begin with, let him do the work in a draft, bring it for verification, and then transfer the data to a clean copy.

After your child is done with homework, don't forget to praise him.

So that you do not have a question about how to make a child do homework, follow the above rules and recommendations.

Whip or gingerbread?

Psychologists very often face situations when a child closes in on himself, ceases to perceive his parents, he seems to move away from the outside world, and finds peace in computer games. Why is this happening? It's all the fault of the wrong behavior of adults who are approved at the expense of children.

Many people believe that the best way to get a child to do something is to show their advantage. This can be achieved by shouting or punching. This position is incorrect. with children, encouragement, praise - that's the key to success. The same goes for doing homework.

You can often hear the phrase that the child refuses to do homework. Perhaps the reason lies in the fact that parents misbehave with schoolchildren. It is important to adhere to the following rules:

When checking homework, never raise your voice, do not call names and humiliate children. To begin with, praise the baby for the fact that the lessons are done. And only then start pointing out mistakes, if they were made.

Grades are a sore subject for many parents. After all, you want your child to be the best. And how unpleasant it is sometimes to hear the phrase that the child did not cope with the task and received an unsatisfactory grade. Try to calmly talk with the student, explain that the key to success in the future is the acquired baggage of knowledge.

In order to answer the question of how to do homework with a child without screaming, you need to remember the following: each person is a person, with his own character, you should not break him. Humiliation, screaming, hurtful words will only aggravate the situation, and parents will lose their dignity in the eyes of the child.

Basic rules for parents to remember

Many parents ask: “If the child does not learn lessons, what should I do?” First you need to find out the reason why this is happening. Perhaps it is banal - a misunderstanding of the subject. If so, you need to help the child and hire a tutor.

Our expert - clinical psychologist, art therapist Tatyana Chalik.

The environment in which the child studies at home is significantly different from the school. You can get up and move around at any time, mom doesn’t put twos, no one punishes for peeping into a textbook. This gives rise to an atmosphere of freedom, which, on the one hand, develops an interest in knowledge, and on the other hand, is fraught with irresponsibility.

How to make the time of work on the lessons fruitful?

In elementary school

1. The child should know that every day, after returning home, after a short rest (an hour and a half), he will sit down for lessons. By this time, he will already have time to take a break from schoolwork, but he will not yet get tired and not overexcited from entertainment and games. If the child is busy with some other important things - he goes to a music school or to draw, for example, you can sit down to prepare lessons later. But in any case, you can not postpone it for the evening. It is best for children who study on the second shift to do their homework in the morning.

Adapting a first grader to school can take six months. All this time, parents need to help the kids stick to the new regimen.

2. For the successful completion of homework, a clear rhythm of work is necessary. For example, after 25 minutes of class, a junior high school student should take a break for 5-10 minutes.

3. By the second grade, the child should learn to manage his time. Parents need only respond to the call for help. Undertake to help when the child himself asks for it, otherwise he will assume that his mother will complete everything for him.

4. Clearly prioritize: the main thing now is study. Do not distract the child while doing the lessons. You can tidy up the room, take out the trash in the evening.

Middle and high school

Middle school students should already be able to plan time, remember how much they were given at home and by what date. But . Why?

The child digs with lessons for a long time, is often distracted.

Maybe he does not "pull" the volume of the load? Now, even in a “regular” school, they give a lot of homework, so you shouldn’t load your child with additional classes. Often, under the pretext of “necessary,” parents take their child to chess, drawing, and foreign language courses. Although parents need it, the child does not rest there, but continues to carry out the duty, as at school. Rest should be what the child likes, not the parents.

You should not limit the time of homework, for example, to warn that in half an hour you will pick up your notebook. Teach your child to set realistic, achievable goals.

Maybe the child is trying to get your attention in this way?

Do not constantly scold him, this will only reinforce bad behavior, especially if you pay attention to the child only when he is at fault. Praise him more often, and your student will be more willing to do everything himself.

Maybe he is deliberately not in a hurry to do his homework, because he knows that, in the end, you will sit next to him?

Never do his job, but only explain how to do it, and then if he asks you to do it himself. To explain does not mean to decide, it is only to show the direction of thinking or to clarify the task.

The child does homework quickly, but carelessly.

Find out the reason. Most often go for a walk. In this situation, it will take some time to methodically check the quality of homework. Just do not orient the child to grades, otherwise he may decide that they are important, and not the knowledge itself.

It is not necessary to punish the child for poor performance of work, it is better to ask why this happened.

The child must understand that only after the lessons are over, he can do what he likes.

The child is afraid to get a "deuce".

It is more important to instill a love for knowledge, and not for good grades. And you need to say and do everything so that the child understands that he will be loved, despite either bad grades or complaints from teachers. Then he will try, because no one wants to upset the one who loves you.