Cheating women told by themselves. Longtime friend took advantage of my wife while I was at work

M Men are arranged, many, in such a way that they cannot miss the chance to spend time with a beautiful or attractive woman. But what about their equally beautiful spouses? Men never think about them during the "occurrence" of this chance.

Husband cheating. - What do unfortunate women feel when they find out about the betrayal of their spouses? What is the opinion of women about those men who go for treason?

They say this:

Valentina, 22 years old:

He left on a business trip. He left and I was waiting. I realized that it was in vain. Called every day! And I didn't suspect anything. And he came and said that he had changed .... He said that everything happened by accident, but I do not believe it! And I can't forgive I want to divorce him so as not to torment my soul. And she is so hurt.

Victoria, 27 years old:

A man's betrayal cannot be forgiven, just like a woman's! Many people make mistakes when they forgive the betrayal of their loved ones! But…. Love is love! No one can cancel it, and no one can ever change it. I got divorced when I found out my hubby cheated on me. I was told by a neighbor in the vestibule. She was on the night shift. In a car parked right at our entrance, she “noticed” the betrayal. Yes, they made love in the car! Sveta didn’t want to tell me about this, so as not to hurt, but I am so grateful to her .... Otherwise, I would never have known that my beloved could be unfaithful to me.

Carolina, 19 years old:

I have tin! Literally yesterday, my wife “caught” with some fifa in our crib! Can you imagine that, can you? I broke up with him, mentally, as soon as I saw it. Good thing my baby is ok. I am now in my third month of pregnancy. It's a pity that I contacted such a person! He did not take an oath of allegiance to me, no, I did not ask. I hoped that this would all be "by default" with us. That's all "default"! Do not trust men one hundred percent, no matter what they swear!

Taisiya, 24 years old:

I've been crying for a week now. Tears do not stop flowing from the eyes. How painful…. How it still hurts! I won't go into details because I'm going crazy! But I understand the girls who have experienced the same. Girls, men are so arranged that we are not always respected. And it remains only to come to terms with this.

Romalia, 21 years old:

I had a dream that my husband was cheating on me. I dreamed about the whole process, from beginning to end, but I still couldn’t wake up, although I made many attempts. Now I live, and I'm afraid that this may be true. I live in such fear that I cannot tell you! I hope that this dream will not come true.

Olga, 20 years old:

My husband and my girlfriend were showering together. I didn't forgive the betrayal! I'm no fool. Treason is like a blow: hit once - maybe hit a second time! I would never have experienced this! I don't know how I live now. So embarrassing and so empty... The whole body is torn from melancholy!

Darianna, 18 years old:

My husband cheated on me in such a way that he doesn't think he cheated. He had virtual sex on Skype! I took him by surprise. In short, I went to my girlfriend for the weekend, and arrived three hours earlier. And what did I see? I saw "this is the most", only .... To the monitor! Horrible! The computer is mine! I won't touch him again for sure! It's disgusting so all that at all! He didn't make excuses. He just said it wasn't cheating. Nothing to itself! Pretty "not treason"!

Alesya, 23 years old:

Regarding cheating... Some men don't consider oral sex or kissing on the lips cheating. However, if they find their girl in the arms of a girl, they will be accused of treason! Many men are generally firmly convinced that they can only change. That is, if they cheat - it's forgivable, given the whole habit of polygamy and the idea of ​​​​it.

Olga, 22 years old:

Mine cheated on me, and said that he did it through the fault of instincts! He wanted to, you see! I wanted so much that I couldn't resist. Oh, how I wanted to punch him in the face! Animal! Will not forgive! It happened two and a half months ago, and the sediment still does not pass. Brings me roses, gifts! Wow! He wanted to bribe me. No! Let him give everything to the one with whom he could sleep!

Lussia, 21 years old:

In our faith, we cannot change at all. That's why I don't worry about it! But it's a shame for those women who got great from men in terms of this. It is a pity that I can not cure their moral pain. Girls, women, hold on! I'm with you! I hope my presence will, a little, mitigate such cruel circumstances.

Zhanna, 22 years old:

A friend told... Met with a guy. I loved him to the point of madness! And the guy cheated on her with her twin sister! She even swallowed pills. But doctors saved her. It turns out that not all doctors are bastards. But to me (personally to me) only such ones came across forever! A friend, of course, broke up with her beloved, as she found out about infidelity. I would do that too!

Aliya, 26 years old:

My boyfriend cheated on me with my mom! Now they are husband and wife. I don't talk to him or her. Mom tried to establish some kind of contact with me, but I can’t forgive her. I also understand that she did not know that he was my friend - a friend, but she knew everything perfectly!

Olesya, 21 years old:

She forgave the betrayal of her Cyril. He managed to cheat on me three times already. But I love him so much that I will forgive him for just one confession. And after all, it was necessary to decide on it somehow! I don’t understand how I managed to do this, but without him I will die, and that’s it! Kirill is a scoundrel, but I want to be with him.

Vera, 23 years old:

I will never understand those girls who forgive for treason! My boyfriend even got flowers in the face for this! Now - behind. Let him return to the one with whom he was better than with me! And I will find a boy who will truly appreciate me.

Love, 20 years old:

Women also change often. And I cheated when we fought! True, she has not admitted, so far, to a single infidelity. I love my bad man! I think if it comes to parting, I'll tell you everything, as in the spirit! There will be nothing left to lose anyway! Conscience…. She is also a woman. She understands and justifies my every act! I'm lucky with my conscience!

Ilona, ​​16 years old:

I am dating a married man. I know that he cheats on me only with his wife. But this arrangement suits me, because I am younger than him, and he is not free either. She chose the married one! Why, now, "not be content"?

Anyone who wants to write to me that I'm so bad, go by! I have my reasons!

Question. I cheated on my husband with ex-boyfriends, moreover, with two at once in one day. It turned out that he was not at home. And I was so tired of being locked up that I decided to take a walk. I wanted to meet with one of the former for a very long time, probably there are feelings for him until now. I constantly thought about him and dreamed of meeting. My husband can say by force took me away from him. I won't go into details. We had to part and I'm getting married, out of my stupidity, to a man I don't love.

So a year has passed since the wedding and about a year and a half since the last meeting with my ex. So this is what I’m leading to ... the other day, while my husband was not at home, I initially met with another ex. We always had sex with him and we liked it. But there are no feelings for this person, they just had a good time. So they also wanted to meet him for a long time and met. We slept together… of course we drank for the meeting, and I didn’t drink for so long that I flew away from one glass of whiskey.

Well, it carried me further along the former, and then I call a mutual friend of the very former that I described very first. With his acquaintances, I always talked quietly on social networks. So my call was expected. We chatted and he says that right now, Lekha and I (the same ex) will come to visit you.

It's three o'clock in the morning and I'm driving home in a taxi. In order to strongly want and wait for that very former. And they come. I almost fell over with happiness. A friend left and he stayed overnight with me. Well, I also slept with him, though everything went very quickly and on a concrete drunk. I was not at zero, but he was in the trash. Already came to me in the trash.

In the morning, when I woke up, I blissed out next to him. And he is with me. But he was terribly sick and naturally began to hangover. We remembered everything with him, I didn’t even think that he remembers everything. Everything from and to our relationship. By the way, I never slept with him. Just at this meeting. And he says that he has a girlfriend, but I was warned that she is. In general, they almost confessed their love.

Slept in bed all day. No sex, stupid talk. And he, too, was waiting for this meeting. And now he writes that he supposedly realized what he had done and passed the back. Like this meeting would have happened anyway. Both he and I felt it. It happened, but we won't be able to meet secretly. Let's just make it worse. E-ma-e, I still love him to this day!

With my husband, sex is disgusting in general. And the hood is drawn to him. And then he writes this to me. Although he said that he did not love his girlfriend. And I told him the same for my husband. What to do now?

And now my conscience gnaws before my husband. And on the other hand, I don’t love my husband, I love this ex. Walking is called. So many thoughts in my head now. Just do not insult and get personal. This is how half the country lives, even more!

And my husband was and will be a womanizer! I just keep quiet and close my eyes.

No one will tell you how to react to the cruel truth called "my man is cheating on me":

reconcile or fight, leave or keep the faithful, but the author Polina Tabagari, after listening to real stories of male infidelity, together with the heroines of the article, honestly tried to find the same answer to this age-old question.

“All happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way,” said the classic, and turned out to be, in general, right. There is no ideal form of preserving marriage, there is no elixir of eternal happiness. Giving oaths, we do not guarantee that tomorrow our feelings will not change, and it is quite regrettable to realize that none of us is immune from betrayal.

Wives vs mistresses: war or peace?

It is generally accepted that wives are some kind of faceless, scary, unkempt, unhappy creatures. They like to be represented as practically feeble old women compared to young mistresses. I want to reassure you: yes, they are absolutely normal, no, they are not terminally ill (if they tell you that this is the main reason for his being legally married), they know how to cook, and he eats well at home, and, by the way, even knows how to do something in bed, this is in case you still believe in the fairy tale, as if he, meeting you, stopped all sexual relations with his lawful wife. Well, I will finally debunk the myth: albeit less often than, say, 10 years ago, but intimacy happens regularly with legal spouses. In general, ordinary women and not even such monsters for the most part, as their faithful ones excitedly tell their new lovers.

I think this endless war between mistresses and wives is artificially inflated just by the very object of contention - a man: it is convenient to live in two houses, in each of which he is treated kindly from all sides, where both women equally want to prove what exactly awaits him with her unearthly happiness, as soon as he only opts for one of the two (and sometimes three or more).

By the way, men rarely leave their wives, at least straight to their mistress. Courage is not enough. This is how all three of us live in hellish torments. Mistresses are eternal sufferers, waiting for a ghostly decision for years, cursing the hated and disgusting vixen wives, wasting precious time on a person who is not able to appreciate it. Remember how in the episode from the film “What else do men talk about”, when one of the characters quotes the phrase of his mistress: “Only you live your life, and I live yours. And when you leave, your life goes on, and mine ends.

And the wives, who, believe me, are not very happy to see how the chosen one flutters on the wings of love and passion around the new object of desire, that another woman is able to make him happy, and you are no longer quoted - this hurts and kills even the most persistent. For some reason, no one thinks about the feelings of legitimate halves: to watch your world fall apart, and you can’t do anything. (Yes, yes, another saying from urban legends - having learned about treason, they do not run to the salon to change their image, because for the most part they already look quite decent). In general, it is impossible to definitely say who is worse - them or the one that is second in line.

And the man - the "crown of creation" and the apple of discord in this triangle - is tormented, but he is not in a hurry with the decision, pulling the rubber, leaving everything to chance, thereby forcing himself and, it would seem, beloved and dear women to suffer.

But let's discard the lyrics and theory. So, the fact of betrayal is obvious, and what will be the final denouement of a love affair, for the most part, it is the wives who decide. The blame is theirs, the decision is ours.

Anna and Maxim: blessed is he who believes

“Maxim for me was the embodiment of the ideal from the first day. I tirelessly repeated the same phrase to my relatives: “Apparently, I did something very good in my life, since I got Maxim.” From the moment of courtship to the moment I saw him with another woman, I was absolutely happy. After his adultery, the world was divided into "before and after." I don't know how I survived this nightmare. My father grew me like a greenhouse plant, then carefully “handed me over” into the hands of Maxim, and my future husband tried to protect me from everything, maintaining the illusions of an ideal marriage and an ideal world around. Now I can state this with bitterness: almost all men cheat. Sex for one night, periodic cheating to maintain tone, constant parallel relationships on the side, only this truth does not make it easier.

Many women, faced with the infidelity of their husband, go to different tricks: the notorious change of wardrobe, secret revenge in order to regain self-confidence, manipulations with the health and health of children, showdowns with their mistress, methods sometimes ugly, but effective - in war, all means are good. I decided for myself: I won’t keep anyone, since he feels good there, let him leave. Gathered things and asked for the door. What began after that - the theater of one actor. Prayers, requests, screams, tears, persuasion, for days he begged for forgiveness, filled up with flowers and gifts. I gave up, took it back, but I’ll tell you honestly, something broke in me, there is no trust, and it hasn’t increased much in two years. We are expecting our first child, so there is no strength or desire to worry about what happened in the past, but what I would like in the future is to remain in complete ignorance, not to know, not to see, “blessed is he who believes”, as they say, and for me this is the only way to live happily.

Olga and Vladimir: there is no place for tears, there is a place for healthy humor

“If we talk about my story, I always thought that living in eternal triangles is the lot of the rich and wealthy and this will not affect our family. Vladimir is a simple security guard in a nightclub, we live modestly, so I didn’t worry too much that someone might “covet” such a 110-kilogram “miracle” and try to take him away from the family. Wrong. Lelya became a member of the family for almost 5 years. At first he denied everything. I, not wanting to put up with betrayal, collected his things more than once, I didn’t leave like that, I swore that everything was between them, and after a couple of months it became obvious that the romance was in full swing.

Gradually, from a melodrama, our story grew into a comedy. Somehow this Lelya calls me and screams into the phone so that I don’t destroy true love, let him go, they say, he suffers with me. I calmly answer her: “I’m not holding anyone, you understand, he doesn’t leave himself, take it!” She yells that "this can't be!". I hand him the phone and say: “You are completely insolent, you can’t figure it out without me! Go away, they are waiting for you in another house. So he, like a scalded man, ran away from the phone and, in fact, from responsibility. She forgave him that too. I am sincerely amazed at my reaction: knowing that the family budget does not suffer from the love pleasures of her husband (she rented a hotel for her own money and bought expensive gifts for him), I completely “scored” this whole situation. A year ago, she called for the last time, crying: “I’m 31, I spent almost 5 years on him than I thought before.” They won’t believe anyone to tell, I consoled my husband’s mistress so that she would change her mind and realize that the reason is not in me and not even in her, he himself no longer wants to change anything, and I would be glad to start all over again, only I don’t have the strength, I have to raise children. This is how we confessed to each other: the unforsaken wife and the failed, irreconcilable enemies, both roared into the phone about their fate. What advice would I give to other unforsaken people? Treat with humor - this is a proven solution not to get into a psychiatric hospital from years of betrayal, at least it has become a real salvation for me personally.

Ekaterina and Igor: no one knows how to

“The richer the man, the more loyal the wife - I have deduced for myself such a formula for survival with reality. Igor had mistresses before Marina, he didn’t even particularly hide this, to be sure, the whole city and all his acquaintances knew that he had other permanent women. With Marina, the affair dragged on for eight whole years. We never discussed it, but behind the scenes it became the norm: he spends his weekdays with his family, weekends with her, vacations abroad alternated with trips with her. I am the main wife, she is secondary.

If at first I analyzed, reproached myself that my family is, in fact, a fiction, a theater on weekdays, this is all wrong, it should not be like this. But I only drove myself to hysteria, because otherwise I had everything you could dream of, and even a loving and caring husband five days a week. How did I save myself from my husband's love of love and accept his lifestyle? “No one knows what is right” - this phrase has become my consolation. It is right for me that I am loved, my children are provided for and live in a complete, prosperous family, we are together all the holidays, he has been my support and support for more than 22 years, and this already means something.

Inna and Oleg: I don't love, but I won't let go

“I understood everything as soon as he returned home in the evening, I understood that from today my life should change. Women always feel the betrayal of their husband or his desire to divorce and leave the family in the near future. At first I hoped that the affair would end soon. Oleg is a prominent man in his prime, successful, powerful, I never had any illusions about his 100% loyalty, but this was completely different. Oleg, perhaps for the first time in his life, fell in love for real, it was visible to the naked eye, he was happy and unhappy at the same time, torn between duty and feelings. He showered (even coaxed) me with gifts, and he himself found a reason to sneak out of the house, did not part with the phone, smiled gently when he received and sent text messages.

For 16 years, I studied him too well, so I decided to fight for my husband. Why should I give her everything that was acquired with such difficulty? Now he is wealthy and successful, she did not wander around rented apartments with him, did not live on the same salary with a small child, hatred was seething in me - I would never let her go! Every day SHE began to grow into a greater threat to my family and my children. It is known that, in principle, if a husband does not leave in the first six months or a year, then he will never leave. It was necessary to hold out for a maximum of a year, and I began to act. You don't have to judge me. This is my life, my husband, my prosperity, my well-established life, with which I do not want to part, I was not going to share either it, or my husband's money, or time. Firstly, I created all the conditions for the family to take up all his free time: trips to friends, trips to relatives in another city for any reason, then I get sick, then the children. The second point was the reorganization of the family nest - she started repairing the apartment, then she persuaded her to start building a house.

She, apparently, was angry that they almost did not manage to see each other, but I, on the contrary, behaved exemplarily and gradually felt that nothing threatened my marriage. Oleg wilted somehow, even got a little older, he chose us in the end, I triumphed - I got both a husband and a secure future for myself and my loved ones. Maybe it's cruel, but he himself preferred to stay in the family - this is obvious, or maybe he didn't love her so much. I don’t want to understand these feelings, the main thing is the result: he is at home and he is unlikely to dare to make another attempt to let another woman into his heart. Actually, everything goes away if the relationship is not maintained and not allowed to develop.

Leave or stay?

These are just a few examples from the whole variety of human destinies. Each heroine chose her own strategy of behavior, or rather was forced to take a certain position. After stating treason, a reasonable question arises: what's next? If the “leave” option is unacceptable, it remains only to forgive (at least in words): either you accept or not, there is no third way. To live forever in anticipation of the next changes, not forgiving, not forgetting, clinging to pain and the past is a guarantee of mental suffering for both yours and those close to you.

We used to talk a lot about the "natural polygamy" of men and the reasons for their betrayal. What about women? We decided to ask the girls themselves about why they started relationships on the side, and try to understand the nature of female infidelity. Why do these stories look mundane when told by men and shocking when told by girls? And can adultery be prevented? Read in our material.

Dujev.ru / a frame from the film "Last Night in New York" is illustrative

Anastasia: “Treason only improved my relationship with my husband”

“Without this betrayal, I would not be me, this passion shaped me in many ways, although before marriage I had a stormy youth. But it was already an adult, not a student version. Not only do I not regret it, moreover, this is a bright event in my life, after which I even stopped being afraid of death. Yes, it probably sounds too loud, but after this forbidden love, I realized that it is already possible to die with a clear conscience for the experiences and emotions experienced.

I got married at the age of 23, by the age of 29 I had two children. There was no passion. But it was cozy, family, in the plans - the third child. I quit my job because my husband's career meant we had to move to another city. Leaving work, I sent a letter to my colleagues that I would be glad to keep in touch with them and have coffee in an informal setting.

And suddenly one of them, who was married and as dry and formal as possible with me in working communication, replied that he was also not against coffee. And he named the time.

Of course, I was surprised. It's just that he was interesting to me as a talented, creative person, and I knew what I would talk about with him.

At first, I simply had an “informative” interest in him, I was interested in how he lives, what he thinks about, how his creative process goes, because his results in his work have always fascinated me. It turned out that he had separated from his beloved wife for a month, because she had cheated on him. And then it started. We met for several weeks in the morning while my children were in kindergarten. In hotels, outdoors, in the car, anywhere.

In each of our houses, even the light bulbs in the chandeliers burst at the same time: probably, such a vibration came from us that the equipment could not stand it. Then my family and I moved to another city, and he began to visit me. And the rest of the time we wrote paper letters to each other.

How has this affected my family life? Only for the better: I was attentive to my husband and children, my “batteries” were fully charged, I was full of strength, emotions. The husband was busy with work and was pleased that everything was fine with us.

All this lasted two years. And then it faded away - smoothly, painlessly, of course.

Yes, of course, there was a risk that everything secret could become clear and my family would be destroyed. But I still think that the game was worth the candle. If this happened, it would be a new page in my life.

Alice: "The guy himself pushed me to cheat with his friend"

“It was my first love. He studied to be a programmer, was romantic and sweet. But, unfortunately, he used drugs. I was against it, but I could not influence him. After some time, the relationship lost its spark, became boring and insipid. Just at this time, he introduced me to his friend and we spent a lot of time together. I began to experience a strange feeling, as if my boyfriend was unconsciously pushing me to cheat. He often left me alone with a friend, and betrayal happened.

Why did I do it? My boyfriend was the first and only, I was just interested in trying sex with someone else. In addition, our relationship had already come to naught, and the friend was very handsome, witty, sexy and with a lot of experience. And I so lacked emotions and the feeling that I was attractive. After the betrayal, I didn’t feel guilty.”

Maria: “I don’t think that sex with a husband is not a betrayal”

“I am married for the third time. In this marriage, everything is for love, without the need to look for someone on the side. And with my second husband there was a very incomprehensible relationship, and since jealousy on his part was constantly and from scratch, I spitefully went left a couple of times. Just to feel free and prove (I don’t know to whom) that he is digging in the wrong place. Well, let's see what will come of it. Nothing special happened.

Now I do not consider sex not with my husband a betrayal, everything happens in life. It’s just that if you are in a relationship for a long time and everything suits you, the passion is dulled anyway, so why not use the situation if you want? We are living people."

Anna: "Treason was blackmail on my part"

“The first time I had a big fight with my future husband, I left for another city and felt like a free girl. A friend introduced me to a guy, a stormy romance began. I told my husband everything, in fact, now I understand that it was blackmail - either change something, or I will stay with another.

She told her lover later, he did not want to be the third. There were also betrayals with my ex, but with him the motivation is different - amazing sex and emotional intimacy. We can say that she got warm and tender with him when everything went awry with her husband. I needed change, among other things, in order to refresh my sensations, to feel alive.

There were no consequences of betrayal, my husband was offended, but he quietly allows me this. I adhere to the idea that no person can belong to anyone, and therefore decide with whom to sleep. I am for cheating, because sometimes this is the only way to refresh and diversify your sex life.

Daria

“At that time I was in a civil marriage for 3 years. Feelings have subsided, sex has become on-duty and rare, the husband is busy with work, it has become boring. And then he wrote on social networks: 10 years older, a former military man, an interesting man, a “suspended” tongue, sexy.

We met right away, absolutely my type in appearance. After 2 weeks of constant online communication, excellent sex happened. It dragged on for 5 years, the intensity of passions, friendship, meetings just to talk. There were breaks for six months, but again I was drawn - passion.

She continued to have an even, comfortable relationship with her husband. But then I found out that he - my lover - is also married, and this sobered me. I took matters into my own hands and stopped. Legalized relations with her husband, gave birth to a child. This novel taught me to respect the person next to me and work on relationships.”

The situation is commented on by psychologist Evgenia Kryuchkova:

“People decide to cheat for a variety of reasons. Most often, this is some kind of lack, an unsatisfied need that is difficult (or impossible, or undesirable) to satisfy in the current relationship. In short, a deficit.

A woman can be “attracted” to another partner when she experiences the following “deficiencies”:

• Attention deficit. Cheating as an opportunity to feel desired, the one who is admired, who is being sought.
• Lack of respect. Cheating as revenge, as a response to a rude attitude, disrespect or betrayal of a partner.
• Sex deficiency. Cheating as an opportunity to compensate for the lack of sex. For example, with different sexual temperament of partners, mismatch of sexual preferences.
• Impression deficit. Treason as an opportunity to dispel boredom: craving for novelty of sensations, for adventure, the search for diversity.
• Deficiency of meanings. Cheating as an easy entertainment, "meaningless" event. For example, when the idea of ​​"fidelity to a partner" is not included in one's own value system, or the value system itself has not been formed.
• Lack of resources. Cheating as an opportunity to get some kind of benefit: position, gifts, travel, additional material support.

And there are holiday romances; infidelity while intoxicated; forced long separations that provoke treason; it happens to suddenly fall in love, get carried away and “lose your head” ...

If we talk about gender differences, then we cannot but take into account that women and men have different strategies for sexual behavior, different attitudes towards short-term sexual relationships. Of course, there are many exceptions, but in general, men are easier on their “campaigns to the left”, they are easier to experience the consequences of such relationships.

I got into a very unpleasant situation. And through his own fault. I've been dating a married man for six months now. At the beginning of our relationship with his wife, he was connected only on paper, they even lived separately. But due to the common child and the wife's refusal to divorce, they were still officially considered spouses. Therefore, I was not particularly tormented by doubts and remorse. Anything happens...

And we were all great. He spent most of his time with me. It feels like we had an endless honeymoon. True, it bothered me very much that he refused to live with me. All the time I found reasons to put it off until later. Either the child gets sick, or finances do not allow, but he does not want to sit on my neck ... In general, sheer excuses.

Well, I didn't understand that before. She looked at him through rose-colored glasses, believed every word. Until I decided to drop in on him in the morning without warning. I wanted to make a surprise ... And I found his wife at his house, in a towel and without makeup!

It was so humiliating and embarrassing! He cheated on me with a woman with whom, according to him, he had only a business relationship a long time ago ... And it is not known how long this lasted. Maybe all our relationships were built on deception ... Maybe we didn’t have anything real!

Actually, what was I thinking? It's her own fault... Of course, now he swears that it was only once. That he loves me, wants to live life with me. Which will be divorced soon. Only I doubt it very much. And I'm not sure now that I need such a relationship. I don't think I can forgive him and start over.

I regret that I did not go to my lover

I cheated on my husband. Many times, with the same person… I don’t feel any remorse, except perhaps pity for my spouse.

I married him not so much for great love, but because I was no longer young. Well, of course, I really liked him at that time. But with the beginning of life together, everything went down the drain. Indecisive, soft-bodied, always sitting on the couch in front of the TV ... All he could do around the house was take out the trash and occasionally go to the store! Zero attention to me.

At first I suffered, tormented myself with all sorts of stupid thoughts. But then Maxim appeared in my life, a man completely different from her husband. The new acquaintance turned out to be a sociable, cheerful and very active boy, and soon we began a romantic relationship with him.

I then just flew on wings. I haven't had this yet! I spent all my free time with him - we even rented a common apartment, especially for our meetings. With him, I finally felt like a woman!

After some time, Maxim began to insist that I move in with him. But I didn’t dare to leave my husband, although at that time my husband seemed to me just a roommate - we even slept on separate beds ...

Everything was resolved by itself - my husband decided to check my phone, which he had never done before, and read the correspondence with his lover. There was a "debriefing", during which it terribly cried and begged to stay with him! My husband's tears evoked a storm of emotions in me: pity, disgust for myself, disgust for the fact that he does not behave like a man, but simply cries!

So, I didn't leave then. I could not. And Maxim ... Maxim stopped "waiting for the weather by the sea." Now he lives with another girl and probably doesn’t even remember me! He didn’t even pick up the phone when I wanted to congratulate him on his birthday ...

How I regret not leaving! That she stayed with her husband and was afraid to leave her usual life. Is this for life? My husband did not pay more attention to me, except that now he suspects of all mortal sins. And I'm generally going crazy, I constantly think about Maxim. It's like I'm living a parallel life with him. And I regret, I regret what I didn't do!

Husband wants to be a swinger

Let me start by saying that I love my husband very much. She has been married for seven years, but her feelings for him seem to have become even stronger. Unfortunately, he cannot respond in kind. He constantly lacks something - he is always looking for some new sensations, emotions. So our relationship, apparently, has become boring to him ...

For a very long time, he has been trying to persuade me to meet with another couple for "sex communication"! Only I am completely against it. Terrible! I can’t even imagine how it is possible to do this foursome. Or watching my husband do this to a complete stranger... I don't think it will strengthen our marriage or our feelings.

And he already “lives” with this idea. Registered on all sorts of sites, corresponding with swingers on behalf of the two of us. Often I find links to porn sites in the history of his browser ... Viewing such videos, apparently, excites him more than a living wife.

I don't understand how he can even allow such a possibility. Does he really care with whom I will have sex, with whom I will cheat on him?!

What is not enough for him? I am ready for any experiments, if, of course, they concern the two of us. I never refuse him sex, I support his intimate fantasies. But this ... This is already too much! I hope that he will soon be allowed, because I definitely will not agree to such a practice.

Says he loves two

Our marriage is 6 years old. There is a wonderful baby, his own housing, normal income, and everything is fine in sex. I used to think that I had the perfect family and the perfect husband. So, it happened, sometimes he drank with friends and sat at work to the last, but he always found time for my daughter and me. I never thought that he could have another!

Well, how could one suspect something when he always answered my calls, warned me if he was late ... Now I understand that I called to avert my eyes, and then, with a clear conscience, went to another woman! It still doesn't fit in my head!

I probably wouldn’t have guessed if he hadn’t decided to confess himself ... He said that he loved both her and me ... That it had been like this for a long time ... I thought it would pass, I was afraid to lose me. But it didn't.

It was like a bolt from the blue. I didn't even realize at first what he was saying to me. And then it burst - sobbing, collecting his things to put him out the door. How terrible it was! But then he didn't go anywhere. He said that he loves me and does not want to destroy our family. But at the same time, he is not ready to end a relationship with another!

I love him, I love him very much! All this time I unconditionally believed him, did everything for him. And at that time he was having fun with his second “love”. I wouldn't be surprised if he gets a third later...

But I don't want to live like that. I can't stand the realization that he's with another woman while I'm babysitting his child. I don’t believe that you can love two people, and I’m unlikely to ever believe in it. I have to find the strength to leave him.

Gone to a pregnant mistress

When Vanya and I met, all my friends envied me. The fact is that he is from a very wealthy family, manages his father's hereditary business and, of course, does not need money. We liked each other, started dating, a year later he proposed to me. How happy I was when we got married! It seemed to me that I would be with this person forever, that it could not be otherwise, that he really truly loves me.

Even before the wedding, we decided with him that we would not rush with children. Firstly, because both are still young, and secondly, because they want to travel more, take care of each other, enjoy romance and carelessness. After visiting the doctor, I regularly took birth control pills and was sure that everything was fine and going as it should. However, after 1.5 years of marriage, he simply came and announced that he was leaving.

As it turned out, my Ivan did not burden himself with marital fidelity and cheated on me with one girl. It was a girl, because she was only 19. So - this clever girl did not even think about using protection and, of course, became pregnant. She had no intention of having an abortion. I waited until the 4th month, and then reported the news to my missus. It is dangerous to do something at such a time, moreover, Ivan suddenly awakened paternal feelings, and he decided that she would certainly give birth to him the heir to his “business empire”. Well, in order for everything to be really “human”, he decided to file for divorce.

It turns out that he doesn’t have such love for me, since he so easily decided to leave me for the sake of the “future heir”, which, by the way, may not be from him at all. It hurts and embarrassing.

All men cheat

I used to love my husband like crazy. Our relationship started off great. Both then just finished school, entered the same institute. Everything was there: sparkling eyes, gifts, and the first kiss ... He said that I was his only one, and no one else was needed. And, of course, I believed.

They got married, a child was born. And there was the first mistress. I found out about it by accident - I read their hot correspondence with intimate details on the laptop while he was not at home. She threw him a wild scandal, threw things, and then kicked him out of the house. I thought I wouldn't forgive.

But she couldn't live without him. This pain is impossible to describe when you wake up in the morning, and there is no one around. Only his things, clothes, keeping such a familiar smell ... Yes, and he always came home, asked for forgiveness. Once came at night, did not expel. And so it remained.

A few months later I found out about another girl. Employee. Good people whispered, and the faithful himself confessed. Said he was the only one with her. Nothing serious. Forgave me again.

A year has passed, and a third appeared. Well, I don't know anything about the previous ones. He talked with her for a long time. I created a second Facebook page for myself and secretly corresponded for several months. Like, I love you, I kiss you, I want to see you soon ...

That's it. So far, I haven’t said anything to my husband, I’m waiting to see what happens next. At the very heart of the cat scratching, everything falls out of hand. But not at all like it was the first time. It used to be the end of the world for me, but now I can survive it. Strange…

All I think about is that I'm not young anymore. That she must at all costs save our family and ensure the future of her child. Even if for this I have to turn a blind eye to the "temporary hobbies" of the spouse.

Choose the right and reliable

She started dating Rustam rather because she felt sorry for him. We have known him since childhood, and all this time he literally curls around me. I refused him twice because I don't like him, but the third time I agreed. To tell the truth, I didn’t start to like him - dependent, soft, led, timid - but I decided that it’s better for now with at least someone than all alone.

We've been with him for almost two years. To be honest, we don’t have a lot in our relationship that I would like. I myself am a hot, temperamental person, I want some kind of storm of emotions. He is different: loyal, affectionate, caring. And he can cook dinner himself if I'm late, and give a massage at night, and tidy up - without any pretensions like "this is not a man's business."

Recently I met Artem. Spectacular, tall, he immediately attracted my attention, and on the second day of our acquaintance he simply took and kissed me. Here is the temperament! That's what I've been looking for for so long! I decided to part with Rustam. She told him everything as it is. To my surprise, he only said “I see, well, now let’s have dinner, and I’ll get you a bath for now.” I began to explain to him that I was leaving, but he did not seem to take it seriously ... I took my things and left. Three days later, I learned from a mutual friend that Rustam was trying to commit suicide, he was literally pulled out of the noose. She immediately rushed towards him.

While driving to the hospital, I understood everything for myself, that's when everything cleared up and fell into place. Yes, of course, passion is amazing, but I understand perfectly well that it will end sooner or later, and here there is a person who, in spite of everything, still seems to love me, who needs me so much that he doesn’t wanted to live without me. When I entered the ward, there was no longer any doubt - I immediately reassured him and said that I would return home today, and everything would be as before with us again.

It's not about pity, and it's not about me making concessions to him. I guess I just realized that sometimes happiness is not quite what you imagine it to be, and a warm dinner is sometimes much more important than passionate kisses.

Pay

When I was 20, I was very light on fleeting relationships with men. We can say that just do not particularly bother about it. I was not interested in any serious relationship, I wanted freedom, to have fun, not to think about anything. It often happened that there was a man for one night. However, my longest relationship was with a married man. No, I don’t brag about it at all and I don’t think that it makes me somehow cooler. It just happened, that's a fact. Then my conscience did not bother me.

5 years later. I must have grown up. I'm tired of all these one-night-stands. I have been married for a year now, and up to a certain point it seemed to me that everything was fine in my life. But recently I began to notice that my husband behaves a little differently than before. Either they have an offsite corporate party for the whole weekend, or they urgently needed to go out on Saturday, or just linger. And most importantly, then he comes and seems to avoid looking into my eyes, becomes attentive and gentle, as if he is hiding something and wants to avoid questions. At first, I thought I was paranoid. Then it began to happen regularly and alarm me.

I decided to get on the phone. Of course, this is ugly, but I wanted to understand what was the matter. From the phone, he was just online on the social network, a correspondence with a girl was opened ... In general, they have been dating for 7 months. I even got dizzy. Is he really cheating on me? We have a family! We are planning children! How so?! I went to the page of this girl: she is 19 years old, a student, not from a poor family and well dressed, judging by the photo. She's 19!

For a long time I sat and thought about it all. At first, she silently scolded her for a long time because she was sleeping with a married man. Then him - for not appreciating our relationship. And then I realized that the most ironic thing about all this is that I myself was in her place. So maybe it's just payback?

Hurry to leave

It so happened that our relationship with Sasha spun very quickly. Not that it was love at first sight, but somehow we immediately liked each other and started dating. A month later we were living together.

Almost as soon as we moved in, problems began. After all, it's one thing when you just see each other and spend time together, but having a joint life, budget, sharing common square meters is quite another. The first couple of weeks, though, everything was great. We made love all our free time, bought a bunch of goodies and hardly left the house, watching movies on the Internet. Over time, it became simply clear that we are completely different people, and just do - we do not know each other well.

I began to annoy the way he eats, how untidy he dresses. It turned out that we simply have nothing to talk about, because the range of interests is limited to knowledge about the design of cars and computer toys. It became a burden for me to be near him, I constantly wanted to leave home, spend leisure time with friends, just go somewhere without him. It couldn't go on like this for long, so we decided to part ways.

As a rule, in such cases, people disperse and that's it. But the thing is, I have nowhere to go, I'm not from this city. While I am looking for a new home (and this is a long and troublesome business), I decided that I would live with him. He didn't mind. For some time after the breakup, we continued to maintain an intimate relationship, but then it became unpleasant for me. He found a way out of the situation.

On a dating site I found a girl for comfort. Where can they be alone? Of course, "him"! The apartment is one-room, so they are closed either in the bathroom or in the kitchen. At the same time, for them, I am just some kind of furniture that stands in the living room. They calmly walk past me, giggling, half-naked….

The last time I woke up at night from unambiguous sounds that came from the kitchen. And then I realized that I was hurt and offended. It seems that I was the initiator of the breakup, but I still feel jealousy. After all, once he was mine and loved only my body!

She lay and cried, and she herself tried to understand everything: maybe I’m offended by the fact that I’m still not indifferent to him, and these problems were just a test of strength? After all, young couples have crises that just need to wait out, overcome ... Are we in a hurry to break up?

For what?

I don't know how much longer I can last? Marriage is like being at war. We got married 5 years ago. He is a visitor, but he courted so generously, quickly entered my circle of acquaintances, made friends with my parents. I must have loved him at the time. I never really enjoyed the attention of guys, maybe that's why I fell for it. It’s rude, because otherwise, looking back at the past and watching the present, I can’t say otherwise. A year ago, our son was born. And since then it all started. Constant parties after work, alcohol, and even flirting behind my back. I recently caught him texting an old friend. I sobbed. The way he described himself to her, I didn't know him. He wrote to her about meetings, about her forms, about his desires for her. I gave him a scandal. As a result, he made himself offended that I got into his phone, that he has so much work that sometimes you just need to be distracted. She told him to leave. And in response, instead of “sorry, I love you,” I heard that my son lives here and I will live, I have nowhere else to go. File for divorce, probably the most logical act on my part. But my son loves him so much. To create for him the appearance of a family. But until when? I keep everything in myself, I feel from understatement and anger towards him, I have nervous breakdowns. I'm at a dead end.