Does the wife change? How to find out? Hint: underwear. Statistics: how often do wives cheat on husbands, and girls cheat on guys
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To the attention of happy holders of a marriage certificate! British scientists have identified a fundamental pattern: women are programmed for adultery. Oleksandr MESHKOV, the oldest editorial lady-lover, talks about this phenomenon.
Cuckolds! You are legion!
The married men tensed up, frowned: “You're lying! Mine doesn't change! I know for sure!" Break off, guys, this conclusion is made on the basis of anthropological studies in 62 countries of the world. The British predict the first trip to the left four years after the wedding. But even if you still have a couple of years left, do not flatter yourself. These Brits are insufferable optimists! Everything will happen sooner! Get ready, friends, for this every day! And it does not matter that you are sexually demanded by your wife, that you give her flora, gifts from boutiques and kiss before leaving for work. “A woman, even in happiness, has a penchant for flirting,” said the writer Max Frisch, deeply respected by me. And he won't lie.
Female infidelity, as well as the fragility of marriages, is programmed at the DNA level. Although recently the social situation has also contributed to this: poverty, drunkenness, stratification of society, bribery, the criminalization of society, prostitution and moral degradation (I feel it in my own example). There were fewer divorces in the past. Now it is an epidemic more abruptly than consumption and smallpox. Marriages break up more often, oddly enough, based on love. A pragmatic approach to marriage is almost guaranteed against falling apart. In such reasonable families, any scandal will be hushed up, so as not to lose their stake.
History will judge
Women from corporate ethics will not agree with me and will run into men: “They spoiled us themselves!” But let's turn to history. The tendency to polygamy has been inherent in a woman since prehistoric times. The woman was covered by all the males of the pack. Later, at the dawn of human civilization, there was a spiritual custom: the husband, according to the law of hospitality, was obliged to give up his wife for the night to a weary traveler. After all, a husband covers his wife, read, every day, gets tired, and just right for a fresh traveler, he slightly abstained on the way. Elena the Beautiful, because of which the armed Trojan conflict broke out, was just the sweet fruit of such an accidental connection. King Tyndareus (her father) hospitably allowed a handsome young stranger to spend the night with his wife, and she immediately suffered. Elena was born as beautiful as a foreigner, only with breasts. The rest of the children of Tyndareus were, if not freaks, then quite ordinary creatures of God. Elena, at the age of 12, with the light hand of Theseus, parted with such a dubious virtue as virginity, and gave birth to Iphigenia from him. And then this flirtatious woman successfully jumped out to marry Menelaus and left for Sparta.
If a woman asks...
Somehow, a girl with whom I had strong love at that moment called and asked to visit. She was lonely: she quarreled with her parents, a friend got married, a filling popped out, she lost her gold chain and she got a runny nose. But that evening I was up to my neck and politely declined.
I was invited to dinner by a young man, she said then. - May I go?
I have never seen anything reprehensible in eating together. I myself ate more than once in the cafeteria with the girls and even a couple of times with the guys. In the army, we generally ate at the same time with the whole company. I didn't think there was anything wrong with dinner. The next day we met as if nothing had happened. I didn't even ask about last night's dinner. Forgot. A month later, I found out that that dinner at the restaurant smoothly turned into breakfast in bed.
But why? I asked confused.
I was lonely and hurt,” she replied.
And the essence of this betrayal is simple: never refuse a girl intimacy, because there will immediately be another. The holy womb is never empty. At lazy shepherds wolves are always full. Everything in this life can be postponed, my friends, except for sex and love! Even harvesting spring crops, launching a spaceship, logging, meeting friends if they are at the expense of sex!
When? Why? With whom?
The main reason for female infidelity, of course, is unsatisfied sexuality: libido is over the top, but there is no real man around. And if there is, then he drinks, such a beast. But often a woman's betrayal occurs because of her late entry into the fabulous and alluring world of sex. Appetite comes with eating. I want to eat my fill.
Can our girls cheat on us because of revenge. You to me - I to you! They will certainly instruct the horns of a workaholic who devotes himself only to work.
A good reason to change is the desire to get a dose of adrenaline. Oh, mothers, what will happen? New partner, secret date, new hands, hot kisses. Oh! What if mine finds out? The wife of a friend of mine, who was a born yogi, liked to tempt his friends into sin in the kitchen while he was meditating. Besides me, the yogi had many more friends. Some came to visit twice a day. Yogi! Be careful with meditations! Beware of friends!
According to statistics, most changes occur in the workforce. That's where office romances kick in. So why not let them go to work? But an electrician or a plumber can come home, as well as a massage therapist, a fitness instructor, a home doctor, a friend of the house, after all.
A strong-willed female dictator is more likely to have someone on the side than a submissive, dumb slave. Down with the dictatorship! Wives to the nail!
The more we love a woman, the more chances we have to become the owner of branched horns. Young girls with still unspent sexual energy are also more likely to point the horns at you than an old woman exhausted by everyday life. But the most dangerous age is 35 years. The husband is already disgusted, but she is also to him, but I want a lot of affection and a little orgasm. At 35, an eye and an eye for his wife. In addition, educated wives cheat more often than illiterate fools. Down with education!
Having an uninhibited single girlfriend can also push your wife to cheat. What are they talking about? About football? About the theatre? Dudki! Married girlfriends tend to share the joy of shameful pleasures. What causes unhealthy envy in your half.
And in general there are women who do not change? Theoretically - yes. But only because there is no possibility, object, favorable combination of circumstances. Everyone would like to change, but it's scary.
I can see everything from above, you know it!
Whether your wife is cheating on you or not, guys, you can’t tell by touch. And don't try. I tried - empty! Visually, everything seems to be in place. Here you need to become a little psychologist, psychoanalyst and sex therapist. Attention!
A). Your wife from a fat-bellied hostess has suddenly become a beautiful model, without her usual shopping bag, a new hairstyle, her breasts are puffed up, a feverish look, manicures, pedicures, new panties, a heaped bra, her ass is shaking. All! Feel your head!
B). Denies you intimacy: “My head hurts, I’m tired, leave me alone, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, I can’t. You smell bad!" Looking for a man!
IN). Stays at work. A lot of work. Aha! We know this job! They were delayed!
G). On weekends, he goes: to his girlfriend, to courses, to fitness, to the library, to the planetarium, to shopping. Yes we know! We go fishing!
D). Expensive tsatski appeared, brings flowers from work, new, expensive perfumes. This is with her salary! Check closet, balcony and under bed immediately!
P.S. (My friend! Read at night, cut it out and hang it on the wall in a frame!)
Studies conducted in some developed countries have shown that 11% of children were not born from legal fathers. The chances of a woman flying from a random partner are much higher than from a permanent one.
50% of all female infidelities occur during the period of ovulation and the days immediately after menstruation, when she cannot bear it.
Attention! Every 15th child is not only "alien", he is also conceived in a situation where the woman's uterus contains the sperm of two men. One of them is a legal husband. And the lover has more chances to win! Here's a joke!
A frantic, curly-haired, muscular laughter-lover releases up to 600 million spermatozoa into a new partner, and a hateful bald husband only 150-300 million. Inside the womb, these spermatozoa begin to beat like Tatars and Russians on the Kulikovo field. The bulk of spermatozoa are fighters. They are 85%. They release poison into the vigorous reproductive spermatozoa. They are only 1 percent. The lover always has more “killers” than the husband.
CRIME AND PUNISHMENT
In Judea, wicked traitors were stoned. In some Asian countries, the death penalty for treason has not yet been abolished. In Africa - Oh! Horror! - cut off the clitoris with a blunt knife. Girls! Beware Africans!
And to you guys, I advise you, having learned about treason, to forgive these weak creatures. You yourself are sometimes here and there, something, something like ... Okay, I'm joking, of course. To their stables and pour lashes! We should not walk with horns.
Cheating is the main reason for breaking up a relationship. Everything is simple if the couple just meets, and they are not tied by marriage. Things are more complicated with married people, in which case you should not chop off the shoulder. You need to make sure that the wife is really cheating.
Some Signs of a Cheating Wife
The most true symptoms of infidelity:
- Constantly communicates via SMS.
- Talking on the phone in another room.
- Constantly late at work.
- Often meets with different men. It hides this fact from you.
- Doesn't say where he's going.
- Constantly offended and angry over trifles.
- Doesn't confess love.
- Doesn't sleep with you.
- Often talks about divorce.
- He pays a lot of attention to his appearance.
- Jewels and expensive things appeared.
- Created a profile on a dating site.
Obvious signs of infidelity
- If your spouse comes home from work and she smells like men's cologne, it makes you think. There are women who carry condoms in their purse. Of course, rummaging through personal belongings is not good, but if you have any suspicions, you can check the contents of the clutch and pockets.
- If earlier your spouse was calm about her appearance, and now she spins around the mirror all the time and looks good, perhaps there is someone to do this for. For husbands, women rarely put on makeup and clean themselves up. Only in Arab countries do women put on a burqa in the presence of strangers, and put on make-up and do their hair for their husbands.
- Has your spouse started dating her friends more often or has she developed new hobbies? Check if she was really where she said. Business dinners, business trips and corporate parties can be a lie, and she meets her lover.
- Doesn't allow you to meet her from work and constantly comes up with something? Sit at home, another man will meet her or give her a lift home. A sign that your wife is being driven to work and brought home is a change of shoes. If she used to walk in ballet flats or sneakers and complained that she had to go far, but now she walks in heels, then she is definitely given a lift.
- If you find that the page on the social network is password protected, and before that the wife never hid her communication with friends, think about it. You can check the history in her browser. It can be found under the "Add-ons" tab. Look at what sites your beloved has visited. Perhaps you will learn a lot of interesting things. Well, if the spouse knows how to erase history, then this is also a reason to suspect her. So she has something to hide.
Learn to trust each other, perhaps suspicions have no basis, and your mind is clouded by jealousy.
Checking a wife for fidelity and treason is not a pleasant occupation. Sometimes you just can't do without it. It is very disappointing to realize that you have to share your spouse with someone else. It disgusts male pride, hurts feelings. Wife's infidelity is the first step to divorce.
Signs of adultery
Do you know what signs may indicate a cheating spouse? For example, telephone conversations and correspondence with unknown subscribers. In addition, its appearance and behavior are of no small importance. Unfaithful wives pay more attention to their appearance than devoted spouses.
They are spent on beauty treatments, new outfits, jewelry. They use all the secrets of sexuality and seduction, and not only in your address. They leave the house, supposedly on business, the details of which you are not dedicated to. Often they stay overnight with their parents or friends, and so on.
Watch her behavior. Try to unobtrusively find out with whom and where she spends time in your absence. In 99% of cases, it will not be possible to directly check for treason. Instead of arguments, they will make a scandal for you and file for divorce.
If the wife does not make direct contact, choose another method of exposure. Connect the interactive tracking service through your spouse's mobile phone. If she has a lover, they must communicate somehow. A personal smartphone is perfect for this. He is always with her.
The spouse can freely remove compromising evidence. At a great distance from home, you are not a hindrance to her telephone conversations at all. In your presence, she resorts to the help of coded message signals.
The insidious and deceitful beast simply needs to be exposed! Private mobile espionage is best.
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As you can see, it is very easy to find out if the other half is cheating, and only then you decide what to do next with this knowledge.
Why does cheating happen in marriages? What are their reasons? Something went wrong? All these questions arise not only among those who have become a victim of such behavior of the second half, but also among those who are just trying to start a family. Even if a guy has just started dating a girl, then he may also have a worm of doubt, which will sharpen constantly and tirelessly: is the beloved cheating? Living with a burden on the soul becomes difficult. Making claims and asking inappropriate questions is the same as insulting a person with distrust. Maybe it was only your imagination that built some ideas about infidelity, and the girl did not even think of looking at someone else. And then she will not like your suspicions, in the end, she will get tired of it, and she will want to end the relationship in order to avoid humiliating questions and your jealousy from scratch. And she would be right in this situation! And you will not show yourself in the best light. If, nevertheless, you cannot cope with unreasonable jealousy, then it is better to turn to the experience of psychologists and find out by indirect signs whether your girlfriend is cheating on you. But even in this case, it is better to take some action and start a showdown when you make sure that your relationship is in danger of a final break. Whether it is worth trying after this to hold the family together or let the wife go on all four sides, it is up to you, but also your other half, to decide. Perhaps the betrayal was just her protest against your own wrong behavior. Then it’s enough just to reconsider your relationship, and everything will work out.
Signs of female infidelity
Let's make a reservation right away: all the signs below are just a reason to sound the alarm or check a woman for fidelity. Perhaps the reason for the change in the wife's behavior was much more prosaic reasons than a passionate affair started on the side. Pressure from friends, parents or colleagues, a banal malaise or a serious illness discovered, in the end, an unexpected pregnancy for her - all this can lead to a radical change in lifestyle or a change in appearance. To look for an outsider in these situations - a rival and competitor - is simply ridiculous. He is not!The first signs of betrayal
Among the first signs of infidelity, psychologists distinguish: 1) Restriction of access to personal space Until recently, a wife could casually leave her cell phone on the couch and ask from the shower: “Look who is calling me there?”. Or even ask to answer that she will call back soon or be free. And suddenly she began to hide the phone, and on social networks she changed passwords to those that you do not know. This is already an occasion to think about treason, but at the same time, check other signs. You may have recently been rude to your mother-in-law on your wife's phone or ridiculed her friend for being overweight on her behalf. Here is the second half and decided to “punish” you by restricting access. After all, access to personal space does not mean the destruction of it. If such facts really took place, then it is worth apologizing to the spouse for inappropriate behavior with her loved ones, and then everything can fall into place. If the access restriction remains the same, then look for other signs before making a final verdict of treason. 2) Abrupt abandonment of very stable habits Did your wife suddenly stop attending the fitness room or, on the contrary, began to rush there, although she had previously been indifferent to sports? Or does she suddenly have a passion for classical music and she disappears into the conservatory after work and visits the opera house on weekends? At the same time, the wife became suspicious, began to worry a lot over trifles. Often does not answer calls on a mobile phone, or even happens to be "temporarily unavailable or out of network coverage." These are serious signs to be wary. If the wife has nothing to hide, then she will always gladly and thoroughly answer your questions about fitness or the opera. Of course, you understand that when you work out on the simulator, it is simply inconvenient to answer the phone. After physical exertion, the same characteristic aspiration can appear in the voice ... as after violent sex. The perfect disguise for physical infidelity. But there is no need to talk about it. But to ask why the classes suddenly became so interesting is quite appropriate. If, on the contrary, fitness is abandoned, then the reason for this may be a rise in the price of a subscription or the closure of a gym that was close to home or work. And these are not the moments that the wife could not explain. Most likely, she would have complained about the situation before classes ended. If the wife swam in the pool, then it is also impossible to be in touch there. But in this case, ask yourself: why didn't you swim together? As for the conservatory or the theater, it is customary to turn off mobile phones there. This is understandable, as well as the fact that if rap or hard rock is constantly heard at home, which only you like, when the wife loves the classics, then she will always look for a place where she can listen to something more comfortable for her ears. Here, not betrayal could play a cruel joke, but your intransigence and the imposition of your own musical taste. 3) Constant delays at work without warning When the wife suddenly began to stay late at work, it would have been inexplicable before, but in the current crisis situation, this is normal. When management cuts part of the staff, the remaining employees are given just a crazy amount of work for a meager increase in wages. If your spouse describes this whole situation to you, then you have no reason not to trust, because this information is objective. If the wife wants to get promoted because she has the chance, then she, too, can devote more time to her work responsibilities. And she will not share these considerations with you in the only case: when you reproached her with the fact that she occupies a low position, that is, “no one at all”, and you yourself are a value and in good standing with your superiors. If there was no such thing at all, and the woman is silent and does not admit why she does not go home from work for a long time, then this is a reason to ask if she has an office romance. 4) Sudden change of image towards a more sexual one A makeover can happen unexpectedly if your shy wife is influenced by her more flamboyant female friends. Instead of nondescript hair of an incomprehensible color, she acquires a blond head of hair or becomes a burning brunette. Or maybe red. In the wardrobe of the wife there are new things, more elegant and expensive in appearance. Of course, it's a shame that she asked you last of all if she should go to a makeup artist or stylist. But what can you do if she asked you several times, and you shrugged vaguely? And then the mother-in-law could also intervene, who “sawed through” the brain of her daughter that her husband should always like her, which means that she should take care of her appearance. And then after all, he will leave or find a mistress! Well, if the young lady began to take care of herself. But what should alert you is deep cutouts in clothes, too short skirts, or if emphasized tight-fitting silhouettes. If only all this had not happened before, then it becomes clear that the girl wants to attract someone. And if at the same time you pay attention to cutesy behavior, changes in gestures, gaze, etc., this is already a reason to suspect treason. The assessment of the wife's behavior in bed can finally dispel doubts. 5) Cooling down in intimate relationships Each person has his own sexual temperament, and you probably know very well what your wife has. How quickly she falls asleep after “this”, whether one act is enough for her, or is she insatiable, like a nymphomaniac, whether she often has a “headache”, in the sense of a reason for refusing to have intercourse - all this should be known to you. If suddenly something has changed, especially in the direction of cooling the relationship, then we can assume that the wife somewhere receives satisfaction on the side. Or your opponent is doing something “better in bed”, so you have become uninteresting. But this is not always a reason for suspicion. Your wife may just be pregnant! At the beginning of pregnancy, many women experience a decrease in libido, and this is a normal physiological process. Moreover, it is at the beginning of this period that many have to face such an unpleasant phenomenon as thrush. If your wife refuses intimate relationships in this case, then she is doing the right thing, because she does not want to infect you. At the same time, remember: thrush is not a sexually transmitted disease and occurs due to a decrease in immunity, and not because the wife “brought” her. This is even more likely a confirmation that the spouse is really pregnant. The question arises: why does she not talk about it? To answer this question, remember how you were preparing for the first time to confess your love to her, how you were going to propose. This after all demanded from you moral forces! And no less spiritual work is required from a woman to announce you as a future father. Yes, a third person appears in your relationship. But this third one is your son or daughter, who needs to be given attention even before birth. And it is required of you too. Sooner or later, the wife will be forced to say that she is going to become a mother, and then you will be convinced of her fidelity. But if there is no pregnancy, then it is worth asking if the spouse is sick with something serious. When the diagnosis is frightening, then she may just be afraid that you will leave her. If you are not a complete egoist, then she will most likely entrust you with her sad secret over time. When the wife is healthy, like a bull, besides she does not bear a child, this is already a reason to ask, for a start in jest: has she found a replacement for you?Physiological signs of infidelity (by body)
There are still a couple of signs by which men often judge female infidelity. These are periods that go several times a month, as well as the desire of the wife to get to the bathroom as soon as possible. The first option is just disrespect to you. Why not just say you're tired or sick? Why deceive so that everything is sewn with white thread. This is a reason to think. The second option can be caused, for example, by the same thrush. What it's like to endure the itch for a long time and not run to the bathroom when the first opportunity presents itself! Also, the spouse may be embarrassed that her deodorant turned out to be faulty in the heat, and she does not want to appear dirty and sloppy in front of you. So the bathroom may be for you, and not to destroy the smell of an outsider's cologne and traces of recent sexual pleasures.
Signs of infidelity in panties, underwear and other clothes
Speaking about the image, we missed one important detail - underwear. It can also make you suspicious. For example, you have never shown an addiction to leather underwear, and suddenly your wife has it. This thing is not cheap, and a wealthy lady can buy it just for the sake of experiment. If a serious gap is formed in your family budget because of this, then before such a purchase, the spouse should ask how you generally feel about underwear made from such an unusual material. If a lady of the heart introduced a peignoir into her intimate wardrobe that she had not previously used, then this can be attributed to the imitation of the heroine of a recently watched film. But if this piece of underwear is not worn for your bed "dramas", then you need to be on your guard. You need to carefully find out: why was this piece of clothing purchased: either it's just a useless gift from a friend, or a way to please a lover. Lace panties, a new bra, which often enlarges the breasts, etc., can also serve this. your life partner.Behavior of a woman after her betrayal
It is enough to pay attention to what changes have appeared in the daily behavior of the wife in order to say: "Perhaps she cheated on me." And these are not necessarily views on her husband as a complete insignificance, when she mentally compares him with a rich (more courteous, affectionate, powerful) lover. Here it can be exactly the opposite:- amazing dishes of exotic or European cuisine, which are not prepared for the holiday; excessive politeness in handling, bordering on a constant desire to apologize for ... treason; surgical cleanliness in the house; no one knows where the burst of energy came from, up to the desire to dance.
Female betrayal through the eyes of a psychologist
Psychologists are impartial, and therefore their verdict sometimes seems cruel to us. Sometimes, instead of taking the side of the deceived spouse, they suddenly begin to justify the action of the one who dared to cuckold him. Often, wanting to understand what caused the betrayal, they bring to light such nuances of the behavior of both spouses, which the family preferred to keep silent about. But even such shock therapy is sometimes useful, because it allows everyone to see their shortcomings, and not indiscriminately blame only the wife who cheated on her husband.Reasons for female infidelity
Often called the main reason for the dissatisfaction of women, and not only in sexual terms. Just sex can suit a partner, but a person is not alive alone! The wife also has her own "spiritual body", which has needs. Go to the theater or dine at a restaurant, go on a romantic trip, just walk hand in hand in the evening park - why all this often remains at the dawn of a relationship, and then disappears somewhere, replaced by a routine of pots, pans, cleaning. Especially if the other half, that is, you, does not bother with household chores, considering your wife to be that working camel who will carry all this on herself. When a relationship with another man arises, it often represents such a promising romantic beginning as you once had. Moral: a woman needs to be constantly conquered with something, even despite the presence of a stamp in her passport, joint living space and common children. And then she would have no reason to even look in someone's direction. Remain a gallant gentleman, and not a lazy man lying on the couch, who, apart from the TV, is not interested in much. You can often hear that for a man, the family is his rear. But this does not mean at all that this is what is always behind you. If there is a rear, then there is a front. And this is not a career, not personal success, but the protection of the family and even its financial support. The latter fundamentally distinguishes family life and military disposition. Sometimes women "peck" on the security of a lover, on his expensive gifts, and not even because of greed, but because "the man spent money." The tempter can thus put your soulmate in an uncomfortable position. Especially if she does not know how to reject expensive gifts and annoying courtship. Often such relationships are even a burden to her, but she is not able to stop them. Then you need a psychologist. Or you yourself can suddenly show yourself as a superman and do something grandiose for your wife in order to win her back from her rival forever.Why does a girl sleep with another guy, but does not leave
It happens that the second half is playing the game "on two fronts", that is, she has you, and at the same time - a lover. And she prefers not to stick to any of the shores completely. Perhaps you and a lover for her are mutually complementary links in her life. You know how to provide for a family, she sees in you a promising father for children, but finds sex with you boring and monotonous. Or maybe it's not about sex at all. She may not even sleep with another guy, but spend most of her time with him, saying that it's just friendship. Perhaps this guy understands her better, this is a vest in which you can cry, you get a more comfortable conversation with him than with you. And then this is a reason to change something in yourself, and not to reproach your wife for her infidelity.Who is to blame for the betrayal
Surprisingly, both are to blame. If the friend of life is too lustful to be satisfied with just one partner, then where were your eyes when you chose her as your life partner? If you then closed them for such "shortcomings", then you just have to wait until the hormonal background of your chosen one subsides, and she will not look at other men. At the same time, she can be with you with all her heart, but change physically. But if the wife cheated, falling in love with another person, then this is a more serious situation, because often it ends in a break in relations, divorce, leaving for another family. A stable love triangle may form, and all three will be to blame here. Sometimes a lady remains a bigamist for a long time, until someone first gets tired of this state of affairs. And then you have to unravel the thread and look for the reasons that gave rise to these strange relationships.
How to know if my girlfriend or wife is cheating on me
This question is often asked by insecure men. In fact, jealousy is self-doubt, and it often arises from scratch, without real reasons. To execute a creature dear to you with distrust is not the best way to save a relationship. Therefore, you need to make sure that treason really takes place.Ways to catch cheating
The most common way is to spy on the person you suspect. You can spy on your own or with the help of private detectives. You can track down either your soul mate or a potential competitor. There are different methods of espionage thanks to modern technologies:- the use of listening devices; peeping information in social networks; visual observation using portable video cameras or optical devices.
Loyalty test to test your love
There are various test options on the Internet, and with the help of them you can check both yourself for fidelity and your soulmate. If you take responsibility for her, you may misinterpret some of her phrases or even fill out the test in a biased way. Then the results may be distorted. It's better to just invite her to answer questions as a game. Naturally, you yourself should also participate in this and fill in all the fields with her. If you have nothing to hide, then she will also agree to do everything in front of you. Just be careful: the test does not show the fact of treason, but simply a person's propensity for infidelity. It is quite possible that your wife realizes that she is “not averse to being on the side”, but for the sake of you, her beloved, she honestly restrains such impulses and does not dissolve. There are many ways to get another person to do something that he would not want to do himself. And often it can be physical or moral pressure. To argue with the fact that a woman is physically weaker is stupid, but this does not mean that you need to literally knock out testimony from your wife. After all, recognition under such pressure will be your last conversation in general, after which she will have no hesitation and doubts about who is better. Of course, a lover, because he does not dissolve his hands. And she will run away to him without looking back, at least in order to be under the wing, moreover, she will justify herself 100% if you prove yourself to be a real dork. Putting pressure on a woman morally is also not the best option, because relations with you will definitely not return to normal from this. Most likely, the spouse will file for divorce and, quite possibly, will even be left alone, deciding that she is so much calmer - without any showdown. If you want to put an end to your relationship with your wife, because you yourself have looked after yourself a more suitable party, then feel free to start a showdown: you will achieve your goal and get a divorce.
My wife has a lover, what to do
If you are convinced that your wife really has a lover, and this is not a secret admirer, not just a friendly colleague who is not averse to chatting with someone else's wife for a long time, namely, a person who has an affair, then you can simply compete with him. Instead of starting a showdown, you can just pick up your wife at work, moreover, arrange it very effectively. And after that, invite her to a restaurant, saying that you would like to free her from housework today. Further more. You can start a trip to the resort with your wife. This will pull her out of her social circle with an uninvited boyfriend for a long time. Perhaps your life friend just needs vivid impressions, and if it is your person who will be associated with them, then why waste time and moral strength on a lover? Here the rule works well that the wife needs to be pampered so that she herself does not start to indulge. Treating your life mate as a "free app" to you is the way to the fact that she will change sooner or later. If a woman is not appreciated and not told about it, observing the “Spartan atmosphere” in the relationship, then she will subconsciously look for someone who will appreciate her. No need to skimp on kind words, on the manifestation of attention and affection. Then you will have a chance not only to calmly survive this romance started by your wife, but also to stay with her when the lover simply disappears from the horizon. Sometimes another psychological move helps. Oddly enough, but you need to let your wife go to her lover. It is about women that they say that at home, when they “unfasten” false eyelashes and a chignon, wash off the “plaster”, they turn into a kikimore. But with men, the situation is actually no better. Your wife sees her lover as imposing, well-groomed, when she meets him only in fits and starts. Now she will see him watching sports matches that will be more important than her. At the same time, yesterday’s “treasure” will almost eat pasta with stew or dumplings with his hands, so as not to be distracted from the screen, or bite off the sausage directly from the loaf. There are many pictures of such a plan, and all of them will not be in favor of the person who splurges. Wouldn't the wife then want to return to the man whose family structure was worked out with her together?How to recognize if your wife is cheating at work
Office romances, alas, are not uncommon. And it is not always a meeting of two lonely hearts. It also happens that an “omnipotent” director or a big boss courts a married subordinate. In return, he offers career growth, high wages, and he also gladly spends his own money on the lady he likes. This, for many, seems disgusting. But if this is your wife, then this situation is a real disaster. A faithful wife will either quit this job, or make it clear that she is not ready to accept the courtship of the “bonza”, no matter what benefits he promises her. And here you need to distinguish between what reaches you: gossip or true information. If the director walks around your wife like a gogol, this does not mean that she reciprocated. Disassembly should be started sooner with him, and not with his beloved. A person understands that his power extends only within the division or office he leads. But here you are “not from his system”, and he may be afraid of you, because he does not know what to expect from you. If you want to be confident in your wife, then unexpectedly pay her a visit to work under the pretext of a surprise - unexpectedly bought tickets to a movie premiere, invitations to friends, or some other plausible pretext. You can also ask your wife for a corporate party. If the other half has nothing to hide, then she can accept such an idea with enthusiasm.Cheating wife at 40, what to do
Sometimes a woman tries to adjust her views on life at a more mature age than your family union took place. And then she can find herself not just a nice fun guy that you once were, but a wealthy man who could:- well provide for the family; protect your household from many problems; give expensive gifts; nice to look after; to truly care for children (and yours, too!), which you have not done until now.
If a loved one has changed, is it worth it to forgive
Not only your wife can deceive you, but also the girl with whom you are still dating. Changes are different. For example, a girl can fall for someone's courtship while intoxicated. She herself will not be happy with this turn of events. This is just the case when you need to behave like a knight: forgive the girl and deal with an unexpected rival. You can forgive even a fleeting romance of your wife, if you see that these stormy feelings are not for long. As a rule, a gentleman can get away from a married lover as soon as she starts a conversation with him about starting a family. Such people prefer that the responsibility for a woman lies with someone else. In this case, on you. In the meantime, your wife plunged headlong into her romance, just think about what you did not suit your life friend. Maybe you are the one who can make things right. Just avoid reproaches, feel the way you did in your youth, when you only looked after her, trying to be better than your rivals. Have you been challenged? Accept!Statistics: how often do wives cheat on husbands, and girls cheat on guys
Now you can find disappointing statistics that cheating occurs in 70% of married couples. But there is no unity among women's and men's sites regarding gender data in this regard. If on sites for the strong half regarding female infidelity, the numbers are often underestimated, then on women's resources it is indicated that over 75% of men are unfaithful in marriage. Should we rely on such statistics? Most likely no. In addition, you need to understand the reason for each individual betrayal. After all, you can be a good husband and an exemplary father, and statistics can be spoiled by domestic tyrants, drunkards and outright womanizers, whom cheating is not a sin, but a way of salvation for a humiliated wife.Psychology: the consequences of betrayal and relationships after it
If the final break was not the result of betrayal, this does not mean at all that it will not leave a scar in the soul. Even the strongest and most courageous man is defenseless against only one feeling - love. If she is so strong that her own pride is drowning in her, then, oddly enough, this is a chance not only to forgive and take her cheating wife back into her arms, but also to maintain good relations with her and never remember her an accidental romance. You can often hear: "Be above it." But as a rule, such a remark concerns some conflicts at work, petty quarrels. But you can be higher than betrayal, higher than your opponent. It's hard, but you can always try. After all, how well you rise above this conflict depends on how well your family life can develop further. And if it so happened that your marriage broke up, then try not to keep evil. After all, the wife is gone, but it will not leave you. Don't let him make moves in your soul. It is better to find another point of support for yourself and throw off the burden of mental pain. This cannot be done right away, this disease will have to be ill for some time. But it should not be allowed to become chronic.
