Here's what not to do when he doesn't reply to your message. Why does a man not respond to SMS for a long time? What to do? If a man does not respond to messages, how to behave
If a man stops responding to SMS, a variety of thoughts come into his head: from a banal meeting and high workload at work to stealing a phone and “oh no, he is now with another!”. In fact, there can be a great many reasons. For starters, you need to calm down. If nothing foreshadowed trouble, perhaps it is so.
Put yourself in his place
If you have been dating for a long time, and a man suddenly starts to ignore your messages and there is still no call from him, you should not panic and wind up bad thoughts. It's only been a few hours. He can be busy with work, solving important issues, and so on. Agree, sometimes men are difficult to understand (probably they think the same about women). Or he just has nothing to answer you. This also happens.
By the way, sometimes, ignoring, young people want to test the feelings of their chosen one in this way and deliberately wait for decisive action on her part.
Or maybe, who knows, he wants to be alone, put his thoughts in order, and here you are with your problems: “Kitten, which dress suits me more - blue or green?” What a revaluation of values here. In any case, you should not be offended. He will call you when he is ready. Gather together all your worldly wisdom and be patient. For many men, the phone is just a means of communication. They don't have time for all these "musi-pusi".
Why doesn't he text you?
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Worst case scenario
Of course, maybe it really is about an accident or theft of a phone. Quite acceptable. Although it happens that you bored him or he is not looking for a relationship at the moment, but just wanted to have a good time with you. This happens especially often if you are still in the process of getting to know each other. Only a few dates have passed, and you have already dreamed of a magnificent wedding, a cozy country house and two children. He was not ready for such changes, and it is not a fact that he was looking for them.
If you have been dating for a long time, the relationship is not developing in the best way, he is probably tired of everything, including you
What to do if a man does not respond to messages? Let's take as a condition of the problem that you do not send him an SMS in the style of “Music! The goose is ready!” during working hours, do not write to him 10 times a day and do not spam him with kittens and hearts. But you are in love and still want to receive periodic confirmation that the object of love is also interested in you. What could be the reason for his silence?
Are you kidding? Are you not schoolchildren? Even if we assume that the money really ran out, then when he sees an SMS from his beloved woman, he can, for example:
- top up your account via Internet banking or go to the nearest terminal;
- order services on credit from a mobile operator;
- use the phone of a friend or colleague;
- call a landline phone;
- send the so-called "homeless" (then they would laugh together).
If a man is not currently on a desert island, has not gone hiking high in the mountains, has not gone on a polar expedition, then he CAN call you back or send a short message. And the only explanation for his silence is that he doesn't want to.
Banal employment can be the reason that a man does not respond to SMS. How to behave in this case depends on how long he does not call or write to you. You are lucky if your boyfriend is passionate about his work. Believe me, he really has no time to exchange emoticons with you. He may be at an important meeting or meeting. Maybe he's driving. Or the office is noisy and he just didn't hear the beep. For men, romantic relationships do not come first in life priorities. Maybe you should learn from them?
Another thing is if your chosen one has been silent for a couple of days. Then do not build illusions - employment has nothing to do with it. No matter how important the project is, there is always a minute for a smoke break, at lunch or before bedtime to write a few words: “Hi! I remember you…” If your place in his heart is somewhere between Counter-Strike and Friday beer, then don’t waste your precious time on him – he just doesn’t like you.
If I really like you, I will never forget about you.
Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo "He Just Doesn't Like You: The Truth About Men"
Sometimes, in the event of some cooling, it makes sense to think about whether you went too far. Remember if you fantasized about the future? About a house, kids, or even just a vacation together next summer? There are men who are very, well, very afraid of a serious relationship. There are some of the most striking types:
Indecisive. He often has a domineering mother. He himself is unable to make a choice. He cannot decide to change jobs or apartments. He is afraid of any news, even good, does not like surprises. Such a man is not able to fight back a boor. With such a man next to you, you will always be forced to make strategic decisions that are important for your family. It is you who will plan romantic trips. You will advise, guide and support so that your loved one makes a good career. If such a family model is close to you, then a timid, indecisive man is what you need. Therefore, take the initiative in your own hands right now, do not wait for a response to a message, but simply call and make an appointment.
He is in love and this feeling is new to him. This is the most "favorite" reason for a guy's silence for romantic young ladies. Rarely, but it does happen. He feels that he ceases to be the master of his thoughts and feelings, no longer manages his time on his own. This scares him a little, since his life before meeting you was simple, predictable and pleasant. In this case, just wait. Do not insist on frequent meetings, do not stay overnight, do not leave any items in his apartment. He will calm down, get used to it, and then - hook it up.
He is influenced from outside. Often their friends have a huge influence on our men. Which is much worse - mom. It's not curable. All you can do is just genuinely try to please. If his company accepts you, and your mother becomes your accomplice in a good way, that's it, he's in our pocket.
Although the most common reason for not calling or responding to a message is unfortunately still the same - he just doesn't like you.
Waiting for a call
Yesterday I spent the night with a guy, today he does not call me. Option one: he died. Option two: he did not like me in bed. It would be better if he, the bastard, died.
It would seem that the date went well, but for some reason after it the guy disappeared from the horizon, does not call, and does not answer your SMS. There may be many reasons for this.
You seemed too complicated, "stuffy" to him. He probably just wanted to eat a good steak in good company, and you started a song about marriage, children, responsibility, a scoundrel ex-husband, or an apartment with a mortgage.
He doesn't remember who you are. You will laugh, but this often happens. Have you ever met in nightclubs? Do you often go there not “in the hop”? So he forgot what your name is and under what circumstances he got a new contact on the phone.
He just doesn't know yet when he'll have time to see you again. A rare man likes to call or write just like that. They call to exchange information, to set up a meeting for a specific time. In the meantime, he has nothing to say on the merits, he does not call.
And, whatever one may say, it all comes down to the fact that he doesn’t really like you. You deserve to be looked after, to be sought, to sincerely want to call you theirs. Stop hypnotizing your phone and go to a new meeting!
Finally, an unusual technique
Let's do a thought experiment.
Imagine that you have the superpower to "read" men. Like Sherlock Holmes: you look at a man - and you immediately know everything about him and understand what is on his mind. You would be able to get any man and have an ideal relationship and would hardly be reading this article now in search of a solution to your problem.
Who said it's impossible? Of course, you won’t read other people’s thoughts, but otherwise there is no magic here - only psychology.
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So there are 2 kinds of men, these are real worthy men and weaklings(selfish) who think only about their own skin, don't care about the girl!
And so that you understand me, I will give a few examples from life!
Situation #1 (worthy man)
The man met you and he really liked you, and now he invited you on a first date.
And here you are walking and you because of your great love ( since before that you had not met a guy for three years, and you didn’t have about the same amount of sex), you start complimenting him, looking at him with super loving eyes!
Constantly very clumsily flatter him(that any fool will notice this), although you see the guy for the first time and know absolutely nothing about him ...
After meeting, you start bombarding him with thousands of sms(in which you confess how you adore and love him, etc.), you constantly call him on business and without business!
And then the guy realizes that this girl is sick, she is very needy and obsessed with him, and concludes that such a girl should be kept away from!
And calls her and says that they are different and do not fit each other!
But since the girl is sick of this guy, she misses this phrase and continues to fill up his SMS, but the guy no longer answers them!
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Situation #2 (selfish)
A man met you and he really liked you outwardly, since you have super figure, there is a chest and a beautiful priest (that's enough for him).
And the first 2 days (for more time it is not enough) this guy plays the role of a super strong guy, he takes care of you, takes you to places where you have never been before, tells fables, what a fine fellow he is and a merry fellow.
And over time, you begin to trust such a man, and slowly get used to him.
He takes you to an expensive restaurant fully pays for everything, takes you home by car. In general, you find yourself in a fairy tale, since you haven’t had this for a very long time!
And then it comes to sex, you get a lot of emotions, because the sex is just incredible, and then he escorts you home and disappears forever, because he got everything he wanted from you!
You start texting and calling him, but he does not answer SMS, but does not pick up the phone! And this is where the story ends!
Conclusion: If you have lost your femininity and ability to understand men, and also do not understand at all how to behave with a strong man, then in the end you will be alone and unhappy all the time!
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20 years ago, American writers Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider collected advice on how a woman can get the man of her dreams in her best-selling book. Since then, the feminist movement has revived and strengthened, and such literature has received the label "sexist". However, the "New Rules" are still being reprinted and find many fans and followers. What is the secret?
Over the years, gurus Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider have analyzed the behavior of women who are happy in their personal lives - those who have many suitors, who are successfully married and have a happy marriage. Oprah Winfrey called their bestseller Rules for Winning the Heart of the Man of Your Dreams a phenomenon and twice invited the authors to her talk show. People magazine classified the book as a must-read, and glossy magazines named it the best publication on relationships. The authors assure: over the 20 years of the existence of the “Rules”, millions of women have been able to feel their absolute effectiveness. They got a relationship full of love and respect, which spilled over into a happy and strong marriage. In The New Rules, female writers help modern women and girls communicate through Facebook, Skype, SMS, etc. and at the same time remain mysterious, maintain a hunter's instinct in a man when there are so many “easy prey” around him, get married in an era when everyone lives in civil marriages and is in no hurry to take responsibility.
"Men love difficulties and lose interest when the object of this interest - and especially a woman - gets them too easily."
“Secret way to get a guy: be a challenge for him. Treat him like you don't care about him,” urge Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider. In their opinion, it is necessary to create an atmosphere of mystery and make a man crave meeting you, which is a rarity these days. “Rules” is a way of communicating with any man (provided that he first started a conversation with you, in person or on the Internet), thanks to which he becomes obsessed with you and is ready for a serious relationship.
How to Marry the Man of Your Dreams According to Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider
Be a girl different from the rest and look like a girl different from the rest.
Do not approach a man first and do not start a conversation, do not call or write to a man first.
Do not invite men on a date via SMS, social networks, or in any other way.
Wait at least 4 hours before replying to the man's first message, and at least half an hour before replying to each subsequent message.
"Let's talk/write later": always finish everything first - and disappear from sight!
Do not reply to SMS or any other messages after midnight.
Do not accept an invitation to a Saturday date later than Wednesday. "Right girls" lead a busy life. Of course, you've already made plans for the weekend before it's Thursday! If he invites you too late, don't reprimand him. Just say you're sorry, but you're busy.
Make yourself "invisible" for instant messaging. Even if nothing is happening in your life, you should not notify the guy about it by instantly responding to his messages. As with any other form of communication, he should wait for an opportunity to talk to you. To be interesting to you, he will have to work hard. Do not deprive a man of this opportunity by immediately answering messages and sitting online for hours! Remember, you have your own life (study, work, friends, hobbies, workouts, and hopefully dates) and you only have 10 minutes to chat and no more. If a guy has a lot to say and a lot to ask you, he can do it during a date!
Don't be with him 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Long-distance relationships: let him offer to Skype more often and visit you.
Don't text men first, ignore emoticons and winks on online dating sites.
Do not pay for dinner and do not buy his love in any way.
Don't do self-destructive acts when dating married men. If he wants to see you, tell him to call you when he is single. And after that, no communication, forget it, say "next!" - and focus on finding men who are truly free.
Don't date a man who cancels your appointments more than once.
Do not send a man anything that would be unpleasant to leave with him in the event of your separation.
Don't settle for one-night stands and pointless relationships.
Do not rush to sleep with a man. The “right girl” makes a guy wait to help him fall in love with her, with her soul, with her essence – and not just with her body. The longer you delay intimacy, the longer he will be able to care for you, plan romantic meetings and dream about you. Men love challenges and don't appreciate anything that comes too easy for them, especially sex!
Don't date a man without commitment! If your relationship lasts more than a year and at the same time they are “correct” (you allowed the man to “chase you”, met him no more than 2-3 times a week, refused to spend vacations with him, did not move to live with him), then most helped him fall in love with you and want to marry. A man wants to see you more and more. But if, after a year of relationship, the man did not offer to marry him, you should tell him that you are an old-fashioned girl and are not going to meet anyone forever. If he starts making excuses, offer to take a break from the relationship. Ask him to think it over alone and call when he's ready to commit.
Oh, if our great-great-grandmothers knew how hard it is to wait for a response from a young man when you write to him on social networks. How nervous you are if he answers, but he never texts first. They would have our worries! In their time, everything was simple: I wrote a letter and wait at the window for a month or two, until the letter was taken to the neighboring province, until it was handed over, and there, either the horse fell ill, or the driver got drunk, so the answer did not come.
Modern means of communication allow you to receive an answer almost instantly. This is provided that your subject of interest can type quickly and is currently at the computer. The rhythm of our life has accelerated so much that we often get to know each other in networks, fall in love in absentia on the Internet, we make an offer by SMS.
Have you noticed that many girls love fairy tales about princesses, about a handsome prince who will definitely come, get married, and they will live happily ever after. Growing up young persons, even independent and active, everyone also dream of feelings.
And yesterday's girls expect actions, courtship, interest, and the like from young people. But today often the initiative comes from the woman herself.
Even in those strict times, when girls did not have the right to be the first to show interest in the young man they liked, they managed to do it. Fans, flies on faces, facial expressions, gestures were used.
Modern it is much easier for women to express interest in someone. It is enough just to like the material or photo you like, write a few lines, congratulate on the holiday. But whether your message goes unnoticed or turns into an interesting conversation depends on the young man. A man in love is ready to conquer Everest for you! Many other actions and words also speak of signs of attention to you, which ones - read.
There are situations when a man always answers your messages, but he never writes first. Let's try to figure it out.
Putting everything on the shelves, drawing conclusions
Why does a man not write first, but always answers? Let's try to understand the reasons indicated by the inhabitants of various forums:
Humility, inexperience
Real fact, especially for young guys not having much experience with the opposite sex. Plus, the constant advice of senior comrades: "the less we love a woman ...".
Fear of appearing uninteresting and being ridiculed
Yes, a serious reason that encourages men to wait for letters from girls, but not to write them themselves. It can and fear that some words or topics will not please the virtual interlocutor, and she will simply stop communicating. Become a laughingstock for a girl - a painful blow to self-love any man.
Employment
Serious men, whose work is not connected with the constant presence at the computer, do not have the opportunity and time to send greeting letters to girls. It often affects fatigue, especially if a person is engaged in heavy physical work.
Dislike of letters and the Internet
Not all men like to write letters. For many it is much easier to communicate by phone or in person. Haven't you met young people who can't type fast? It may be nonsense to you, but it happens.
Disease
The reason, of course, is serious, but if you have enough strength to answer, then why do they disappear if you need to write first? Or is it the unwillingness to upset the girl with a story about a deadly temperature of 37.1 ° C and an enemy bullet that struck him when approaching the computer?
Loss of all contacts and letters
It is unlikely that any of today's young people keep a paper version of notebooks with addresses and phone numbers. Therefore, a covered device can really paralyze communication with a girl for a short time. Good reason, but if the technique of a young person is constantly “buggy”, then most likely the virus wound up not in his gadget, but in relation to you.
Waiting position
This is usually the fault or too serious young people(we'll see what happens) or typical Lovelace, accustomed to female attention and how real psychologists gently stir up interest in their person.
They do not show initiative, and in response messages they subtly hook the girls on the hook of interest.
Simple human courtesy
It forces you to constantly answer the girl, but not to write first yourself and such a quality as politeness. If the letters are interesting and the young man is well brought up, then why not? Whether the girl’s interest lies behind polite communication simply as a good interlocutor or it’s not just politeness, time will tell. But is it worth it to be ignorant for months, if things are still there?
