Interesting facts about marriage. Interesting facts about family and marriage. Most monogamous marriages

Dear newlyweds! The Bible says, "A man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." You are now two halves of one whole. Take care of each other, appreciate, be decent towards each other.

Jewish wedding rings are worn only by Jewish women. Men don't wear.

Christians began using rings at weddings around 900. The Catholic Church prescribes wearing a wedding ring on the ring finger of the left hand. Orthodox Christians usually wear a wedding ring on the ring finger of their right hand.

Wedding rings are worn on the left hand in such countries as: Brazil, France, Ireland, Canada, Mexico, Slovenia, Sweden, USA, Great Britain, Italy.

In other countries such as Greece, Germany, Russia, Spain, India, Colombia, Venezuela and Chile, the wedding ring is worn on the right hand.

81% of happy couples say that relatives and friends don't interfere in their relationship. Among unhappy couples, only 38% are.

Women are happier in marriage if they believe that household chores are shared fairly between husband and wife.

The custom of kissing the newlyweds at the end of the marriage ceremony came to us from ancient Rome. Then it had a slightly different meaning - the wedding was seen as a contract, and the kiss served as a kind of seal that seals the contract.

50% of women and 33% of men hold a grudge for 10 years after a divorce.

Married men and women live longer than bachelors and unmarried people.

Every 10-13 seconds someone gets divorced on the planet.

Married people are twice as likely to go to church as unmarried people.

Marriage gives more satisfaction in life than money, sex, or even children, psychologists at Wake Forest University say.

All the presidents of the United States of America have been family men. The largest American president was John Taylor - he had fifteen offspring.

The largest family in the world belongs to the Chinese Zion Khan, who lives in one of the Indian states. He has 39 wives, 94 children and 33 grandchildren. He certainly will not be concerned that he will have no one to serve a glass of water in old age.

According to the results of a survey conducted in America, the greatest value for the vast majority of the population is a happy family.

God wants you to be happy today. He created marriage and knows how to make it happy.

We need to come to the One who is the author of marriage and ask, “Lord, how do we get out of this chaos? How can we deal with this problem? How can we make our union happy?” God will help you, no doubt. He will start talking to you and show you what you can do to solve your problem. He will get you out of trouble if you listen to Him.

There is very little information about the family structure of the peoples who inhabited the territory of Russia before the adoption of Christianity.

Chronicles say that the glades already had a monogamous family, while other Slavic peoples still had polygamy. Family relations were regulated during this period by customary law. Various sources contain indications of several ways of concluding a marriage. Among them, the most ancient is the kidnapping of the bride by the groom without her consent, however, gradually the removal of the bride begins to be preceded by collusion with her. The Slavs had a custom to kidnap those brides with whom they agreed at the games. Also often the bride was bought from her relatives. Among the meadows, the most common form of marriage was the bringing of the bride by her relatives to the house of the groom. At the same time, the consent of the bride to marriage did not matter much, although Yaroslav's Charter already contains a ban on marrying by force. The marriage ceremony was accompanied by a special ceremony: the bride was brought to the house of the groom in the evening, and she took off his shoes. The next day after the wedding, her relatives brought a dowry. Personal relationships between spouses

dependent on the form of marriage. When a bride was kidnapped, she became the property of her husband. When buying a bride, and especially when entering into a marriage with a dowry, by agreement between the groom and the bride's relatives, firstly, relations arose between the groom and these relatives, which somewhat limited the power of the husband. Secondly, there are already the first signs of giving the wife personal rights, although the husband's power was still very great. In Rus', apparently, a husband never, by law, had the right of life and death in relation to his wife. However, her husband could control her freedom.

Divorce at that time was carried out freely, and there is reason to believe that a woman could also be the initiator of the divorce in a marriage with a dowry.

With the adoption of Christianity in Rus', a collection of Byzantine family law, supplemented by Russian princes, began to operate, which was called Pilot's Book. Christianity spread very slowly, and the displacement of pagan customs was very slow. The church wedding, introduced in the 11th century, was practiced only among the upper strata of society, the rest of the population entered into marriages according to traditional rites, which were rightly considered remnants of paganism. The church constantly fought against these customs.

According to the Pilot Book, the wedding was preceded by betrothal - an agreement during which the parents of the bride and the groom agreed on the marriage and agreed on the dowry. The act of betrothal was drawn up with a special notation; in case of violation of the promise to marry, a penalty was established - a charge that sometimes reached significant amounts. At the same time, the priest who performed the betrothal gave the wedding record, which had to be presented at the wedding. The marriage age was set at 15 for the groom and 13 for the bride. The upper age limit was not formally set, but the priest was forbidden to marry the elderly. Marriages between people with a large age difference and between close relatives were forbidden. It was forbidden to marry in the presence of another undissolved marriage. Mutual consent to marriage according to church laws was always necessary, but in reality the consent of the bride was almost never asked. It was forbidden to enter into a fourth marriage.

Divorce became more and more difficult. The main reason for divorce was adultery, since divorce for adultery is mentioned in the Gospel. The obligation to divorce an unfaithful wife existed only for the clergy, but the right to divorce her was recognized, of course, for everyone. The husband was considered to have committed adultery only if he was in connection with a married woman. The reason for divorce was also considered the inability to marry, the infertility of the wife, the unknown absence of one of the spouses, an incurable disease, such as leprosy. During the period under review, divorce by mutual consent of the spouses was still possible.

Personal relationships between spouses also change with the adoption of Christianity. A married woman is no longer regarded as her husband's property, but as a relatively independent person. For the murder of his wife, the husband was punished, and the murdering wife was buried alive in the ground. Mukh could pawn his wife, giving the pawnbroker the right to use the subject of pledge. Relations between parents and children in Ancient Rus', as elsewhere in this period, were built on paternal authority. The legitimacy of origin at the time in question was not yet decisive.

With the adoption of Christianity, only legal kinship gradually begins to be given importance. The Code of 1648 prohibited the legalization of illegitimate children, even in the case of marriage of the parents. The children were not in a legal relationship with their father and were recognized only as relatives of their mother.

Parental power in Rus' was very strong, although the parents never formally had the right to life and death over their children. However, the murder of children was not considered as a serious crime (for the murder of a child, the father was sentenced to a year in prison and church repentance). Children who killed their parents were subject to the death penalty. Forcing children to obey was carried out by the father himself with the help of domestic punishments. Children could not complain about their parents. For only one attempt to file a complaint, the Code of 1648 ordered "to beat them with a whip mercilessly."

Parents could also apply to the public authorities to punish their children. At the same time, the case was not considered on the merits; only one complaint from the parents was enough to sentence the children to whipping. Parents even had the right to give their children into servitude.

The reforms of Peter I marked the beginning of a new period in the development of family law. Decisive importance was given to voluntary marriage.

In 1810, the Synod compiled a list of prohibited degrees of kinship. Now it was forbidden to marry ascendants, descendants, as well as lateral relatives up to the seventh degree inclusive. In 1744, by the Decree of the Synod, marriages of persons over 80 years of age were prohibited. In 1830, the marriage age was raised to 18 for men and 16 for women. For marriage, it was necessary to obtain the consent of the parents, regardless of the age of the bride and groom. A marriage entered into without the consent of the parents, however, was considered valid, but the children were disinherited. Persons who were in the civil or military service were obliged to obtain consent to the marriage of their superiors.

Marriage from 1775 could only take place in the parish church of one of the people getting married. The wedding was still preceded by an agreement. The marriage was concluded in the personal presence of the bride and groom, an exception was made only for persons of the imperial family who married foreign princesses.

Marriage could be declared invalid if it was committed as a result of violence or in the case of insanity of one or both spouses. The marriage between persons who were in prohibited degrees of kinship was also invalid; in the presence of another undissolved marriage; with a person over 80 years old; with the face of the clergy, doomed to celibacy; Orthodox with non-Christians.

Divorce during the imperial period became less and less free. The reasons for divorce were: adultery of any of the spouses, bigamy, inability to marry, an attempt on the life of a spouse, monasticism, exile to hard labor.

The divorce procedure in imperial Russia was very complicated. The divorce proceedings were carried out in court. The process itself was of a mixed adversarial and investigative nature. Decisive importance was attached not to the credibility of the evidence for the judges, but to the availability of strictly defined evidence, which, for example, in adultery, was the testimony of two or three eyewitnesses. In practice, this led to numerous abuses and bribery of false witnesses. In the case of meogo marriage, even a criminal punishment was possible.

The personal rights and obligations of spouses during the period of the empire also underwent significant changes. First of all, with the perception of European forms of life, the very position of women in society has changed. The power of the husband, formally preserved until 1917, is acquiring more civilized forms. So since 1845, the husband has no right to subject his wife to physical punishment.

The place of residence of the spouses was determined by the place of residence of the husband. The wife was obliged to follow him, otherwise she could be forced into her husband's house.

Beginning in the 18th century, a wife had the right to seek judicial separation for ill-treatment.

Since the time of Peter the Great, the wife's dowry has been regarded as separate property, which the husband cannot even use. Also, the wife had the right to freely dispose of property without requiring letters of authorization or credentials from her husband.

The right to maintenance was recognized only for the wife, whom the husband was obliged to support. This obligation ceased if the wife did not fulfill her marital obligations, in particular, she refused to follow her husband.

In the times of Peter the Great, the power of parents over children was softened: parents no longer have the right to forcibly marry their children or send them to a monastery.

The right of parents to use physical punishment against children was never abolished in pre-revolutionary Russia. Beginning in the 18th century, it gradually became limited to the prohibition of maiming and injuring children, as well as the responsibility for driving them to suicide. Parents could still use public measures against recalcitrant children. So it was allowed, at the request of parents, to imprison children for a period of three to four months for disobedience to parents or a depraved life.

The Russian legislation of that time did not know the deprivation of parental rights. With one exception: Orthodox parents could be deprived of parental rights if they raised their children in a different faith.

Parents not only had the right, but also the obligation to raise their children. Education consisted in preparing children for useful activities: determining sons for service, and daughters for marriage. Parents were also required to provide maintenance to minor children in accordance with their abilities.

In the 18th century, illegitimate children followed the mother's condition. The father was only obliged to support the illegitimate child and his mother, but this maintenance was considered not as alimony, but as compensation for harm. The military article of 1716 obligated a single person whose unmarried mistress gave birth to a child to provide her and the child with a livelihood.

Under Alexander I, it began to be allowed to legalize children born before marriage, in the event of their parents entering into marriage with each other. This rule did not apply to children born of adultery.

Adoption in Russia was allowed to all estates, except for the nobles, who could adopt only if there were no descendants and lateral relatives of the same surname. Peasants could adopt by assigning a child to their family, but he received the right to allotment only if the adoption was allowed by the community.

In the late XIX - early XX century, all classes received the right to adopt children. The adoptive parent could only be a person over 50 years old, between him and the adopted child there should have been a difference of at least 18 years. It was forbidden to adopt persons who were married and had their own children. Since 1902, it was allowed to adopt their illegitimate children.

Almost immediately after the October Revolution of 1917, two major reforms of family law were carried out. On December 18, 1917, a decree “On civil marriage, children and the introduction of books of acts of civil status” was issued. According to this decree, the only form of marriage for all citizens of Russia, regardless of religion, was marriage in state bodies. The conditions for marriage have been greatly simplified. It was enough to reach the age of marriage: 16 years for women and 18 years for men and the mutual consent of future spouses. The obstacles to marriage were the following: the presence of a mental illness in one of the spouses, the condition of the bride and groom in prohibited degrees of relationship descendants, siblings), and the absence of another undissolved marriage.

The second most important provision contained in this decree was the equalization of the rights of legitimate and illegitimate children. In addition, it was possible to establish paternity in court.

Following the first decree, on December 19, 1917, a second no less significant act was adopted - the decree “On the dissolution of marriage”. Divorce cases initiated at the unilateral application of the spouse were transferred to the jurisdiction of local courts. Questions about who the minor children will stay with, about the payment of funds for their maintenance, and also about alimony to the ex-wife were resolved by agreement between the spouses. In the absence of an agreement, these issues were considered by the court. It is interesting to note that the right to maintenance was recognized at that time only for the wife, but not for the husband.

Both decrees were very progressive for that time. And in 1994, the State Duma of the Russian Federation created a working group to prepare the last Family Code, which was adopted by the State Duma of the Russian Federation on December 8, 1995.

The family is an important cell of society, the greatest value for every person. Each family is unique in its own way and is not like the others. We have collected the TOP 8 most interesting families, in our opinion, that can surprise society.

The real Rapunzel family lives in Illinois. The length of the hair of a mother and her three daughters reaches about 5 m. Mom, Tere Lynn, has not cut her hair since adolescence, the length of which is more than 1.5 m. She inspires three daughters with her example, but her younger brothers are still on the sidelines. You will not envy the head of the family, who has to spend a round sum of money on shampoos and conditioner. Each time the family spends a large bottle of shampoo on washing their hair.

Social networks blew up a photo with the title (“Mom, twin and me”), which was posted on Twitter by Kaylan Mahoms from Indianapolis, USA. For many users, this image has become a real mystery, a phenomenon. And this is not surprising: it is unrealistic to understand which of them is the mother and which are the twins. Mom and daughters are like two drops of water. You guessed which one is which. I haven't yet.

Meet Zion Chan - a giant man, the head of the world's largest family, who has 39 wives, 94 children, 14 daughters-in-law and 33 grandchildren. In total, the family has 181 people, but as you understand, this is not the limit of all the possibilities of Zion Chan!

This huge family from an Indian village lives in a 4-story large house that resembles a hostel. Strict discipline reigns in the family: the whole life lies on the shoulders of women. It's scary to imagine how much food this family eats in one day!

In such a large family, Zion Chan feels like a real king. He sleeps in a separate large room, on a spacious bed, and decides on his own when and with what wife he wants to spend the night.

In this section, the first place deservedly goes to the famous, scandalous Kardashian family from hot California. Kim and her sisters are on everyone's lips: Kourtney, Khloe, Kendall and Kylie, as well as their entrepreneurial mother Kris Jenner. Thanks to the American reality show on E! The family made a lot of money. Rumor has it that for one episode the family receives at least 80 thousand dollars. Just imagine for a moment what a round sum comes out if the first series was released in 2007 and filming continues to this day.

5. Family from the past

The Rozov family from Yaroslavl is a family from the past that lives in Domostroy, yearns for Tsarist Russia, wears only clothes of past centuries and adheres to the life of the past.

Keisha, 1.98 meters, and Wilko, 2.13 meters tall from Dagenham, take the honorable first place in the Guinness Book of Records as the tallest married couple in the world. Their 6-year-old son Lucas reached the height of an eleven-year-old boy, the growth of a four-year-old daughter was above the 1 meter mark, and the newborn daughter Iona was born with a height of 56 centimeters. Tall parents produce tall children.

The Kelly Family is an Irish-American family that has been in the music world since 1980 and has sold over 20 million albums. The founder of the group was the head of the family, Daniel Kelly, who, having married a second time to Barbara Ann, actively began to teach all family members to music and singing, and soon their first album appeared, and then rapid growth in the world of show business.

The British Bartlett family has set a world record as the oldest family in the world. The joint age of four sisters and a brother is 500 years, 5 centuries. These are: 102-year-old Kathleen, 100-year-old Gladys, 94-year-old Lillian, 92-year-old Leonard and 86-year-old Courtney, who were born in the early twentieth century. They survived two World Wars, 19 Prime Ministers and five British monks.

We wish you all good health and longevity.

- The Oneida Colony, established in New York in 1848, advocated "complex" or group marriage, in which every woman was married to every man. They also practiced "scientific control" where the parents-to-be were supervised by a committee of physical and mental health. - Traditionally, bridesmaids should be dressed in similar dresses to the bride to confuse the groom's rivals, evil spirits, and robbers. - Marriage of spouses under 25 years of age greatly increases the risk of divorce. In addition, the risk is higher when the woman is much older than the man, although this is not a very influential factor. - In an Italian wedding, glass or mirror breaking is a common event. It is believed that the number of fragments will be equal to the number of happy years that the couple will live together. - The word "husband" (husband) comes from the Old Norse "husbondi" or "master of the house" (literally, hus, "house" + bondi = "master home, resident"). - Some scholars have traced the "fate" of the word "bride" (bride) to the Proto-Indo-European root "bru", which means "cook, boil broth." - The term "groom" (groom) comes from the old English word "guma" which means "person." - The level of education of people affects the age at which they marry. In states with higher numbers of college-educated adults, couples marry later. The opposite trend is observed in countries with a low level of education of the population. - The probability that the first marriage will end in divorce within the first 5 years is 20%. With cohabitation, this indicator reaches 50%.

- The Code of Hammurabi (circa 1790 BC) includes ancient Babylonian scriptures and the laws of marriage. These early laws defined marriage as a contract that served to protect the feminine side and at the same time limit it. Under the Code, a man had every right to divorce his wife if she was unable to have children, or she was a "vagrant" who humiliated her husband in front of the public and neglected her home. In addition, the wife must "drown herself" in the river or commit suicide if she cheated on her husband.

“People who lose their marriage during a serious illness live much less than those who are widowed, have a happy family, or have never been married at all.

– In ancient Greece, Solon (638-538 BC) made marriage obligatory, and in Athens under Pericles (495-429 BC), bachelors were excluded from certain government positions if they did not have a wife and children. In Sparta, single and childless people received contempt from society. In ancient Rome (63 BC), laws were quickly passed that forced everyone to marry and punished those who remained single.

- The marriage ceremony usually ends with a kiss, because in ancient Rome, the kiss had a legal connection with the completion of contracts, which meant entry into legal force.

Divorce-related stress affects the body's immune system and its ability to resist disease.

“Throughout most of history, marriage was not necessarily based on mutual love. Sometimes couples came together for the mutual acquisition of property or the creation of a joint business. And even now such a situation is not uncommon.

A white man from New Orleans in the late nineteenth century received a blood transfusion from a black woman he loved in an attempt to overcome laws against discrimination. He claimed that he also became the same as her and could marry. How this story ended is unknown.

“Compared to single people, married people, on average, accumulate four times as much money and assets. Those who divorced have 77% less valuable property than those who are single.

- Married older people are more likely to stay healthy if they exercise, stop smoking, eat right and have regular medical check-ups.

– About 60% of married adults have at least one job.

– The first written mention of same-sex marriage comes from Ancient Rome. While Christianity was being formed as the official religion, these ceremonies took place without much discussion. In 1989, Denmark became the first nation after Christianity to legally recognize same-sex marriage.

- Words make up only 7% of our communication with anyone, including between spouses. Tone of voice makes up 38%, and body language is responsible for the rest (55%) of the relationship in a married couple.

– More than 75% of people who marry for the first time end up getting divorced.

-Women who talk about a fair division of domestic labor tend to have happier marriages than women who are under the stress of dissatisfaction with their husbands not doing their homework.

Researchers have found a huge drop in relationship satisfaction after 4 years of marriage, and a significant drop by age 7 to 8. In fact, half of all divorces happen in the first seven years of marriage.

Family people are twice as likely to go to church.

- Married couples with children get divorced much less frequently than those without children.

– The number of cohabiting males and females aged 65 and over doubled between 1990 and 2000.

– 15-year studies have shown that an increased level of human happiness before marriage is a guarantee of happiness in family life.

1. If you think that marriage to someone else would be much easier and more enjoyable, then you are most likely wrong.

2. Most family problems are fixable. Indeed. Even the toughest of them.

3. The word "divorce" as blackmail is a dangerous weapon. If you shout in your hearts: "I'm filing for divorce," you will make your partner much more painful than if you shouted, for example, "I'm so disappointed in our relationship!"

4. The expression "behind the husband as behind a stone wall" should be forgotten and deleted from the lexicon. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but not without difficulties. And you must overcome these difficulties together, without placing all the responsibility on only one of the partners.

5. You can be sure that people cannot be changed. But this is a delusion. I married my husband when I was in my early 20s. If we hadn't changed all this time, we would still be naive children who continue to insist that we should live "the way I said."

6. You can have both a happy family and an unhappy one. Everything is in the hands of both of you.

7. It is difficult for each of us to live. The reasons are just different for everyone. If you have problems at work, they will become your wife's problems too. And vice versa. So after the registry office, you can no longer be responsible only for yourself. On the other hand, sometimes sharing your problems with someone else is the best way to deal with life in general.

8. People who are unhappy in marriage think that the problem is in the very institution of marriage. They say that it is outdated or artificial in itself. But everything that happens in your family is the result of your own efforts, not statistics. Why do you refuse to create something worthwhile?

9. Marriage is a continuous study. None of us approaches family life “fully armed”. If the situation gets out of hand, it only means that you lack the skills necessary to overcome problems. Develop them!

10. The struggle for power in the family is not only inevitable, but also necessary. None of us can build healthy and stable relationships if we do not learn how to solve difficult issues, and in the right situations, take responsibility for ourselves. Find out in what matters who will be the main, empirically.

11. No spouse can resolve your internal complexes and save you from childhood psychological trauma. If you think that thanks to your spouse you can feel safe, then nothing will work until you gain inner stability. You will have to continue to grow and develop - whether you are married or not.

12. Love is stronger, the more trials you have overcome with your spouse. The more difficulties, the easier it will be for you to enjoy the moments when you are doing well.

13. Marriage is a long negotiation about how you will do business. This is money. This is sex. This is raising a child. This is a household chore. You can fight each other, or you can cooperate. Cooperation, as practice shows, is much more productive.

14. Even the most stubborn of you can learn to back off. Take my word for it.

15. In most cases, when your spouse is angry or sad, you are not to blame. Just remember this.

16. Devotion will help you in difficult times. Didn't you promise that you'd be together until death do you part? That's reason enough to hold on to your family with all your might. Even when it seems that it no longer makes sense. Believe me, in most cases this makes sense.

17. Marriage cannot make you better or worse. Ultimately, it's your own choice.

18. Complaining and constant criticism is not the same as asking for change.

19. Discouragement is one of the biggest threats to a marriage. I saw many families that fell apart only because one of the spouses gave up ahead of time.

20. Divorce statistics tell us that every second family does not stand the test of time, right? Not really. It's just that half of the family people follow those behaviors that are guaranteed to lead to failure. And realizing this simple truth can change everything.

21. Being good is easy. And it helps.

22. Say "thank you" to each other more often.

23. A happy family is when you do not annoy yourself, and do not annoy your partner.

24. Any marriage stumbles upon boredom, frustration, "iron" arguments and slamming doors. Your task is not to build universal scale tragedies out of this.

25. Keeping your heart open isn't always easy.

26. Love asks many questions. But she also gives answers when you think you've made a mistake. Trust love!

27. Marriage is not an antidote to loneliness. Communication, intimacy and ties between spouses are not constant. Sometimes we work together. Sometimes it doesn't. It is important that your spouse can comfort you when you have made your own mistake.

28. It's easy to drive on well-worn ruts. Work, home, TV, dinner, sex. How do you spend your Saturday evening? Add variety.

29. A significant part of successful marriages is the result of the work of one of the spouses. Psychologists call him a "guardian." You should have a person you can rely on in difficult times. The person who serves as your fulcrum. If your spouse is like that, bravo. But try to reciprocate him. We all sometimes mope and sad - even if outwardly we seem strong and independent.

30. The best thing you can do during an argument is to just stop it. Do not find out who is right and who is wrong. Just take a break and chill. You will return to this issue later.

31. Some conflicts cannot be resolved by compromise. We can't have half a child or buy half a travel package. The best way out is when one says "yes" to please the other, and the other realizes that this is a gift.

32. Quarrels rarely happen for their true reasons. The place where you keep the soap dish or the mess in the kitchen cannot cause a huge scandal. If this happens to you, then there are much deeper problems. Try to get through to your partner and figure out what's up when he cools down.

33. There is a big difference between "happy right now" and "lived a long and happy life." None of us can be happy 24/7. Thank God we don't have to be happy all the time.

34. When you think to yourself that you have to say something important, but are in doubt, it means that you really should.

35. Learn to make plans. Jointly. If you think you're going to have a great weekend someday later, you probably never will.

36. One of you should go ahead. Ask for forgiveness first. Be the first to compromise. To leave the room during a quarrel - the first. Forgiveness is also the first. Why not be that person in your family?