The guy says you're fat. My husband says you're fat

I recently witnessed an amazing story. A doctor was called for a girl who fainted in a fitness center. Among other questions from the doctor, the girl who woke up - a miniature, fragile doll - was asked what her weight and height were. And if the height was normal - 170 cm, then in response to the second part of the question, she hesitated, blushed and said: 52 already, she has gained weight.

Olga Krainova-Writer, TV presenter, founder of the Good Wife school of education

Everyone who heard widened their eyes, including the doctor. There were especially many “indignant” people among those who tried to lose extra (really extra!) kilograms in the same fitness center. And almost every one of them thought: “Are you getting fat? I wish I had a figure like that!”

If you think about it, this statement is quite common. Girls really often say the phrase “I’m fat!” For what? Why does a girl with a beautiful figure say this? And why does a girl who really is overweight say this? Let's try to look inside this statement and “read between the lines”, the real meaning of what was said.

1. If a girl’s figure does not deserve such a statement. Don’t be immediately horrified by what was said. It is quite possible that the girl has inflated demands on herself. If all her life after puberty she weighed 46 kg and suddenly gained weight to 50, it will be almost impossible to convince her that she looks great, because she has her own standard of ideal weight in her head. And if this does not threaten her health, then it is her right to gain or lose excess.

It may also be that by the word “fat” she does not mean extra pounds at all, but the hated cellulite. It is known that the thinnest women go for a variety of torture massage procedures, undergo fat-burning cocktails and do body wraps that remove fat - locally in the right areas. And they do it zealously and until victory. One doctor I know asked a girl who came for the 5th fat-burning wrap procedure: “Do you want to disappear?” The girl did not want to disappear, but she went to the procedures. Another possible option is if, in the girl’s opinion, one part of the body has gained weight: for example, the arms. This often happens if you quit working out in the gym: fat tissue will quickly fill the places where there was only muscle tissue before. And then, the girl, still just as fragile and sophisticated, looking at her slightly plump arms, can assure: “I’m fat!”

2. If the girl really is overweight. And by excess weight, I don’t mean stupid formulas for calculating body weight - but rather ungraceful sides falling out of jeans, or a tummy in a crease. In this case, with her statement about herself, she seems to apologize for her appearance: “We ourselves know, we have too much.” And here the reason lies in self-doubt.

However, whatever the reason, if you also like to say such things, you should not do it for the following reasons.

First. The impression you make on people. When people hear public self-criticism from their interlocutor, they pay attention to exactly what you said. Besides, it's rude. You put them in an awkward position, and they need to somehow get out of it: either they begin to refute your words, or confirm them. In any case, this is an indecent “pulling the blanket” over yourself, or even over your problems. Think about it, is it appropriate to discuss your problems (real or psychological) with everyone? In the end, this may even push people away from you, because it’s difficult to communicate with you, and not at all because of the extra centimeters.

Second. Your body hears everything. Yes Yes! Remember the experiment with water. We took three glasses with the same water. In one glass they said nasty and unpleasant things about how ugly the water was. They did nothing with the second, but on the third they whispered about how beautiful the water in the glass was, how clean and fresh it was. A few days later, they looked at the water molecule from each glass under a microscope. In the first, the molecules were uneven, ugly, and deformed. The second one was unchanged, and from the third glass it was the most beautiful. With long, graceful patterns, like snowflakes. Therefore, even if you do not believe in energy flows, at least believe in physics and proven experiments, and do not intentionally disfigure your body with cruel statements.

And last but not least, how to respond to statements of this kind? Depending on your relationship and the closeness of contact, you can choose one of the following.

1. Tell her you think she's beautiful! That you like her butt (butt?), and that this is exactly what you have always dreamed of seeing in your girlfriend. Praise this particular place of hers more often, and the complex will melt away by itself. In the end, it was formed precisely because someone once told her differently.

2. If it's just a friend. If there really is a problem, recommend a good doctor who will remove everything unnecessary with procedures, and go with her to support her. After all, a girl of any weight looks beautiful if her waist is emphasized. Then, against the background of a pronounced waist, even a big butt looks very appetizing. Who would say that Anfisa Chekhova looks bad? And all because she has “extra” where she needs it.

If the problem is far-fetched from the series: “Dreams of 46 kg,” honestly tell her that despite the fact that she is beautiful in appearance, she is losing her attractiveness due to behavior that speaks of insecurity. Praise her and ask her not to fool around anymore.

I know for sure that every girl who does not allow herself to be happy comes up with a reason for this. Someone says: first I’ll raise children, and then I’ll think about myself, someone says, first I’ll buy an apartment, and then I’ll look for a husband, someone says, I’ll lose 5 kg and start going on dates. Life around us - today and now. Don't clutter it with unnecessary thoughts and ineffective statements. As Pablo Picasso said: “Everything you can imagine is real!” Imagine yourself as the most beautiful and be happy!

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Of course, not only the husband can comment on appearance, it can be colleagues, relatives, and even his own children, but in partnerships this is especially hurtful and has its own dynamics.

Some statistics as a preface: according to one study, more than half of those surveyed would like their partner to lose weight. Another study tells us that people in happy relationships gain weight, while those in unhappy relationships gain weight, explaining that food and love are closely connected to our brains.

What is the most important thing to follow from the above? You are NOT alone if you are bothered by the “lose weight” attacks from your husband/partner. You are NOT alone if your body has changed since starting a relationship.

Of course, this does not make it any less painful to hear “you should lose weight,” and such accusations fall heavily on the body, which seems to deprive you of a loved one, but is it really so? Is it really the body that is to blame for the reproaches directed at you?

Let's try to consider why exactly this reproach becomes part of the relationship. In this article we will talk about reproaches towards women as a more common family pattern, but everything that is said below can be directed against men in the same way.

1. Marriage as a project, the partner's body as a social status

In one of the Tatler magazine articles dedicated to Melania Trump, according to an “anonymous source,” it was written that Donald Trump allowed his wife to have a child with him only if it did not ruin her figure, and she would make every effort to ensure that her body after childbirth it looked like it did on our wedding day. We don’t know whether this is true or not, but the fact that for a certain type of man his wife’s appearance plays the role of status along with an expensive car, an elite apartment and a solid bank account remains a fact.

But again, this has nothing to do with the body, but only with society, where the appearance of a spouse is a marker of social status - who you can afford.

If Russian merchants of past centuries boasted to each other who had a fatter cat and wife, today it’s the opposite - thinness (fortunately, at least not of a cat) is associated with success and wealth. And in this case, the partner’s reproaches are associated with anxiety about the loss of one’s status. We are not always talking about presidents or oligarchs - a middle-income citizen can worry no less about “what people will say” if his wife has gained weight or his smartphone is not the latest model.

The rich have always set trends, just as stereotypes about health scanning based on appearance existed long before “fat equals sick.” In a peasant family, a “thin woman” had no chance of getting married due to stereotypes about poor health and problems during childbirth.

When marriage is some kind of project (about status, about free labor or the heir’s teacher), then those entering into it enter into an unspoken agreement and begin to get angry if one of the parties violates this agreement. Nothing personal, just business. Only the body has nothing to do with it.

1. Microaggressions are a way to relieve tension

Any relationship - friendly, business, partner - gives rise to a certain tension (because to maintain it you need to inhibit your desires and periodic concessions), and the quality of the relationship is determined precisely by the WAY to relieve this tension.

One of the not the most constructive ways is microaggressions. Constant jabs that can always be wrapped up in “Well, you don’t understand jokes,” “I accidentally said it.” That is, for example, a woman cannot accurately quote how and when her partner told her that he was dissatisfied with her body, but, nevertheless, she intensely feels the presence of this topic in “random” phrases like: “Masha has lost a lot of weight, here’s her husband.” I’m glad” or “Mom gave us cabbage here, she says it’s good for you and low in calories.”

In the vast world of fatphobia, the insult “fat” is universal for any woman, regardless of body weight. The anxiety “suddenly I’ve gained weight” concerns anyone, which means the seed of doubt can be sown in everyone, which becomes a universal weapon for expressing aggression with the aim of hurting.

Why microaggressions? Because direct aggression like “fat fool”, “you’re so overfed that’s disgusting”, “you look disgusting” - this is such a toxic level of relationships that in terms of psychological consequences it differs little from direct physical violence, and in this case the question is about one’s own mental safety and methods its achievement comes first, if there is a resource to cope with it without outside help. There is no time for reflection on what, how and why, this is a question of ending such situations as quickly as possible.

But, on the other hand, if both partners are doing well with a sense of humor and light sarcasm, which, as we know, are constructive ways to relieve tension (sublimation) of aggression, then there is nothing destructive about it. A sense of humor and self-irony has saved more than one marriage if both parties had a desire to preserve it.

Sometimes I had to observe families in which there was a sarcastic squabble: “Uchi-puti, my chubby little pie, what are you with us today?” - “Judging by our financial situation, I am a pie with cabbage from Auchan at a discount” - did not in the least affect self-esteem and did not give rise to anxiety, but were a silent agreement of permissible jokes, a kind of family black humor.

But everything, of course, is individual, and if such jokes hurt you, and your partner, knowing this, continues to tease you, then it’s no longer funny.

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Many women are familiar with the problem of lack of attention from their husbands, and he, in turn, constantly looks at thin girl models. And it also happens that you can hear from him either a hint or a direct demand to lose weight.

And it doesn’t even matter what kind of figure you have - ideal or imperfect, but he once fell in love with you. Is it true then that men do not love for their appearance? What to do in such situations? How to react correctly to his words? Is it worth drawing any conclusions for yourself?

Let's be honest, most women would not even think about losing weight if it weren't for their husband's words. And we didn’t think about it as we got older. Perhaps it’s worth losing a couple of extra pounds, otherwise your husband will start not only looking at skinny people, but also cheating?

In such cases, it is worth remembering that a woman should lose weight primarily for herself, and not for someone else, even if it is her husband. Constantly trying to lose weight to please her husband can lead a woman not only to emotional and moral exhaustion, but also lead to a more serious illness.

Everyone knows the truth that absolutely all concepts in our world are relative. And appearance is no exception to this rule. The world of film industry and high fashion has imposed on us the ideal of a thin, almost anorexic figure. But, in reality, the situation is somewhat different, and there are much more men who like plump women.

Can a man tell the woman he loves that she is fat?

To be honest, smart men will not be able to say this to their beloved woman. Remember and try to assess the situation adequately, from the outside. Perhaps it was a joke, with slight irony. It’s true that even a joke can hurt a person very deeply.

If you have always had this weight or large bones, or you are a tall woman, then you don’t even have to think about losing weight. You won’t be able to change yourself, but you will torture yourself – that’s for sure. Why torture yourself?

There are situations when women gain weight for a variety of reasons. In such cases, it's worth a try. But, at the same time, this must be done wisely and without excessive torture.

What to do if your husband tells you to lose weight?

First of all, you need to sit down and calmly talk about this topic with your husband. Ask him directly if you suit him the way you are. There is no need for any accusations or ingratiation - they will only make the situation worse. If your weight is extremely important to him, and you cannot correct the situation, then it is better to find out everything right away, without delaying it.

In some situations, if your husband says that you are fat, this may indicate that he is not ready for the next step, for example, having a child. And in this way, he tries to manipulate you.

What to do in such a situation? It would probably be better to immediately abandon joint plans, since he may not change his opinion, and the situation will only worsen over time.

If your partner firmly takes such a manipulative position, then you are unlikely to get an “honest” answer. In such a situation, you need to speak to your husband in his own language - use reciprocal manipulation. This will give you a chance to agree that he will not torment you with losing weight, and you will not demand anything from him either. But you shouldn’t do this first - this should be a response to his attempt at manipulation. Then your spouse will not be able to accuse you of putting pressure on him.

Why is it worth listening to your husband's remark?

Pay attention to how your husband tells you that you are fat. If his statement sounds insulting, then, probably, it’s not even worth talking about real feelings. If such a remark sounds like a hint or advice, then try to listen.

Remember one thing, if you still want to lose weight, in any case, you will win. By starting to take care of yourself, not only about your weight, but also your health, you will show how... And this is extremely important.

You should take care of yourself only of your own free will, and not in order to please your husband. You have to carry yourself in your arms, and then there is a high probability that your husband will have a desire to do the same.

You must know your worth and, under no circumstances, develop dependence on your husband. How you treat yourself is how other people will treat you. You can endlessly argue on the topic that appearance is not the main thing, and if a person falls in love, it will not be for his figure. In most cases, these are just excuses to justify your own laziness.

It is necessary to completely eradicate from yourself the feeling of guilt that your husband cultivates with constant comments about your weight. He is simply manipulating you.

There are many more opinions on this matter. Here are the most common:

• if your husband reprimands you because of your weight, it means he is interested in you and he just wants you to always look good,
• If there is respect in the couple, then no complaints will be made. When it does come to this issue, the husband will do it very correctly. For example, he will suggest going to the gym together or changing your diet and eating habits together,
• You can often hear that a woman's weight in no way affects her happiness, but it is worth taking care of yourself.

My husband constantly says that I need to lose weight! What men love with their eyes! The question is, why did he love me then? Kohl says every day that she’s fat! After all, on the day we met, I was even fatter. How to understand this? Why do men like thin people?

- And how do you tolerate it? It seems to me that it is not normal for your husband to say that you are fat.

Husband is rude...

Find another husband who won't hint at being overweight.

Your husband's attitude towards you is terrible. But you can also take it as an incentive. Lose weight. Sign up for the gym. Be beautiful

I don't know if men like skinny people. But after this I would wonder if this man is worth my attention...

Your husband is just teasing you, not everyone has to be skinny

When your husband says you need to lose weight, he wants you to strive for perfection.

You know the author, my husband also completely fell in love with me, he also once insisted that I lose weight... during my 2nd pregnancy and childbirth, I lost weight without dieting, from toxicosis. And the result? My husband found another... fat one. So then think that men like thin people. And now he whines, saying that before there was something to hold on to, but now there are only bones. Where is the logic? There is no logic. So, first of all, love yourself for who you are and if you change your figure, then only for the sake of your beloved and not for the sake of men! And with your husband, in response to his reproaches, you find something to reproach him with

I wonder if your husband is a handsome athlete? Most often, ordinary gastropods are indignant out loud, as they suddenly feel like they deserve more. If he really is an athlete, you should listen to his opinion and common interests will bring you even closer together. Fizkult-hello!!!

On the one hand, it’s terrible that your husband tells you this so directly. On the other hand, it’s good when spouses discuss problems and various dissatisfaction with each other. Much better than keeping everything to yourself.

My husband just lacks tact. Telling a woman so directly that she is fat is completely rude!

It's not about weight and it's not about the fact that men like thin people: either your husband has someone else, or someone spoke badly about you and shamed him.

I remembered an anecdote... The husband returns home, the wife washes the floor. He slapped her on the ass and said: “Get your combine harvester out of the way,” she was offended. And at night her husband climbs on her with intimate intentions:

“Well, turn to me, darling.”

His wife: “Right now! I’ll have to turn around my harvester just because of one spikelet! Turn away and grind by hand!“

Play sports. And you will get a good figure, and show your husband that you are a gorgeous woman! And if he continues to be indignant at your figure, you will find something better. There are many handsome men in the hall.

The main thing is not to let yourself down to the level of a fool, and the fact that your husband talks about being overweight is, of course, offensive.

I would just add that our heroine, quite likely, with desire and work, will achieve an ideal or close to ideal shape (remember that ideals are a subjective thing), but her wife - nature deprived her of humanity - is a much more tragic flaw than being overweight.

How unpleasant it must be to listen to comments about weight from a loved one. Start eating right and your weight will normalize. Be strong.

Very simple! Because the cult of great weight loss, all men now like skinny! He hears this nonsense everywhere, that’s all... And not because there’s something wrong with you. As a matter of principle, I eat cakes as a sign of protest, get fat and enjoy life! And I assure you that when I weighed 47 kg (after the divorce) no one looked at me, but now they stare, well, it’s probably because I’m ugly fat, and I stand out from the masses that eat flaxseed porridge

When your husband says that you need to lose weight, it’s strange. That’s what insecure men say, I’ve changed 100 times: getting fat and losing weight, and my man has never said that. And what can I say now, he has already made his choice, let him remain silent in a rag.

Well, this probably means that your husband loved you not for your appearance, but for your inner world. And now he wants not only to please your soul, but also your eyes. Don't be offended by comments about excess weight. Sign up for a fitness class and lose weight. And if he speaks very rudely, then rub his nose in it.

Lose weight and find another husband, let him admire you.

In my opinion, it is much more effective to give your woman flowers, for example, for no reason or to arrange some other pleasant thing; she will quickly begin to preen herself and try to become the best for her man. But this is the case when it comes to performance. It’s just that sometimes men behave this way not in order to push a woman to change, but to appease their own inadequacy. I could be wrong, of course. I'm not an expert on people.

My husband also constantly tells me that I need to lose weight, I weigh 50 kg. And I don't know why they say that.

It is not necessary to be thin as a board, but if your husband allows himself to say such things, then everything is very bad. And you need to change something in your life. Either a figure or a husband.

The guy called me fat for a long time (I had a small belly), and when I involuntarily lost weight, he said that he liked it the way it was before.

When your husband directly says “lose weight,” you should listen and not laugh.

Your husband is tired of you, he’s just getting to the bottom of it. Not all men like skinny people. Special attention is paid to appearance only at the beginning of acquaintance, and then if you have been together for a long time and are in love, then your appearance is practically not noticed, unless of course you have changed so much that it has become “conspicuous”. In any case, you should always remain yourself, and of course always be well-groomed. This is your body and it deserves to be loved by you!

If your husband says that you need to lose weight, it means he loves you and wants you to become even more beautiful.

Author, you decide for yourself whether you want to lose weight or not!? My husband looks at skinny people and photos of slim people, but he loves me like a donut. In the dream he hugs you like he wants to take you away. He and I are losing weight together now. I want to get my figure back after childbirth, it’s for health. Good luck!

My ex-husband also told me that I need to lose weight. I lost 12 kg. She became like a board. Still he left for someone else. Conclusion... it’s not out of great love that he says that. And by the way, after the divorce he became fat as a pig. Now he has a bigger ass than a woman! Checkmate, goat.

Well, men don’t know how to do something beautifully. They can do anything and any way they want, but not beautifully. So they say everything directly. That's what he thinks - that's what he says. Rarely do any men know what a hint is, much less how to use it. This is typical for women. Therefore, don't judge so harshly. Often a man tells it like it is and does not understand why you are offended. I think it’s even better that he told you everything honestly. He confessed to you as is, he wants to “improve” you. What's bad about it? Here they wrote: “Find someone else, this one is not worthy of you, how can he even say such a thing?” Do you think this problem will not arise with others? If there really is a problem with excess weight, then sooner or later, any self-respecting man will tell you the same. If I were you, I would lose weight - not for a man, but first of all for myself. And I would try to save the family, because it is always easier to destroy. And if you do break up, you will still have a beautiful figure. In any case, you will be in the black.

I have a friend, she weighs 58, slim, her husband always says - lose weight, but he himself has a belly and a large muzzle... So send the guy to hell if he loves any sign

If he finds fault with you because of your figure, it means that there is no real love there, lose weight and you will see how he will find another flaw in your figure... These are the kind of people who are so rotten, they understand that they are not satisfied with life next to a person, but They are so afraid of changes in life that they begin to pick on their soulmate and quietly take out their unhappiness and discomfort from a failed life on her...

My previous husband was one of those, with my height 173 and weight 63, he threatened me: don’t you try to grow a belly... Now I’ve been married to someone else for 10 years, at one time I gained 20 kg, six years ago I got terribly ill - diagnosed with cancer, and my husband, God bless him, endured everything with me, never reproached me and I always only hear: you are the most beautiful I have, I love you very much! This is what a husband should be like, run away from this freak, don’t lose your life next to him!

The situation is familiar... My first husband also began hinting at losing weight... Although I was never fat. At that time, his friends had very thin girlfriends - in my opinion, too thin. I lost weight, with a height of 168 I weighed 45. He said that I needed to gain some weight. In a word, I divorced him a long time ago and now live with someone else, who, on the contrary, considers me thin, I eat whatever I want, and sometimes I do sports for myself. By the way, the ex has become very fat, and he just needs to lose weight.

Well, they will love you, but want others. Girls, don’t talk nonsense either! There are a lot of men who are not treated kindly and hungry for beauty. You always need to look chic for your man! To be inaccessible to others! If you fulfill his wish, he will do anything for you! It is such a happiness to see desire in your man’s eyes, to be desired by him! I don’t understand what the problem is with getting yourself in order!

He wants a toned figure, not thinness. Think for yourself who loves loose asses, hanging tits and a bulging belly. After all, you don’t have to make yourself an athlete, that’s not necessary, you just need to have a toned body

I don’t know, I moved to live with my fiancé - I was happy with my figure, but now I’m fat and pregnant. When I look in the mirror and sigh, he comes up and says, they say, you are beautiful and all mine.

Nope, that's bullshit. A man should love all of you, including your folds!

Do men love with their eyes? I wonder how many people here even know what both a man and a woman love? What is this organ called? But I completely agree with the person who wrote that a man is greedy for a girl’s appearance when meeting her! But beauty alone is not enough to keep him! And you can hold it with only one organ - the brain! If you have enough brains to hook his brain, then the man is yours! This is how love is born! And if a man asks a girl to change something about herself, then the man needs to change!

After some time, the couple gets enough of each other, and changes are needed. Think about it yourself, where do we get our mistresses? After all, they clearly do not come to them for love, but for affection, relaxation and pleasure of a beautiful body. Therefore, you must always improve yourself, otherwise you will sit down like seals and then complain that your husband communicates with others. It just infuriates the ladies who are waiting for flowers, gifts, dresses, as if the man owes everything, and the woman nothing, sitting there like a princess! Ugh, it’s disgusting to look at such young ladies. And understand, the man loves you! If I didn’t love you, I would leave, no man can hold the house, the children and you in a robe, with a flabby ass. But high-quality sex and a nice body will tame any bachelor

If high-quality sex and a beautiful body tamed any bachelor, they would mostly marry priestesses of love! I already wrote that everything comes only from the brain! If a man is no longer aroused by his wife, then this only means one thing: the love has passed! And you can change and transform yourself into a beauty every day, but you won’t be able to return love! And you can be a virtuoso in bed, but without love, a man will still leave you! Love lives in the brain! Love sees no flaws!

Why can’t we engage in development not only internally, but also externally? You don’t have to go to the gym until you’re blue in the face; you can choose dancing, for example. And your figure will tighten up and your man, oh, how you will please. Such is the age, consumerism. Alluring figures are everywhere, so you should make yourself alluring, and for this you just need brains.

Unfortunately, this is true, men first pay 100% attention to appearance. No matter what kind of soul you have, he will never pay attention to the one that does not catch your attention with its appearance! Men love with their eyes. And we love with our ears, speak beautifully to us, and we melt!

Everyone dreams of looking beautiful and it’s never a bad thing! My brother was married to a beautiful girl, after giving birth she gained weight, the stretch marks on her chest and stomach were terrible, her stomach became flabby! This didn’t make him love her any less! Many people looked at my brother, but he didn’t even walk away from her! She noticeably grew rounder, asked her to quit smoking, she said if she quit, she would gain even more weight, and he said that then he would just buy her new things and update her entire wardrobe! It's called love! And they divorced because she started drinking and partying! It was very hard for him!

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What to do? Anyone can encounter such an offensive statement. Moreover, other people’s words may not always correspond to reality - a few kilograms of excess weight, and someone is already angrily throwing in your direction: “Hey, fat! Let me pass!” or, what’s even more offensive, “Fat girl, don’t block your view, you can’t see the beauties!” And no matter how we later try to convince ourselves that these people are just louts who themselves would do well to lose weight, the annoying phrase remains in the heart and echoes for a long time, developing a feeling of inferiority and pushing us to do all sorts of stupid things - from strict diets before announcement complete . But let's deal with this problem together. What should we do if people around us start calling us fat?

Where does the tail come from?

Why do people say this unpleasant word: “fat”. In most cases, this comes from mass lack of culture, which, unfortunately, occurs in our country. Let’s take the same European countries or the USA, where the percentage of really fat people, that is, diagnosed with “”, is much higher than ours. There these people feel quite comfortable, boldly wear clothes that only emphasize their voluminous shapes and are not shy about eating fatty hamburgers and hot dogs on the street. In these countries, it is generally accepted that weight is a personal matter for everyone, and this in no way deprives a person of his individuality, many positive traits and, of course, the right to respect.

In our country everything is a little different. Let me give you a simple example: my friend spent a year in the States studying English. She lived in a simple American family, where they traditionally dined on pizza, chips and chocolate chip cookies. This lifestyle could not help but affect my friend’s fragile figure, and a year later she left with twenty kilograms. As she later said, during this year they did not make a single comment to her on the street, and although she knew about her extra pounds, she did not feel much discomfort about it.

The first shock for her upon returning was the Russian airport. Walking out into the arrival hall with a crowd of Americans, she immediately heard whispers coming from different corners of the room: “The fat people are coming! And look at this one, three chins and!” “From that moment I realized that I was back,” my friend sadly stated. So, we conclude: you can hear anything from strangers, even very unpleasant things. Let's learn to perceive information only from loved ones and relatives? More on this later.

We are thinking

It also happens that close people say that “you are fat,” not necessarily in this form, but with exactly this meaning. But here it is worth thinking about. Dismissing those cases when they try to humor us, friends and family can only say this in one case - there really is a problem. In this case, there is no point in being offended: they love us, and therefore they wish us well, and do not want to offend us at all, therefore, it’s time to think about extra pounds and ways to get rid of them.

The words of other people sometimes have incredible power, and the mistake of many is the beginning of drastic actions - tough, grueling sports, etc. These actions can bring nothing but harm to health. But it was precisely for action that these words were spoken - “you’re fat” - which means action is necessary. What to do? First of all, understand that the extra pounds, no matter how many there are, did not appear in three days, therefore it is impossible to get rid of them in three days, and attempts to do this are dangerous. Of course, I really want that in a few days, instead of the offensive “You’re fat,” they would say to us, “How are you!” You look great!”, but everything has its time. For the result to be truly praiseworthy, you need to act very competently.

Your actions

“People tell me I'm fat. What to do?". Firstly, you need to solve a very important question - do you personally want to change something? If you are happy with your body the way it is, if you are comfortable with your weight, you know how to emphasize the advantages of your figure with beautiful clothes, and diets are simply not created for you, then forget about everything they tell you. You are you, just the way you are. But if the words were unpleasant, and you really realize that you have extra pounds, be sure to start working on yourself.

A good and right step would be to contact a nutritionist who can tell you the exact amount of your excess weight and its causes, and also recommend you a special one. If your weight is not critical, and you are used to solving all problems on your own, it is worth reconsidering your lifestyle - absolutely everything, from your daily routine, diet, bad habits and level of physical activity to chronic diseases and your sleep habits. Each of these factors is essential in the struggle for slimness.

Having chosen the path to health and beauty, you need to remember the rules that are golden for every slender girl:

• Regular meals no skipping meals, healthy and wholesome foods, fresh vegetables and fruits every day!
• Activity and movement- running, swimming, cycling, daily walks, aerobics, gym, games with children and friends. Not a day without an hour of active life!
• Avoiding late and heavy dinners(no later than four hours before bedtime, and preferably vegetables, fish and dairy products), bad habits (smoking, frequent alcohol consumption), snacks (replace them with fruits) and risky foods (sweets, flour and confectionery products, fatty and fried foods, canned food and smoked meats).
• Choosing your own personal weight loss method. Everyone chooses their own weight loss program, because not everyone can stick to a protein diet or go to the gym three times a week. Comfort in losing weight is one of the most important factors. Natural and healthy preparations, for example those made in Russia, can be of great help in maintaining this comfort. Consisting only of natural ingredients, these drugs do not violate any of the commandments of healthy weight loss: “No harm. No strict restrictions. Without psychological discomfort." I recommend them to you from the bottom of my heart - losing weight with them is easy and simple.

And if you hear “fat” from a stranger again, be sure to smile. Remember that this is just a splashing out of accumulated negativity, which always comes back if it meets the strong armor of optimism and self-confidence. Love yourself!