Tips on how to communicate with girls. How to start a correspondence with a girl? Basic rules of online communication and examples of original phrases for dating
You don't know how to communicate with a girl to make her like you? Today there are many pickup courses, as well as various trainings that teach men self-confidence. But in fact, you don't have to take any courses to become more confident. You need to believe in your uniqueness and act naturally. Don't flaunt your weaknesses, but don't boast about your strengths either. Read below for tips on how to communicate with a girl.
Self confidence
To understand how to communicate with a girl, a guy must first approach the object he likes. And it is with this point that many have difficulties. Men are shy, don’t know what to say and don’t present themselves in the best light. To prevent this from happening, you need to know that you are charming and attractive. You must understand that beautiful girls also tend to be nervous. And they also want attention and communication. If you consider yourself a charming and charismatic person, you can easily start a conversation. Moreover, it does not matter where the acquaintance takes place: on the street, in a cafe or in transport. If you have a smile on your face and a great mood, that’s already half the success. At a minimum, the girl will be able to get a positive attitude from communicating with you, and even if she does not give her phone number, her opinion of you will remain the most positive.
Don't cling to the result
How to start communicating with a girl? You must understand that in the game the main thing is not the result, but the process. Therefore, on the way to a beautiful girl, realize how you will behave if you receive a refusal. No, you shouldn’t set yourself up for a negative outcome of events, but you need to assume it. If a girl ignores you, the main task is not to lose face. And if a lady agrees to meet you, you don’t need to give the impression of a man who has no experience communicating with girls. After all, women are attracted to confident guys; such individuals usually have many fans. So pretend that the outcome of your conversation is indifferent to you. You're just having a good time. Do not immediately hint to the lady about something more. She must think that you don't really like her. Then she will have the desire to interest you and show what an interesting person she is. And now the girl has taken the initiative, and you no longer need to attract her attention.
Compliments
To be more attractive in the eyes of another person, you must compliment your interlocutor. If you don't know how to communicate with a girl, start the conversation with a phrase that is flattering to her. It is advisable to be original. But if at one glance at a beautiful girl you are speechless, then you can talk in stereotypes, for example about beautiful eyes. It will definitely be better than a prolonged pause. But don't overdo it with praise. A beautiful girl has a mirror at home that tells her about attractiveness just as well as you do. Therefore, two or three compliments per conversation will be quite enough. But they must be different. For example, the first time you can praise your hairstyle, the second time you praise your sense of humor, and the third time you admire the softness of your skin. What you shouldn’t say to a girl are flattering phrases. Insincerity is visible to the naked eye. If you don’t think the girl is smart, tell her that she’s cute, but don’t force yourself to say that she has an extraordinary mind. Flattering compliments hurt your ears.
Gallant treatment
A man can be a gentleman not only in beautiful courtship, but also in communication. You open the door for your lady and help her take off her coat? This means you can communicate beautifully with the girl. How to do this correctly? Try to be unobtrusive. If you bring up some topic that is unpleasant for your interlocutor, minimize it and do not put the girl in an uncomfortable position. If you asked a question, and your interlocutor changed the subject and did not answer, pretend that you did not notice this. If a girl behaves persistently, do not succumb to her provocation and do not behave rudely. This could be another test of your endurance. A man differs from a woman in his restraint of feelings, so demonstrate this ability to your lady. Don't yell at her or swear, even if she really deserves it. Talking in a raised voice never leads to good things.
Think what you say
In addition to the fact that a man must be aware of how he speaks, he must also be aware of what exactly comes out of his mouth. To interest a girl, you must make sure that curses, and especially obscenities, do not appear in speech. Replace strong words with something more civilized. If you are a shy person and don’t understand how interesting it is to communicate with a girl, then you will need to prepare cheat sheets at home. You can call this speech patterns. To always look confident, keep preparations in your head for almost any topic. But such phrases will only have an advantage if you come up with them and do not download them from the Internet. You can stock up on a few jokes, compliments and non-trivial questions. They will help revive and diversify your speech.
Questions
Nothing helps to attract a girl more than talking about her person. But sometimes it’s difficult to bring a shy person to open up. Questions can help in this matter. By answering something easy first, the girl will relax, become more at ease and feel more confident around you. This is what will help build trust. When the first barrier is passed, move from simple questions to complex ones. For example, you can force a girl to philosophize. This technique has a lot of advantages: firstly, you really get to know the girl better, and secondly, the lady will remember you as a person who makes her think about something new and unusual, and such emotions leave a strong mark on the soul.
Flirting
To leave a good impression on a girl, talking about the weather alone is impossible. You need to flirt. It is the play of gestures, glances, words and touches that does its job. How to communicate with a girl? An example is a standard situation that happens every weekend in nightclubs. A girl and a guy approach the bar. The man offers the lady a cocktail, and she agrees. While the bartender is working on creating a drink, the man has time to flirt. You need to face the girl. Now say a compliment and introduce yourself. You have little time, you need to do it in 5-7 minutes. Therefore, follow the pattern: introduction - joke - question - joke and you need to end with an accidental or intentional touch. Are you afraid of seeming frivolous? But girls go to the club to have fun, and not listen to boring lectures, so you shouldn’t philosophize and try to conquer your chosen one with your intellect, save its demonstration for the next dates.
Be the life of the party
Girls are attracted to popular guys. Those people who sparklingly joke, talk, actively gesticulate and gather crowds of fans around them. How to learn to communicate with girls and become the life of the party? You need to practice telling interesting stories. And for this you should read more and keep abreast of the latest news. You should always have interesting stories in stock that no one else knows. But with the right talent, a trip to the store for bread can be described as an exciting action.
There is a great exercise called the delirium generator. You sit on the couch and talk about your closet for 5 minutes. You can describe its size, capacity, appearance, whatever. The main thing is not to stray from the topic and keep the closet in the area of attention all the time. First you need to do this for 5 minutes, then increase the time to 10-15. If you can “sing an ode” to the closet for 15 minutes, you will definitely be able to talk to the girl and not let her out of the conversation.
Have your own opinion
How to communicate with a girl to make her like you? Some guys try so hard that they try to support their interlocutor in everything. They agree on everything. The girl says that she likes popular melodrama, and the guy confirms that it is a great film, although he doesn’t think so. But you can’t lose your individuality, it’s not only stupid, but it also makes the girl suspicious of your sincerity. Don't be afraid to contradict something. For example, if you don't like a movie, say so directly, and then argue why you didn't like it. And then ask the girl to give arguments in favor of the film. This way you can start an interesting dialogue.
Keep your distance
Do you want to come across as a reasonable and reserved guy? Learn to keep your distance. Everyone has personal space, and they don't like people who violate it. Even in a tight space, you can distance yourself a little from the girl. Yes, you shouldn’t forget about flirting and touching, but you shouldn’t touch the girl too often. Once or twice is enough. The girl will appreciate such coldness and detachment. After all, this will show her that your personal space is large, and you don’t want to let her in there either. In a woman's eyes, this will look like a challenge that will push her to take decisive action.
Are you kidding?
Girls love guys with a good sense of humor. If you are one of them, then don’t forget to show it off. Well, if you can’t joke well in the company of attractive people, then prepare sparkling jokes in advance. Once you have templates in your head, they are quite easy to apply. There will be no awkward pauses, and you will always have something to say. But you should still understand the limits of what is permissible. Yes, a girl can laugh at herself, but if you tease her too often, this will cause a negative reaction towards you. Therefore, use jokes in moderation and send jokes not only to the lady, but also know how to laugh at yourself.
Social media
About five years ago it was very easy to meet a pretty girl on the Internet. You could have just greeted her and the conversation would have continued. But today it doesn't work. How to communicate with a girl on the web? You should understand that you are not the only one writing to beautiful girls, so you need to stand out from the gray mass. But you need to stand out in such a way as to leave a good impression. Start the conversation with a sentence or question. Anything that requires a direct response. But don’t ask a girl out on a date with the first phrase, and don’t force yourself on her as a friend. You can ask if she remembers you. This question will be relevant even if you are completely unfamiliar. Subsequently, you can say that you simply misidentified yourself and mistook her for your distant acquaintance, but by then the conversation will have already improved.
How to communicate with girls online? Don't write too often and don't always be online. Sometimes disappear, sometimes don't answer. This will create the impression that you are not only surfing the Internet, but also doing something. Periodically break off the dialogue with a question. When can you invite a girl to a real meeting? Only after she herself starts writing to you first and asking how you are doing.
I will touch on the hot topic of the day. Many guys, seeing me approach girls on the street or in a club, come up to me and ask: “What were you talking about with this girl?”
And I have to explain, again and again, that it doesn't matter what you say, what matters is your inner state.
1. Concentrate on your condition
Girls pay attention not to words, but to meta messages, which stand behind the words.
These are the emotions behind the words, the tone of your voice, your body movement, non-verbal expressions, facial expressions, your perception of the world and people.
Speaking even deeper, your inner state is important, not the way you say it.
Your state generates your words and actions!
2. Communication with people is an interaction of sensations
Interaction with peopleEmi is the interaction of sensations.
A woman feels a man perfectly, it is so inherent in nature.
If you are confident and feel great, the girl will also feel comfortable with you.
She always feels you.
No matter what system or method you have - if you act like an insecure wimp - no woman will be interested in you as a man.
You need more practice in order to learn how to communicate with girls confidently and easily.
3. Forget about templates
Some guys who use templates still believe that it is supposedly very important what words to say to a girl.
I've met guys who communicate with girls using patterns, and it's very funny.
They are kind of strange, tight. Templates do not know how to open up, they cannot communicate freely both with girls and with people in general.
These template guys don't know how to provide value., but they just take her away.
They irritate me. Communicating with them, I feel them unnaturalness and attempts to turn on buttons for my reactions.
They do not know how to communicate relaxedly on abstract topics and express themselves fully.
I immediately break off communication with such people! Next to me there are only natural, natural, sincere and interesting people.
If you choose templates, you will remain the same boring for many years and will not develop!
If you chose to use templates, then goodbye and this article will not help you!
Templates and other prepared material are designed to impress, please a girl, and gain her approval.
And when you try to get a girl to like you, you only make things worse.
Read more about the uselessness of templates and techniques and routine in seduction .
4. There are no strict restrictions
There are no strict rules on how to properly communicate with a girl.
Only you make these rules yourself and decide in what manner to conduct a dialogue with a girl.
Your game is your rules. Nobody limits you.
The main thing is that the topic of conversation is interesting to you.
Even if you said the wrong thing while communicating with a girl, the conversation can always be resolved. There are no serious errors.
5. The more attraction you have, the more your words don't matter. 
You don't need to communicate logically with girls.
Communicating logically with girls only ruins everything.
The words you say are very rarely remembered by women.
Especially when she feels attracted to you.
The more attracted a girl is, the more the words you say are not important..
To create a strong attraction to yourself, you should be attracted to her!
The woman you really like is not only the woman who is simply pretty, but who initially creates attraction towards you!
When there is comfort and trust, attraction appears
Therefore, if you don’t want to worry anymore about how to communicate with a girl, remember these points:
- A woman should be attracted to you sexually from the very beginning. You should feel it. It's not just her appearance.
- A woman's attraction towards you is not built on words or the number of words. It doesn't matter whether you speak at all or not.
6. If there is attraction, communication happens spontaneously and without effort.
If some pickup school teaches you what beautiful words to say to a girl and how to communicate with her correctly, then it’s the school that doesn’t know how attraction is built!
If you don't want to regret wasting your time, watch out for that what kind of attraction comes initially, what kind of reaction the girl creates towards you.
You should feel it. It won't be all women.
Girls who "well, it goes like this" - we do not feel attracted to them. Communication with them will not be the same.
Example of my communication
As usual, my communication takes place.
The right words are born from nothing.
I see a girl I don't know in a club, I like her and she likes me too.
I understand it because I see it in her eyes.
I can immediately tell her: “Glad to see you!” and smoothly hug her around the waist, holding her hand in my other hand.
I feel it.
If I want to kiss her right away, I do it! I take it and suck it in.
I can just talk about everything to my heart's content the main thing is that I feel comfortable.
And she feels that I'm so confident in myself that I don't care what I say.
And that's cool! I am sincere at the same time.
You can talk about what you do, talk about yourself, tell her what you think about her, what you like about her.
I have no problems with how to conduct a dialogue with a girl.
I don't worry or think about it.
7. Don't react to her looks or put her on a pedestal.
Whether the girl in front of you is beautiful or not, you should communicate with everyone the same.
If you communicate with beautiful people differently than with others, then you put them on a pedestal. Then you've lost.
Communicate on the same level with her, regardless of appearance.
Read more about why the appearance of a girl is not the main thing, and how the beauty of a girl overshadows the minds of guys.
8. Entertain yourself, not the girl.
I usually I entertain myself first, when I communicate with a girl, and I don’t worry whether the girl will accept it or not.
If I like it, I'm interested in it and I talk about it, then the girl will a priori like it too.
9. Your voice and the right tone
There are three types of tonality
- Needy tonality. When your key rises at the end. This is the most unattractive tone. Never communicate like that.
- Normal normal tone. This is the most neutral and standard communication. When the tone scale goes in a straight line.
- Ragged tonality. This is the coolest tone for proper communication with a girl. Usually it goes from top to bottom. That is, initially you speak on a higher note, but then towards the end you lower the pitch.
When communicating with a girl, use a ragged tone.
10. Don't make the following common mistakes
The most common mistakes guys make that happen while talking with girls:
Video clip of my approaches
My dating video and excerpts from my one-on-one training on seduction and social dynamics.
Here, my client is pushing me on a cart. Yes, I sit, meet and ride at the same time.
This compilation and cutting moments of seduction in a store where I show a client how to do warm-up sets.
I don’t even attach importance to how to communicate with a girl and where to start dating. I focus on other subtle things.
We pass women's checks: witty answers to insults of a girl -.
First words when meeting a girl
If you approached her to meet her and the first words were spoken a little crumpled or squeezed, then there is nothing wrong with that!
She won't turn her back on you or run away.
A girl will never say something like this: “Hmm, at first you were shy about something, so I won’t get to know you.”
A girl never attaches importance to the first words she says when she meets her. Only you yourself can worry too much about this.
Never worry about how to start communicating with a girl correctly. 
Communication with a girl can always be smoothed out. It doesn’t matter that at first communication with her was constrained.
All these first words do not matter. You don't need anything fancy to start communicating.
If you read this article and think that you can do everything, you are mistaken.
It’s not enough to know, you also need intensive practice in communicating with girls! The bigger, the better.
It is practice that gives you ease and ease in communication.
Don't limit yourself with words and approach the girl. Even if you are not a master of interactions, tell her so directly.
You can also get even more advanced material on the topic of seduction and meeting girls in my individual training program on social dynamics. See you!
As psychologists around the world note, despite the fact that men at any age are perceived by ladies as potential hunters, the opposite sex often does not think so. This is expressed not only in the fact that sometimes it is quite difficult for them to meet the girl they like, but even in the fact that they simply do not know how to communicate with her.
It's not about whether she's pretty or not. And not even in whether it is interesting to communicate with her. She just has IT.
For some women, it is enough to walk down the street once to remain in a man’s memory forever.
Joseph Rudyard Kipling
How to communicate and what to talk about with a girl?
First of all, the last point is associated with natural human feelings, which are absolutely not alien to representatives of the stronger half of humanity. Namely:- A feeling of fear of being either not understood at all, or understood, but not true.
- It is a natural reflex to be wary of people you don’t know well, perceiving them on a subconscious level as a potential threat.
- Not knowing what topics you can talk about with a lady. Because there is an opinion that the interests of men and women rarely coincide.
How to find a way out of this situation
Before you start communicating with a girl you like, you need to decide on her psychotype, of course, within the framework of your knowledge; there is no point in delving into the deep layers of psychology. In practice, this is expressed in simply determining whether she is a sociable person or not. The first option is much easier for a man, since it is easier to choose a topic for an exciting conversation, because even if she is not very versed in it, due to her natural talkativeness, she will support the conversation as much as she can. And it’s not so difficult to move the conversation in one direction or another.If a girl is reserved, shy and difficult to communicate, then the answer to the question of how to start simple communication begins with collecting information about her. For example, if she is still in school and there is an opportunity to chat with those who at least somehow communicate with her. Then you need to find out what she is most interested in and choose the topic for the first conversation according to her interests. For example, if a girl likes to read, then books are a completely universal topic of conversation.
How to communicate with a girl in virtual life
It will not be a secret to anyone that modern youth and others have long ago transferred most of their lives to the virtual space. And just in order to start communicating with a representative of the fair sex, this is an undoubted and very big plus. The main place, in addition to various chats and forums, as well as specialized resources (sites designed exclusively for meeting people by interests or likes), are numerous social networks. Today, one of the most popular is VKontakte.This is due to the fact that VK has no age restrictions, is very versatile and allows you not only, for example, to find information of interest, but also to make new friends, distant relatives, business partners, and much more.
Speaking about communication in this format, it should be noted that it is a little different than a simple friendly conversation among friends. First of all, it should be noted that, as practice shows and psychologists confirm, in the virtual world it is much easier for a person to open up, because he is not restrained by practically any boundaries. Moreover, there is a category of people who cannot always express their opinions and thoughts out loud.
But they are very good at writing about it, and if, for example, a representative of the fair sex falls into the category of such people, then the ideal option in the first stages for communication is a social network. Moreover, if due to some circumstances the situation has developed in such a way that she considers you not a suitable option for herself. It is through indirect communication that you can radically change her opinion.
A girl you like in real life probably has her own account on at least one resource, and if you are not a fan of virtual communication, then first you just need to visit her page. This will help you get additional information about her, find the right topics for conversation that will help you win her over, find out about her preferences and circle of friends. And in general, you can deviate from your principles for a while and communicate there, become her good friend with whom she can share a lot, and then move on to communication in terms of sympathy.
However, do not forget about the small nuances of communication, in this format:
- You need to express your thoughts as clearly and clearly as possible so that she can understand them the first time and at the same time correctly.
- The same applies to emotions, because if there is correspondence, there is no visual contact, and certain manifestations of feelings may not be correctly interpreted, which will lead to not the best result of communication.
- Don't be intrusive. Those. do not write to her every five minutes, demanding constant and uninterrupted communication. Because she may be in class, at lectures, at work, or generally busy with her household duties.
Examples of correct behavior during communication in real life
Although everything described above for social networks has a certain degree of relevance and makes it possible to simplify the process of initial communication, no one has canceled real meetings. And this sometimes causes certain difficulties. Especially if you really like a representative of the fair sex and evoke such emotions that can throw you out of the right mood and generally simply throw you off balance.The following can be considered the golden rules of good communication in real life:
- First, you need to make sure that the girl is in a physiological position that is comfortable for her. Those. if you decide to start a romantic topic of conversation and at the same time choose an original place (for example, a date on the roof or in a cafe located on a high floor with an open terrace). After all, if she is afraid of heights and, for some reason, cannot say so directly, most likely even the most interesting conversation in the proposed circumstances will not give her any pleasure, due to the high level of discomfort.
- Secondly, there is no need to worry too much; for example, you can take a sedative before the meeting. Excessive emotions can lead to rash actions, words, confusion in speech. And this in turn can cause a tense situation. Or to the fact that the girl will not correctly interpret your intentions, and then no communication, even properly built, will save the situation.
- Thirdly, you should never ask directly questions like whether she likes to communicate with me or not. If she is properly brought up and has ideas about the banal rules of decency, then it is almost impossible to get a reliable answer. It is necessary to draw the right conclusions yourself, watching how she behaves, whether she is interested in the chosen topic of conversation, or whether she sits and frankly waits for this meeting to end.
Bottom line
Based on all of the above, we can conclude that today there are many ways to choose the right topic for conversation with the fair sex you like. But just like in other times, you always need to listen to your own intuition, and then success is guaranteed.
Communication with girls For guys, it sometimes becomes a real puzzle if a man is not confident in himself and has a small vocabulary in his vocabulary. Girls love assertive, interesting conversationalists who know how to surprise with their charisma, and it is not at all necessary to be a handsome man with an athletic build.
How to start communicating with a girl
The beginning of communication with a girl should include ease and ease. If you are not confident in yourself, you are embarrassed, then some object that will distract the girl from your person and focus her attention on him is suitable to start a conversation. This subject could be a book, a telephone, a dog on a leash, etc. If there are no objects, then you can touch on eternal topics: music, literature, sports, work, study, philosophical issues. The main thing to remember is that the beginning of communication with a girl should not develop into an interrogation.
Topics for communicating with a girl, as well as frequently asked questions:
- music (What music do you like? What music do you not like? Why?)
- literature (What do you like to read? What do you not like to read? Which character do you like? Why?)
- sports (Are you interested in sports? Who do you root for?)
- leisure (Favorite places to visit in the city?)
- animals (Attitude towards pets?)
We develop the topic of work or study, as well as philosophical questions, at the request of the young lady.
The experience of guys communicating with girls shows that the conversation should be lively and also relaxed. To do this, we advise you to first tell something about yourself, about your interests, passions, and then ask the young lady’s attitude towards the same. If you plan to communicate with this particular girl in the future, then try to teach her something new that she does not yet know, or go together to where you spend your leisure time. In general, show your imagination, figure out what you can do to interest a girl, what would be interesting for her to know and learn. You can ask both about reality and about fantasies, thoughts, dreams. This way you will arouse the girl’s interest, because it’s not every day that people are interested in her dreams. If there is a pause or awkward silence during the conversation, then switch your attention to another topic.
How to continue communication with a girl? So, the beginning of communication with the girl took place and you made a good impression. Don't stop and try to continue the conversation. Make the conversation pleasant, light, and friendly. The problem for many guys is that they do not know how to communicate correctly with girls. Correct communication includes the ability to correctly construct sentences, feel confident, be positive with a moderate sense of humor. If a guy is unable to put two words together, then you shouldn’t count on continuing the relationship. Girls don't like boring, insecure guys with a low vocabulary. This does not mean that you should act like a clown in front of a girl, but you must interest her in order to continue the relationship.
Problems with communicating with girls will not be overcome by the ability to dress and good appearance. The ability to communicate is the main component in the relationship between a man and a woman. Proper communication with a girl includes knowledge of the psychology of communication with the female sex.
Psychology of communication with girls
All men know that there are certain rules of decency in communication that should not be violated in order to always appear in the best light before women.
Proper communication with a girl includes the following:
- always be positive (if a girl is tired, then negativity from you will not make her happy, but the positive emotions that you give her will captivate you and serve as a desire for further meetings);
- always remain a man (don’t complain about life, about your friends, about your boss; always solve problems yourself and don’t be afraid of responsibility);
- carry yourself proudly and do not run after a woman (women quickly lose interest from those men who run after them);
- always be confident (communicate with several representatives of the fair sex at the same time - this will enrich your communication experience, and will also make your girlfriend feel competition, she will turn on the competitive mood and she herself will want to get you; be measuredly self-confident and assertive - this makes a good impression on women);
- don’t stop surprising (give unusual gifts that the young lady has never had or seen before, don’t forget about ordinary flowers that will cheer up your chosen one);
- give your chosen one compliments (always be attentive to her appearance and hairstyle; every girl will appreciate this, but the compliment must come from the heart);
- know how to always listen and hear (don’t think about what to talk about with a woman - she will tell you everything herself, this is their favorite pastime to talk about themselves, just listen, support the conversation with questions so that she sees the interest in your eyes);
- communicate actively so that the joy on your face from communication is visible, meeting you should be a holiday; do not delay the date until both become bored; the same applies to conversations and walks;
- always be interesting, develop yourself in many ways, read a lot, your broad outlook will make you an erudite and interesting conversationalist;
- you must set a clear goal for yourself of what you want: to build relationships, be friends or just be intimate; remember that long-term communication will turn you into friends, which is more difficult to change later, so it may be better to immediately turn on romance and go towards your goal.
Communication between a guy and a girl begins after the guy evaluates her appearance. Any guy asks himself the question: is his girlfriend satisfied with her set of external characteristics? When a guy sees an unattractive young lady, he passes by and abruptly looks away. If a young lady falls under the influence of external attractiveness, then a connection is formed and a ritual of communication arises. The guy hooks the girl with further conversation and flirts with her. It will be a good sign if the girl responds with a smile. Choose an interesting topic for conversation, and if during communication you notice that the girl is not interested: she is looking at the phone, around, then she is bored. If the conversation doesn't go well, it's your own fault. Try to talk about the girl herself, ask about her life, plans for the future. Never lie or exaggerate, especially if you are thinking about continuing the relationship in the future. Make the right pauses using gestures. Answer with your eyes and nod of your head. The gaze is an important element in communication.
So, the acquaintance has taken place, and you have made a first date, which you are secretly afraid of. As a mandatory start before further relationships, it is important to make a good impression, and for triumph to take place, take note of the following examples of communication with a girl on the first date:
- talk about yourself, because the girl doesn’t know anything about you, remember your achievements or what you do best in life, but so that it doesn’t look like you’re bragging about it. In no case do you talk about troubles or failures; you must give the impression of a successful person moving towards his goals;
- talk about her, girls like it when people are interested in their lives; you can remember mutual friends, talk about travel, animals and plans;
— learn about each other at the same time, giving each other the opportunity to speak;
- talk about childhood and everything related to childhood experiences - girls love such memories.
Phrases for communicating with a girl should be simple, casually spoken. You shouldn't ask too many questions in a row. Don't discuss other women with your girlfriend. Don't fuss, you'll show that you're nervous and ruin everything. Look into the eyes and listen when the girl speaks.
Chatting with a girl on the Internet
Information technologies have made it possible for a person to easily meet people, communicate, and transform virtual acquaintances into reality.
How to start communicating with a girl on the Internet? Nowadays, women are spoiled by attention on the Internet: cute ones are sent emoticons, banal phrases for dating, so you will have to try to captivate them with your persona. Especially if you want to transform virtual communication into real one. To start communication, it is important to find common ground that unites you. Don’t write template phrases: “Hello! What are you doing?" Try to distinguish yourself with originality, since the first impression is the most vivid. It is important to understand for yourself what the purpose of dating is. If you don’t know what to write, study the girl’s photos and statuses, which will tell you a lot about the young lady’s inner world and interests. Do not send free gifts, winks - such things irritate girls and women. Be confident in yourself, forget about your fear of not being accepted or understood. If one girl doesn’t respond, write to others, the main thing is to continue trying to start communication. They will definitely answer.
So, you have started a correspondence, but there is a desire to transfer your acquaintance to real life. The main thing is not to delay this, because... According to statistics, if virtual communication lasts up to two months, then it is unlikely to turn into real life, and often the virtual presentation does not coincide with the real one, which is very frustrating for both parties and communication stops.
Good virtual communication does not mean that it can continue in real life. The first real meeting with a virtual crush is a crucial moment that needs preparation. However, even when you are ready for a date, you must remember that in real life it is much more difficult to please, so you will have to adhere to certain rules.
The main impression about a person is formed quite quickly, within 20 minutes of conversation, and the continuation of your relationship depends on this. Therefore, try to sincerely show your emotions, look your interlocutor in the eyes, and behave confidently. The topic for the conversation can be thought out in advance, for example, what you learned from virtual communication can be developed more deeply in the conversation. The main thing is to be relaxed, cheerful, and not to touch on sad topics. It is recommended not to touch upon topics of past love, illness, failures, problems at work. Call her by name more often - this will help establish a subconscious connection between you. Don't neglect this.
Be confident and honest on the first date - this will be the key to success and will continue many times. Remember that every man deserves the women he wants, the main thing is to know how to do it right! Let these words give you confidence in achieving your goal. All of these tips need to be taken into account with your own communication style and take what works for you.
The ability to properly meet and talk to a girl, leaving a pleasant impression, is what is necessary to interest her on the first date. If you don't have the skills to have an engaging conversation, the art of communication can be learned. In psychology, there are a number of useful secrets and techniques that will help you please a woman. To better understand the interests of your interlocutor and choose tactics for communicating with her, you can also turn to an astrological horoscope.
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- 1. Timbre. Having learned to speak correctly using a low, “chest” voice when appropriate, a man will become several times more attractive in the eyes of his chosen one.
- 2. Temp. It shouldn't be too fast or slow. If a guy rushes or hesitates during a conversation, this will push the girl away.
- 3. Volume. When communicating, it is recommended to gradually reduce it, thereby reducing the distance between the guy and the girl. Then she will have to listen carefully to what the young man says, gradually approaching him. But you should not use this technique on the first date, as the girl may feel uncomfortable.
Practicing before the meeting will be useful; you can record your speech on a voice recorder and try to make your voice more pleasant. Practicing in front of a mirror will also help.
How to behave with a girl
Gesticulation
It is much more interesting to listen to someone who is actively gesticulating. Research shows that by using gestures in communication, we force the interlocutor to be more attentive and more thoughtful to perceive our words.
Living emotions will increase attention to speech. It is advisable to openly express your feelings towards the subject of conversation.
What to talk about with a girl
How to communicate?
The ability to ask the right question is important. If the answer is yes or no, the conversation will soon reach a dead end. You need to ask a girl in such a way that she has to think about something new. You shouldn’t build a dialogue that looks more like an interrogation than a nice conversation. Tell us about yourself, offer to discuss a book or film.
If she is silent, do not put pressure on her to continue the conversation. Perhaps you should leave her alone for a while, and then start talking about something new, without touching on previously discussed topics.
Paying attention to a woman's personality is the key to making her fall in love. You should talk about the lady as much as possible, the interlocutor will notice this and will definitely appreciate it. Focus on her uniqueness, emphasize her strengths and talents, show your interest in every possible way. Do not forget about compliments, for example: "You look great" or "You are an incredibly smart girl" and so on.
You can ask how to contact her so that the chosen one will be pleased.
Introvert girls do not tolerate long live communication very well, and they need rest alone with themselves. The best option for such a chosen one is remote conversations. After all, they love correspondence on the Internet, which allow you to express yourself without feeling uncomfortable. When communicating with introverts, you should never interrupt them. You must first listen to the point of view of the interlocutor, and then express your opinion. It is important not to be distracted from the conversation: if an introvert feels a lack of interest, then he will immediately close from this person.
Topics for conversation
It doesn't matter what you talk about on the first date. Topics can range from funny real-life incidents to scientific theories. But it is necessary to choose a subject for conversation so that the girl is carried away by its discussion.
In order not to seem boring, you don’t need to load the girl with conversations about boring work, home, and the like. At first, she is not interested in this. Attract a girl with your hobbies, tell her about your hobbies. It is advisable to be original. But don't cheat under any circumstances.
You need to learn how to communicate with a girl on topics that are interesting to your chosen one. In order not to be mistaken, you should look at what she is wearing, ask about her hobbies. For example, if a girl has attributes of a musical group on her clothes, you can ask what genre of music she performs, or what is the composition of her favorite band. Examples of good conversation topics:
- movies;
- books;
- music;
- series;
- trips.
Features of communication with representatives of different zodiac signs
The star horoscope can tell you how to speak correctly with representatives of each of its signs.
To please Aquarius, you need to think outside the box, think about the global and not pay much attention to the little things. The same strategy works with Pisces. And Virgos and Capricorns are more attracted to reserved people who love order in the house. Aries and Scorpios like emotional and passionate personalities. Gemini and Cancer are active people who infect people with their positivity and are looking for others like them. Sagittarius and Leo are quite good-natured people, but these ladies need a guy who can tolerate their jealousy. Libra and Taurus are looking for dreamers with whom they can gaze at the stars while sitting on the roof all night
Communication by correspondence
There are some nuances in communicating with a girl at a distance:
- 1. It is important to be literate - this is the main parameter when corresponding with a woman.
- 2. It is necessary to flirt with her, this will make it clear that the young man has plans for her person, and will allow you to avoid the friend zone on her part.
- 3. Don't become an obsessive fan. Showing interest and attention, you need to know the measure.
- 4. It is advisable to have a casual dialogue; you should not show the girl how important she is.
- 5. It is important to know when to end a conversation. This must be done before she gets bored with the correspondence.
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Ways to attract a girl
A woman needs a partner who can become a support for the family. That is why they tend to prefer strong, slightly rude and courageous men. And the first thing that is necessary to attract female attention in a conversation is to meet the standards of a strong man. These qualities of a person are demonstrated by his behavior. Some techniques will help you attract attention and interest your chosen one.
How to communicate with a man so that he is always interested
Voice
Research shows that a rough, deep voice is more attractive to the fairer sex. There are some rules regarding what the voice should be like for a man to be interested in a girl:
Correspondence is only a means for transferring relationships into real life. It is necessary to lead the conversation on the Internet to an invitation to a date. If you don't do this, you will remain a long-distance friend.
