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WHAT IS MORE IN LOVE: FEELINGS OR MIND?

Lyrical digression
Before starting, I want to make a small digression. Once, my sister needed to write an essay on this topic, and I wanted to help her, although she did not ask for it. I decided so ... Just in case ... And along the way, I decided to write an article on this topic. It turned out to be such a deep, familiar and touching topic that I just couldn't leave it.
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Love is the most beautiful feeling given to us by the Almighty. Since ancient times, it has been inspiring poets, writers, artists to unusual and vibrant works of literature and art. In early times, people, in some cultures, fought duels for love, performed great feats. Many people now go to great lengths for the sake of love, and this is not surprising. What is the basis of this feeling? What is more in love: feelings or reason? To answer this question, let's explain what it is! Many people think that this is a feeling of moral attachment to a person. Is this really true, or is love a feeling of a wider scope than attachment to something or someone?
Content
So, let's give one parable.
One young man asked the sage "What is the difference between love and like?" To which the sage replied "When you like a flower, you pick it, and when you love, you water it." I want to clarify that the concept of "like" refers to a feeling of liking. If you think about it, there is a meaning in this parable that can be applied not only to a plant, but to everything that surrounds us. So, for example, imagine a situation: we liked a person, we spent time with him, and then decided to leave. You can't do that to a person. It's called playing on a person's feelings, breaking his heart. If we have loved one person, but there is something in this person that is harmful or bad, before trying to change this person, we should consider whether what we consider wrong is real. If this is so, we cannot put pressure on this person, even if it is better for him, but we must make him want to change, being sure that we want the best for him, and we do not reproach him for anything. We must motivate him for the good, point him to the good gently, and remind him of the good.
“And remind, for the reminder benefits the believers.” (Quran, 51:55).
The point is that we will do everything in our power gently, without pressure, taking into account his perception of the world around him and his actions, taking into account how he perceives his character, habits and feelings, taking into account how he treats us, how he reacts to our behavior, and how he perceives us, so that this person feels good, and that he understands that we support him and wish him well. In other words, we cannot take and remake a person according to our ideals, but we can try to help him become better. And we should not think that the person we love is obliged to respond to us in return, to obey us, no matter how well we treat him, and no matter how much we love. After all, he has his own life, his ideals, his life path. If we love this person, we must respect him.
"There is no love higher than respect." (Prophet Muhammad (sala alaihi salati wa salam)).
There are times when we become attached to a person, or become obsessed for one reason or another. For example, a very handsome guy, beefy, or the girl is all like that, and we begin to build illusions that that person is very good, and we definitely deserve him, and gradually become obsessed with this person. It happens that people show sympathy for each other, get married, affection arises, time passes, sympathy and affection disappear, and people part. Love cannot be compared with attachment, sympathy, or obsession, which many mistakenly do. Love is when you worry about someone, want the best for him and respect this person, and do not say “You are only mine, whether you want it or not!”, Because this is an obsession, and, to some extent, selfishness . Obsession refers to love only if respect for the person and his feelings prevails, and not when vice versa.
Also, there are times when love is confused with yu, which consists of sympathy, attraction, obsession and jealousy.
And she herself consists of the following feelings:

Respect
Respect for a person means: respect his rights, his feelings and individuality.
Jealousy
Jealousy is when you do not allow the person you love to change.
attraction
Attraction is when we are interested in a person.
Sympathy
Sympathy is when we like a person, and it is not necessary that we like him because of his appearance.
Attachment
Feelings of attachment can arise, for example, as a result of spending some time with a person, or with an animal, if it is an attachment to animals, or to a house in which one has lived for a long time.
Obsession
This is when you want to always be with a person.
Confidence
What kind of love is it when you don't trust a person?
Responsibility
When you understand that you are responsible for your actions, for the consequences of your actions, for what you have undertaken, for what has been given to you in this life by the Almighty.

All these feelings cannot be excluded from love. But, individually, nothing connects them with love. And to control your feelings, which are an integral part of love, you need to have intelligence. In the absence of reason, there is no love in a relationship, because, for example, there will be no respect for each other, which will lead to a quarrel. Some say that love dulls the mind. But actually it is not. The mind is dulled by our illusions and a single obsession in which we do not take into account respect for the rights and feelings of another person. For example, I had situations when girls liked me, became so obsessed that they did not take into account the fact that it was important for me to maintain subordination, maintain honor and dignity, and, as a result, I broke up. As the saying goes, the secret of a good relationship is a metered presence in everyone's life. I could love them, but their disrespect for me ruined everything.
There are also people who believe that reason has no place in love, because love is not a business agreement. Yes! Love is not a business agreement, but, as I said, the mind in love plays a binding role.
As for the business agreement, I also want a little more detail.
A business agreement in a person's personal relationship is more of a deal, the subject of which can be sexual desire, finances, distance (for example, when a person makes a choice in favor of the convenience and availability of a person with whom they want to satisfy their physiological needs). And this transaction does not apply to love, and, accordingly, to the mind in love.
Even if you consider the mind in love as something businesslike, then only as a guarantor of the hormonal prosperity of your love union, based on feelings of love.
Everything that is said above is, by and large, about love between a guy and a girl or a husband and wife. Love for a person can also be friendly and family, it does not mean love between a husband and wife, but, for example, for a sister, brother, mother, father, etc. And this kind of love consists of respect, responsibility, trust, affection and attraction. And love, in addition to love for a person, has other varieties: love for work, for animals and plants, and so on. But, these varieties are united by responsibility, sympathy and affection - those feelings that make up these varieties of love.
Conclusion
So! Let's sum it up!
As we found out, love between a guy and a girl / husband and wife consists of respect, jealousy, attraction, trust, obsession, sympathy, affection and responsibility. And besides love between husband and wife/boyfriend and girlfriend, there is love for friends and relatives, which consists of respect, responsibility, trust, affection and attraction. And in the absence of reason, it is impossible to keep a balance, maintain harmony, which was shown by the example of lack of respect.
Further, we found out that love for work, for pets, for home, for plants is responsibility, sympathy and affection. And this love does not require any moral costs and reasonable decisions. But, the sense of responsibility belongs to the mind. And in the absence of responsibility at work, there will be no success, not a single animal will want to stay with you, because they need care, and you can lose your home if you are not responsible and do not keep order and integrity. That is, sympathy and affection in the absence of responsibility mean nothing, and are not love.
From all this we can draw the following conclusion: in love for a person there are many feelings, but each feeling requires wisdom, which, in turn, relates to the mind, and thus, it turns out - in love for a person, feelings and reason are 50/50, and in love for pets, etc., there is more reason than feelings, although this love does not require reasonable efforts, but reason, as a sense of responsibility, plays an inclusive role.
And if we draw a general conclusion, combining love for a person and for the world around us, then we can safely say that there is more reason in love than feelings. And in the end: love is not only a moral attachment, but the most beautiful feeling that combines other feelings, which, together with a sense of moral attachment, the mind keeps in harmony.

Composition on the topic “What is more in love: feelings or reason?”

Love is considered to be an eternal feeling, and only if it is true and mutual, then it necessarily brings people happiness. But is it really so? How long can love last? Many argue that she is blind, explaining that when a person is in love, he does not notice the shortcomings of his half, but when this fog clears, everything falls into place and the true appearance of a person is seen, which no longer seems so ideal, but rather the opposite. . Love can only be associated with feelings, but not with the mind, and this is proved by both life experience and many works, which include Romeo and Juliet, written by the mysterious Shakespeare.

It is difficult even in one sentence to combine the words "love" and "mind". But to say that the mind is a part of love and does not make sense. The fact is that a person in love is never guided by reason, he does not notice anyone or anything. Of course, in love there are more feelings.

This can be confirmed by the fact that over the years, people in love have done things for the sake of their soul mate, which were devoid of reason, but were full of the most tender feelings. They did only what their heart, which was overflowing with love, told them to do. When Juliet decided to die for the reason that she could not be with her beloved because of a certain conflict, it is difficult to say that her decision was full of reason. If she had not done this, she would most likely have married a man she did not love. But she would have had children whom Juliet would have loved more than life itself, and in fact for whom she would have lived. Romeo also made a big mistake when he died for his beloved, because he could have had a better fate. Therefore, only one conclusion can be drawn here that there is no reason in love, but if there was, then a person could take more correct and balanced actions.

Most likely, the mind is present only in mature relationships, where decisions are made not only by the heart, but the person also thinks before doing something. It is absent in adolescence. During this period, young men and women are not used to thinking before doing something. They are impulsive and ready to do anything for love. Therefore, they actually make many mistakes there. And only a mature person, behind whom there is experience, albeit not the most pleasant one, is able to first think about what an impulsive act can lead to.

Today, many also believe that marriages that are concluded, so to speak, by calculation, are stronger than unions in which people who love each other come together. This is exactly what happened many years ago, when parents themselves were looking for a future passion for their daughter or son. And it cannot be said that such marriages were unhappy, rather the opposite. Although today a person independently decides whom to marry or marry, love does not always lead to such unions, often affection, and sometimes even friendship, acts instead. In Europe, people do try to enter into their marriage in adulthood, doing it consciously and correctly. This decision is correct, because according to the statistics of divorces there are much less than ours. As it turned out, love can not live as long as any other feeling. It's sad, but true.

It seems to me that there is absolutely no reason in love, and a person who is overwhelmed by this feeling is not able to act and think soberly. Of course, this feeling is desirable and wonderful, but it is not always worth giving in to it, sometimes it is worth thinking about the future and being guided not only by the heart, but also by the mind.

Why do women choose weak men?

True beauty always has a flaw.
Francis Bacon

Why do women often make the same mistakes, step on the same rake, marry losers, alcoholics and various parasites? Why does a woman, knowing that he has a lot of shortcomings, turning off logic, still marry frivolous men, which moves a woman at the moment of making a decision to go beyond the category of men who never grow up?

Of course, there are a lot of reasons, let's look at:

This is love, when you love, then all the shortcomings seem to be virtues, whatever it is, you close it on all these imperfections of the eye What is more in these relations of reason, or a feeling of love, is not clear, in each case a separate situation. But the root of the problem is, of course, the woman herself, she is a beacon and attracted the corresponding man.
The next reason why girls often marry loafers and losers, this is self-confidence that I will fix it, with my love, upbringing and other moments, is this so, in fact, life shows many examples when a man very rarely changes, it’s just a woman who has to adapt to a man, just the way he is. I don't give a damn about my life in general.
Next reason why women choose a man weaker than women, this is a banal desire to educate, be strong, be a rear and a wall for him, a tandem - mommy-son, a woman becomes just a mommy for her man, preferring to be the master of her own and his life, or rather the mistress.
woman's conviction that all good men were sorted out, only 3rd grade remained, not marriage, you have to take, what is, this is a global mistake of many women, of course this is an illusion, in fact there are many good men, despite the fact that there are significantly fewer of them, at least in our country.
Women are often afraid that they will be left alone, every year this fear grows exponentially, creating conditions when a woman is ready to throw herself in an embrace to any man in order to be in the status of a married woman. But, this status becomes disgusting over the years, due to an unsuccessful marriage, the desire to dissolve the marriage as the initiator, again women often act. Women, as in one of the points, reproaches themselves that where was her head at the time of making such an important decision.
Women often just overestimate their strength, marrying whomever. They hope that they will endure falling in love, that he will change, she will re-sew him, as if it were a computer program, she hopes that she will blind him from what she has, then she will love it.
Of course, life is a very interesting thing, having many combinations, where you don’t know what will happen around the corner, everything changes: nothing is stable, every person, every day he degrades, or becomes more perfect - As Belinsky said, Everything is good and beautiful in harmony, in accordance with itself. Likewise, a woman who chooses a loser or an alcoholic degrades with him, even if she does not drink alcohol with him and distances herself from him. Or flourishes and smells if he lives with a harmonious man. Everything is built as a man, such a woman, there is a single whole.
But the main reason why women prefer to choose male losers, alcoholics and other various degenerates, for the reason that it is so necessary for her at this period of her life. Of course you might think that a woman lacks adrenaline, of course not! She lacks a person who would shake all the dirt out of her, in other words, clean up karma, now this is a very fashionable topic.
In fact, everything is very simple, there is a bad character, there is sticking, there is a great desire to live by instinct, only satisfying basic desires, then a woman will attract corresponding individual a, which will help her tearing away from these moments, the stronger the sticking of a woman for these moments, those strongly on a low moral level, a man will come, in order to help degrade if a woman did not understand why such a man was given, or if a woman understood what was happening, we will literally rise from the ashes.

Everything is based on how a woman reacts to an emergency situation in her personal life. She is discouraged, hates, despises the man she deserves, he tramples her more and more into the mud or humiliates and insults her so that she would be reborn, become a good girl. Of course, for women everything will seem terrible and unfair, but such is life, we are with the people we deserve in this period of life. I will not repeat myself, I wrote about this in my book " Secrets of love and happy relationships” Therefore, for details, I send to this book.
Family conflicts, no matter how strange it may sound, if they are treated correctly, they often save both, the desire to conflict with the partner, this is normal if the couple is not angry with each other, in other words, they do not send emanations of anger, hatred, destruction into each other. The more such emanations, the more dangerous are such conflicts that destroy both. Of course, it is difficult to achieve balance when the conflict has gained momentum, but it is worth learning this, - outside conflict, inside acceptance.

Feeling of love or reason? What more and what to choose?
As you understand, every situation in your life always has a deep meaning, but it also pushes you to change inside to match the feeling of happiness. Life, in fact, gives us many different background and internal clues so that we go the right way to our happiness, you can wander through different labyrinths of your life, or you can choose the right path (road) to get to destination (fortunately) very quickly.
Women mainly associate their happiness with a man, there is a good man, a woman is happy, there is no man, a woman is unhappy, she is in search of a hidden man. If the search is serious, a woman registers on social networks on the forum, goes to parties to meet a worthy man there, she takes care of herself, invests a lot of money in herself to attract. But the result often turns out to be ineffective, then the men come across the wrong ones (they want only fleeting hobbies) or she simply ignores her, because men love women who do not scream with their appearance take me!! On the contrary, they show minimal inaccessibility, the main thing is not to overdo it, there will be too much inaccessibility, there will be one woman, men now do not show much confidence, preferring women who are more accessible. The golden mean rules everything.
The basis of the happiness of any girl, at least in our time, so that a man is not only wealthy, but also handsome, if he is plump, not handsome, but rich, girls close the hour for these little things and get married, etc. For them, a sense of comfort and a well-fed life come to the fore. Are they doing the right thing? This is of course their business, but women at all times lived in accordance with their feelings, to be loved and to love themselves!

It certainly costs a lot, but the rich life that has come to our country in recent decades makes us reconsider the interests of men, many women who increasingly prefer to marry wealthy men. Of course, there is a golden mean when girls marry wealthy men, but they find some character trait or physical parameter and marry this trait. Thus deceiving himself, or believing that the girl in the process of living together will find more and more beautiful features and fall in love ...
Of course, every woman ideally should, but is not required to, live in accordance with her feelings.
Worthless is the feeling that has a price.
N. Chamfort
A woman who trusts her feelings is happier in a relationship, because for her it comes first, when there are feelings and emotions for a man with whom a woman will live under the same roof, then she fulfills her destiny if she ignores her feelings, choosing her instincts and the desire to satisfy the desires of the physical body, then such a woman is already doomed, she will have to break herself until she chooses only a satisfying life. The desire only to receive makes a woman weaker and more passive, a woman’s desire to live according to her feelings makes her strong inside, but weak and feminine on the outside, this is true harmony which every woman should strive for.

Can a person live without feelings?

The basis of the relationship between a man and a woman lies in the plane of feelings, if there are feelings for each other, then both are happy and satisfied. If there are no feelings, young people marry on the basis of various instincts: sexual, mercantile, just to like, etc. Then such a union, it has an extremely short period of time. Because, only the feeling of love gives the greatest satisfaction from each other, and everything else is fleeting.
Can young people marry without feelings, focusing only on various instincts and interests? Of course they can, there are actually a huge number of such couples, they prefer to live, each according to their own interests. Both can have lovers and mistresses on the side, different interests, but there will be less and less common that connects both. Often such couples turn into just like neighbors in the porch, because they initially make the mistake of linking relationships based on different instincts.

Let me enter your life, new life

Every woman in her life wants to be loved, to be at her best, to have a real man next to her, the standard of a real man, in order to attract a real man, of course you need to match him, it doesn’t happen if one is harmonious and the other is not. If both develop, then there is harmony, often women themselves do not know what they want from a man, it just looks like childish whims.

Because there is a mess in the soul and in the mind, when there is chaos of thoughts, then there is a mess not only in the internal environment, but also in relations with men. The ability to look inside, focusing one's attention on the basis, on the soul, on the heart, into the depths of thoughts, makes a woman more sensual, insightful, generous.
Stopping the daily flow of thoughts during the day gives a woman peace and tranquility and freedom of thought.
Tightness, stiffness caused by different thoughts and emotions cause disharmony in a woman. It is difficult to create anything in your life, when personal life, happiness, and the future in general are at stake, women make a category of mistakes. All because the mess and chaos in thoughts leave an imprint on different aspects of life,

If a woman stops all her thoughts for a few minutes, intuitive information enters her mind that can be easily applied. Disorder in the head and in deeds does not lead to anything good. Because just good things cannot get in, because of the large amount of unnecessary things in the head.
You just need to learn how to stop the flow of thoughts during the day, giving relaxation to your consciousness and giving the floor to intuition, which always tells a woman how to act correctly at every stage of life, just many women under the scale of thoughts have forgotten how to hear her.

Homework:

1. Remember when you were the last time alone with your thoughts, when you were the last time with your inner world, where only you and your consciousness, where no one interferes, only peace and quiet. If you haven’t had such days for a long time, then urgently set aside time for this and immerse yourself in a journey inside yourself to figure out what should be thrown out of your head and what to do immediately, so as not to clutter your mind with useless thoughts. Just take a comfortable position, relaxed and immersed in yourself, creating order, throw away everything that needs to be done, write it down on a piece of paper or notebook. T By this you unload your head from the rubbish, creating the conditions for the new to come into your life.
Where there is disorder, chaos, energy does not go there, it simply bypasses or dissipates, if you rake it all up, new thoughts, fresh ideas come, how you should continue to live, how to act in this or that situation.
2. Many women are under the yoke of routine, it is difficult for them to get out of this life's difficulties, twisted into a ram's horn, in order to enter a new round, you need to shake off everything old, get rid of everything old, beaten, rotten - destroy old things, put things in order, commit an act that knocks out of the usual way of life, in order to give a breath of new life. The more ways you find ways to get to the next level, the easier it will be for you to breathe when a person carries a different load. He's inefficient, he's heavy, he's like a turtle doing everything extremely slowly because he's so used to it. Of course, your swamp is better, it is already well-established, no need to break it, everything is familiar and painfully familiar. But one cannot stay in this swamp of one's own thoughts and unrealized thoughts for a very long time, it can suck for a lifetime.
3. You understand that in order for love to come into your life, something new, you need to get rid of the old, every day, get rid of everything wriggling from your life, write down in your notebook what you threw out of your life, what you are pulled down into the swamp - maybe it's some old thing, or maybe it's a boring record from some habit, the main thing is to admit that you have flaws, so it's much easier to deal with them. The Art of Mindfulness We Do gives great opportunities if we watch our victories over our shortcomings. Which do not interfere with us, but they do not allow energy to flow in order to change our lives more radically.

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Themes of compositions.

Mind and feeling

When is the “mind and heart out of tune”? (Griboyedov)

There is a conscience - there is shame.

A wise man does not pursue that which is pleasant, but that which relieves troubles. (Aristotle)

Emotions can flare up in any person, but whether they control the mind is up to him to decide.

`Is the mind ready to play along,

When is riot open to the soul?` (O. Vasilenko)

What is more in love: feelings or reason?

Is love reasonable?

What controls the actions of a person in an extreme situation: feelings or reason?

Reason - a happy gift of man or his curse?
Do rational and moral always coincide?

Introduction (60-70 words)

1. Feelings and reason - what is more important? This question has always occupied people. And the answer is simple, and it is on the surface: both feelings and reason are equally important. You need to listen to them equally.

2. Is it necessary to separate feelings and reason?... For many years people have been arguing about what is the mind without feelings or feelings without the mind? Some believe that you can discard feelings and rely on the mind, while others, on the contrary, prefer feelings rather than reason. There are still others who say that the mind and feelings should live in harmony.

3. Mind and feeling ... What is it? These are the two most important forces, two components of the inner world of every person. Both these forces equally need each other.

4. And let's talk about feelings. About how to live in general - based on the mind or on feelings? How is it better? How "correct"?

What is more important: feelings or reason?

If a person listens exclusively to the mind, he runs the risk of suppressing his feelings, unlearning how to feel, losing his intuition. Such a person is forced to live in the grip of "should" and "right." He begins to make the same demands on others, condemn them and punish them for the "excess" of feelings that he himself is deprived of.

If a person listens only to feelings, he runs the risk of being captured by his passions, getting lost in his desires, and ceasing to distinguish between "I want" and "I need to." Blindly following feelings leads to self-indulgence. And it is very difficult then to regain your will.

6. Feelings and reason - what is more important? Everyone knows that the mind and feelings are interconnected. Some people choose for themselves a reliance on the mind, and listen to feelings - as a guide. Other people consider their feelings more important and use their mind as a guide. They evaluate how not to do something stupid and not lose the ground under their feet, following their desires. However, there is no significant difference between the first and second paths. It is not so important whether feelings or reason come first. It is important that they are balanced.

Thesis

§ It is human nature to choose: to act wisely, considering each step, weighing your words, planning actions, or obey your feelings. These feelings can be very different: from love to hate, from malice to kindness, from rejection to acceptance. Feelings are very strong in a person. They can easily take possession of his soul and consciousness.

§ Our feelings and reason are not always in harmony. Very often we hear: live with your heart! Living with the heart means living with the feelings. But feelings are by nature very contradictory and ambivalent. Well, for example, Love. She brings happiness. And she brings suffering. Or envy: it can devour a person from the inside, or it can activate and inspire to actions.
From this we can conclude that it is difficult to live with feelings.

§ What choice to make in this or that situation: to submit to feelings, which are often still selfish, or to listen to the voice of reason? How to avoid internal conflict between these two "elements"? Everyone must answer these questions for himself. And a person also makes a choice on his own, a choice on which not only the future, but life itself can sometimes depend.

§ Yes, mind and feelings often oppose each other. Whether a person can bring them into harmony, make sure that the mind is supported by feelings and vice versa - it depends on the will of the person, on the degree of responsibility, on the moral guidelines that he follows.

§ Nature rewarded people with the greatest wealth - reason, gave them the opportunity to experience feelings. Now they themselves must learn to live, being aware of all their actions, but at the same time remaining sensitive, able to feel joy, love, kindness, attention, not to succumb to anger, enmity, envy and other negative feelings.

§ One more thing is important: a person who lives only by feelings, in fact, is not free. He subordinated himself to them, to these emotions and feelings, whatever they may be: love, envy, anger, greed, fear, and others. He is weak and even easily controlled by others, by those who want to take advantage of this human dependence on feelings for their own selfish and selfish purposes. Therefore, feelings and reason must exist in harmony, so that feelings help a person to see the whole gamut of shades in everything, and the mind - to respond correctly, adequately to this, not to drown in the abyss of feelings.

§ Learning to live in harmony between your feelings and your mind is very important. A strong personality, living according to the laws of morality and morality, is capable of this. And there is no need to listen to the opinion of some people that the world of the mind is boring, monotonous, uninteresting, and the world of feelings is comprehensive, beautiful, bright. The harmony of mind and feelings will give a person immeasurably more in the knowledge of the world, in self-awareness, in the perception of life in general.

§ “Reason and feelings are two forces that suddenly need each other equally, they are dead and insignificant one without the other,” V.G. Belinsky. And I agree with him. After all, you must admit that without feelings, guided only by logic, we will cease to understand other people, and life will lose all its colors. We will lead a miserable existence, unable to even express love, affection, joy, compassion, sadness, anger, jealousy, despair, and many other feelings. But, on the other hand, one cannot live only with feelings either. After all, no matter how beautifully poets of all times paint them, it is because of feelings that humanity makes most mistakes. And if feelings are not limited by the mind, then irreparable things can happen. One has only to imagine what will happen if every person in the world acts on a pure outburst of feelings, forgetting about all logic and sanity. Therefore, feelings and reason must be in harmony within a person, because they are exactly what makes us human. To prove my words, I will give a few examples.

§ Love is the warmest and most tender feeling. It transforms a person and inspires him to beautiful deeds. This feeling is familiar to all of us. What about passion? I believe that this is the highest degree of love, when the chosen one becomes the meaning of life, and everything else seems small and insignificant. Unfortunately, this feeling does not always fill a person's heart with happiness. It can destroy life and inflict incurable spiritual wounds. The worst thing is that such love overshadows people's minds. Experiencing passion, a person sees only good in his chosen one, ignores all his shortcomings and refuses to believe in the lack of reciprocity, coming up with excuses for a loved one.

§ When true love comes to a person, he is ready for anything for it. A sincere lover is selfless in his actions and happy just to be near the dearest person. I believe that being loved is a great gift of fate, which it does not present to everyone. It is a pity that not everyone is able to appreciate this luxury and prefer high status and material wealth to love.

§ The feeling of love is wonderful, but reason gives long life and strength to feelings.

§ Often you can hear from people that they doubt between some specific desires, choosing what exactly to give preference to - the mind or feelings. Most often, such a choice is faced by those who have problems on the personal front - their hearts want to be with someone, but the mind tells them that, most likely, nothing good will come from such a union (Olesya)

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§ I think that it is impossible to give an exact answer to this question, because it was not in vain that the author left it open. Everyone must decide and choose one path for themselves.

§ Talking about real and sincere feelings, I would like to turn to ...

§ In this work ... he was able to convey the mental anguish of the main character. .

§ Reading "..." we are convinced that "mind and feelings are two forces that equally need each other."

§ My first example will be the book “...”, the author of which is ... It tells about ... The hero of the work is guided only by reason

§ This book is a vivid example of a cold mind and hot feelings breaking through the thickness of prohibitions in the hero's painful struggle with himself.

§ These works tell about a hero whose mind prevails over feelings. The protagonist is prudent, smart and knows how to turn any situation in his favor.

§ Although he is always guided only by reason, impulses of feelings are often visible in his actions.

§ But the predominance of feelings over reason is clearly beginning to be traced in it. I also consider this series a good example of how in one person there is both a calculating mind and impulsive feelings.

Conclusion.

§ Summing up, I affirm that in every person there should be harmony of feelings and reason. After all, only in their harmony lies the road to the prosperity of the human soul.

§ I think that a person should be harmonious and perceive the world differently, depending on the situation. Of course, in most cases, you should use the mind - this way you will achieve greater success in serious matters with serious people, gain their respect and recognition. But it is impossible to refuse the use of other means of perception. A person will quickly get tired if he uses only the mind, forgetting about feelings and intuition. It is important to give yourself free rein, the opportunity to experiment in life, sometimes even at the cost of mistakes. It is also sometimes very important to use intuition, especially when a person is not helped by reason and feelings, or when he cannot choose between them. In general, summing up the results, I want to say that, probably, the mind is usually the strongest. This is good and normal, thanks to this the world around and develops. But it is not in vain that a person is given feelings and intuition, sometimes they can be given free rein and used to their heart's content.

§ Those who are skeptical about life with their hearts suggest “turning on the head”, i.e. live with reason. However, "reasonable behavior" does not guarantee success and does not exclude mistakes. Because a pure mind, without the promptings of the heart, is unable to recognize and satisfy our desires, is unable to correctly understand those around us, and is incapable of much else. The "correct" life, where everything is logical, thought out and weighed, will never make us completely happy.

§ Therefore, we can say with confidence that the great Russian writer wanted to convey to the hearts of readers that the most important thing is to remain yourself, act according to your conscience and listen to your heart.

§ What conclusion can be drawn from this topic? Recalling the pages of the works... I come to the conclusion that in both works we see an internal human conflict: feelings oppose reason. Without a deep moral sense, "a person cannot have either love or honor." How are mind and feeling related? I would like to quote the words of the Russian writer M.M. Prishvin: “There are feelings that replenish and obscure the mind, but there is a mind that cools the movement of feelings.”

§ Of course, the world of human feelings is really interesting and beautiful in its own way., feelings will always be an integral part of the harmony of our lives, the main thing is to correctly prioritize and not drown in the abyss of feelings. +_ quote

§ Harmony of feelings and reason is possible only when feelings are subordinated to reason. A person who lives with feelings, be it love, fear, envy, greed, etc. - a person who is completely not free and dependent on the world around him. A person who lives by feelings is controllable and unreliable. Of course, we are not talking about completely excluding feelings from life, it would be impossible and stupid. But the supremacy must undoubtedly remain with reason.

LET'S TALK...

o Any feeling is a product of love or hatred. Hatred is the opposite of love. It destroys, destroys and tears. Hate causes us to experience the emotions of anger, anger, rage and annoyance.

o aesthetic feelings. This kind of feelings refers to those emotions and sensations of a person that he experiences when looking at beauty or, conversely, at its absence - ugliness. The object of perception in this case can be works of art (music, sculpture, poetry and prose, painting, and so on), various natural phenomena, as well as the people themselves, their actions and deeds.

o Indeed, a lot of things cause aesthetic pleasure in a person: the beauty of living landscapes, reading books and poems, listening to music. We enjoy the clothes we buy, the interiors we create, modern furniture, and even new kitchen utensils. The same applies to the actions committed by the people around us, because we evaluate them from the point of view of those generally accepted moral standards that exist in society.

o B moral feelings expresses the attitude of a person to the people around him, to the team, to his social duties, to himself as a person. Based on the principles of morality inherent in him, a person evaluates both his own behavior and actions, as well as the moral qualities of other people, experiences certain emotions depending on how these actions or qualities correspond to moral standards. Positive assessments by others of a person’s actions cause him a sense of satisfaction, negative ones are experienced as shame, pangs of conscience.

o Moral feelings can be conditionally divided into three types. These are, firstly, feelings that reflect our attitude to the social conditions in which we live - a feeling of love for the Motherland, a sense of internationalism, a sense of humanism. Secondly, these are feelings that are manifested in our attitude towards people around us, towards the team - feelings of camaraderie, duty, mutual understanding, responsibility, sympathy, friendship, affection, compassion, empathy. The third type is feelings that express our attitude towards ourselves, towards our actions: conscience, shame, honor, dignity. The source of moral feelings is the social life of people, their relationships, the common struggle to achieve their goals. The specific content of moral feelings is determined by those assessments, moral principles that are inherent in real social relations in a given socio-historical formation.

o High moral feelings of people is, first of all, a feeling of love for one's country, a feeling of patriotism. The feeling of patriotism is multifaceted. It is inextricably linked with a sense of national dignity and pride, national identity. National identity is a person's awareness of his belonging to a particular nation.

o Feeling of love for the motherland associated with love for people, with a sense of humanity. Sense of humanity due to moral norms and values, a system of personality attitudes towards social objects (a person, a group, living beings), represented in the mind by experiences, with experiences and are realized in communication, activity, help. A person is guided by feelings of humanism in recognizing the rights, freedom, honor and dignity of another person.

o sense of honor. These are high moral feelings, which are characterized by the attitude of a person towards himself and the attitude of other people towards him. Honor is the recognition by society of the achievements of the individual.

o The concept of honor covers the desire of a person to maintain his reputation, prestige, good reputation in the social environment to which he belongs. The notion of dignity is associated with honor.

o sense of dignity manifests itself in the public recognition of human rights to respect from others, to independence, in his awareness of this independence, the moral value of his actions and qualities, the rejection of everything that humiliates him as a person.

o A person's assessment of his own actions, good and unkind, his activities, his attitude towards others is called his conscience. This evaluation is not only mental, but also emotional. It is experienced, realized by a person and is considered an internal regulator of his behavior, a manifestation of moral consciousness. The strength and effectiveness of the influence of conscience on a person depends on the strength of a person's moral convictions.

o Often on the Internet, films and books, we meet reasoning on the topic "mind and feelings." Quotations from many works convince us that " mind and feelings should be in harmony', other quotes state that the world of human feelings is interesting, but the world of reason is boring, and therefore, man let your feelings go! In short, in the question of a healthy relationship between reason and feelings, we cannot always correctly assess what should prevail over what, reason over feelings or feelings over reason.

o Probably, for a person associated with literature, the words “Feeling and Reason” will evoke at least several associations: poor Liza Karamzina, whose feelings made a hole in the dry and correct classicism of the 18th century (“And peasant women know how to love!”), Pravdina, Milons, Starodums - an honest company of young and not very people who showed the whole world that duty, reason wins feelings always when it comes to honor and justice

Expressions about feelings

§ Great thoughts come from the heart, great feelings come from the mind. Louis Gabriel Ambroise de Bonald

§ To live means to feel, to enjoy life, to feel constantly new, which would remind us that we live. Nikolay Ivanovich Lobachevsky

§ We all have one anchor from which, if you do not want to, you will never break: a sense of duty. Ivan Sergeevich Turgenev

§ The height of feelings is in direct proportion to the depth of thoughts. Victor Marie Hugo

§ Too subtle sensitivity is a true misfortune. Carl Julius Weber

§ The highest and most characteristic feature of our people is a sense of justice and a thirst for it. Fedor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky

§ Every thought born from a moral idea is a feeling. Pierre-Simon Ballanche

§ People hate those who make them feel their inferiority. Philip Dormer Stanhope Chesterfield

§ Straightforwardness adorns all the feelings it accompanies. Jean Jacques Rousseau

§ If the feelings are not true, then our whole mind will be false. Lucretius (Titus Lucretius Car)

§ Own passions, otherwise passions will take possession of you. Epictetus

§ ... Whoever subdued his feelings, steadfastly of that consciousness. "Bhagavad Gita"

§ There are people who create a heart for themselves with their minds, others create their minds with their hearts: the latter are more successful than the former, because there is much more reason in feeling than in the reason of feelings. Petr Yakovlevich Chaadaev

§ A person needs to experience strong feelings in order to develop noble qualities that would expand the circle of his life. Honore de Balzac

§ There are feelings that replenish and obscure the mind, and there is a mind that cools the movement of feelings.
Mikhail Mikhailovich Prishvin

§ The best person is the one who lives mainly by his own thoughts and other people's feelings, the worst kind of person is the one who lives by other people's thoughts and his own feelings. Of the various combinations of these four foundations, the motives of activity - all the differences in people. People who live only by their feelings are animals. Lev Nikolayevich Tolstoy

§ What we do, we could do without the participation of feelings - feelings only accompany our actions.
Alfred Adler

§ Feeling is fire, thought is oil. Belinsky V. G.

§ When we are ready to succumb to the dictates of feelings, Shyness always prevents us from admitting it. Know how to recognize behind the coldness of words The excitement of the soul and heart is a gentle call. Molière

§ In the world of feeling there is only one law - to make the happiness of the one you love. Stendhal

§ ...Among the fields, near the vast expanses of the sea, feelings become higher and purer. France A.

§ To be sensual means to be suffering. Marx K.

§ By sympathizing, we move into the state of mind of another person; we seem to be evicted from ourselves in order to settle in the soul of another. Smiles S.

§ Without a certain mental culture, there can be no refined feelings. Frans A.

§ A person who is prone to lofty feelings usually deceives himself and others. Remarque E.M.

§ Sincerity is the mother of truth and the sign of an honest person. Diderot D.

§ It is known that a fiery feeling is expressed briefly, but strongly. Derzhavin G.R.

§ Feelings that we experience do not transform us, but suggest to us the idea of transformation. Thus, love does not rid us of selfishness, but makes us aware of it and reminds us of our distant homeland, where there is no place for selfishness. Camyu A.

§ No imagination can come up with so many conflicting feelings that usually coexist in one human heart. La Rochefoucauld

§ Whom nothing angers, he does not have a heart, and an insensitive person cannot be a person. Gracian y Morales

§ If you want to please people, appeal to the senses, be able to dazzle the eyes, sweeten and soften the ear, attract the heart. And then let their mind try to do something to your detriment. Chesterfield F.

People are driven by different impulses. Sometimes they are driven by sympathy, a warm attitude, and they forget about the voice of reason. You can divide humanity into two halves. Some people constantly analyze their behavior, they are used to thinking through every step. Such individuals are practically not amenable to deception. However, it is extremely difficult for them to arrange their personal lives. Because from the moment they meet a potential soulmate, they begin to look for benefits and try to derive a formula for perfect compatibility. Therefore, noticing such a mindset, others move away from them.

Others are completely subject to the call of feelings. During love, it is difficult to notice even the most obvious realities. Therefore, they are often deceived and suffer greatly from this.

The complexity of relations between representatives of different sexes is that at different stages of the relationship, men and women use a reasonable approach too much, or vice versa, trust the choice of a course of action to the heart.

The presence of fiery feelings, of course, distinguishes humanity from the animal world, but without iron logic and some calculation it is impossible to build a cloudless future.

There are many examples of people suffering because of their feelings. They are vividly described in Russian and world literature. An example is the work of Leo Tolstoy "Anna Karenina". If the main character had not fallen in love recklessly, but had trusted the voice of reason, she would have remained alive, and the children would not have to experience the death of their mother.

Both reason and feelings must be present in consciousness in approximately equal proportions, then there is a chance for absolute happiness. Therefore, one should not refuse in some situations the wise advice of older and more intelligent mentors and relatives. There is a popular wisdom: "A smart person learns from the mistakes of others, and a fool learns from his own." If you draw the correct conclusion from this expression, you can humble the impulses of your feelings in some cases, which can adversely affect fate.

Although sometimes it is very difficult to make an effort on yourself. Especially if sympathy for a person overwhelms. Some feats and self-sacrifices are made out of great love for faith, country, and one's own duty. If the armies used only cold calculation, they would hardly raise their banners over the conquered heights. It is not known how the Great Patriotic War would have ended if it were not for the love of the Russian people for their land, relatives and friends.

Composition 2 option

Mind or feelings? Or maybe something else? Can reason be combined with feelings? This is the question every person asks himself. When you are faced with two opposites, one side screams, choose the mind, the other screams that you can’t go anywhere without feelings. And you don't know where to go and what to choose.

The mind is a necessary thing in life, thanks to it we can think about the future, make our plans and achieve our goals. Thanks to our mind, we become more successful, but it is the feelings that make people out of us. Feelings are not inherent in everyone and they are different, both positive and negative, but it is they that make us do unimaginable things.

Sometimes, thanks to feelings, people perform such unrealistic actions that it took years to achieve this with the help of reason. So what to choose? Everyone chooses for himself, having chosen the mind, a person will follow one path and, perhaps, be happy, choosing feelings, a completely different road promises a person. No one can predict in advance whether it will be good for him from the chosen path or not, we can draw conclusions only at the end. As to the question whether the mind and the senses can cooperate with each other, I think they can. People can love each other, but understand that in order to create a family, they need money, and for this they need to work or study. Here in this case, the mind and feelings act together.

It seems to me that these two concepts only start working together when you grow up. While a person is small, he has to choose between two paths, it is very difficult for a small person to find points of contact between reason and feeling. Thus, a person always faces a choice, every day he has to fight with it, because sometimes the mind can help in a difficult situation, and sometimes feelings are pulled out of a situation where the mind would be powerless.

Brief essay

Many believe that the mind and feelings are two things that are completely incompatible with each other. But to me, they are two parts of the same whole. There are no feelings without reason and vice versa. Everything we feel, we think about, and sometimes when we think, feelings appear. These are two parts that create an idyll. If at least one of the components is missing, then all actions will be in vain.

For example, when people fall in love, they must turn on their mind, since it is he who can evaluate the whole situation and tell the person whether he made the right choice.

The mind helps not to make a mistake in serious situations, and feelings are sometimes able to intuitively suggest the right path, even if it seems unrealistic. Mastering the two components of one whole is not as easy as it sounds. On the path of life, you will have to face considerable difficulties until you yourself learn to control and find the right facet of these components. Of course, life is not perfect and sometimes it is necessary to turn off one thing.

You can't always balance. Sometimes you need to trust your feelings and make a leap forward, this will be an opportunity to feel life in all its colors, regardless of whether the choice is right or not.

Composition on the topic Reason and feelings with arguments.

Final essay on literature Grade 11.

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