The most unfortunate gifts - how to get rid of them? Damage through a gift: when you should be careful They gave a thing a bad person what to do

What to do with unwanted gifts? To simplify, we divide them into two groups: gifts with conditions, explicit or hidden, and simply inappropriate gifts. Gifts with Explicit or Hidden Conditions In such gifts, in addition to the thing, you get hints, obligations, a duty to do something to the giver, a feeling that you are wrong about something, a decrease in self-esteem, manipulation, and other “pleasant” surprises. Such a gift at first causes bewilderment, and negative emotions like anger or resentment appear a little later. For example, people do not hesitate to accompany the gift with words like “and I hope that now you will be more favorable to me”, or the more innocent phrase “next time we will drink tea from this set”, or something like this: “and you will spend this money for training, which I have been telling you about for so long" (as an option - "rather give us grandchildren"). Feeling confused? - This is a sure signal that they are trying to manipulate you.

Fact: much more common than a true attempt at manipulation is "holy simplicity." The giver sincerely wishes well and believes that it will be better for you. Or he could not think of anything else, or did not even think about how such a present would be perceived by you. Is this your case? Then just move it to the “inappropriate gift” group and read on.

Another option for a gift with explicit conditions might look like a complaint about the incredible amount of effort and time spent finding and buying a gift. Complaining about what complicated tricks the donor had to go to just to get this particular thing just for you on this particular day. As a condition, the same reciprocal obligation is implied here: you must spend time, effort, resources, or something else that you have and that the donor claims. How to respond to gifts "with the expectation of a response"?

How to recognize the "games" of the giver As a rule, such gifts have some element of surprise in the context of your relationship. It can be an unexpectedly expensive gift from a poor person, or just a very expensive gift with the price tag still intact. Or a surprise from someone you haven't talked to in years. A gift with a hidden condition is an unpleasant story that you have to rack your brains over to understand the motives. Behind him can be hidden a long-standing difficult relationship with showdowns and unreasonable demands. Or your negative past experience associated with gifts from this person.

What to do In this case, it is right to refuse a gift - find every opportunity not to accept it. “Do not accept” means either not to take the gift in hand at all, or to return it as soon as possible. Try to be tactful when returning a gift. Refuse politely, don't do it in public or with judgmental, if truthful, remarks like "You're trying to make me feel like you owe me." Refer to allergies, business ethics - find any wording that will not offend (hint article - how to politely refuse a person without offending him). Do not leave the donated on your territory in any case. If the giver didn't take the gift himself, get rid of it anyway in any civilized way.

What to do if you can not refuse Imagine that your mother gives you money for your birthday with the condition that you spend it on something that she (and not you) considers important. Immediately returning the envelope to her for many will mean conflict, strong resentment and worsening relations, which not everyone is ready to do. Unfortunately, sometimes you won’t be able to refuse such a conditional gift, and you still have to experience a whole range of unpleasant emotions. We have already talked about refusal at the time of donation. Sometimes the option “do not accept without informing the giver” is possible: you decide internally that you do not take this thing, and get rid of it as quickly as possible. Thus, you are freed from obligations and debt. True, the donor will not automatically be released from his expectations, and later you will need to explain to him why you do not fulfill his conditions.

What gives confidence. Remind yourself that saying no is okay. You have the right to say no. 2. You are not required to accept all gifts from everyone - there is no such law.3. Refusing a gift does not mean that you are a poorly educated person with a bad temper. 4. You are not obliged to unquestioningly submit to the manipulative attempts of other people.5. Even if you accepted a gift with a condition, you are still not required to do what is expected of you, regardless of the opinion of the giver on this matter. 6. The sooner you return the gift, the better for you in the long run. 7. Do not deceive the giver, making it clear that you accepted the gift, if in fact you threw it away. You should not voice non-existent reasons like "I broke him" or "He is somewhere on the mezzanine." Firstly, in this way you become entangled in lies, secondly, mutual expectations and requirements will remain the same, and thirdly, both of you will feel discomfort and inconvenience, and this does not contribute to building relationships. 8. By refusing such a gift, you protect the boundaries of your personal space and try to build relationships. Fact: not rejoicing at a gift with conditions, not wanting to accept it and experiencing negative feelings about it is normal. You are not required to do what is expected of you.

Just the wrong gifts The second type of gifts is a more common story. As a rule, we accept them, and then we begin to think about where to attach them: on the mezzanine or immediately in the trash, intentionally break or re-gift, or maybe even sell them. Endless cheap Santa Clauses and snow-covered houses for the New Year, cups and glasses one at a time, clothes and household goods in the wrong size or style, souvenirs bought "just not to show up empty-handed", soap dishes with an indecent image of Harry Potter, brought from Europe, and the whole similar assortment - it does not contain any malicious background in your address. People constantly have to solve a difficult problem: what to give. About a serious test for the psyche, when you need to go to the store and choose don't-know-what-but-to-like, we already wrote.

What to do if you don't like the giftRemember what Marie Kondo wrote in her book: the gift fulfilled its function at the moment of giving. With the help of this thing, they showed you that they thought about you, they didn’t forget about you, they want good for you. On this, the gift business ended, and it became your property. You can dispose of it as if you bought it yourself. And you probably bought something unsuccessful more than once, not suitable in size or under the influence of emotions. And surely you have had experience of how to get rid of such things, even if at the same time you experienced some regret or annoyance. Here is the same situation. Use any instruction if you don’t know how to deal with unnecessary things, since there are now a million of them on this issue. Adopt the same Marie Kondo method. Your house is not made of rubber, it will not be able to accommodate all the unfortunate and inappropriate that you personally or other people bought for you. RELATED…Secrets of Order: New Book and New Ideas from Cleaning Guru Marie Kondo

What prevents you from throwing it out I will assume that in your head there are a number of beliefs or rules that we learned once very long ago, forgetting to comprehend how true and universal they really are. We just took them for granted and are still using them automatically. Here are examples of such beliefs (find your own): A gift is not re-gifted. New items are not thrown away. It is indecent to give a thing you do not need (“on, to you, God, what is worthless to me”). Selling a gift or even more so returning it to a store is the height of bad manners. This may be a series of assumptions about the giver or about himself: He will be offended if he finds out that I got rid of the gift. He expects me to use this thing for the rest of my life. He had to find something suitable. I have to use what they give me. I shouldn't upset other people. I will have to deceive him, supposedly I will use his gift, and it is not good to do so. In most cases, such fears are exaggerated and completely or largely untrue.

What if it's your gifts that aren't accepted? For example, you have a daughter-in-law, daughter, or son that you "can't please." Whatever you donate, they don’t like it, and your gift is refused? Go back to the beginning and reread the text with the thought “what should I do not to.” In most cases, the problem is “baggage”: redundant stories about the severity of the search and the moral obligations that accompany the gift. If it is important for you to start accepting gifts, try to formulate your wish as concisely as possible. And do not "lay out" moral obligations immediately - in response to gratitude. This is exactly the very dangerous moment when you can ruin everything (we talked more about it in the material “How to respond to compliments”). It is very important to learn to accept praise.

Happy New Year! More you need and nice gifts. YOUR TURN…Give us gift ideas that you think are always appropriate. What good gifts do you remember? What are you going to give to friends and family this year?

What a gift - such is the development of your life path. Be more attentive to gifts, some gifts can work as a lining, and others - as a projection of your future: both good and bad.

The development of a child is believed to depend on many factors. Gifts are items that a child needs to develop in his environment, and the degree of fulfillment of his desires is objective. Agree that the level of accuracy in the fulfillment of your desires from childhood has shaped your social preferences in the environment. Buying a computer, phone, gadgets from a modern child forms the rise of his status among peers and the level of knowledge of the subject.

How do objects affect the level of social status and personality development?

If we recall the last century, then good imported felt-tip pens, a doll, clothes (jeans, etc.) raised you to a great social height in the eyes of your peers. Bioenergetically, it looks like the accumulation of experience in a person through the development of one or another thing, acquired objectively. In this case, if you look at your childhood and the childhood of your children, you will see a colossal difference in both needs and development opportunities. Now the level of self-awareness in things, objects is completely versatile, and the energy-semantic load inherent in a gift can have various consequences. and psychics know: it happens that a negative information is placed as a gift, a certain program, which then acts for many years on the family in which such a gift is located. This is a gift-lining, such a gift must be dealt with harshly, first of all, it should be put in a plastic bag and tightly tied, respectively, the negative energy of the gift-lining will hang in the bag. It is better to throw it away later, but if the person who gave you this thing is part of your family, these are usually relatives, then you should not throw it away. You can simply put such a gift away, and if necessary, you can always present it to your giver, but then again this item should be put in the bag.

When should dangerous gifts be disposed of?

Sometimes the person who gave you a lining gift puts his unresolved problems there, that is, dumps his negativity on this gift, and this happens subconsciously, since not everyone consciously harms their friends. So, if you noticed that after such a gift-lining, you started having problems - the same as the donor, then immediately, without regret, get rid of the gift. There will be a break in the negative energy between you and the donor, and all the negative program that has not reached you will go back to the donor. There will be a blowback, and the giver may find himself in a situation doubly worse than he was in before the gift. Your task is not to react through your heart about his problem when this person appears with a story about his misadventures. That is, do not take someone else's negativity back. It also happens that they give a gift in which the logic of your life development is embedded. If you or your loved ones were given a gift with such a meaning, be careful about it. After all, sometimes a donated flask, beautiful glasses, decanters - can later become a cause of addiction to alcohol. Also pay attention to the toys that are given to children at school, be sure to look at what they give and in what capacity. So, as the logic of animals, dolls, cars and other things can also then work for the materialization of symbolism in the future: either good or bad. Pens, knives, pots, toys, books, all kinds of computer equipment, gadgets - these are all objects that affect human development. From a good donor, these items will elevate you in your status and business path. A bad donor can hinder your positive development. Include your feelings and intuition when receiving gifts. Distinguish bad energy from good energy.

How does the subtle energy of a gift affect a person and the development of events?

It is undesirable to give or accept expensive things as a gift if you do not correspond to such a gift in status. Since a gift is obviously not affordable for you, it will energetically oblige you to something, create dependence, and you will feel yourself indebted to the person who gave you. Accordingly, your energy will subconsciously go to the address of this donor when you take his gift for use. And it is not a fact that you will be able to create yourself, since dependence on the donor can hold back money from coming to you, just for the amount of the gift. If you are given a gift by a person who is unpleasant to you, but you cannot refuse, then try to take this gift without that inner attitude of denial towards the giver. Otherwise, you, having shown a negative attitude, will pave the path of evil energy from the donor to yourself. There were cases when a gift made at a wedding (bed linen, bedspread, dishes, etc.) then 10-15 years later corroded the family energetically. And as a result, there were discords, divorces, quarrels ... In such cases, it is necessary to contact a specialist in the field of esotericism. We need a mutual and a client, which will help change the situation in the family. Remember, information about you in the minds of your envious acquaintances, close girlfriends or friends can be an anchor in your development. Therefore, do not make purchases in front of friends whose level of consciousness does not pull this purchase. For someone, the car you bought may seem like an unaffordable luxury, and this purchase will turn on the negative energy of envy and destruction. Especially if before that you did not show your material wealth. Be sure to make gifts to yourself, this will stimulate you to develop, and you will feel comfortable. It is impossible to live, giving only to your loved ones, investing everything in them and forgetting about yourself. This will not be appreciated, your life will be spent in the bustle of other people's sensations from new things. Accordingly, illnesses, depressions, dissatisfaction in work and in personal life can begin. Therefore, you should not forget yourself, be sure to pamper yourself and loved ones with pleasant surprises and gifts with a positive logic of development.

There are beliefs that can tell you which presents to refuse and which ones to buy.

The choice of gifts for relatives and friends is responsible and exciting.

Unfortunately, not everyone thinks so, acquiring a traditional pair of socks for men and another frying pan or pan for women.

Our ancestors believed that this was fundamentally wrong. There are beliefs that can tell you which presents to refuse and which ones to buy.

Watch

Presenting watches in many countries is considered at least bad taste.

In China, they believe that this gift will count the time that a person has left to live.

There is no such superstition in our country, but many believe that such a present will lead to a quarrel.

Knife

Europeans believe that it is not worth giving cutting objects - they are harbingers of future problems in the recipient's home.

Residents of Latin America believe that by giving a knife, they "cut off" all ties with the person to whom it is presented.

We are closer to the belief that the Europeans have.

The inhabitants of the Caucasus and the East are calm about weapons presented as a gift.

Socks

It is believed that if a woman gives a man socks, he can leave home.

If the mother-in-law gives her son socks, she encourages him to leave her influence.

Handkerchief

Orthodox people believe that a handkerchief presented as a present portends possible tears.

Book

Popular belief says that a book can be given to relatives, but not to a soul mate - such a gift for a loved one can be a harbinger of a quarrel.

The book cannot be given to a married couple - this can provoke quarrels and discord in their home.

Pearl

The ancient Greeks believed that pearls were the tears of sea nymphs.

Such a gift portends imminent tears.

Mirror

Many superstitions are associated with mirrors.

It is believed that they bring trouble to a new home.

Dishes

You can not give cracked, chipped dishes - this can cause a "broken" life.

If dishes are still chosen as a gift, something must be put inside.

The tradition by which the newlyweds break the dishes at the wedding is considered fortunate. They leave everything bad outside of the created family.

Bird figurines

Figures of birds bring anxiety and fussiness into the house.

Bag, suitcase, empty wallet

When choosing one of these things as a gift, you must definitely put something inside, and it is absolutely impossible to give a wallet without money. Let there be one coin or bill.

Plants, animals

Presenting such a "live" gift, the donor must be asked for a ransom.

Without it, according to popular belief, the new resident of the house will not find his place.

Slippers

Superstitious people believe that slippers as a gift can bring illness or death to a person.

This is especially true for white slippers.

Amber jewelry

It is believed that amber jewelry is a symbol of imminent separation.

Caskets

Hair combs

Such a gift can help others and the giver to see the thoughts of a person.

Scarf, gloves, mittens

There is no exact explanation for the ban on such gifts.

Tie

A tie connects the donor and the new owner of such a thing.

A love spell can be made on a tie.

They say that such a gift can be presented to a very close person.

Knitten things

This sign should be adopted by unmarried girls.

It is better to present such things after the wedding.

Underwear

This sign applies to women.

It is believed that a wife who gave her husband underwear encourages him to cheat.

Chain

If the chain breaks after the donation, then they say that the relationship between people will break soon.

Towel

Such a gift can bring illness.

Pectoral cross

The cross is given at baptism.

In another case, the donor gives the person with a present part of the illnesses, problems, hardships.

Church officials completely refute this superstition.

Cosmetics for washing and shower

Candle

It is worth refusing such a gift, they say that it is for a quick funeral.

Decorative candles are also not worth giving.

alcohol

This superstition is fully explained by common sense.

They say that such a gift takes away part of the health and this is understandable.

Despite the impressive list of prohibitions, there is a way to get around them.

• It is necessary to ask a person for a small, symbolic ransom - even one coin will be enough. In this case, the present turns into a purchase, because a price has been received for the goods.

What is suitable as a gift

Unfortunately, very little is said about suitable gifts, but some points require special attention.

Pillow

Pillows should be given in pairs so that they bring harmony and prosperity to the house.

Carpet

The carpet, presented as a gift, promises the new owner good luck in any new business.

Tablecloth

A tablecloth gift strengthens the friendship between the recipient and the giver.

Sunglasses

This sign applies more to married men.

If they present such a present to their spouse, they will reduce the number of quarrels in the house.

The wife will be able to look at the world through the eyes of her husband through glasses.

Pen

This writing instrument should be presented to managers.

Signs of donation

There are special signs associated with the method of donation.

They may be useful to you:

• After sunset, you can not give money. This is to the needs of the giver, but not the recipient. As a last resort, in the evening you need to put such a gift on the table, but definitely not give it to your hands. It is better to present a monetary present in the morning, in the afternoon.
• It is forbidden to re-gift gifts. First of all, it is ugly and the energy of the "repeated" present is deteriorating.
• Gifts cannot be presented through the threshold, you must enter the house.
• Gifts cannot be presented before the birthday. A pre-delivered gift should not be unwrapped, so you should ask the recipient about it if there is no other way out. Let him see him on the day of the feast.
• Flowers should be given in odd numbers. Lovers should leave yellow flowers aside. They say they are separated.

Remember!

All beliefs that have been rooted in the people for centuries are words unsupported by facts. You yourself must decide whether to believe in superstitions or leave them aside.

Most importantly, choose a gift from the heart and enjoy the joy of the other person.

What gifts can not be given and what needs to be done when receiving such a present. How to cleanse a gift from evil energy and turn it into a useful thing.

Most people love to give gifts, but few think about the true nature of things. It turns out that there are items that are not recommended to give, and the recipient should know special manipulations that will help convert negative power into positive.

Why you can't give knives

The most common sign about presents endowed with bad energy refers to knives and all piercing and cutting objects. The belief came from the East, where it was believed that any things with sharp edges and corners are the embodiment of evil spirits. According to legend, representatives of the dark forces can inhabit such objects and exude negative energy. Thus, a donated knife can provoke quarrels and discord with loved ones. Knives should never be given to a wedding. According to signs, such a marriage will not last long, and during the festive feast, a stabbing may well arise. After all, this item symbolizes war and murder.

The belief applies to all piercing and cutting objects: brooches, needles, cutlery sets with forks, etc. This is due to the fact that such things are often used by black magicians in witchcraft rituals and ceremonies. For example, to induce damage, sorcerers sacrificed an animal with the help of charmed knives. Wanting to bring illness to a person, magicians stick needles into the corners of the doorposts.

How to neutralize a donated mirror

The mirror has long been considered one of the most magical objects. There is a legend that the devil gave Eve the first mirror to awaken her pride and force her to paint her face. Also, with the help of a mirror, a number of fortune-telling and a ritual of summoning spirits are performed.

However, despite this characteristic, it is difficult to imagine a modern house without this attribute. Moreover, antique mirrors in a beautiful carved frame can make the interior luxurious and attractive. So what can you do to protect yourself from negative influences?

Experts advise to conduct a simple but effective cleansing ritual. You need to take a mirror, rinse thoroughly under running water and then put it on a dark cabinet for several hours. After these procedures, you can use the item for its intended purpose.

Why is a clock considered an invitation to a funeral?

The superstition that donated watches can shorten life in reality came from China and Japan. In these countries, the one who presents such a gift makes an open hint about the wish for an early death. It is believed that such a clock begins to count the seconds remaining until the death of the recipient.

For many Slavic peoples, such a gift is also interpreted negatively. Allegedly, it brings emptiness, unhappiness and disappointment. It leads to quarrels and diseases. From a magical point of view, it is strictly forbidden to make such surprises for the elderly and seriously ill people. According to secular etiquette, watches are not given to girls and women, so as not to hint at age.

What else should not be given

The list of forbidden gifts includes handkerchiefs - they promise tears and loss. You can’t “make happy” with empty wallets and bags - you must definitely put a small amount of money there.

Children are not recommended to give original dolls made in a single copy. Beliefs say that such toys are endowed with their own soul and can cause harm. The same applies to portraits - even the image of the owner of the house, made by the master in a surge of anger or irritation, will provoke a negative.

You can not give medical devices that symbolize diseases: blood pressure monitors and thermometers. It is believed that the owner of the donated glasses will look at the world the way the donor wants.

In the event that you are going to present one of the above gifts, but do not want to harm its owner, you need to do the following. Let the recipient symbolically redeem this item from you and thereby turn the gift procedure into a deal.

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The knife has always been the object of bad omens, because sharp objects in many cultures are associated with...

Anastasia. Items of power, good luck and prosperity Ignatova Maria

Gifts of ill-wishers

Gifts of ill-wishers

“A gift is a very important thing, a gift made from the heart, it is no longer a gift, but a gift, because, in addition to its physical embodiment, it carries a positive energy charge in itself. Such a gift, being next to a person, can help him, take trouble away from him. But if the gift was made not from a pure heart, but with falsehood in the soul, then there is little benefit from this. No wonder there is a belief - if a gift quickly broke, deteriorated, failed, then it was given without good intentions. But this is not scary yet, gifts are even more dangerous when they are given with malicious intent.

How to deprive Gifts from ill-wishers of evil power

In order not to suffer and puzzle over how the person who gave you the gift treats you, and what to expect from this gift, you can simply clean this thing, and if the gift is positively charged, it will not harm it, it will not destroy good message. This cleansing is directed only against the negative.

With this cleansing, you can immediately process a lot of gifts if you start doing this after some holiday, for example, a birthday or housewarming.

For this treatment, you will need juniper essential oil and a regular white candle.

Be sure to close the doors and windows at the same time so that the room is completely isolated from the outside world and the rest of the apartment. Next, you need to apply a little oil on each thing, and then say:

Brother Juniper,

You are strong

Everything is up to you.

Let evil go, let blackness go,

And joy and kindness will never leave us.

Help and cleanse

Brother Juniper.

After that, you should light a candle, and while it burns, do not open doors or windows.

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