Men's logic. How women's logic differs from men's

What is more developed in men and women?

A person is diverse and there are no identical people and their behavior, but there are categories of sexes by which life divided us at birth - into men and women. You wanted to become a woman, and you a man? Yes .., No ... unfortunately, the reality is that some of the men are psychologically women, and women are men. But let's not get ahead of ourselves, let's move on to revealing the topic of the psychology of women and men who consider themselves to be such.

What is considered the most developed in a man and a woman?

1. Logic - for a man, Intuition - for a woman

Indeed, a man evaluates the reality of the situation according to the facts that he knows and sees, comparing everything into a single whole and drawing a certain conclusion, this is male logic, it is not appropriate for a woman to believe the facts, she feels intuitively, she asks herself and focuses on the little things, getting an answer, the answer is in the secret corners of the female soul, the most interesting thing is that in most cases women are right, woman psychology doesn't let her down.

2.Generalization - in men, Analysis - in women

A man generalizes, sums up reality and makes a certain conclusion that develops in his certain opinion, a woman relies on detailed consideration, looks for small clues, remembers, analyzes those moments that a man usually does not pay any attention to.

3.Perception in general - in men, Attention to detail - in women

We have already discussed this point, a man generalizes and draws a conclusion, a woman decomposes into details and uses an intuitive conclusion, invariably following him and her logic.

4.The desire for leadership - in men, the ability to obey and subjugate others - in women

A man strives to be a leader, both in life and in relations with a woman, a woman knows how to obey, but she can make a man dependent on many issues that she considers the main ones for herself, gradually convincing the man with her awareness of this or that issue. In the end, the man submits to the constant onslaught of the woman and surrenders his position as a leader, especially in family relationships.

5. The desire to be the first in a woman - in men, The desire to be the one and only - in women

A man is afraid of his weaknesses, which he hides in relationships with a woman, these weaknesses are sometimes revealed for years and only for those women who spend quite a long period of time with a man, for example, in marriage, they are revealed and a woman smooths them out in her understanding and tries to adapt to them . The desire to be the first in a woman and a man was laid down at his birth, a man is an owner, a man is an egoist in terms of his personal “property”, this is his and no one should touch and try to take possession of what he has, even a woman a man considers property if it suits him, especially when in love, these feelings are most pronounced in male behavior. A woman is a hearth of family well-being and well-being, who wants to be always desired, the only one for a loved one and unique for him. And also - unique Beauty - in society, especially - which surrounds her, and throughout the world. A woman tries to preserve her youth with all available and inaccessible methods, at least she wants this with all the “fibers” of her soul. Therefore, women are the flowers of our life that bloom and smell of exotic perfumes that men capture and remember their individuality - this is the signature of female originality. A man adds up, summarizing all the qualities of a woman, and draws a conclusion for his attitude towards her, such is male psychology.

Comparative characteristics of the qualities of a woman and a man - the difference between a man and a woman.

1.A man is firm and rational, a woman is flexible and sensitive

Rational and firm in his conclusions, even if the degree of his conclusions does not correspond to the realities of life, a woman is a subtle nature, notices what a man omits and ignores in his conclusions, invariably following the prevailing opinion. The sensitivity of a woman is a gift of foresight, thanks to which she feels the current situation, noticing the details that affect what is happening. A woman, like a litmus, absorbs and analyzes not only what is happening, but also small values and does not draw final conclusions for herself, relying on the variability of circumstances. These are features of female and male psychology.

2.The woman is emotional, the man is restrained

Inspiredly feeling the situation and knowing, foreseeing, a woman lays out her emotions, wanting to approve her attitude to an emerging problem, a man is restrained due to his character and his unambiguously drawn conclusions assure him of the correctness of resolving the situations that have arisen.

3.The man is stern, the woman is sympathetic

A man is harsh when something goes wrong, as he could imagine, a woman is more loyal to such a situation, she responsively tries to delve into the details of the problematic issue and solve everything flexibly, in a good way, following common sense. A man is quick-tempered and sometimes cannot adequately assess what is happening, it seems to him that everything is collapsing and he needs to brush aside, cut off the past and start from scratch.

4.A woman is cautious, a man is determined and risk-averse.

“Risk guy” - there is an expression among men, men sometimes take unjustified risks, even endangering their future, again, this is an established male conclusion that they follow in achieving their goal, go through treacherous interference, follow their stereotypes. A woman is more cautious, she will assess the situation and not take risks, wait for the moment to throw and do as her inner instinct tells her, female psychology.

5.Man is aggressive, Woman is compassionate

An aggressive man is a figment of his imagination, which he created for himself and follows his own conclusions, he can even "cut the branch on which he sits." Subsequently, he is subject to disappointment and cannot recover for a long time. A woman is compassionate not only to herself, but also to the negative consequences that a man could create, she tries to understand the causes and equalize the consequences as gently as possible, again including her intuitive feelings. According to the perception of various situations, a woman surpasses a man, while a man looks with his eyes, a woman listens to what is happening, making certain conclusions for herself.

Comparative characteristics of the following qualities

Observation

A woman has great advantages, she is observant, her senses are more acute and receptive to the prevailing situation. The man is distracted, trusting his senses to his sight. Conclusions about the results of what he saw, he is often confusing, a woman sees and hears what is happening, in which she prefers what she hears more than what she sees.

Temperament of women and men

The man is assertive, energetic, impatient. The choleric character is expressed in his feelings when he desires to possess something or someone - this is seen as a "male temperament". A woman is a sanguine and melancholic, she is mobile, sensitive, changeable in mood. Of course, she can be Aggressive, but this is only if she is unhappy. Woman and man perfectly complement each other. Women's caution and men's propensity to take risks, men's harshness and woman's softness, the aesthetics of things in the concept of a woman and men's windy attitude to everyday life.

Emotional feelings of man and woman

It's no secret that men hold back their emotions while they are pronounced in women. Women feel the situation more acutely and it is sometimes very difficult to influence women's emotions. They splash out in a wave and are sometimes unable to restrain it, if everything depends on a man, a woman can even influence him and turn the current situation in a different direction. A woman can laugh when she wants to and can cry when she needs to. A woman's fantasies flow on such a scale that a man cannot understand, so sometimes she presents a man with ideas of her imagination that " male psychology"cannot even comprehend, relying only on his perception of the world and discarding everything that is alien to his understanding.

Adaptability and the nervous system

In women, one emotional state can be abruptly replaced by another, so the nervous system of the beautiful half of society is less stable than that of men. However, by calming her feelings and trusting her female logic, a woman can adapt. The man is less sensitive and less emotional. A man is straightforward in his thinking and opportunistic actions do not suit him, sooner or later they will end.

Comparative characteristics of Love - relationships.

Love

A woman wants a lot from a single man, a man wants a lot from many women, he is not a conservative when it comes to his entertainment and a conservative when someone wants to take his personal. A woman can fall in love with a man, but it is incredibly difficult for her to confess to this man, and it is easier for a man to confess than he allows himself to fall in love. A woman pays great attention to the courtship of a man, a man does this to achieve his goals, to own the beauty, morality, light mind and body of a woman. The sexual attraction of a woman is her means, for a man, on the contrary, the goal is sex, and love is a means to achieve this goal.

Physical parameters of a man and a woman

As you know, the life expectancy of women is longer than the life expectancy of men and this is due to many reasons. Women get sick less in their lives. Their emotions about health are more often expressed by caring for their body, women love themselves more in terms of health, tirelessly look after themselves, subtly feel the problems that have arisen and go to the doctor in time. Men tend to be pessimistic about their body, sometimes sacrificing their health at work and not attaching importance to the onset of the disease, which aggravates their situation during treatment. Men are more afraid of pain than women, they are timid like children when it comes to injections and other means of healing the body. This male psychology.

Self-esteem

Men's self-esteem is overestimated by the men themselves, while a woman always considers her self-esteem lower than it actually is in the face of the people around her. Men are overly satisfied with their qualities and are not objective towards women. Women are the opposite. Priorities of women to men are lower than that of men to women. Condescension has men's faces, which are far from perfect, height, weight and other qualities that women omit for the perception of men. They follow the person who loves her, sometimes losing their feelings and following the law of conservation.

The result and evaluation of female and male psychology

Conclusion:

From the material it follows that the greatest preference is given to the Woman:
A woman lives her life longer than a man, on average from 5 to 20 years.
A woman is an opportunist, this is the quality of survival in our world.
A woman is cautious and this is a life advantage.
A woman's intuition is her Guardian Angel.

Life story: “My girlfriend and I met when I broke the wing of her old “nine”. She was in a terrible rage. And then we went to my house for money for repairs, and somehow it turned out that I had it left. Now I drive a crumpled “nine”, and she drives my “Volkswagen”.
This is how male logic, thanks to which great scientific discoveries are made and millennial empires are created, is inferior to naive female cunning in everyday life. What is this? Primordial and hopeless opposition of creatures from different planets, dissidents in relation to each other? Or is it simply the long-established division of spheres of influence in the world?

Modern scientists tend to the second option. They found out that in every woman, both psychologically and physiologically, there are rudiments of a man, and vice versa. This means that masculine qualities can develop in a woman, and feminine qualities in a man, under favorable conditions for this. For example, with an increased level of testosterone (male hormone), women improve memory, the ability to solve logical problems, and topographic thinking develops. Whereas with a normal predominance of estrogens (female hormones) in the body, any woman is characterized by slight topographic cretinism. So, the differences between the female and male minds, for all their obviousness, are most likely conditional and are determined by hormonal balance, as well as family upbringing and social function.

And indeed, in life there are many men who have a purely female intuitiveness, infantilism, emotionality. Most often they can be found in the world of creative professions, among musicians, poets, artists. To create, you need strong feelings, emotions, developed imagination, imaginative thinking. People with these feminine qualities are called right-brained. They, with all their talent, achieve success if there is a strong shoulder of a producer, an executive director, in general, a pusher who performs the male duties of organizing the activities of a genius. These are the so-called left hemispheres. Now they may well be women. Yes, in contrast to gentle poets, a class of iron ladies appeared, insensitive to making tough decisions, unbending like a rock! Nothing personal just business!

What is the difference between the female and male mind in the new world, where a man can be an affectionate nanny and wash diapers, and a woman can be a director? The same as in ancient times, only without a rigid reference to gender.

Schematically, the mind can be described by its four components:

1) Thinking
2) Solving life problems
3) Forecasting
4) Use of ready-made solutions

Thinking

To think like a man means to think logically: if - then. The male mind is objective and dispassionate. Focused on decisions and actions. The mind of a woman is focused on experiences. Therefore, when they talk about thinking, they still mean the masculine type of thinking, the logical one. Women's thinking because of the fusion of feelings and thoughts is called emotional.

For example, in the event of a catastrophe, men plan and carry out operations to rescue the victims, calculate losses and develop methods to deal with the consequences. Women cry, empathize, help the wounded and hungry, comfort the suffering.

The man thinks silently. It is typical for him to think, to decide - to say. His speech will be clear, thesis, orderly. A woman thinks speaking. She clarifies the topic and conclusions for herself and formulates for the listener in the process of speaking. Therefore, her speech is like a spontaneous stream of water, sometimes stormy, sometimes smooth, with various branches, streams, with dangerous whirlpools, quiet backwaters and bays.

With all the absence of visible logic, women's speech always has a meaning and an ultimate goal. This is either enjoyment of the process itself, or an attempt to attract attention, or an idea to get something more substantial from the listener. All women are great NLP masters. These are mermaids, sirens. They will laugh, tickle, talk, induce such a trance that the protective vigilance of the most logical man will be blown up, and he will do everything that he is not explicitly asked to do.

In general, both types of thinking, if applied at the right time in the right place, can be quite successful. A female physicist at an international symposium will be highly logical and demonstrative. And politics, in order to calm the people in difficult times, has to become a soporific siren: “It is very good that so far we are feeling bad!”

Solving life problems

Boys are taught from childhood to solve their problems on their own. They can't cry, complain, beg. They must be able to take care of themselves. They must be courageous and find the right solutions in any difficult situations. They are boys named "may".

Girls also know from childhood: if you want to get a new doll, you need to flatter yourself with dad or mom. They are girls named "want".

With age, only the scenery changes. Male competition is transferred from the yard to the business sphere. And the female ability to manipulate develops in accordance with life aspirations. For this, there is no need to strain your own brains. You need to inspire your man to achieve.

This coexistence of two types of thinking can be peaceful and creative, or it can become a real curse.

An unloving mercantile woman is able to make a man an eternal bugger, a money-making machine, a slave of love, who has forgotten himself and his dreams and goals, who has devoted his life to his troglodyte queen. A man under such a regime quickly develops and grows old, and a stupid smart woman cries like an old Pushkin woman with a broken trough.

And vice versa, in harmonious couples, a woman will be a muse for her beloved, he, inspired by her, is realized in his vocation. And that means it will be successful. And the wife of a successful man is a self-realized woman. In such a relationship, the symbiosis of the male and female minds is beautiful and creative.

Forecasting

A man in his thinking is more of a strategist. A woman is a tactician who acts intuitively, according to suddenly emerging circumstances.

Long-term forecasts of any events require a balanced, analytical approach. A man climbs the ladder of his logic rung by rung. And so, step by step, abstracting from emotions that distort facts, he comes to the right decision. And there ... a woman is often already waiting for him. How did she get there?! What inscrutable ways? There is no clear explanation. On the wings of feelings - positive or angry, it does not matter.

The correct forecast of the man has been worked out. A woman's prognosis that came true is miraculous.

Using ready-made solutions

Men show will and consistency in the implementation of their decisions. And for a woman who decides to lose weight on Friday, it doesn’t cost anything to overeat cakes on Sunday. She changes the rules as the game progresses - weekends don't count!

Of course, at work, she turns on her head and behaves according to the requirements of the management. But the switch is used willingly at any convenient moment. With her brain turned off, she becomes herself again - feeling, impulsive, unpredictable.

In the "on" mode, a woman can be quite competitive among men in achieving work goals. It will be consistent and logical. And quite objective. But this is an unnatural state, needed only for tactically important
moments, is easily and naturally transferred to the “off” state - then goodbye mind, hello will!

Who is smarter anyway?

The dispute has been going on for a long time and so far no one has won, despite the fact that the brain of a woman is 200 g lighter than a man's.
And the truth is out there somewhere. If you stop arguing, you can find advantages in both types of thinking, master both. And to become not left hemisphere or right hemisphere, but to gain integrity. Such thinking Carl Gustav Jung called transcendental. And I thought it was brilliant.

Men and women speak the same language, but sometimes it is very difficult for them to understand each other. The reason is that they think differently. Each of them has its own logic. The male system of thinking is rational, it is based on cause-and-effect relationships: "If - condition, Then - result." The man argues and draws conclusions from the source data. Women's logic can be called emotional or intuitive. Sometimes a woman herself cannot explain why she did one way or another. However, her intuition helps her find the right way out in such difficult situations, when attempts to solve the problem rationally lead to a dead end.

"The Sixth Sense" replaces the individual, missing links in the logical chain. A woman may not be aware of them, but, nevertheless, take into account in the decision-making process. Thanks to intuition, a woman is able to make the right choice in the face of a lack of information. For example, a wife does not let her husband go on a business trip because of a bad feeling. The plane he was supposed to be on crashes. Intuition told the woman that trouble would happen, although she could not logically substantiate this.

What else is the difference?

The mental activity of men is characterized by a deductive method - from the general to the particular. For women - inductive: from the particular to the general. For example, a man argues like this: “All girls love flowers, which means that mine will be glad to receive such a gift.” And the woman: “The guy cheated on me. So all the guys are womanizers.

Women are more prone to false generalizations, oversimplification and extremes. It is difficult for them to realize the entire space of options, so they tend to reduce phenomena to "zero" or "infinity". In conversation, this is manifested by the use of words such as "everything", "always", "forever", "no one", "nothing", "never". For example, if a husband works a lot and does not go to the cinema or theater with her very often, a woman can say: “We don’t go anywhere, I always sit at home alone.” A textbook example: “I have absolutely nothing to wear,” while all the wardrobes are literally bursting with clothes. What the woman really means is that she has no new clothes, or that she has gained or lost weight, so there is an urgent need to update her wardrobe. She simply does not mention it as something taken for granted, and it seems to the man that her words are devoid of any logic.

Men have more developed abstract thinking, as they mainly have to solve strategic problems. Women are by nature tacticians and focused on specific issues. For them, signs and symbols are primary. In an unfamiliar area, a man finds his way on the map, a woman - according to landmarks known to her (“turn left after the school”). A man can consider himself rich, having a certain income or a bank account for a tidy sum. For women, the concept of wealth is inextricably linked with the possession of certain things, such as a fur coat, jewelry, a car, an apartment. At the same time, a woman can get into debt and save on food in order to buy "status" things and prove to herself and others that she is rich. For a man, the content determines the form; for a woman, it is the form that matters.

When solving problems in physics or mathematics, a woman operates with templates, ready-made formulas, substituting data into them. A man proceeds from an inner understanding of the essence of phenomena and, if necessary, is able to derive formulas and theories himself.

But most clearly the differences between male and female logic are manifested in the dispute.

For a man entering into a discussion, the main goal is to establish the truth. To do this, he selects and builds a clear system of evidence. A man is ready to admit the correctness of the enemy if his arguments turn out to be more convincing. The vanquished will also receive pleasure from the truth found, so that both participants in the controversy will benefit. For a woman, finding out the truth is secondary, the main thing is winning the argument. She is absolutely sure of her own rightness, and she selects arguments more or less spontaneously. A woman is able to recognize the point of view of another as true only if she feels the inner strength of the enemy and his firm conviction. The arguments of the opponent do not matter much to her. Personal relationships are much more important. She can accept criticism and, in general, any attempt by the opponent to start an argument for expressing hostility, and a concession on his part - for showing sympathy or love.

In any conversation or dispute for a woman, the emotional component is primary. A loud voice and repeated confident repetition of the same arguments, from her point of view, must certainly bring the desired success. In extreme cases, a woman is ready to use her main weapon - tears, as an indisputable proof of her innocence.

Women are much more likely than men to use dishonest tricks of sophistry, such as the substitution of concepts and the subject of discussion, the transition to personalities and personal qualities. For example, a woman may refuse to see a movie with a famous actor because she does not like his name or he was born under an unloved zodiac sign. She may call Tchaikovsky a bad composer because of his homosexuality, although she has nothing to do with his music. Often women use the "ladies' argument" - they oppose the most ridiculous of the opposing solutions to the issue to their opinion, after which they offer the opponent to make a choice.

Why were you talking so rudely to my friend? He was very embarrassed.

What, I was supposed to fall on my knees and pray for him?

Women perceive silence as a sign of agreement, while a man may take a pause to consider objections.

The difference in the way of thinking between men and women is due to their nature. Since ancient times, the main tasks of a man are the knowledge of the essence of things, the development of new territories and the extraction of food for his family. To do this, he needs to think in abstract terms. The main function of a woman is to raise children and maintain a home. She must distinguish between shades of emotions and use intuition to understand why a child is crying, who cannot yet coherently explain what is wrong with him.

It should be noted that there is no deep gap between male and female logic. Although it is much more difficult for a man to understand the reasoning of an average woman than for a woman to understand his logical constructions.

The education system and science are based on male thought patterns, so that women are taught them from childhood and are able to solve problems with their help when necessary. But at the first opportunity, they return to their natural state, in which they perceive the world through the prism of feelings, emotions and sensations. Men and women think differently, but complement each other perfectly and together they can cope with any problems.

She is between business and leisure
Revealed the secret as a spouse
Self-rule...
A.S. Pushkin

Shame a liar, play a joke on a fool
Or argue with a woman - all the same,
What to draw water with a sieve.
Deliver us from these three, O God!
M. Lermontov

The text was inspired by the phrase of one reader: “A woman is impulsive and emotional. Her argument is not like a line, but like balloons, they are extremely bright and fly out chaotically ... "

In any dispute, there are, as it were, two components. In a lively discussion, these components are present in an inseparable unity, but we will single them out for the purpose of further analysis (and then reconnect them).

One of them is the actual clarification of the truth. However, there is a second one, which is not always realized by the arguing. Namely, a person who defends his point of view in a dispute, at the same time strives to be a leader. If the point of view of one of the disputants prevailed, and he (the winner) turned out to be more right than his opponent, then now the vanquished must recognize his rightness and, as it were, reconcile, stand under the banner of the winner, recognize his supremacy. Victory in an argument warms our self-esteem because it (self-love) is associated not so much with self-love as with the need to win and lead.

Thus, in the dispute there is - to one degree or another and in one form or another - an element of the struggle for leadership. And here we come to the most important thing.

In the discussion between men, this element of the struggle for leadership does not dominate, that is, it is not primary. The most important thing is finding out the truth, it is primary, and not self-esteem, the desire to win, to subdue the opponent. And already from this correlation and subordination follows (and is born) the so-called. "male logic" - the desire to build a coherent system of "iron" arguments, each of which is based on proven knowledge. The "moment of leadership", the desire _v_o_ _h_t_o_ _b_y_ _t_o_ _n_i_ _s_t_a_l_o_ to prevail in the choice of male argumentation is almost never present (men with sick pride are, of course, not considered here). It is this fact that determines the clarity, persuasiveness and - in many cases - even the beauty of male logical constructions.

The most important thing is that a (normal) man has a mental readiness to put up with the opponent's arguments and admit that he is ultimately right. Humble your pride, your pride in the sight of the new truth. Truth - if it is so - acts on men first convincingly, and then humbly; they are ready, as it were, to line up in front of her. And this is so because so many men have a "flair for the truth."

Moreover, the defeated in the dispute will not feel completely humiliated (although some shade of humiliation may feel) - he will be compensated by the pleasure of the truth found and the feeling of unity with the opponent. In general, emotionally it resembles a fighting draw. Both are satisfied.

A man builds his argument in such a way that, first of all, he can find out the truth or approve the point of view that he considers true. For a (normal) man, this point of view is true, not because it is his own, but vice versa: it has become his point of view, since he recognized it as true.

A man lives and works in society. His experience, his mind and the fruits of his thoughts will always be in demand among other men. A man is called to serve the values of the highest order - his cause, vocation, people, leader, Sovereign. The search for truth, the highest Truth, is a necessary part of almost any male ministry. Even if a man does not have charisma, and generally does not know how to do anything except provide for his family, then after all, he works somewhere, makes his opinion about politics and the world around him, communicates with colleagues and friends. And therefore, even in this case, his knowledge and experience can benefit someone.

A man is a leader from the very beginning, he strives to achieve (leadership or excellence - often the same thing) in his field. That is why evolution "forced" men to focus on the search for truth, on the primacy of logic in a dispute with their own kind.

Not so with women. The most famous psychologist in the USSR once remarked that “the whole apparatus of expression in a woman is aimed at one thing - to influence us, and is distorted by this constant goal” .

Only from the point of view of strict male logic, female arguments are randomly flying multi-colored balls, each of which is simply broken to smithereens. In reality, a woman is not interested in the fate of her individual arguments. Note: a woman does not like to discuss each of them. Moreover, each of the arguments given by the woman is in a sense random: "A man can say that twice two is not four, but five or three and a half, and a woman will say that twice two is a stearin candle" (I.S. Turgenev) . A woman controls the flow of "arguments" in general, and this flow has a very definite direction.

Namely, in any dispute (and especially with a man), a woman must _v_ _p_e_r_v_u_yu_ _o_ch_e_r_e_d_b_ win, subdue him. The same desire for leadership, which is present only latently in a male dispute, in women lies right on the surface; clarification of the truth for her is secondary and has no special value. Actually, for a woman, the main thing in a dispute is victory per se, “in its purest form”, this is the whole essence of female logic. Truth lies somewhere on the periphery of the female consciousness, and most often it is identified with pleasure. IN this case- happy to win.

It was stated above that the truth of the opponent's views (usually) has a humbling effect on a man. It is not so with women: they are first convinced, and then humbled, not in itself by the rational persuasiveness of the arguments (or views) of the opponent. The vast majority of women are not ready to admit the correctness of another, if not _h_u_v_s_t_v_u_e_t_ behind him _s_i_l_u_, a firm conviction in their own views or arguments. It is to this force that a woman first of all reacts. That is, again, on emotions (in this case, the emotional series is specifically male, associated with strength).

But what is strange in the fact that a woman reacts to arguments in a feminine way, that is, she first singles out an emotional component in them? Nature has created us to complement each other: what men have on the surface is primary, for women it is secondary and of little value; and vice versa. Actually, it shouldn't be any other way.

This is where the key features of the so-called "female logic" come from: the arguments used by a woman may not be connected in any way with the arguments preceding and following, and are selected not in a logical connection with the male ones, but with the _s_i_yu_m_i_n_y_t_n_o_y_ goal _o_d_e_r_zh_a_t_b_ _v_e_r_x_. Of course, they are not included in any coherent system, but it cannot be said that this argumentation does not obey its specific laws.

The woman does not argue, she parries, that is, she simply "beats the ball." For her, what matters is not the rational overcoming of male argumentation, but the usual victory - even in the case of each individual argument. The woman must prevail, parry at any cost, put the man in his place. Women's "arguments" are selected not by chance (as it seems at first glance), but in connection with the primacy of women's need for leadership.

It is this feature that determines the well-known incredible flexibility of a woman in an argument that does not fit in the male consciousness, that is, the ability to spontaneously unexpected argumentation: she strikes from where you not only do not expect it, but you cannot wait.

The female parry is not entirely spontaneous. If another woman is present nearby, she can predict with a high degree of certainty what our argumentative woman is driving at and even what kind of attack she will now inflict. Since women's "argumentation" has a pronounced purpose, it is not accidental. As Shakespeare put it, "there is a logic to this chaos."

Moreover, even being finally convinced, the woman nevertheless feels "humiliated and insulted." An unpleasant aftertaste will remain all the same, and can never be compensated for by some kind of pleasure from the acquired truth. By and large, the truth for women does not exist (or is to achieve their own, in this case - to prevail). "For a woman, truth is in happiness; for a man, happiness is in truth."

Even when defeated in an argument, the woman nevertheless declares: "Maybe you are right, but I am also right in my own way." One writer aptly remarked that this phrase is completely reduced to the statement "I am always right." Or, to put it another way, "I'm a woman, so you're wrong." What is it, if not the desire for dominance?

For a woman to be right, to prevail, to win means to be good. A woman organically cannot bet, as this means to shake her self-esteem.

Women's nature is genetically "sharpened" for the preservation of the hearth and family foundations. Initially, a woman lived and worked primarily in the house. If a woman had not learned to build relationships with a man, she would not have survived. It was necessary to somehow agree with him, to learn how to influence the man so that he would not gobble up all the prey brought from the hunt himself, but would share it with her and the child.

The experience of a woman, her efforts have always been necessary, first of all, for her relatives. And therefore, the female mentality passes the most rational arguments through the filter of personal relationships (and, above all, attitudes towards herself). Guess from three times what is obtained in the dry residue? Any male argument is perceived not from the point of view of logic (that is, logic, reason and correspondence to the truth), but from the position of how they treat her, a woman: "If you argue with me, then you don't love." Unconsciously, a woman always associates love with obedience.

A woman does not follow the logic of arguments, but a personal attitude, even if it does not exist. And this attitude is analyzed by her in a strict, maximalist division of "loves - does not love", whether he is ready to give in to her or not. The subconscious-emotional "leadership analysis" (which one wins the argument) usually comes first.

It is this "leadership need" of nature, combined with sensitivity and emotionality, that determine the childish maximalism of a woman - either everything is good, or everything is bad. Deprived of a rationalistic core, and therefore not able to single out and subordinate the main and the secondary, the female soul is ready to cling to any trifle in order to turn it into a key problem. “People are divided into those for whom world problems are personal, and those for whom personal problems are world problems.” For men and women :)

A man is a leader from the very beginning, he strives to achieve leadership (or excellence - often the same thing) in his field. That is why evolution "forced" men to focus on the search for truth, on the primacy of logic, rationality in a dispute with their own kind. Leadership is always associated with the mind and rationality, and specifically masculine. Consider what women leaders are like.

Unlike a man, a woman does not disdain anything in order to achieve superiority. And this is so because a man, by his very nature, by origin, by his male status, is a leader, a leader (even in the absence of pronounced leadership qualities). Therefore, he somehow especially fight for dominance and to nothing. The "leadership component" of nature (natural status) is already present as a necessary component of his activity. Most often, the assertion of leadership occurs by itself (for example, in a situation of special danger, men readily unite around the one whose rightness or benefit they feel), and a man does not really need to fight for it. Unless you confirm it with your whole life. Therefore, a normal, psychologically complete man sets the primary goal of subjugating another only in exceptional cases.

Archpriest A. Ustyinsky in a letter to V. Rozanov shares the following observation: “Even during the very crown ... the bride ... tries to raise her wedding candle above the groom, paying tribute to the sign that by doing this, she will have an advantage over her husband and control him in life ...”

A woman has a clear, expressed goal to win over a man. Its leadership exists not as an internal, ontological given, but as an intention. A woman strives to achieve leadership precisely because she initially does not have it. Where there is evident striving, there is still no real achievement.

The very desire for leadership - an external, strained desire - would have to prove to a woman that she is not a leader from the very beginning. In trying to gain supremacy, a woman, in fact, commits a betrayal both against her nature and the established order of things, that is, she sells herself for a mess of liberal values.
On the other hand, leadership is so familiar to a man that he often loses it easily - "what we have, we do not store."

The point, therefore, is not in illogicality and logic, not in the confrontation between reason and emotions, but in the question of dominance, of power. Who is the true leader: we, who received it with our birthright, or women, who are increasingly gaining leadership in the process of liberal reorganization of the world?

From all of the above, it follows that arguing with a woman () is decidedly useless. Male logic, from the point of view of the “logic” of absolute, not limited by rationality or any high principles, is something clumsy, hardened and stubbornly impenetrable. A man clings to some incomprehensible, abstract truths that a woman doesn’t even need for nothing, and which, in her perception, inevitably give in to such great things as Love, Happiness, Sincerity, Trust, Reciprocity and Understanding;)

Well, what else should I say ... Just as some men are oriented towards pleasure and "consumption", while others are oriented towards service and the search for truth, there are women who "fall" on wealthy men and on "theorists". The proportions of both are approximately the same, so that everyone can find a mate.
The most important thing (I'm already talking about the meaning of life :) is to understand in time which category you belong to, and then not to get confused with this matter.

Severe critics of the described female structure should know that this state of affairs is very beneficial for us. Experienced men know that it is not worth cutting the truth in the face of a woman, such as "when we are together, then only I will be the head of the family, you must obey me unquestioningly," and so on. On the contrary, one should take into account the leadership habits of a woman and _s_l_o_v_e_s_n_o_ satisfy them with the following approximately statements: "you are the best, I love you, and we will do everything together ..., reciprocity ..., sincerity ..., etc." - I have already given the list :) Of course, all this must be said in a confident tone, with inner strength and complete conviction in your voice - well, you already know :). And kiss her more often, and pamper her (give some flowers, make all sorts of surprises, and other small crap). In the meantime, gradually take the reins of government into their own hands.

In general, if a man brought the matter to a dispute with a woman, then he, consider, has already lost, since the female logic is not rationally overcome. A woman can only give in, and give in to (internal) strength, however, with one "but ..."

In this case, the man lost big, and here's why. The _f_a_k_t_ of the dispute itself shows that the man _n_e_ _u_m_e_e_t_ to steer relationships, is not quite mature for living together, and his leadership (I mean genuine, not formal) is, let's say, in question. Most likely, with him (leadership) will soon be finished. And then, perhaps, with a man. For a man who surrendered, obeyed her (I mean, in general, in the end, and not in one episode), a woman will never respect - at least in the depths of her soul. And then he will be frank on forums like "the funny habits of our men."
An experienced man does not bring matters to disputes at all. He knows how to initially force to obey - without wrangling, but also without scuffle and raising his voice.

The stupidest thing a man can do is start playing by women's rules, that is, without them at all, and strive to prevail at any cost. A normal man always remains strong, noble, and himself (even with such a nightmarish creature as a woman :). His girlfriend (I mean - a normal woman, not spoiled by liberalism-feminism) will not object against the above state of affairs. Should she get something in return for the lost leadership? Well, let him get love.

Everything has to be paid for; for the opportunity to be with the woman you love - even love. I understand, of course, that this is horror :), but we will not be diminished by this. Only power can be lost; love only enriches. Even the Creator of the Universe has not lost anything from His love. Well, almost nothing...

The most important thing is that at the same time one should not relax oneself, "drown in emotions", as 16-year-old boys in love drown in them. In significant moments, you need to implement your decisions (or views) firmly and consistently. Woe to the one who yielded! Endowed with incredible intuition - aimed primarily at a man, at a deep assessment of his weakness and strength - a woman will immediately feel the weakness, and will try to use it to take over. Can't take it. Moreover, all this goes on unconsciously, that is, it does not reach the level of consciousness. What a woman, by the way, and strong. While we, with our brains and logic, will finish something there, lo and behold, the woman has already decided and done everything. Direct action, bypassing the brain stage, like a good karateka. Instincts-s.

Also, don't be a stubborn maniac. A woman should very much be consulted on many issues - first of all, domestic ones. It is in this area that the flexible female brains show their immeasurable superiority over male rationality. In short, people, you need to create an illusion in a woman of her leadership, and everything will be okay.

The female need for dominance is a superficial, introduced thing, it (the need) is very superficial, and rather needs an "official ideology" that a woman dominates in this union, that she is inferior, and all that. This simple vital need (and most women, as a rule, do not have others) may well be dispensed with at the level of attributes and symbols. All these womanish troubles (the first of which is stubbornness associated with the desire to take over) are overcome elementarily. Provided that the process is not allowed to drift, that they (troubles) are monitored, they mean. This should actually be done "on the machine", like depressing the clutch before shifting gears.
Once you lose power, you can't get it back. In relation to the family, such attempts most often end in divorce.

A truly strong and intelligent man will always be able to be a leader in the family without resorting to brute physical force (in general, it should be demonstrated primarily in the field of beliefs). The first sign of true strength is a condescending attitude towards the infirmities of others.
Over a weak man, a woman will certainly prevail sooner or later. Well, that's what he needs. In addition, a full-fledged family (that is, a living system) cannot exist without a leader. Leave the talk of "freedom, equality and fraternity" to someone else. Who wants to put in his family an experiment on the introduction of democracy. Everyone knows how it ends.

*23 The text "Philosophy of Womanhood" gives the following example.
"The motorcycle also tends to fall - but for some reason we do not scold him for this, but we try to control it in such a way that it will go normally. We fill it with gasoline, change the oil and filters. We pump up the tires and carefully monitor the fluid level in the brake hydraulics. We keep balance during the trip, burn the high beam even during the day, and turn on the turn signals before rebuilding. In the evening, we carefully wipe the dust off it and put it in a well-guarded garage. Probably, a woman is a creature no less complex and interesting than a motorcycle :)"

*24 The two extreme beliefs - both in complete democracy and equality between the sexes, and in victorious brute force - are typical only for youngsters (and persons equated to them).

The logic of women and men

Women's logic is a scientific fact

Men are so interested in women's logic that, due to the rationality of their thinking, they try to find some rationale for it that is understandable to them. There is even a scientific work, which is called "On the molecular genetic mechanisms of female logic", written by the candidate of biological sciences of the Institute of Gene Biology of the Russian Academy of Sciences V.N. Bashkirov. In this treatise, the author divides logic into absolute and feminine. If the absolute is based on facts and consistent logical conclusions, the female is more probabilistic. The scientist argues that such a logical operator as YES for women, speaking in programming language, is conditional and under certain conditions it can remain in the form of YES or take the form of NO. This also applies to the denial expressed by a woman.

The scientist explains this by heredity and the presence of a pair of X chromosomes in the chromosome set of the cell nucleus. If there is only one X-chromosome in the set, a person thinks according to the canons of absolute logic, if there are two of them, he thinks in probabilistic categories. Sometimes such a set is also found among the representatives of the stronger sex, in which case a man may suffer from mental retardation or, remaining normal, completely lose his ability to be creative. Such a man will also have feminine logic.

In the course of other scientific research, it turned out that the thought processes in men occur only in one hemisphere of the brain - in the left, a woman, having received information, processes it simultaneously with two hemispheres. The thought process occurs in each hemisphere independently, therefore there is no clear logical sequence, a chain of conclusions, on the basis of which the final conclusion is made. That is why a woman sometimes herself is not able to explain why she came to this or that decision, but at the same time, as a rule, she will always be sure that it is the only correct one. Unless, of course, the male partner begins to convince her otherwise, justifying his decision with absolute logic, consistent and, as it seems to him, the only true one.

Thanks to their ability to think in two hemispheres, women are able to solve many tasks at the same time and do several things without compromising their quality and final result. An indirect proof of the different ability to comprehend what is happening is the ability of men to quickly find answers to a specific mathematical example, leaving women primacy in solving problems for more complex verbal, verbal logic.

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How can a man and a woman find a common language

Because of the different ways of thinking and the inability of women to explain the sequence of their thoughts, men could only write them down as stupid. This allowed them to maintain a sense of superiority, especially when, in the end, the woman turned out to be right. Her correct decision was called an accident. The unwillingness and inability to understand your partner, to listen to what she says or advises, sometimes cost men many mistakes. To avoid them, one should take into account the difference in mentality and trust women's feelings and intuition, which, due to evolution, have been developed to a greater extent than men's. And the latest research in the field of psychology generally cancels the division of logic into male and female, introducing such a concept as a skin vector.

What is skin vector

The essence of these studies boils down to the fact that in fact, not such a large number of people have absolute logical thinking - only 24%, and among them there are both men and women. In conditions of equality and with the possibility of a full-fledged development of the personality (which women achieved not so long ago), these people show an amazing ability to find cause-and-effect relationships, build clear logical chains of actions and events, construct what is happening and predict the future based on this. This ability is called skin vector. In the modern world, there are already many examples of how women, along with men, take part in the creation of mathematical models, scientific, architectural and engineering developments, solving theorems and implementing the most complex logical constructions.

There is no difference in mental abilities between a man and a woman, but there are differences between them, and thanks to these differences they are attracted to each other, making up a whole.

Women with a high level of development of the skin vector, today have the opportunity to realize themselves in traditionally male professions, they perfectly run their own business, work as lawyers, economists, engineers. They have rational thinking, at the same time being able to give a correct assessment of production processes in terms of benefits, which allows them to optimize these processes as much as possible.

The division into male and female logic is typical for those men who simply do not know how to explain the actions and train of thought of the interlocutor

It turns out that, despite the different ways of thinking about the same fact, the result of mental efforts does not depend on gender. The right decision can be made by both a man and a woman with certain abilities.

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