How to ask God for help in a difficult situation so that he will hear? Portal "Wonderful Diveevo"
State your thought clearly
Men perceive speech by means of logic, therefore they hear exactly what is said, and women connect intuition and emotions, so they see hints everywhere. Therefore, if you want to achieve something from a man, talk about it directly. Even the most transparent hints in this case do not work. Just say it straight!
Male hearing is weaker than female. Women hear the subtlest intonations of the voice, and men - not always. Therefore, when you ask a man for something, do it in a soft and kind voice.
Don't ask for everything at once
You can ask a man to do something or tell him how he should do it. But not both options. If you know how to do what you need to at its best- go and do it yourself. If you want a man to do this, then first praise even a mediocre version of his work, and next time point out the shortcomings.
For example, you want a man to wash the dishes. Even if he fulfilled your request, but at the same time washed the plate badly, you do not need to wash after him or criticize. Just next time put this unwashed plate to him so that he understands what such negligence threatens him with.
dress nice
It is noticed that men are much more willing to make concessions attractive women than those who do not care about their appearance. Moreover, the vision of men is quite erotic, while women remember any details of the picture better. How can you use it for your own purposes?
You are a woman, and this is your main trump card, use it. Even if between you and your interlocutor there are no and are not planned any intimate relationships If this man is your boss or colleague, don't assume that he doesn't notice that you are a woman. Therefore, if you are going to ask for something, you must look perfect.
Get rid of the commanding tone
When addressing a man with a request, do not use the imperative mood (go there, don't do that, etc.). Such a wording of a request or advice is always perceived by a man as an attempt to control him, an encroachment on his freedom. It is better to use a request-question: "Honey, I started cleaning, could you help me?", (instead of: "Vacuum the house and dust it.")
You can also use a rhetorical question: "I'm late at work tomorrow, I don't even know how to pick up the child from kindergarten?", (instead of: "Tomorrow pick up the child from kindergarten.")
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The easiest way is to persuade a person to provide you with a service when he is comfortable, his physiological needs are satisfied, and he feels harmony with the outside world. For men, this moment is the feeling of satiety. Simply put, ask a man to fulfill your desire after he has eaten.
A well-fed man is more accommodating and accommodating than a hungry one. Do you want to persuade your husband to make an unscheduled visit to your mother? Wait for him to eat. Looking for the right moment to ask your boss for a raise? Wait until he comes back from his lunch break.
pretend to be incompetent
Asking a man for help, in some way, you give him a compliment, that is, you make it clear that you would not have coped without him. Men really like it. Having fulfilled any of your requests, they already fall under your influence, with their help they let you know that they are ready to patronize you, to help in the future. You can skillfully use this unspoken promise. The most important thing is that your request be fulfilled.
After all, if he cannot help you, then by doing so you will put him in an awkward position, and he will have an unpleasant aftertaste from communicating with you. In the future, this may even be the reason that a man will begin to avoid you.
Biggest to Smallest
One of effective techniques how to get what you want lies in moving from a larger requirement to a smaller one in time. In fact, this technique is used quite often, just not consciously. For example, remember how you beg your loved one to please you. Perhaps like this: “Darling, you promised that for the weekend we would go out of town just the two of us. Too busy on weekends? Then let's at least go to a restaurant? Or like this: “When will we finally start to make repairs? No time? Then at least fix the faucet.”
If you learn to use this technique at the right moments, then you can achieve both the rest you dream of and the long-awaited repair.
Don't be his victim
Very often, when a woman asks for help, men use their defensive tactics. For example, to avoid housework, men use two tricks: “I can’t do anything” or “Hands in the wrong place.” As soon as you ask a man for help, he enthusiastically gets down to business, but does everything the way he does. In the end, you still have to redo everything. This is repeated until you decide that it is better to do everything yourself than to ask your man. This is exactly the outcome of events the man is trying to achieve.
Another way to shirk work is to provoke a quarrel with a woman. When the work is done, the man is walking for reconciliation. How to behave in this situation?
If you feel that your man is helping you without much enthusiasm, it is best not to provoke a quarrel and avoid harsh statements. On the contrary, try to arrange it for yourself. “Darling, did you get up on the wrong foot today? Let me make you strong coffee - you will cheer up. After such words, a man is unlikely to want to quarrel with you.
"Ask, and it shall be given you"
Matthew 7:7
“I myself” - for many women today these words have become the real motto of life. As they say, stop a galloping horse and enter a burning hut... It so happened (and historically as well) that women, especially Russian-speaking women, are used to taking on a significant part of the responsibilities not only in the family, but also at work, and patiently carry this burden on fragile female shoulders, sincerely believing that others will not do better. And in relationships with men, this is the most common problem. And as a result, women simply forget how to ask, and, accordingly, receive help, support, and services.
However, it also happens that a woman wants to ask, but does not do it, thinking that it is somehow awkward, ugly, that she does not want to be refused or cause inconvenience to others or look needy, imperfect, dependent, who cannot cope with it herself. with their tasks. We are women like that - we will scroll through a million options for the development of events in our heads before we decide to take at least one step. In addition, being able to ask, as well as accept and interpret refusals, is extremely important if you are an entrepreneur.
I learned to ask correctly when I was left alone with my little daughter in my arms in a foreign country. This skill has directly affected my personal life and business. Of course, I could solve all my problems on my own, which were many, with my head held high, and never ask anyone for anything, but I chose a different path - more natural for a woman. I asked for a little help, asked for support, asked for small favors. Moreover, it was at that moment that I started my very first online business and began to establish partnerships with high-profile people. To my great surprise, they gladly responded to my requests, and if I did not receive an answer, then I asked again. It was scary, embarrassing, uncomfortable. So what to do? I had to move forward. But I asked not only from people, but also from the Universe itself - and as a result, it gave me everything that I dreamed of, and even more.
Since then, I have forever understood two important things for myself - you must be able to sincerely ask and sincerely give. Then we are all given to each other to lend a helping hand at the right time and be there. And at the same time, you need to be ready to hear a refusal - after all, people have every right to either show you a favor or refuse. And in order for your requests to be heard and for you to hear refusals as rarely as possible, you need to know how to ask correctly and at the same time feel great.
1. Politely and openly express your request.
Always be honest and open about your desires and requests, even if you understand that you may be denied. Don't manipulate people into showing that you'll be offended if they don't do what you ask. Instead of veiled demands for your request, politely and openly ask for help. If the request is about your business, sincerely share your big plans and enthusiasm - this inspires people and awakens an even greater desire to help you.
2. Ask in a calm, soft, and kind voice.
Often people (especially men) can refuse a request because they hear it as an order. Any person will feel hurt in such a situation and coldly respond to such a request. Therefore, if you want to increase the chances of getting what you want a hundredfold, ask gently, calmly, kindly. Not a single person, and in particular a man, will remain indifferent to such a female request. If you receive a refusal, in no case do not react to it with aggression and anger, just take it as another chance to repeat your request.
4. Speak or write clearly and specifically.
Vague requests lead to vague results. And some people, because of the fear of asking, begin to beat around the bush, tell long back stories about what caused the request itself, and so on. This is ineffective - if a person initially wanted to help, then everything that accompanies this request already annoys him. Be clear about what you need and when. This is especially true for requests addressed to men, and doubly especially if your relationship is just beginning, because they do not understand hints.
Translating this to the business sphere, I will say from my experience that if you yourself are not 100% sure of what you are doing and what you are asking for, if you are not ready to provide clear details, plans and specifics at your request, then you will not be taken seriously. Prepare to the maximum for the request and you will get what you want.
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And also, I will show you how to become that woman for whom there are no barriers in achieving her goals. With a sincere request, you will learn how to make your man feel important and remind him that next to him is the woman he always wanted to take care of. Now you will be convinced of it.
Men are not as thick-skinned as they seem
According to psychologists, men are happy when women pay attention to them, show love and recognition. It may sound unexpected, but for all their inaccessibility, all men, as a rule, are quite motivated to want to make us happy themselves.
When a man is with a woman who makes him feel like a winner, or makes him aware of how amazing, smart, capable, competent, desirable and long-awaited he is, he gets a powerful rush of endorphins - it's like a drug - but much better!
And he will do almost anything to keep this wonderful feeling. It's one of the most intoxicating feelings he's ever experienced. His admiration, confidence, trust and faith inspire him to be the best and he wants to help her keep her faith in him, to prove what a great guy he is.
I'll still get it!
Unfortunately, most of us have learned to get what we want by complaining, criticizing, or trying to control, manipulate, blame, argue, or hover over other people.
This is a successful tactic for young children. She is not successful for pious ladies who want to interact with men.
These negative methods don't work to get what we want - they turn us into women without dignity, weighed down with guilt, shame and regret. And these negative vibrations, complaints and words are rejected by men as something harmful.
In fact, men are so simple that they often become complicated if you try too hard to "get it right".
Attention!The tips below apply to harmonious relationship between loving friend friend by people. They are not for those who are ready to cheat, lie, manipulate, and go to any lengths to get their own.
Make sure your request is justified
And that you are not asking for something impossible that he cannot buy you now, for example, a fur coat or a ticket to the Maldives.
We all know how women are accused of being too demanding.
It's not about asking for money, it's about how they do it. We are convinced that a man should be able to earn money and strive for prosperity. After all, he is a man and this is his gender duty. This is something unconscious and defies logic.
Women who are free from such prejudices are self-sufficient, they do not ask for it, rest assured, men themselves are happy to provide them with these same benefits.
To become a self-sufficient woman, you need first of all.
It's important to prioritize. Ask your man what, in his opinion, you need to spend money in the first place. Perhaps he will open new horizons for you and suddenly you will have a desire to spend money on something else.
Do you know all his passions well? What about his phobias? Or what annoys him, in people, for example. As usual, in two columns write "likes" in one, in the other "does not like". Later, you will catch yourself thinking that your requests have become more selective.
Be attentive to your man
Don't ask him to do something you know he hates or it will make him feel humiliated.
Show him that you are also ready to make sacrifices for his beloved. But don't ask him to sing karaoke if he's shy and doesn't have a voice. Don't ask anyone to do what you don't want to do yourself. If you're asking your man to do something for you, make sure you're willing to do more for him. You are a team, so if possible, you will always be on his side. Boast about them. Shower with compliments and ... and ask what you want!
Make sure he's currently in the mood
And not tired, not hungry, not busy, not watching his beloved sports game or sick!
Cook his favorite food. This tip only applies if you know how to cook. You can order pizza, but trust me, it won't have the same effect as a specially prepared homemade meal. Here is an important moment. Choosing the right time of the day or week guarantees success.
Let's say your man returned home after a rush job at work, he is unlikely to be interested in initiating a conversation or asking about how your day went, and even more so to fulfill all your wishes. Pick a moment. On the weekend. At dinner, when you are together.
When you want to ask for something, don't ask with a frown. It is much harder to reject a sweet, smiling angel than it is to reject a gloomy, angry girl!
The next time you meet your beloved man, look into his eyes as often as possible and smile, of course! I am sure that he himself will ask: “Probably you want something from me.” The success of the operation depends on your charming smile.
Be brief
When formulating your requests. 1 to 3 sentences is enough. And highlight what matters most to you.
This is where you focus your attention. Write everything down in your diary. And in convenient moment when the man is in good mood- ask him.
Give time to consider your request.
Once you've asked a man for something, give him some time to think.
Many men (and people in general) do not like the pressure and pace that you may impose on him.
State your perspective on the situation, and then say something like, "Think about it, okay?" And of course kiss - where without it.
Pay attention to the voice in which you are asking
Conversely, when you have high frequencies in your voice, it gives the impression that you are preoccupied, excited and in suspense. You are not relaxed, you are not breathing properly, and you are talking too fast, which makes your voice sound high.
Record your voice as if you are asking your man. You may be disappointed and, most likely, you will agree that you would have denied yourself. The good news is that an unconscious habit can be consciously practiced and will quickly and naturally lower the tone of your voice. Practice, you will love the result!
Take him by the hand or hug him
Start the hug with a light hand touch. Whether you're in love or just dating, a hug never hurts. So just do it.
Touch your hand to his hand and let it linger for a few moments. Do not overdo it. Just relax. Hugs are a simple chance to get closer while enjoying each other's company.
Your touches, your affection, your kisses are important to men. Your intimacy is more valuable than money. Who can resist?
Don't expect an answer too obvious
If you sit looking at him, waiting for an answer, and twisting your fingers impatiently, he will most likely be nervous and feel pressure. Then you are unlikely to get what you want.
He needs time to process the data, especially if it requires emotional costs. This may take several days or weeks. It's OK!
He will think about your desire. And you will practice your ability to wait patiently.
Don't pressure
Don't try to force him to do what you want. This is a guarantee that he will not do this!
And if he does, be prepared for the fact that he emotionally moves away from you.
Men really, really hate being told what to do or being forced.
thank him
Don't take your person for granted. Tell him "thank you" often every day.
He will note that you notice what he does for you or for your family, and that you are grateful for all his actions - no matter how big or small.
Don't associate your love for him with his response.
If he doesn't answer right away, be prepared to change the subject and give him time to think.
If he immediately says "No" - be merciful to this without resentment and tantrums.
If you manage your disappointment, later on a shrewd man, seeing how important this is to you, will change his mind and give what you ask for - you won't even have to ask or ask him for it again!
Answers on questions
My loved one does not like to visit public places: concerts, exhibitions and even cinemas. And I can't live without it. How to ask him to take me to the theater.
As we have said, do not put your man in an awkward position. Probably your favorite introvert. Or maybe something unpleasant happened in the past with a large crowd of people in a similar place. Ask him delicately about it. Tell me how you want to be with him when you feel good! It is important to come to a compromise. For example, agree to visit a theater or a museum at least once a month.
May I ask? Do you give gifts to your spouse? Not useful things for the household, but something really important for him. I think his heart will melt from such a manifestation of your concern .. Darling, I know that you dreamed of becoming a pilot as a child spaceship. I want to give you a coupon for a free flight in a wind tunnel. You have such an amazing dream. And all I dream about is a ring! It will certainly be on your finger.
My man is always busy. How can I ask him to spend more time with me?
This is perhaps one of the most popular women's questions. In short, don't believe me. Just ask him about it using paragraphs 3,4,7,8,10,11 of our article and you will be provided with more than one romantic evening in the company of your chosen one.
What to remember:
- Don't try to have a long, strategically planned conversation to get what you want. Most likely, he will only hear the beginning and guess the rest. Just be open, honest and add some tactile tenderness. It really is that simple! The first step in getting what you want is submitting information.
- You should never expect anyone, even your man, to just know what you want. He doesn't read minds, and it's unfair to expect him to be. So when you need to ask your man for a favor or you want him to go somewhere with you or whatever you want him to do, just ask it easily and at the right time.
- Don't try to cheat, or do it when he's distracted by something else or in the middle of sex - ask when you're both in a good mood.
You can use the old tried and tested female tricks- to suggest by argument that it was his idea from the very beginning, and you really want to help him give you what you needed. Or pretend to be a small, helpless girl who needs his help. Or vse-taki, refuse to play these roles, and will speak honestly about the desires? In any case, do not forget to tell your man how much you love him, not only for the fact that he performs your quirks, but also just because!
Asks YaroslavAnswered by Inna Belonozhko, 10/15/2011
Yaroslav writes: Good day! Is it possible to ask God for everything? Usually a person asks God for what he wants, but a person wants what he loves, but what is a passion. But a Christian must fight them. How to be?!
In one of the answers to a question on this site, I quote: "Does God's creation require improvement? The Lord Himself personally worked on you, created you. What do you doubt?" On the physical side, I think that He has greatly underworked me. And to ask for improvement, I understand the sin of passion.
Peace be upon you, Yaroslav!
I want to discuss with you. Do you agree? :)
"And I will tell you: ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you; for everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened" ().
“Do not worry about anything, but always in prayer and petition with thanksgiving, open your desires before God, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus” ().
"Ask and you do not receive, because you do not ask for good, but to use it for your desires" ().
Interesting verses from Holy Scripture. And bringing hope and joy, right? Is everything possible??? And the man, inspired, immediately "orders" God a sports car "Maserati" to fly and show himself. Desire of the flesh, passion, sin? Okay, asking for wisdom. Is it bad? But in the heart there is a "worm": it asks ... not to glorify God, not to work in the field of God, but for self-glorification, self-affirmation, "how wise, intelligent, authoritative I am." From this follows pride, and there also the loss of a sense of dependence on God. Will a person in this case get everything he wants? Here, Yaroslav, it turns out that you can have different motivations when asking for something even "good".
So what to ask? For example, naturally, when we want to be healthy. And in prayer we ask for health for ourselves and loved ones, because we are worried about them. Going to school, to work, to the store, etc. - you can ask for the blessing of God and His presence with us, wisdom and protection. Is it a sin? The Lord is just happy when we ask Him for it. But to ask for health and at the same time - to violate the laws of health, to go to night club- and ask for blessings, take an exam, hoping for God's help - and neglect preparation, etc.? What will be the answer to prayer?
Someone has problems at work. Asking God to help solve them, is it a sin, a passion? No, this is natural and correct. You just need to completely trust the Lord, put the situation in His hands, agree with His will. He knows what is needed, when and how. Some moments in our life revolt us, but it is important to believe God, He does not do everything in vain. Time will pass, and we will see that the moment was for the good, that this is a real acquisition in the future. The Lord's answer to our requests can be "yes", and "yes, but not now", and "no". Trying to demand something is unreasonable. Asking, agreeing with the desire of God - one hundred percent gain.
Yaroslav, the Lord definitely loves you. And your desires of the heart are clear to Him. You are His child, the Lord attentively listens to your experiences, joys and sorrows, everything that you openly share with Him, everything is perceived and accepted by God. Now you will make His decision regarding your life, appearance, destiny.
You, quoting my answer about God's creation, speak with pain in your heart about your own physical dissatisfaction with yourself. I myself felt the same until the Lord revealed to me His love and how much He values me. And when earlier I could even present a certain claim to God that He "underworked" me, now I thank God. I looked at myself with different eyes. Not the way a person looks and evaluates by his worldly standards. And just like Christ, by His eyes, by His deed on Golgotha - for me! And I know that even for my sake alone - there would be a Calvary cross. And this is all because the Lord appreciates me so highly, I am His dear, beautiful, unique, beautiful daughter. So are you, Yaroslav, the most precious son of the Heavenly Father. You are rich because you are the son of the King, Master and Creator of the Universe. Be inseparable from God and all privileges are yours.
Perhaps there is something in us that cannot be physically changed. Despair is no help to us. Trust in God is freedom from complexes and thoughts about "flaws". We will ask God to open our eyes to ourselves, teach us to love ourselves and appreciate how it does loving god. You can always adorn yourself with love, tenderness, kindness. To allow the Lord to do this is to ask Him to give such a gift, such joy. Bring light, peace, do good deeds, give a smile and good word to glorify the Lord - these are the wonderful desires of the heart, what you can ask for - and it will be given in abundance.
Yaroslav, everything that the Lord allows in our life is not always pleasant. But any suffering that is done under the control of God will turn into a blessing in the future. We do not understand many things, like ordinary people, and do not see the beginning from the end, like the Lord. And just being in close connection with God, we will be satisfied and our burden will not be heavy, and our life will not be meaningless.
Trust God that everything in your life is just as good for you. And the wise Lord knows why and why.
Blessings and joy!
Sincerely,
Read more on the topic "Prayer":
Human civilizations have always worshiped gods. One or more, but certainly omnipotent. As a rule, all the deities created by the human imagination had and have an imperious character, and their attitude towards a person directly depends not only on his behavior, but also on the disposition of the spirit of the gods themselves. That is why seeking help from God, hoping for his favor is an ancient human tradition that has become an unconscious habit. And although, realizing the illusory nature of these hopes, folk wisdom bequeathed to us, hoping for God, not to make mistakes ourselves, the desire for protection and patronage from above has been preserved in our subconscious even today, in the century scientific experiments and technical advances.
By the way, it was this cognitive progress that not only did not disprove, but also confirmed the assumptions about the existence of some higher power capable of influencing what is happening in the physical world. And he strengthened the faith of those people for whom faith in divine support has always been indisputable. For thousands of years they have turned their requests to the Almighty and received an answer in the form of symbolic clues, spiritual insight, and even tangible help. Physicists and psychologists find it difficult to explain the mechanism of action of this process even today, with the current level of development of science. And people who know how to ask God for help enlighten pundits with good-natured readiness.
How and why to turn to God
To appeal to the Almighty, there is a basic way that is the same for all religions and cultures - this is prayer. It begins with an internal monologue addressing higher powers and acquires a verbal expression, voiced or spoken in the mind. There can be many forms, as well as goals of prayer, but most of them are strictly regulated and brought into line with the traditions of a particular religion. And, if we perceive prayer purely as a means of addressing God, connecting and connecting with him, then it is quite fair to consider it the result of the evolution of magic spells and communication with deities.
Nevertheless, despite the antiquity of this form of address to the Almighty, not all people who sincerely believe in divine powers and even attend church know how to pray correctly. And the point is not even that, having heard the “wrong” prayer, God will be offended or angry. And that certain formulations and language formulas allow the best way to concentrate on the praying person himself, to bring together his mental and emotional efforts and direct their energy in such a way as to get the desired response. For centuries, such speech constructions subordinated to this goal have been honed.
Thus, prayer is, first of all, an inner desire and faith, and only then is the expression of these feelings in words and deeds. This is the desire of the soul, supported by the mind. But in practice, this appeal takes various forms, depending on the religious context, the situation and the personality of the believer: 
Any theory is dry and fruitless without practice. Especially the one that describes such subtle spiritual impulses as turning to God. Therefore, prayers, for all their harmony, set forth in the prayer books and controlled by the ministers of the church, have been and will remain a purely personal phenomenon, even intimate. And therefore, no one has the right to prohibit or limit your prayers in the form that is closer, more comfortable and more productive for you.
How to pray to God for help
Sincere prayer coming from the depths of the soul really has miraculous power. Religious people call it the divine presence, psychologists-practitioners - visualization and realization. But be that as it may, in order for this “mechanism” to work, you need to pray according to certain rules. They are very schematic and direct the power of thought rather than give specific instructions. Based on them, you can make sure that you prayed correctly before today and, if necessary, correct your manner of addressing God:
- True prayer begins with an inner feeling of the need for communion with God. You can experience this feeling at any time: during the experience of life's troubles or in complete well-being. The main thing is not to ignore your desire and feel it fully.
- Second important condition turning to God and / or asking for help is the presence of faith. God will not help someone who doubts his existence. But that doesn't mean you won't get support. After all, God takes many forms and at the same time is one for all. The image in which he appears on the icons is not similar to the form of perception of skeptics and scientists. They understand God as the focus of subtle matters, and by virtue of this understanding they receive a response. You, too, do not have to be a parishioner of a particular church to have your own idea of God in your soul, whose care you trust and in whose power you believe.
- Depending on what kind of God lives in your inner Universe, create conditions for prayer. Come to the temple during the service or at any other time, light a candle at home and stand in front of the icon, or retire to a quiet room and close your eyes. All this is just an external entourage, which, nevertheless, allows you to tune in the right way, leave aside all the worldly fuss and, realizing the importance of the moment, concentrate on prayer. Yoga before connecting thoughts with higher power, take the lotus position or do asanas, Western religions prescribe fasting. But even the prayer you say mentally while commuting to work on the subway has power. The path of your consciousness to God and its help do not depend on the interior or the depth of the dungeon - but are directly related to your inner mood for prayer.
- Before you ask God for help, thank him. You probably have something to say “thank you” to him for: good health, for a new day, for peace in the camp and your family. Do not be like spoiled children who only do what they demand from their parents to satisfy their whims. Turn your gratitude to the Creator. It will help to start the monologue and create the right mood, saturated with respect and humility.
- After gratitude, ask God for forgiveness for your sins. Don't try to evade or hide some of them. Speaking to God, you open your soul to him and let him into it, that is, all your misdeeds are obvious to him. It is better to sincerely cleanse your conscience with repentance and earn His favor and your own peace of mind. Promise yourself and Him not to repeat the same mistakes.
- You can turn to God the way you see and feel him. Most often, Christian prayers call him "God" and / or "Lord", and you may also be comfortable calling him that.
- During prayer, your business should be in a position that will allow you to completely forget about it. In church, most people ask God for help while standing, some sitting or kneeling. In this regard, the clergy advise: “the prayer of a seated person thinking about God, better than prayer standing man thinking about his feet." You probably understand the meaning: focus on your own strengths, state of health and habits in order to focus as much as possible on communication with the Lord.
- Calm your breathing, take deep measured breaths and exhalations. Breathe in before turning to God full chest and start a conversation with him.
- Concentrate on one, the most important desire, and ask for its fulfillment. It is not necessary to list all the things that you would like and what you would not refuse. The request must be strong, clean and specific. Thinking about it, imagine that it has already been completed.
- Look at the text of the prayer in advance in a special prayer book and remember, if not by heart, then the main content. Personal requests can be formulated in your own words, the main thing is to sincerely wish and believe in finding what you want. A sincere request, expressed in your own words, will reach God no worse than one memorized from books.
- During prayer, not only feel, but also comprehend desire. Your mind must understand the text of the prayer, analyze it.
- When asking for help, do it expressively. When you ask for forgiveness, lower your tone; when you thank, fill it with joy. Talk to God as if he is in front of you and listens carefully to your words.
- After the end of the prayer, try to keep in your soul the atmosphere that it created. Do not rush to plunge into the bustle of life, give yourself at least a little time to comprehend and strengthen faith in divine help. Walk from the temple on foot, do not argue or quarrel with anyone.
