Why does a guy humiliate and be rude to a girl? How to say that a person is stupid. The myth of the old maid

Tell me, how can a man or guy be humiliated? - How? How do girls and women humiliate them? - I won’t tell the secret why and what kind of man I want to humiliate, but I really really need to know this! Help me please, I pray...!

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What beautiful girls say:

Svetlana from the Moscow region (23 years old): People need to be respected, not humiliated. You don’t have to do this, no matter what the person does to you! Will you listen to me?

Irina from the Grodno region (22 years old):

Say he's a "mama's boy"

Although men love their mothers, they cannot stand it when they are called that. At this time it begins to seem to them that the girls are hinting at their terrible lack of independence.

Tatiana from Kirovograd (25 years old):

Such an act as replenishing the balance on his phone greatly humiliates a guy...

The guy begins to be very indignant and wildly “not satisfied.” The more money you send to his phone number, the more and more “sharply” he will be humiliated!

Oksana from Taganrog (26 years old):

You are small and he is small...

It's humiliating when girls say that a guy has a small penis. It hurts and humiliates so much that a complex arises inside the guy. And it is very, very difficult to get rid of it. Only the strong cope.

Oksana from Ternopil (33 years old):

Talk about the advantages of your ex-men, compare

Your “honey” will be furious! He will begin to think that you are really right, that he is practically nobody and nothing. Oh, you would be humiliated by that too!

Angelina from Sevastopol (22 years old):

Men are humiliated when women earn more than them!

Yes, yes, this is very humiliating! And it's not just what the stereotypes say. It’s just very unusual when a man doesn’t hear, for example: “Dear, when will you buy me a fur coat with rhinestones?” - The woman goes and buys everything herself.

Svetlana from Kursk (17 years old):

Pay attention to its constitution

I remember how I humiliated my boyfriend Igor when he offended me. I said he was a weakling (meaning his physical strength, constitution). If you tell your significant other this way, they will start actively visiting the gym!

Alevtina from Minsk (20 years old):

Press on his shortcomings

Do this openly and frankly, focusing on both external “traits” and internal ones. Speak rudely. The way you feel, and not the polite way!

Marina from Cherkasy region (23 years old):

Say rudely: “Your penis is crooked and doesn’t stand right!”

It's rough, but it works. Check it out if you don't believe me!!!

Tatyana from Moscow (18 years old):

Tell him he's fat! Haven't you thought that this worries not only girls and women? Those men who love themselves will be “hurt” negative energy, if the girls even hint at “thickness”.

Zhanna from Minsk (51 years old):

Laugh at his failure!

Don't feel sorry, just laugh. Do you know how humiliating this is?! It will be better if you don't find out.

Maya from Lviv (23 years old):

No need to humiliate! You need to be kinder!

Have you forgotten about the existence of the “boomerang”? Everything bad (as well as good) that you have done to people will come back to you sooner or later. In what “proportion” is unknown.

Thank you very much to everyone who took part in helping– commenting.

You were so sincere with me (I felt it) that I decided to repay you with sincerity. I didn’t want to tell my story, but I will.

I came to my husband best friend(from afar). I don’t even know how I agreed to this, but he persuaded me. Of course, I didn’t regret it, because I really liked this girl (I didn’t expect this to happen!).

I won’t hide it: I was jealous! Especially when, during the toast, he said: “Alyonochka, thank you very much for coming!”

As you understand, the diminutive - affectionate address to her touched me. But I somehow got over it, even though it really hooked me.

I was really pissed off when he said in front of my friend that I was very fat. These words were a humiliating disaster for me! I then experienced something that I wouldn’t wish anyone to experience! It's a nightmare, how painful it was. I don't know why he didn't tell me in private. Alone is another matter!

So I decided to take revenge on him somehow!

And not because I am vindictive and don’t know how to forgive. I just don’t think I deserve to be treated like this! It's a shame he doesn't think so.

I cried all night! He reassured me and said that I was stupid. But I didn’t hear his words: I was choked with tears. You understand me... You yourself once experienced something similar. Those who have experienced it - I sincerely sympathize with those who have not experienced it - I sincerely wish never to experience it!

I said in front of everyone that he was small!

You won’t believe what happened... He immediately hit me in the face with his hand. I fell. I was in pain, and something inside me dissipated, as if a gray fog was leaving... I humiliated my man and we couldn’t be together anymore, he couldn’t.

The Myth of an Army of Single Women

“There are few men, but many women,” says all men’s illicit goods since post-war times, ignoring all statistical figures. If you ask to show demographic data, they blur it out and blur it out. And the box opens simply: the decrease in the number of men occurs only after forty years, and reaches its peak by the age of 80. So it is appropriate to talk not about an army of lonely women, but about an army of lonely grandmothers. Which, you see, are slightly different things. As for women under 40, there are generally fewer of them than men. This means that we have a reason to choose again.

The Myth of Male Pickiness

The entire Internet is literally flooded with an unreal number of proud “Yabnevduls”. What is this mysterious beast “yabnevdul”? Most often this is a man familiar with female body only based on glossy pictures. Seeing any woman of flesh and blood, he begins to spit with relish at her address. However, in fact, every woman from 16 to 76 years old weighing from 40 to 140 kg can easily find a “blower” the same evening if she knows how to use social networks. If you don’t believe me, create a women’s profile on a dating site.

The myth of the suffering of libertines

Men often say things like, “Whores must suffer.” Any woman who has lost her virginity goes into the “spoiled” category for them. And it would be nice if they themselves didn’t attempt to kill such women - you can’t put your own head on it. But they also use the number of partners as a reason for insults or bad prophecies. What do we actually see? America's main slut Monica Lewinsky feels great at the royal races. Why worry about it even if everything is ok with her?

The myth of a strong woman with a cat

Strong and successful woman It is customary to frighten people by being alone next to a cat. Like, everything is there, but the bed is cold. I’ll tell you a terrible secret: a successful and unmarried woman has no less, but much more chances to have a good evening. She can afford to look good, visit restaurants, resorts and spas, where such problems are solved by themselves. And in the most desperate case, you can simply buy a man; such offers are also found on the Internet.

The Myth of the Age of Despair

Previously, the age limit of “about thirty” was used as the age of despair. Just two decades ago, an unmarried thirty-year-old already seemed suspicious. Nowadays, the first wedding is often celebrated at thirty, or even forty years. And about remarriages and there is no need to talk. It’s much more pleasant to get married with your own apartment than with a bare butt without panties. Moreover, it is much more pleasant to hold strategic trump cards in your hands in a marriage than to be an obliging beggar to your husband. And age-related defects are easily leveled cosmetic procedures and basics proper nutrition. However, the most tender and vulnerable natures still panic.

The myth of women's guilt

One of the most mysterious myths that has captivated women for thousands of years is the myth of female guilt. The woman is to blame for the appearance of a mistress, for beatings, betrayal, and betrayal. The woman is to blame for being unruly, getting fat, farting in the bedroom, and not keeping a man. A woman is to blame for poor makeup, manicure and problems in the triceps area. Moreover, she herself is constantly trying to become better and reproaches herself for imperfections. This is our female psychology. And men... Well, what can I say, men actively use it.

The myth about trailer scams

The myth about which the most copies have been broken between men and women is the myth about divorcees with trailers. Men would like to see their exes unhappy and broken, overweight and in a greasy robe, lonely and unhappy. However, reality often does not at all correspond to what they see in their dreams, and the same ladies playfully get married a second, or even a third time. They get married as they are, and with children too. Where will you get others? There are approximately equal numbers of men and women. But you can’t order your heart.

The myth of the pencil in the glass

The most illiquid and weakest males love to speculate about their condition female vagina. It supposedly, after a certain number of partners, loses its magical properties. So sit at home alone and be afraid. Some especially gifted people believe that the vagina, like a frame, can simply be “shattered.” Lack of minimum knowledge on female anatomy complete the picture. In fact, the size of the vagina, like the rectum or lips, is an innate size. Unchangeable even in a brothel, even in a monastery.

The myth of the old maid

For some reason, some modern men, living in a metropolis with all its amenities, still believe that a woman cannot survive alone. They try so hard to convince women about the need for marriage to survive in the office jungle that women themselves begin to believe it. Although the shelves have long been nailed by a specially hired craftsman, every second person has a driver’s license, and heavy things are moved by loaders. Despite the fact that there is no practical need for the presence of a man in the house, and the old maid of the 21st century is a woman who enjoys her solitude, men still continue to scare someone by the absence of a stamp in their passport or a constant lover in bed.

The myth of the glass of water

If all 9 points mentioned above failed to confuse the lady, the last, final argument is used. The myth of a glass of water. There will be no one to give you a glass of water, you will die of a stroke, and your face the cat will eat it. All this will happen if you don't send an intimate photo right now. As a lonely old woman you will remember me, a beautiful Viking. And send intimate photos there will be no one left. The theory, of course, is good, but excuse me, we have already said that men die earlier. So who is going to die without a glass...

Having completely smashed men's scare myths, I wearily take off my armor. They’ll come up with something like this... Or is some of this true?

Let's start with the fact that there are no purely ideal moments in relationships, misunderstandings happen in every family, but the point is in the development and consequences of quarrels. Most often, these are insults. Many people of the fair sex asked themselves the question: why does a man insult and humiliate a woman? Let's figure out why the man insulted and humiliated.

Reasons why men humiliate women:

Subconscious response. For men who insult and humiliate beautiful ladies, a defensive reaction begins in the subconscious when they begin to yell at them and pour out all the negativity; They want to intimidate and be right in everything. He will not deviate from his opinion, so he insults and humiliates the female half in order to prove his position; He has a mistress and does not have the courage to break up with you; An example from childhood. The person who humiliates grew up in such an environment and saw tyrant behavior in his father, grandfather or the person who raised him. It’s even worse if they run around him.

We will step by step delve into the essence of the issue. Why a man humiliates and insults a woman - the psychology is as follows:

A man humiliates, using this as a way of control and power. The goal is to destroy and change the personal opinion of your partner. Having become an authority for her, he believes that he can perfectly control and manipulate her; A man humiliates and insults girls - this is the psychology of a weak, insecure man who wants to raise his self-esteem and show himself; This is convenient for him. The man sees that there is no resistance from the girl, she does not touch him, and continues to offend him with 100% confidence that he is doing everything right, since the lady is silent. They can offend, humiliate and insult any woman anywhere: in transport, on vacation, at work , but why do men like to humiliate their beloved girlfriend or wife at home, let’s try to find the answer. After all, this is very scary, especially since children can see everything!

Why does a man humiliate the woman he loves?

The woman independently chose the role of the victim. Perhaps unconsciously, because I saw such an example of my mother’s behavior. The second option, when a lady is deeply in love with her prince, does not see his shortcomings, and is sure that he is right in such behavior, and she is to blame and provoked him; They are used to living and behaving this way! Both! A woman obeys in everything, cooks, washes, takes care of him, he gets used to it. If the other half missed what he was used to (for example, he did not serve food on time), there will be a quarrel, and the man begins to insult. And the wife silently endures and endures; The male sex wants to prove his status. If this doesn’t work out at work among colleagues, among friends, where does the man humiliate his significant other? At home. Although there, he feels at his best, using this method, maybe he lacks her attention; All the dissatisfaction and negativity that has accumulated throughout the day needs to be thrown out. Why does the male sex like to humiliate their wives, and not those who got them? Because a woman will listen and endure and will not go anywhere (in his opinion), but in a job, for example, they can be fired or demoted. And he is looking for any reason to offend his wife in order to free himself from all the bad results of the day; Competition. The husband sees that his wife is strong in character, achieves more than him, his self-esteem drops, and he begins to humiliate her; Fear that his wife will begin to destroy his personal space (before marriage, he walked with friends, relaxed, did what he loved, but now there are obligations), and he begins to humiliate his beloved half so that his space is not disturbed; Education. Look at your boyfriend's or husband's parents. If his father is a tyrant and loves to constantly humiliate his mother, then the son’s behavior will most likely be similar, since his father raised him this way and set an example; Wife’s behavior. If you constantly nag your spouse, expressing your dissatisfaction with any reason in an angry tone, his patience will also burst, and he will respond in kind.

Why does a man try to humiliate

There are many reasons, but this does not give the right to humiliate and insult. It is always necessary to find a compromise, but the outcome of the event as humiliation and violence is extremely unacceptable. We can sum up why men try to humiliate a woman: it’s inherited given upbringing, the weakness of men who want to increase their self-esteem, the desire to gain and control the female sex using this method, a response to female hysterics and constant dissatisfaction, or the other half makes themselves a victim, as well as the desire to show themselves at their best in front of another person.

Most often, these are aggressors who believe that they are always right. The girl, in order not to become a victim, must fight back. Any conflict situation it must be adequate and not go beyond what is permitted, especially to the point of violence. We need to control ourselves, work on the relationship on both sides. And realizing your mistakes is the first stage of mutual understanding.

Women throughout human history have fought for their rights. They were always proving something to someone, asserting themselves, declaring themselves, speaking out about the infringement of their rights. And here we should put an end to it. Wait, why would anyone? They proved this to men - precisely those who infringed on these rights. Yes, time has passed, now men and women are completely equal, the latter are in no way limited in their rights. But still, men often try to offend the weaker sex, touching primarily on gender. “Who should wash the dishes? I? Yes, I’m a man!”, “Take off these sneakers, you’re a woman!” And then there’s this, the worst thing: “Well, you’re a BABA.” What is this? Why do men humiliate women? Let's try to figure it out in this article.

Family

Psychologists say that children always repeat the fate of their parents. And why all? From the point of view of this science, this phenomenon is explained quite simply. The father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, said that all problems come from childhood, because the child, being a being who does not know how to separate what is necessary for himself from what is unnecessary, accepts what he sees. Who does he see most often? Of course, parents. Especially for little man They are the only authority. Therefore, no matter what actions they perform, the child on a subconscious level will consider them the only correct ones, and when a similar situation occurs in adult life, at the level of worldview, a person will act in the same way as his parents once did in it. This also applies to family relationships. “Why do men humiliate women?” - many people ask. Perhaps their fathers treated their wives poorly.

Example 1

The boy Petya constantly heard his father insulting his mother when she did something wrong. She didn’t have time to cook borscht before her husband arrived - she’s lazy, she stayed late at work - she’s unfaithful, she bought herself a new dress - she’s selfish, and so on. Peter grew up, got married, got a job where he conducted sociological research. At the last meeting, he was given the task of preparing a study “Why men humiliate women.” He decided to become the first test subject and wrote down on the form: “I think that humiliating a woman is terrible, but if she does stupid things or strange things, I don’t think it’s bad to insult her.” Thus, we can conclude that insults for Peter are a completely normal and natural thing precisely because his entire childhood was built on this. He doesn’t even consider this act humiliating. This is the norm, part of life.

Low self-esteem

In order to better understand, it is worth delving into history. Who were the first rulers? Were there women among them? Rurik, Oleg, Igor. Next is Olga. Her reign was completely random, strange, unjustified, with only one goal - retribution. It is worth noting that after Olga, Elena Glinskaya managed to reach state power, but again after 6 centuries and only in the person of the regent under Ivan the Fourth. Then palace coups, again just accidents. The rest of the time, only men ruled the state. What about the veche? Remember, only representatives of the stronger sex could be present there. This natural desire of men to be always ahead, to be in charge is transmitted to them by blood. Therefore, when men realize that they didn’t take something from life, missed something, didn’t achieve something, their self-esteem immediately drops. But you can’t just take it and admit it, you need to try to prove it to the less weak (in in this case they turn out to be women) the opposite. And how to do it? Of course, try to show your superiority by humiliating and insulting a woman. After all, not all male representatives know how to feel this line. This criterion should answer the question of why men humiliate women.

Example 2

Married couple. The husband always earned more than his wife and provided for the whole family, but suddenly the unexpected happened - he lost his job. The wife was not taken aback, she remembered that she was good at baking cakes, took out a loan and opened own business. In just six months, her business went uphill, a client base appeared, the loan was repaid, but her husband was dissatisfied. Why? It would seem that you have everything, live and be happy. But no, he writes to her on the website negative reviews, orders cakes for which he does not pay, scolds her for spending a lot of time at work, not realizing that the wife is the only one who earns money in the family. You can understand a man, he just cannot admit on a psychological level that his wife is ahead of him. But in this case, when it simply could not have happened otherwise, why does the man humiliate the woman? Psychology of consciousness of any person. The answer is simple.

Fear

As the saying goes, great love can also give rise to certain troubles. And the Platonic Lady cannot always bring only happiness. But rather, this criterion can be attributed to jealous men. Why does a man humiliate and insult a woman? It is possible that he loves her very much and is afraid of losing her. We all know how sensitive human nature is to the evaluation of other people. Therefore, when a man periodically tells his beloved that she is fat, ugly, worthless, she begins to believe it and consider herself as such, no matter how beautiful she is. And indeed, women whose men humiliated them in this way almost never left them. Therefore, this point of view is completely justified.

Example 3

In psychology this example refers to the Theory of Social Consciousness. American psychologists conducted an interesting experiment, during which every person in the room saw the same monitor screen (there were 50 people). The screen was black. Forty-nine out of fifty people were told that the screen was black, but asked that the audience tell them otherwise. So, when all 49 people said that the screen was white, the last one did not doubt it for a second, although he observed the opposite with his own eyes. This example can be easily transferred to gender psychology and understand why a man humiliates and insults a woman (psychology).

Woman's behavior

Very often, women themselves become the culprits of such behavior among men. After all, both one and other representatives of the sexes can be different. For example, girls may begin to unjustifiably insult their other halves, constantly suspect cheating, checking social media, asking friends and mutual acquaintances, resorting to harassment. No man would like that. And not only for a man, but for any person. After all, despite the relationship, there should always be some kind of personal space that cannot be violated. It turns out that in this case the ladies themselves run into conflicts and swearing, and then also wonder why men try to humiliate a woman. How can you not respond in kind? Indeed, in almost all areas it operates Golden Rule morality, which states that the attitude towards others should be the same as the desired one towards oneself. And it does not lose its importance when communicating and in relation to your boyfriend.

Conclusion

I would like to note that many people wonder why a man tries to humiliate a woman, but have all of those who have ever asked this question thought of finding the reason in themselves? It seems like only a few. Yes, it happens that men simply insult their women, but the latter are not always “God’s dandelions.” The main thing is to look for the optimal balance and build relationships on full understanding, trust and dialogue, when you can always discuss something together, and if something doesn’t suit you, find general output. Perhaps then fewer girls will need this article.

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How many articles are devoted to real representatives of the stronger sex, but besides them there are also those who, although they belong to male, but they do not behave like men. They allow themselves to be rude, insult and offend women. There is no excuse for this, since they are stronger, but you can fight this phenomenon only by understanding what is the reason that forces them to behave so poorly. So why do men humiliate women? Let's figure it out now.

Why do men insult women?

The reasons for any actions and deeds are always hidden in the depths of a person’s subconscious, and often he does not realize them until a moment comes that forces him to think about why life is not the way he would like, and people around him react negatively to him. At this moment there is a chance to change in better side. Unfortunately, recognizing the very fact that a person is doing something wrong is a great success. Subconscious processes are well hidden from people, and the eternal rush, which does not allow you to stop for a minute to think whether you are going the right way, generally deprives you of any chance of learning something very important about yourself.

You can understand and realize the hidden motives of behavior and actions with the help of introspection, psychologists or other people who are able to say from the outside in a calm manner that a person is behaving selfishly and causing pain to others. The only problem is that such people, especially males, do not want to hear what they are told, much less go to a psychologist (they are not sick) or engage in self-analysis (waste time on incomprehensible nonsense), they deeply believe that they are doing everything right, and it is the ones they offend, react incorrectly, or are to blame.

Changing the situation by forcing them to think about their behavior at least for a minute is possible only through peaceful means. In moments of calm, simply voice that you, as his beloved woman, are hurt by his words and actions. It is important to say all this calmly, choosing words that will accurately reflect your feelings and hint to him. possible reason his behavior so that he understands what is worth paying attention to in order to make sure that you are right or his own. Here, as they say, whatever happens.

Attempts to convey your disappointment to him with the help of screams, in a state of rage, when you want to tear and throw from resentment and pain, will be in vain. When people are shouted at, justifiably or not, their defense mechanism is activated, or they stop altogether perceiving what is being said to them, since they subconsciously understand that negativity will be poured out on them, which will cause harm, or they will enter into an altercation in order to silence the other person. and intimidate, because they become scared at this moment themselves.

All these processes are subconscious, and therefore are not realized by people, they happen instantly, but knowing about them in advance, there is a chance to avoid new quarrels, because they definitely will not be able to solve the problem. But in order to tell everything in a calm atmosphere, when the right moment comes, hinting at what is happening to the man himself, because it is not easy for him to behave this way, you need to know what reasons most often force men to humiliate women, what provoked them and how you can deal with them cope with.

Psychologists agree that only weak men, insecure, disliked in childhood, accustomed to a similar model of behavior, this is how their father behaved or the men who replaced him in childhood, if the boy grew up alone. People who love themselves know how to feel the pain of others, even if they are strong men who are accustomed not to express their emotions and pity too often. They have no need to increase their own self-esteem at the expense of others. If suddenly it has decreased a little, but they still have self-love, they will find another way to increase it, without offending anyone, especially women. By insulting and humiliating another person, you, first of all, lower yourself. Decent, self-respecting people will never allow themselves to behave like this.

To offend and humiliate... A similar solution internal problems are chosen by weak representatives of the stronger sex, who are even too lazy to think about the problems that await them if they continue to behave like tyrants in the future. For some reason, living in a society where such an attitude towards the obviously weak is not encouraged, but, on the contrary, is condemned, sometimes quietly, but condemnation is always present, such men do not bother to think about why they allow themselves such behavior and really Are they sure that this will continue forever and will not threaten them with anything?

They may believe that they are not doing anything wrong, only because they are afraid to admit that they are bad people, they are too lazy to take care of themselves, because this is also a kind of recognition of their shortcomings. This behavior is cultivated for a reason; it is based on the fact that women who are humiliated by such men are accustomed to behaving like victims. They do not accept their behavior, so as not to worry about it, and they do not rebuff them, either verbally or forcefully, at least in the form of parting with them and erasing them from their lives.

The reluctance to voice justified complaints and grievances that arose due to his behavior in a calm environment is due to the fact that then he will have to make a decision: to stay and not pay any more attention, since she loves him so much, or to leave. And it’s scary to do this, because the status of a victim gives her a lot of advantages, especially since her mother behaved the same way, and this model of behavior is absolutely familiar. Who wants to admit that she is also to blame for the fact that she is constantly offended, and she continues to endure it, without even trying to think, maybe there is something wrong with her too.

This behavior of women allows men to further humiliate them, as they feel their impunity.

Why do men humiliate women?

But it is not always only women who are to blame; after all, they do not specifically provoke such behavior towards themselves, and only then react as best they can, leave or suffer from too much patience and fear of losing, even if such a bad, but still a man . Unfortunately, our society still continues to evaluate the value of a woman by the presence of a man next to her or his absence. It is also worth mentioning that normal man will never humiliate a woman, no matter how she behaves and no matter how tolerant and kind she is to others. Those who behave rudely are those who themselves feel their own inferiority inside, which they try to get rid of by humiliating those who are obviously weaker than them. Without meeting any resistance, they stop seeing boundaries altogether and continue to violate them more and more sophisticatedly. Men allow themselves to behave this way because their status is not as high as they would like. And they try to rise up in order to feel on top at least against someone else’s background. And since it is much easier for them to show force and rudeness towards someone who depends on them, especially since it is easier than trying to achieve the status they need, they try with all their might. They are afraid to struggle with difficulties, compete and compete with other representatives of the stronger sex, because they are not confident in themselves and their success, but since the ambitions against this background are generally enormous, they need to throw out the accumulated dissatisfaction with themselves and those around them. And a woman looking at him with loving eyes and expressing complete submission... What could be better for his anger?! No one will rebuff him, will not object, will not say that it’s time for you, dear, to take care of your own self-esteem, so as not to remain lonely, since any women will run away from you, tired of enduring humiliation. So they humiliate women when their subconscious discontent begins to eat away at the soul, and this happens often, but the disease - low self-esteem - remains uncured. Because of this, some experience the fear of losing their loved one, and to prevent this from happening, instead of getting rid of fear, which is again done by increasing their own self-esteem and self-love, they begin to humiliate, offend and criticize the woman. In other words, destroy her self-esteem to such an extent that she herself believes that no one else will need such an incorrect one. Only this happens all the time, since his fear does not disappear anywhere, and he continues to try with all his might, turning a woman into a downtrodden and insecure creature, completely dependent on him.

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Those who respect themselves and do not want to tolerate such treatment should remember that there are no excuses for men allowing themselves to humiliate and insult women. They do this because of their promiscuity and unwillingness to respect others, no matter how much they are asked not to do this, and no matter how society tries to raise worthy men.

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Quite often, offended women think about how to humiliate a representative of the stronger sex who broke their heart or did not live up to expectations. It's kind of defensive reaction, arising against the background of accumulated negative emotions. For a man, the most “acute” and painful will be those that humiliate his sense of dignity. For example, if you tell him that he is a coward, a "rag", Sissy, a spineless creature that has no opinion of its own, etc. To bring a conversation to a boiling point, you can touch on financial side question, reproaching him for the fact that he earns little and cannot provide for his soulmate, as befits a real man. As a rule, representatives of the stronger sex react very sharply to such statements, even if they do not outwardly show it.

Conversation about male strength and appearance

There is nothing more humiliating for a man than sexual failure. Loving girl will never remember awkward moments intimate life, who do not embellish her chosen one. If you tell a man that during sexual intercourse he was far from “at his best,” this can not only humiliate him, but also cause the development of an inferiority complex. This will be especially painful if expressed not one-on-one, but, for example, in the company of mutual friends. This will be a blow below the belt, so the girl should think carefully about whether the man deserves such punishment.

Despite the fact that men are not very particular about their appearance, they react quite sharply to compliments addressed to their “rivals”. For example, for a representative of the stronger sex, it can be humiliating for the chosen one to express that she liked the muscles of the handsome guy from the next door. Also, men do not tolerate being compared to anyone. For example, for a guy to start grinding his teeth, it is enough for a girl to hint that he is not strong, pumped up and courageous enough, like, for example, one of her friends.

Is it worth humiliating?

In fact, you can humiliate a person with a few well-chosen phrases. However, often women who have expressed everything that has accumulated to their chosen ones do not feel adequate relief. The thing is that the negativity that spills out does not disappear anywhere. It only materializes, making the relationship more strained. A woman who systematically humiliates a man will never gain respect, love and affection from him. On the contrary, he will become closed and complex. If emotions run high, it’s better to talk it out to your friend and simply ignore the man. Indifference is the worst humiliation and punishment for any person.

In this publication we want to touch on the general psychology of relations between a man and a woman, humiliation in general. After all, this is a problem in our society that each of us can face.

Types of humiliation against a woman.

Humiliation is a form of violence that involves constant insults that affect a person’s dignity, prohibitions on a normal lifestyle (work, etc.), financial pressure, intimidation and moral pressure per person. Unfortunately, this phenomenon is faced by all social levels of the population, regardless of income level or status in society.

Portrait of a humiliated victim.

Women who are constantly humiliated most often have noticeably low self-esteem, are very imaginary, restless and insecure. Such a woman always tries to justify herself, constantly feeling guilty. And the worst thing is that most women who find themselves in such a situation tend to believe that no one can help them, and they perceive humiliation itself as due punishment for their so-called “negligence.” And in general, the woman herself begins to think about the diminished role of women, not only in the family between a man and a woman, but also in society as a whole.

Portrait of a man capable of humiliating a woman.

This is most often a man - an aggressor who, since childhood, has been humiliated more than once. This person suffers from low self-esteem (and tries to raise it in this way), has many complexes, and is constantly free to blame someone in any situation. It happens that such people humiliate completely unconsciously. In public, these men, as a rule, are in good standing and few people know how they behave face-to-face with their wives. Such a man is good at constantly asking for forgiveness after what he has done and, thus, easily gains trust. This is the psychology of the relationship between a male aggressor and a female victim. It is for this reason that many women, forgiving their husbands, again “step on the same rake.”

Humiliation and related factors.

The general characteristic of such a concept as “humiliation in the family” carries with it a very complex psychological basis for the relationship between husband and wife. Humiliation, as a clear manifestation of cruelty, can arise in any family, and it will not depend on it at all. social status. The victims of this situation are often women themselves, who are still early stage They allow a man to behave this way. And this is at a time when such relationships can still be avoided. But if you have already allowed such an attitude towards yourself, this still does not give a man the right to behave this way.

The psychology of many women is designed in such a way that they intend long years keep silent about everything that happens to them, without taking out “garbage in public.” A man perceives this “silence” as a signal of permissiveness and a guarantee that the woman will endure everything and Once again will forgive him. But, as you know, such relationships between people will not lead to good things. In this situation, the best way out is to break up, but women tend to forgive their “beloved” again and again. And all this, as psychology says, is due to the lady’s obsessive fear of being left alone. In addition, financial dependence on a man, housing issues and children emerge, which may be negatively affected by the divorce of their parents. Also here we can safely include the love and affection of a woman for a man. Among other things, a woman’s lack of confidence in herself leads to a feeling of guilt in front of a man and his behavior is regarded as deserved.

How to deal with humiliation in the family?

How to overcome humiliation in the family if you are afraid that if you talk about your problems, you will be considered weak person? It is always necessary to remember that a man who humiliates a woman (whether in public or in the family) is not a man. First of all, such a person is not able to control himself, and has a lot of psychological complexes. Leave such a man without looking back. Well, if you still want to maintain a relationship between you, then you need to try to talk to the man and explain to him that he is wrong. You should also avoid all situations that could make him want to humiliate you. Remember that in these conditions you are your own rescuer. Consult a psychologist or, even better, go with your companion to see him. Read books on the topic “psychology and humiliation” and learn to control the situation with their help. By the way, there are now a lot of such books and they contain very valuable and instructive information.

Well, if you still come to the decision that you should break up, you can contact special trust services where they can give you valuable advice how to do this painlessly for you. Never threaten a man that you will leave him. By doing this you can provoke him to take more decisive action. Tell your family about this, who should certainly support and protect you at this moment.

Remember that humiliation is a form of violence. Therefore, all verbal, moral, physical coercion and insults should not intimidate you and drive you into a “dead corner.” After all, verbal humiliation can always develop into beatings, and this is much worse. So don’t go to such extremes and always remain a strong and strong-willed woman who, for the sake of her well-being, is ready to overcome everything and radically change her life.