The last words to the girl if they have already parted. Beautiful farewell letter to a girl

This time will not forgive us
Will not forgive us the past years,
I bet it will take revenge
That love is out of fashion now.
It just drowns me
What a waste of time
Won't even have mercy on you
And you will be paid for everything.
You just let him go
How cool is it to hate now
But she always told me
That you can't offend anyone...
You gave love to someone
This someone did not accept those feelings
And let me go so easily
My heart is empty again...
This time will ever let go
Will it ever forgive us?
Take a minute to be sad
She only talks about me...

I know you and I are breaking up
And we won't go back to the past.
We haven't found a single way
We will go our own way.
I ask that you do not hold evil,
After all, everything happened in life.
I still wish you to be happy
Fate would have been fair to you.

Your love for me is a complete test
Painful, nervous suffering.
I seduced you, fell in love with myself, -
But I never loved you.
I'm sorry. I am a rascal.
I am a vile coward, a scoundrel, a deceiver.
Sorry. Don't hold me anymore. Let go.

Parting us
Joy destroys at the root.
She has a craving for dreams
To our souls and will.
Breaking up with you
With a beloved girl
I feed on the dream
That they will throw us a meeting.

Let's forget everything with you
We can't bring back the past
We will not wake up the sleeping
Our love has come a long way.
You are young and beautiful
But our paths fly apart
And our meetings are in vain
Love will not return, will not come.

Your love, treasure and happiness,
What I have never seen before in my life
Unexpected and painful for the heart
Forever for myself I lost.
She was pure, bright and so beautiful
Like an angel descended from heaven
It turned out to be so dangerous for me to love her,
It was like a demon possessed me.
I lost my peace and clarity of thought,
forgot when last time already slept
It became harder to breathe while thinking,
That the happiness of life never knew.
Love, I will not forgive you in my life
The pain that gave my heart
I won't let you in now
I want to forget the way to me.

I don't eat or drink without you
I can't sleep at night without you.
Do not be silent, write one line,
But don't put a dot at the end.
The stars don't shine without you
And the moon does not sing with them in time.
Do not be silent, write one line,
But don't put a dot at the end.
Without you, all inspiration is gone,
I don't sing, I don't write unfortunately.
Do not be silent, write one line,
But don't put a dot at the end.
Wrote only one line
"Darling, don't miss me."
And put an end to the end
But, and below is the postscript "Farewell."
Without you my soul is torn apart
Without you there is no life and happiness for me.
I've been alone for a year
Without you, without you, without you.

I'm weak, my love, I'm sad.
Couldn't overcome barriers.
And he just said to you: "I'll forgive you!"
And let you fly.
But our souls are so close.
We flew off into infinity.
Now we are sad on the banks of anguish,
From now on, having lost carelessness.
Farewell forever, do not be sad.
I'm sorry, my love, I'm sorry!

You left, closing the door to the light for me.
You destroyed my temple in the trash
And left only those days
Without which there will be fear, darkness.
I have an evil beast in my soul
Behind the flags paw beats in the blood
Breaking the pain with a cry of will.
That soaked into his soul, flesh.
Today I will go to the steppe in the snow,
I'll leave myself, I'll leave all those
Who remained in the bright days of those
And to whom you give the eye light.
Just know that the way back is hidden
And you have no chance to return.
Let your enemy caress you now,
I won't die without you, no
I'll just be a coward in love,
My broken altar is empty
And on the heart all day long shadow
And the feelings are completely broken.

Breakup is so bad
We will meet him again.
My girl is cruel
So to separate loved ones.
Let the meeting come again.
We want to be close.
That will make it easier for us!
We're made to love.
And we will overcome separation
Let's just digress a little.
And sometimes we miss a lot.
And sadness will recede.

Let's break up, what's the point of talking?
Why are you writing lines again?
Let's close the door on constipation,
But why can't I live without you?
Why are these lines again about our
Huge love, but the one that passed?
Why am I trying to get older again
After all, you could not become wiser ...

The time has come to run.
It opened the door to parting.
Goodbye forever, goodbye is not sweet.
All in the past, all the past you believe.
The pain was carried away with a terrible formidable force.
Breaking the chest, breaking the very essence.
Goodbye forever my forgotten dream.
Farewell, it's time to forget and take a nap.

The usual dusk of the night.
Phone calls.
And you want to get up
And talk to her.
A pillow flies into the phone.
And he does not stop!
That chime is ringing in my ears.
Ringing, breaking everything!
Or maybe it's worth it?
And start all over again?
But the feeling of pain and longing.
You are so tired of them.
And those long calls
Breaking out in the middle of the night
They can't decide anything.
They will just become a dot.

She left and it became empty
In the heart, in the house and in the soul.
Sad, ugly, sad...
And I don't want anything!
I tried to forget her with others.
It didn't work, I can't!
She left and won't come back. From now on
No one can replace her!

How long later
You are in my heart.
We then parted in vain,
I acted carelessly.
I then appeared weak,
Once allowed to let go
The one with whom he was always happy -
I can't forgive myself!
But it's okay, I won't give up.
And yes, I promise:
to conquer you again
Back to happiness again!

She doesn't understand how much I love her
What is the most close person and there is no more
That bit by bit I gather my family with her
But only stands at a distance, will not help
She doesn't love me, you can see it in my eyes
And curses without hesitation
And I read indifference on the lips
Returning to reality
But I want to hug, cling to the shoulder
And feel the warmth of her hand
And again, in love, do not dare to confess it
To see the tenderness of the lights.
I'm so offended, what's my fault?
I regret living
And in conversation, often wrong
It's probably better if I die
She won't cry, no heart
Will always find a replacement for me
I'll ask God for a ticket
To never return again.
I'll probably die today
No need for this miserable life to me
I can't live like this anymore
Alone with loneliness
No one can understand my pain
My tears and sadness in my eyes
I'm in life, without a wand zero,
Maybe it's better up there in the sky
People close, indifferent,
And they are my life for me
And now it's not customary to understand
Something that is nothing to cherish.

Let parting not give happiness
For us. Let us be lucky in that.
But the meeting disperses bad weather again.
You believe - she will come.
Let sadness bring parting.
Do not expect you from the separation of bright days.
Separation from a girl is a bad reason.
Dream.

Parting is goodbye
And sometimes even to tears.
We need to part with you
Not for long, and not seriously.
I promise to call very often
SMS to write to you
I promise your passionate love
Don't forget in a new city.

Tell me why did you leave again?
Tell me why all those words
What are you confused yourself?
And the conversation is all about
That I am insignificant, like a thief!
Trust me, you're wrong again!
All this again Your game!
I loved so much, I was with you
And for you I am not a stranger!
But not a stranger from afar,
I will help you always!
What a pity that we
There will never be again!
I won't disappear, I won't die.
I'm just quiet, I'll leave again
I won't be able to forget you
I don't want to forget you
After all, still ... I love you!

How not to break a leg falling from the roof of a house? All you can do is group up and mitigate the consequences. It is the same with our gentle companions of life. “Let's be friends”, “it's not about you, it's about me” - banal and excuses for a breakup that only cause irritation. At the request of TTR, Dmitry Kagdin, the author of the Cozy Psychology public, came up with five phrases that you need to say to a girl so that she takes your departure as painlessly as possible and does not want to kill you, at least in the first five minutes of the conversation.

There are no feelings that were before

A phrase that strikes at the widespread, modern opinion that love is not eternal. In a sense, you can show the girl that feelings are fading. This is especially useful if she was naive and believed that you were sent to her from heaven. Many books claim that feelings can go away. The revelations of people also tell that "there are no those feelings that were during the first date." Every girl knows this, but hides these fears deep inside. It’s easier to live like this than to shake every day, crossing out a three-year calendar, at the end of which love will surely die. If we hit this place we'll provoke her personal growth something you can brag about to your friends later. Yes, and her suffering will pass faster, because subconsciously she was ready for such an outcome.

See, right now you think I'm the one, but by dating me, you might miss true love.

Sweet honey for girl's ears. The natural reaction would be rejection, but the phrase itself is a classic Trojan horse. Accepting her with a refusal, the girl will emotionally load your words, and later, having figured them out, she will understand that there is a prince who is waiting for her, and you were just his likeness. The embedded meaning conveys a message to her - “you need to look for another, why waste time for suffering. This is a modernized and non-aggressive phrase due to its originality: “You will find yourself better.”

I'm sorry honey, I'm not a sadist. My love is gone, and if we do not part, I will torment you with this. I can't do that

With this phrase, you show that you still care about her, and make it clear that if she does not let you go, it will be worse for her. There will be no more Friday flowers, anniversary celebrations, gifts and attention. In general, everything that a girl needs. At the same time, you mean that you don’t want such a life for her. You remain for her a good friend who protects her. They love it.

If we stay together, we can break up and hate each other, and I don't want to lose a person like you, so it's better to break up now

Another upgrade, this time banal: "Let's remain friends." The difference is that you describe the prospect of friendship, which, by the way, may never come true, you both know that. But you give her warm words that will be her soft pillow. The standard expression of care in the form of “I don’t want to lose a person like you” works very well for her social memory, laid down by many generations, as well as films about love, songs and poems. And again - you are a hero, you see the danger and prevent it. In general, he deserves an applause!

I'm sorry, I've changed. I realized that relationships are not for me. I'm drawn to other girls, and I don't want to spoil your life with cheating

"Oh, you're so caring, stop!" - this is not what you will hear from her after this phrase, but still, you declare that you are frank and honest, which in itself is a manifestation of care and respect towards her. You are not to blame, you are a free man and live as you wish. If you want others, you have the right.

There is no universal magic phrase that makes you fall out of love painlessly. A girl is a living person with her emotions, we can only soften and shorten her suffering in time.

Make your farewell to the girl as romantic as possible. If you are leaving by plane, arrange a romantic evening with candles in the airport cafe, if by train - in the station restaurant. Let the girl’s place of farewell be associated with something pleasant, not sad. During dinner, try not to talk about your separation. Tell her more about how much you love her, ask her to dance.

Develop a conversation about what you will do when you are together again. Don't forget the flowers. Before leaving, you can discreetly put a piece of paper with a love message in the girl's bag. For example, it can be such words: “Beloved, (name of the girl). As soon as I was away from you, I realized even more how much I love you. I will not be sad, on the contrary, I want to smile with happiness, because I have you, I am very lucky. You are the most beautiful, faithful, kind, desirable, sympathetic, beloved, sweet, tender (choose one of these words). I love you!" The main thing is that the lines come from the heart. If you do not have enough imagination to write a love message to your soul mate, you can simply quote the poems of poets, she will undoubtedly like this option. After all, the main thing is your attention to it. She will appreciate it above all else.

What to say to a girl when breaking up

Here the situation is more complicated, and parting words will be very difficult to say. However, if you decide to do it, then do it. You should not continue the relationship, just because you feel sorry for her and do not want to offend. If you find it very difficult to say goodbye to a girl with words, write to her Farewell letter. No need to complicate everything and paint in verse. It looks ridiculous and funny. Just describe all the reasons why you want to break up with her. Of course, one letter is not enough. You should not leave in English, leaving your partner in misunderstanding and resentment. You definitely need to talk to her. Tell her that you felt good, that you are grateful to her for everything, but you cannot be together for certain reasons.

Women are naturally very emotional, so get ready for her to shed a tear. If necessary, hug her, tell her how good she is. Of course, it will be unpleasant and painful for her, but over time she will calm down. There may also be such an option that the girl will begin to ask the guy to give her a second chance, cry, ask for everything back. If these attempts are in vain, he will ask at least to remain friends. Don't fall for these words. Be firm and determined, but don't be rude.

Try to answer all her questions so that you do not have misunderstandings. After breaking up, it’s better to stop communicating with your ex-girlfriend altogether. She must understand that the past cannot be returned, and their relationship is already in the past. Tell her: "We had a good time together, but now I don't love you, and you can't change that." These are the main words that you should say goodbye to your girlfriend.

How many times are you trying to tell her about feelings, no matter the first time or the tenth, but all the words freeze when they look into your eyes, at least for a moment. It is important to confess love girl so that the words were not only heard, but also touched her heart. In fact, there are no recipes to count. There are a few general rules, but basically everything will depend on you.

Instruction

The most important thing is to try to do everything so that your beloved has good mood, or wait for a moment when all her thoughts will not be occupied by problems. If she likes to be the center of attention, then you can arrange a confession in a karaoke bar, sing her favorite love song together, but it is better to confess in silence, as this is very personal, and the girl may be embarrassed.

The ability to compose a rhyme is a skill that you can develop on your own. Try to rhyme your thoughts, expressing feelings for the girl. Write down everything that comes to mind, try different combinations of words. It is better to avoid banal rhymes like "love excites the blood." Listen to the lyrics of rap artists, you can borrow a couple of good lines from them.

It is possible and even necessary to use other people's writings when writing a farewell message to a girl. It is not necessary to copy the well-known "I loved you, what more?". Open the volume of Soviet poets. Stepan Schipachev, Konstantin Vanshenkin, Robert Rozhdestvensky will surely give you a lot of good ideas.

Try to be concise. Brevity is the sister of talent, but still you should not limit yourself to lines in the style of an SMS message, a girl may be offended. In no case do not mention your grievances in the message, do not reproach your ex-lover for anything. Even if your relationship was not easy, poetry should reflect the brightest moments.

Remember, the main thing is that your poems come from the heart. And even if they are not perfect in artistic terms, this shortcoming is redeemed by sincerity. Whatever the reason for your breakup, the girl will never forget your poetic offering.

How do you tell a girl that you like her? Almost every man faces this question. After all, you can’t just go up to her and tell her openly. It is quite difficult, and few men will be able to decide on such an act.

Instruction

Be yourself. You must be confident in your decision and act without hesitation. After all, girls do not like insecure and indecisive men. Of course, this does not mean at all that you need to tell her about your own sympathy immediately after the first minutes of your acquaintance. The best solution will say this at the end of the date.

Tell her about some story from your life that concerns you personally. See how the girl reacts to this. This way you can see if she is interested in you or not, and if you have something in common.

Offer to meet the girl again. Invite her to go to a party or a movie. Remember: you want to "add" to the personal life of the person you like. You should not say: "I like you and I would like you to be with me." Better say this: "I liked you very much, so I would very much like you to stay forever in my life."

Show her that you love her. Before confessing, give the girl flowers. To do this, you can choose roses, gerberas or lilies. Just don't give cloves! By the way, color is also important: choose red, soft pink or white flowers.

Change your beliefs for some moments in your life: "If this girl does not love me back, then I will become the most miserable man on earth." You don't have to think like that, it will be much better if you mentally say to yourself: “I would really like to communicate with her. But in the event that she rejects me, then there will be nothing terrible in this. You still don't lose anything.

Remember that as a teenager, you had no problem telling your peers that you like them. It's just that as a person gets older, he loses some of his innate skills. After all, all life experience is a very large stream of information that constantly falls upon you and makes you become more withdrawn and hidden. Your task is not to be like that. In any situation, be a real and open person.

You can originally answer "I love you" in other languages. Look on the Internet or in dictionaries how to pronounce this phrase correctly, and memorize it.

If the feeling is not mutual

But if you don't feel the same way, don't lie, evade, or otherwise confuse the person in love. There are many ways to respond to “I love you” without feeling the same way. Do it carefully and gently.

Tell the truth. There is no need to invent high-flown words, it is enough to simply and clearly answer: “Unfortunately, I do not have such feelings for you, I am very sorry.” If you like the other person, communicate it with the words "I love the other, I'm sorry." So you dot all the relationships, do not leave a person in limbo and do not spoil the impression of yourself.

Keep quiet. This tactic should be used as a last resort if you do not know how to respond to a declaration of love. Complete silence will create a tense atmosphere, so it's best if you can move the conversation to another topic. Be silent for a few seconds, indicating that you have heard the question, and then say something else.

What should not be done in response to "I love you"?

Don't offer to be friends. Such a simple phrase puts a person in an uncomfortable position - he was rejected, but not repelled, they give hope to be near. And to be in the role of a friend to a loved one is difficult, and good friends will not come out of such people.

Don't make fun of the other person's feelings. It was not easy to say these three words, so humor is inappropriate here. To translate such sensitive topic as a joke, it takes a lot of skill and tact. If you do not feel such abilities in yourself, it is better not to try.

Do not talk about the recognition of acquaintances. If you didn't reciprocate, it's best to pretend it didn't happen. It is not easy for a person to survive your rejection, and if everyone gossips and laughs at him, it will be very unpleasant.

If you can't sort out your feelings, ask for time to think. “It's very nice, but so unexpected. Give me time to sort myself out." After that, understand yourself, understand how you feel and respond. Do not drag out the conversation so as not to torment the person in love.

Vulgar or banal humor. Also avoid silly phrases or boring compliments. If you tell a girl that she is very beautiful or looks great, you risk getting on the list of not too original and boring men.

Dates and pleasant surprises can awaken reciprocal feelings in your beauty. Arrange a joint evening, go to the cinema, ride horses or on a boat, visit some exhibition or planetarium. Give the girl a beautiful bouquet. However, banal roses should be avoided. It is better to give preference to tulips, daisies or others. delicate flowers. And even better. if you secretly find out from her friends what kind of bouquets she likes. In addition, you can present to your beloved small gift. Guys very often give their soulmates teddy bears and hares, but there will be no originality in this either. Better buy her an interesting soft toy as a gift. Let it be a funny mouse or someone else.

Do not forget about clothes, because people always pay attention to a person. Don't choose to date dark tones. It is better to give preference to a bright shirt and jeans. Remember that the first thing women look at when meeting guys
In fact, a video about your relationship will look much more effective. Most likely, you will not meet again, let the time spent together become a good memory.

If the girl leaves for another city, and you are a guy, and you don’t know what to say to her, because even if you don’t show, resentment crept in deep down, then in no case leave a bad impression about yourself. Say that you are upset by her departure, but you hope that life will give your relationship a second chance.

I say goodbye because love passes.

“Who invented this love, you don’t know about it while you are small,” sings in tears nice girl after breaking up with her boyfriend. Her young man realized that there was no more love, and decided to leave. At parting, he told her: "You are a good girl, you will still find your love."

You can not say that. Young people, think about it, at this moment in time she loves you, for her you are the best. These words cut the insides of the girl. Do you know what she really hears? “I don’t care how you will live on, and who you will have” - this is paralyzing.

Try it differently. Alternatively, you can simply explain that your relationship has no future. But be careful, not every girl can say this. Focus on the situation, if the girl is at least a little aware of the seriousness of the situation, does not reach for heavy objects to beat you, and is not looking for pills to forget herself, then you can build a constructive dialogue.

If your girlfriend is ready for crazy things, if only you would stay with her forever, then be laconic. Reassuring or making excuses is pointless. She won't hear you. By the way, here, as they say, “instead of a thousand words”, make a small gift. Just ask for forgiveness, thank you for the time that she gave you, explain that you cannot change everything, but she will remain an important person for you.

I say goodbye because the night has passed.

You gave the dark time of the day to one beauty, but you do not plan to stay with her. I don't care why - there can be many reasons. It may not be known at all whether the girl herself plans to continue communicating with you, but in the morning there is little time to find out all this, and there is no need. Say that this morning was unforgettable, this dawn is the best end to the night. And you shouldn’t say goodbye words, don’t spoil the atmosphere.

Goodbye. I do not want to say a lot of unnecessary words, they will not make it easier for anyone anyway. Just know that you will forever remain that special person who managed to touch the most intimate - my soul. Do I love you? I will answer, without hesitation for a minute, that yes, and even very much so. But the problem is that my love is not enough to save our relationship. It always seemed to me that two people should fight for the fortress of the union, but, apparently, the opinion turned out to be erroneous. Remember, all the best is connected exclusively with you, and if you suddenly find yourself in trouble, I will undoubtedly come to the rescue. Just like, just a friend, but no more. You are in my heart forever, and this is perhaps the saddest thing. After all, I can’t love anyone like you. I sincerely believe that everything will be fine with you, that you will find your happiness. I'm sorry that everything turned out so that mutual dreams remained the sweet dreams of those who were once a single whole.

It is sad to realize that we have to part. But, I hope that this will not lead us to negativity and resentment. May each of us find our own happiness, may we be lucky on the path of life. All the best to you.

I don’t know how I can survive without you all these days, because today I release part of my soul with you. Take care of her, I won't be able to exist without her in this dull and uninteresting world. I enjoy you, inspire and admire you. Come soon, because without you everything fades and loses its colors.

I vaguely imagine all this time that I will have to spend without you, because you are my long-awaited half, which I have been looking for for so long. My joy, idolized, beloved, come back quickly. Without you, all life will fade away, and all days will become completely uninteresting and faded. You are the reason for my smile, which, unfortunately, I have to let go, at least for a short while. I look forward to our next meeting with great impatience.

I don't want to... I'm leaving... I'm sorry, I can't do it anymore... I'll leave, close the door behind me and call another one now... forget me and I'll definitely remember you forever... I can't understand you what you need from me ... and recently I realized you didn’t need me, you really need me ... I’m sorry for not giving ... because I didn’t love you ... we just suffered loving .. keeping love not for yourself... I'm sorry, I'm no longer yours...

The time of parting has come, my heart is somehow sad and empty. But, we will cope with all the troubles, with all the problems, thoughts and time barriers. The main thing is to believe in the best, and everything will be fine with us.

WITH today time for me to stop cause you won't be around I understand, work, circumstances, affairs, but with your departure, it’s as if a part of me is also leaving. I know it won't be long. Time will pass, and you will return to me, but until that moment, I will count the minutes, dreaming about the upcoming meeting. I will think about you constantly, returning to you in my thoughts and dreams. I will ask heaven and all kinds of saints to take care of you and return you to me safe and sound. You are my happiness, and as you know, it is impossible for a person to live without happiness. Come back to me as soon as possible, I'm waiting with great impatience!

Today will be extremely sad, and all because today I say goodbye to you. Let not for long, just for a couple of days, but this time for me will seem like an eternity. Please come back as soon as possible, because without you all life is messed up. My day starts with your smile and ends with your kiss. Don't deprive me of this for too long. I will unthinkably miss you the love of my life.

My beloved person, I am very sorry, but it so happened that we have to part. May your heart not cry, may your soul not be sad, may everything in your life turn out wonderfully, may warm and good relations remain between us.

"I'll be on your ex" list

Don't talk to the future
About who you had in the past.
Don't call me, be quiet
Even though I know it will be difficult.

It's hard for me to think now
I'll be on your ex list
And you are on my to-do list
For those who love, but for those who have cooled down.

"Don't Forget About Each Other"

What a pity to see each other, perhaps
Fate will never let us
But let's forget about each other
She will never be forced...

"Don't Judge Our Past Strictly"

Reluctantly, but nevertheless we admit:
Our relationship is stagnant.
So come on, do not scold fate,
Let's break up with you forever!

Do not judge our past strictly,
Try to find happiness!
It's good that the wrong way
Didn't get far!

"Goodbye!"

Goodbye! How sad is that word.
Who just invented it?!
For the language it is simple,
Well, what about the heart?

"The soul is torn to shreds by separation"

Separation tears the soul to shreds,
The heart cries alone.
Honey, I miss you very much -
It could not have been otherwise.

Very hard separation
I want to hug you.
Trust in your own hands
Stay together forever.

"I want to hurt you"

I want to hurt you.
I want to be empty and cruel
So that your icy blood
It looked like strawberry juice to me.

I want to hurt you.
I want merciless revenge.
Shut up about your love.
We will never be together.

"Can I force myself?"

I don't know if I can make myself
To live the same as I lived, but already without you.
Don't wait, don't think, don't call,
Don't talk about your feelings.

Can I get used to, can I forget
Will I be able to love other women.
Let time heal all this sadness.
Feelings melted, and I'm very sorry.

"Farewell, my beloved!"

The wind blows the fallen leaves
And raindrops will fall on the palm!
Our meeting was still superfluous,
This sets the heart on fire!

No one will understand what happened suddenly to us,
We can no longer be with you!
In separation from you, we are not merged with hearts,
Farewell, my beloved, like an echo of the word!

"I loved you very much"

With you, my love
It's hard for me to part
I loved you so much
Even though it's hard for me to admit

But remember, don't forget
Words and promises
Wait for me and don't miss me
Accept my confession!

"I do not forgive betrayal!"

I call you my love
For the last, unpleasant time.
I do not forgive betrayal -
Change is tearing us apart.

Free like the wind in the field
Run where you wanted to run.
Not a very big grief -
Send you to hell.

"It could be such a fairy tale"

It could be a story like this:
I am a fairy, you are a handsome prince.
But the dream-coloring sheet is fading,
Now I don't know the boundaries

Sorrows, sadness of expectation:
And suddenly you still come ...
Only memories remain
About what a lie is.

"My eyes are now open"

My eyes are now open
And the love is gone.
How stupid to fall in love with you
That I was next to you.

I won't regret the past
I'm glad to break up with you.
Farewell, my dear, good,
Don't stand in the way of life.

"Once a close person"

With you, my beloved once,
Once a loved one
With whom I spent sunsets
And with whom I met the dawn,

It's very hard for me to leave
But love cannot be returned
And I wish you happiness
I wish you not to be sad.

"I can't forgive you for cheating"

I can't forgive you for cheating
From now on you belong to someone else!
You showed all our feelings the price,
Farewell, beloved, but already a stranger!

I will not find a place for offensive phrases,
It is busy with bitter annoyance!
Love will not converge with treason - closely,
Confusion lay on top of her!

"Our feelings have exhausted themselves"

Our feelings are exhausted
Or maybe they didn't exist at all?
And broken, what we dreamed of
And in the soul of sadness eternal gray.

No more will we hold hands
Everything, my love, we are at the end ...
We'll take over the void
For others, let us become a miracle of the heart!

"You left my planet"

You left my planet
Full of happiness and dreams!
Scorned by Juliet's hero
A feeling of gentle warmth!

Well, let, but now I
Absolutely nothing to lose!
Away with boredom and doubt
It's time to start life from scratch!

"A sad confession"

You read a sad confession
And now you will understand everything.
The time has come for parting -
So it is necessary, albeit sadly all the same.

Feelings warmed us hot,
But no more warmth to be found.
I'm really, dear, I'm sorry
That love is completely gone.

"I'm glad that I'm free"

I'm glad that I'm free
That the shackles of love are broken
It was hard for me to breathe with you, as if
I am a prisoner. But I'm reborn.

And if something's wrong, I'm sorry
But I think you're happy to part.
Remember only good moments
And let the spring garden bloom in your soul!

"You cheated on me"

You changed me. What did you hope for?
What would be better all on the side?
Oh, how easy it is for you to trust another!
But I don't care about that anymore.

Do you think you're so unique?
But I don't need a used girlfriend.
You do not ask for forgiveness, crazy,
After all, a wall has grown between us!

"Forgive me, I don't love anymore..."

Forgive me, I don't love anymore
I'm even happy and not at all sad ...
I'm leaving, I'm leaving forever
Forgive me, but the feelings are all gone!

You are my ex-lover
I loved you sincerely,
But all the words have already rang out,
We won't be with you anymore!

“The fire went out, feelings subsided ...”

The fire went out, feelings subsided,
Love has passed, and it's a pity.
There was some sadness in my heart
And sadness crept into my soul.

A spark of love no matter how hard you try
Now no longer resurrect.
Forever, my dear, say goodbye -
I can't love anymore.

"Love is gone and won't come back"

Love is gone and will never return
Believe me, I'm very sorry that this happened!
We were together, our hearts were happy
But our feelings, dear, did not work out in a fairy tale!

The soul will mysteriously pour out hope,
And I don't even seem to notice!
We will no longer make a double flight of souls,
I don't love you, I'm sorry, there will be no meeting!

"Love is gone, but I'm not sad"

Love is gone, but I'm not sad
Not a bit, not a bit sorry.
The two of us are lonely, empty,
And sadness crept into my soul.

Feelings do not bring me consolation,
And they suffer day by day.
Dear, goodbye. So it is necessary:
You are no longer my dream.

"It's so hard to say goodbye"

It's so hard to say goodbye.
Even harder to forgive.
Don't think, don't cry, don't get angry
And don't blame anyone.

Cover yourself with a blanket
Or just water the flowers.
It's so hard to forget.
Even harder to forget...
Finding no reciprocal warmth.
There is no love, there is a reason for sadness,
After all, you are no longer with me.

"You and I parted so hard"

You and I parted so hard
Both have sadness in their hearts.
And they seemed to be friends.
I say: as you wish, but it's a pity ...

It's a shame we didn't get to know each other well.
They didn't try to understand their feelings.
It is a pity that the evil worldly blizzard
Didn't let us start all over again.

"I say goodbye to you - flour"

I say goodbye to you - unspeakable torment,
It is not easy for me to endure your parting glance.
And where does separation come from in the world,
That they torment and hurt so deeply!

Call, write, quench the thirst of the heart,
With a kind and quiet word, drink like water.
To warm your soul from your warmth,
So that these long days are not tormented like that.

Farewell, let go! I love love
But you, alas, trampled it all!
This fairy tale will not be repeated again,
Another is waiting for you at the pier of love!

“It happens so, love passes ...”

It happens that love passes,
And together we can no longer be
Memories year after year
They won't turn their heads

There will be no "us" and common plans,
shared life paths,
And we'll be there again
On photos of friends!

"I won't see you soon"

I'm ready to howl like a seasoned wolf,
From the sadness that reigns in the soul.
I won't see you soon
And my heart aches from longing.

I miss you so much,
Separation every day I swear.
Darling, I dream about it
As I look into your eyes again.

"I don't want to be with you anymore"

Your love seemed tempting
I was ready to give everything for her.
But it turned out to be endless stress
Everything you could ever dream of.

What is this relationship called?
In which only quarrels, only pain?
No, not love, all this is humiliation.
I don't want to be with you anymore.

"I have to say goodbye"

I have to say goodbye
But I'm waiting for our meeting
My beloved, my happiness
Without you, I'm delirious!

Separation will fly by quickly
We will be together again
I see your clean look
How much we need each other!

"You recently cheated on me"

You recently cheated on me.
Don't save. Didn't appreciate it.
Didn't understand, couldn't understand
But my heart is trampled

Managed easily. Well, not me
And the Lord himself is your judge. We are not together now.
Is there any point in worrying?
Not the fate of your bride
It can be seen, my beloved, to become.

The old feelings are gone
You just killed them.
I wish myself happiness!
The world is full of other men.

"Love you forever killed"

Everything that was between us
She betrayed her by betrayal.
Love you forever killed
I cherished so much.

Farewell, and do not weep in vain,
Tears will not help grief.
Love started so well
It ended in terrible pain.

"Don't say I'm a scoundrel"

I can breathe easily again
'Cause I'm finally free
Love is gone. Everything is far.
Don't say that I'm a scoundrel

Let's understand each other, you and I
Be free and happy!
Yes, everything is gone, love has passed -
And with her scandals and sadness!
And secretly, but wildly jealous
To the one with whom you taste love!

"Minute of parting"

Minute of parting
Not always happy
And sad confession -
My love has gone

Don't cry and don't be sad
The paths diverge
And again the feeling of happiness
Waiting for you ahead!

Here comes the day of parting
Separation awaits us ahead
Here is my platform and the train is pulling up,
Landing is announced into the microphone ...
And I'm standing and I can't take a step,
I look into your loving eyes
In the arms of farewell I burn
You want to stay forever...
It happens, the result is sad
We live in different cities
I'm in Petersburg, you're in Smolensk,
And life will not change, we do not like.
I went into the car, the doors closed
And the train moved a little,
Couldn't hold on anymore
And sobbed like a child
Here is your image in the distance melted,
I can no longer see the station
I got up and whispered
Farewell beloved forever!!!

Well, we decided to say goodbye.
Our happy paradise has become a hell...
It's hard for me to communicate with you.
Forgive me for everything. Goodbye.
Farewell, be happy with another
For a long time everything is empty between us.
We swim separately and are silent
Like ice in the ocean.

What can I say to you when I say goodbye?
What was happy.
Behind the back did not fit
Two open wings.
What flew in the sky
And she didn't hide her face.
What is my high song
Didn't foresee the end.
Everything just goes somewhere...
And the crown of everything is longing.
It flew off and fell off.
Haven't cried yet.

The night comes and extinguishes the wind
Candle in chilled crystal
On an old desk
All I'm left with is ashes
Letters from the burnt... in the dark

Dreams look through the gaps in the windows,
Pouring music a little audible,
Rain on warm gray roofs
Weave into the beads of silence.
And in the dark you can barely breathe...

And you're alone again in the night
In the stream of days you disappear
And again you are silent ... Tell me, you know
When it resounds in the fog
Beautiful voice... slip away

To dissolve into silence
Empty roads... forget the alarm
And a bird up, touch God,
And melt into the depths
Clear waters...your way

Leads you somewhere far away
Where in the grapes
Dreams are ripe... it's not too late
Hear the songs of birds
And fly away, rise to the stars...
And forget your sorrow...

Goodbye. I won't forget you

And all that is left behind.

And I wanted to love you alone ...

I want to say sorry to you
I just want to leave
You let me go, I'm sorry
I don't want to live like this anymore.
I loved you again
But you broke the thread of love
Now live without loving
And never remember.
Forget my number
And of course I will forget yours,
And let my dreams die
With a stupid word: I WILL NOT FORGET!
Those stars that shone for us
They'll all go out for sure.
And you, my dear, remember
About our happiness.
Why did you betray me like that
You hurt, you hurt my heart
But I will forgive you too
Find your happiness again!

What to do?
How to be?
I can not believe it,
I can't forgive.
Remember how we spent the night
I can't live without love anymore.
I can't understand
These stupid words
I can not love not my love.
I just don't know
How can I continue to live
Help me people to forget him.

Goodbye. I won't forget you
Although I don't know what lies ahead.
I loved you - I will remember it,
And all that is left behind.
I'm sorry, I did a vile act,
I just can't go on living like this.
But in this world you must be bold
And I wanted to love you alone ...
I didn't dare to confess
And tell me what I feel for you.
I'm tired of being so afraid of everything
It was so hard on my heart.
Please don't take me back.
How I loved - I will remember it.
Maybe I won't say a lot
Farewell, I won't forget you...

You…
You who left me alone
You who gave me so much pain
Now I give thanks
For honoring this share.
Thank you for the birth of love
Big as the world and as beautiful as dawn.
Thank you, my dear, for those days
When love seemed not in vain.
When dreams are like children's eyes
Between our hovered skies.
When we knew for sure - never,
There will be no estrangement between us.
And let the whole world rear up between us
Will rise. We were sure -
We will never be strangers
That you and I are already inseparable ...
But, our dawn has changed to sunset,
Fate scattered the cards otherwise,
And there is no turning back for us
And there is no common mooring to the shore.
And only love is immortal, like a soul
And the look will soften, and everything will take away resentment.
And this miracle in the heart forever
That's it, THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Thank you that, once, warming up,
The fire burned inside me left.
For having taught to love, in love
You didn't disappoint.
Thank you for the open new world
Thank you for the gift of weakness
For the woman that you discovered in me
And for the joy experienced in tears.
For all. For the memory of wonderful days.
They are now inseparable from me
Because I know how I can love
Because I know how I was loved ...

Farewell letter
My love,
Forgive me for not meeting
And now I'm not talking about feelings in my eyes,
Alone with you there is not enough strength for speech
And the courage to say I'm leaving.

Oh no you don't have to apologize
I should rather ask for forgiveness
Because I can't stay with you
For learning to love.

Yes, I lived with you as if in a fairy tale,
I saw love in your eyes
I remember sunsets, night and caresses,
Weaving bodies in satin sheets.

A leaf in tears, I'm sorry, the words are blurry,
I keep taking them off my eyelashes
Believe me, it's hard for me, my soul is broken,
At least put your hand under the infernal syringe.

You are the best thing in my life
You taught the heart to fly in a dream,
You believed that we had love until the feast,
But I can't give you the same.

Fate does not want simple happiness,
Love always gives with separation,
How hard it is to say goodbye to a loved one,
In whom the real feeling lives.
Goodbye...

E. Asadov.
Love letter

We are far apart. Now between us
Constellation patterns and whistling winds
Roads with trains running into the distance
Yes, a boring chain of telegraph poles.

As if feeling our separation,
Spreading poplar, sighing hotly,
Stretching to the window, a green hand
He put it on my shoulder in a friendly way.

The soul asks for some news,
We wait, light up with every line.
But they bring news not only in envelopes,
They sometimes pass through the walls to us.

Imagine that you hear the news about
That I was deceived along the way by a scoundrel,
That he extended his hand, as a friend, to an enemy,
And he pushed me in the back from the slope ...

The whole body is bruised, the lip is broken ...
What to do? False fate!
And let you be offended, anxious,
But you can believe. Is it possible!

And if suddenly the news, like a blizzard haze,
Will break in and say, in deaf words,
That death interrupted the unsung song
And circled my name with a black border.

Cheerful lips closed forever ...
Loss, it can not be understood, not measured!
Ridiculous! And yet you can believe
Only rocks are immortal, and I am a man!

But if you hear that spring time
For a new, for a ghostly happiness in pursuit
I have my heart not for you, but for another
Excitedly suddenly held out in the palm of your hand,

Let tears not splash, eyelashes do not tremble,
Trouble will not squeeze the prickly cold!
Do not believe! This cannot happen!
Do you hear? This will never be!

Poems about parting with a loved one
I'm sending you a farewell love letter
Catch my farewell message
It summed up all my former love,
Like a full breath, like a full breath!
I tell you these lines of love - goodbye!

When I look at couples in love, my heart shrinks and there is such longing in my soul that it seems that I will never survive it ... after all, we were once also happy ...
it hurts me so much ... it hurts to understand that this will never return ... my happiness, my love ... forgive me, and I forgive you ... thank you for everything that was, for what is, for what you live somewhere and smile at someone, kiss someone, and think about someone .. forgive me my love and I forgive you .... I wish you happiness ... Goodbye ...

Everything that was between us, what we lived and breathed,
Everything melted like a dream, and a spiritual groan is heard ...
In the heart - empty, in the head - thoughts only about you ...
You have become so dear to me, as I need air!
How to live without you now, I can't imagine, as if
There was no life before without you...
Do you remember our walks in the dark evenings?
What was this real happiness, we did not understand ...
Do you remember touches, kisses, hugs,
Phrases about love and tenderness in the eyes?
And from these memories the soul cries in pain,
A tear runs down my cheek again
Walls break from the beating of the heart
And at the speed of light the blood runs through the veins...
And washing with tears, and choking with pain,
I understand that I want to be only with you!
But this will not be, we failed to save
The love that gave us the strength to live...
We with my own hands destroyed everything
What happiness and joy brought us,
Played with love ... and played out -
With broken hearts with you, we remained ...
All that was hard to forget
It may even be impossible...
But it's better to forget.
Let's try to be strong!
Forget the love that was between us
The one that completely captured the hearts,
Let's try to continue as before to live
And maybe even love...
Let's try to throw off the past mask of love,
All that was between us come on
We will keep in our hearts as a memory ...
Like a fairy tale....!

I'm writing a farewell letter
I write in verse, not prose.
Words merge into one
And burst into tears...
Forgot about me? Didn't write to me...
You must have found another...
Well, I won't be jealous
So it looks like it was fate.
Now I don't sleep at night
I whisper the name in the dark..
And tears are pouring on the bed
I can't forget you...
So I want to scream sometimes
I love you, I won't forget you
I capture moments of life
As I read your letters...
And the end of parting will not come,
And wishes won't come true
And happiness passed us by
I have memories...

Let go!
Let go! Open my fingers on my fingers,
You're already squeezing them white.
Let go! I love you, but you understand me
Suddenly, I'm already in flight, and not in a fall.
Get away! On last minutes in spite of
How love prepares for self-immolation.
Get away! If your eyes look without love
Let go! Don't prolong the torment.
Does not burn! And she, you know, the bastard, does not burn,
I dug into my heart, only her sobs are heard.
To hell with her, let me fly through the sky
An eternal sentence for edification ...

Everything is gone, I already forgot the pain
Everything is gone, but I have not forgiven
Those words, that love, promises
But I said goodbye to you.
Goodbye warmth and hope
I will look at parting as before
I will stretch my hand to you with pain,
And I'll pull back, saying goodbye to love!

You promised me happiness forever
That you are my closest person
That nothing will separate us from you,
No one will stand in the way of you and me.
What about in the final? Everything in general, as always,
Love dissipated, you left me
Breaking my heart into many pieces,
Leaving your mark on a wounded soul.
Now I'm left on my own
But why is it that I only breathe you,
And I can't get you out of my head
Everything is somewhere in the past with you I live ...

Your love, treasure and happiness,
What I have never seen before in my life
Unexpected and painful for the heart
Forever for myself I lost.
She was pure, bright and so beautiful
Like an angel descended from heaven
It turned out to be so dangerous for me to love her,
It was like a demon possessed me.
I lost my peace and clarity of thought,
I forgot the last time I slept
It became harder to breathe while thinking,
That the happiness of life never knew.
Love, I will not forgive you in my life
The pain that gave my heart
I won't let you in now
I want to forget the way to me.

That's it, the Rubicon has been crossed
And there is no turning back for us.
Out of sight and out of mind...
From love only on the heart trace

In the form of a wound, sick and deep,
Nothing, it will heal and pass.
I will not stay, believe me, lonely -
And my happiness will find me!

I'm not sorry that it happened -
I am a fatalist and believe in fate.
Nothing, nothing happened...
Our past is taboo.

Don't blame and don't scream
Don't throw a tantrum
And don't trample me anymore -
That's enough, all feelings are gone.

We disperse - and put an end to it.
Your insults, tears, insults
No one else needs.

If you can, I'm sorry
No, take revenge.

And please, let me go!
Don't watch me anymore and don't call me!!!

Goodbye poems to your girlfriend, woman, beloved boyfriend, man, farewell letter
You said: "Let's say goodbye?"
And I said, "Go away!
We have nothing more to meet
Others will be on the way."
You said: "For what? For what?"
I was silent for a little breath.
And you asked: "Will it be easier?"
And I just said "yes"
You begged: "Let's forget?
What happened before is just nonsense!
And I said "We won't
To meet with you more. No!"
You came up, hugged my shoulders,
Last said: "I'm sorry"
And suddenly it somehow became easier for me,
But I said: "Go away!"
And he left, slamming the door.
I quickly rushed to the window.
He hid behind a tall spruce,
I whispered, "I can't!"
And quickly ran after
I wanted to fall at his feet
But I didn't win that race
I let go of my dreams.
And I came home crying
And knowing that he won't come.
I thought, "I'm sick!
Now it pisses me off."
I loved so much, I dreamed so much
Just spend your life with him.
And endlessly repeated
Last words: "I'm sorry"

The heart is now so light and calm,
I remember you without tears
And having met you, I don’t have a gram, it doesn’t hurt
I'm not sorry for my dreams that you broke

With you, we had both bitter and sweet
Fate divorced, so it is destined
Now I will live without looking back
For what we can't live

Now I'm ready, forgetting the pain of separation
Start from scratch, look for your happiness
And when I meet you, I stretch out my hands to you,
As a faithful friend shake them tightly

Well, I wish you goodbye
Be happy, go through life with luck
Mind and patience, rewards for deeds
Find the love that you wanted to find.

Him from Her
This is my last letter to You, Sunshine! My last words... Let them be full of our Love, which burned everything around with its fire, including ourselves.
We stayed to live, each on the edge of his own world: lonely, yearning for sunny emotions, for our cozy seaside hotel and sleepy palm trees.
We will never forget these short and sweet moments. And Praise the Lord for giving us memory and giving us a couple of flashes of the Miracle called Love.
I will always love only You, my dear.

On various topics(from temporary separation to parting forever).

…
At the crossroads of parting, we stand side by side,
Now let's take a step and stop everything.
Goodbye. You were the bridge in the life of happy moments.
Goodbye. We will no longer hear the beat of our hearts ...

…
I say quietly, goodbye ... I close my eyes ...
In my thoughts I send a kiss.
Receive SMS, and then delete.
Farewell, our bridges we have long been divorced.

…
Farewell notes sounded in fate,
These chords speak of you for the last time.
They complete the path of our hearts.
While dear. Goodbye. This is the end.

…
In a glass of water, the taste is farewell,
The look on his face is a little sad.
Goodbye dear, if you can, forgive me.
I see no reason for us to go together.

…
We had different moments
But the time has come for us to part.
Farewell darling, this time will soon pass
And again on the waves of happiness will carry us.

…
The time of parting will pass imperceptibly,
Though this move is sad for us.
Farewell dear, the main thing is to wait.
The rains will not last long.

…
The train of separation drove up to us,
But this is no reason to give up.
Raise them higher, be patient, wait right ...
Farewell is not forever, the cold and rain will pass.

…
Goodbye dear, it's over...
There will be more lights and flowers in life.
There will be happiness, there will be passion.
Look under your feet more often so as not to fall.

…
Everything was beautiful with us, tell me ...
But ahead, parting, flowers are waiting for us.
They smell of sadness
The train of separation drove up, honked a sound ...

…
Beloved, the word "goodbye" is like an evil bee,
It stings painfully, places swell ...
But time will pass it will heal everything.
And the crack of parting between us will heal.

…
Farewell SMS to your girlfriend
We will survive this separation, my sun.
And we will cross the river of separation ...
Goodbye dear, goodbye and sorry
Soon our flowers of happiness will bloom.

…
(Lovely name) there are moments in life,
When moments of separation come to visit.
Survive them, you only need to wait,
And again to receive a sweet slice with the happiness of an orange ...

…
My sun, goodbye and endure
After all, who knows how to endure, the lights are brighter.
He is strong with his will, he is just cool,
Remember, true love has been waiting for centuries.

…
The sun has set and there is no light.
So, separation in a relationship makes a move.
She will close the way for us to each other, but the main thing is to wait,
Wait and remember, the lights of farewell will soon go out ...

Let a warm ray of sunshine into your life...

You understand me and forgive me
We part with you forever.
Let me go with a light heart
And then it will be easier for you.

We are two banks of the same river,
Because it will not happen to be together.
In suitors, I can no longer be with you,
And you won't be my bride.

In my fate, once there was a case -
He suddenly brought me to you.
I forgot about everything then
And devoted all his thoughts to the girl.

But the dream melted without a trace,
Your love has gone.
Hope is fleeting,
Melted and gone...

Forgive me my love
That I part with you forever.
Believe me, I'm sorry too
That we will not see you, goodbye!

Understand I still love you
But I can't take it with me.
We can't be together anymore
But how can I forget you?

And whatever happens ahead
You keep our feelings strong.
Perhaps I will change something again,
And I'll take it with me, my love!

Well, my dear, you tell me,
How to play enough quickly so in love.
All this time you've been trying, pretending
Joking with me, and spoiling my blood with fables?

You are not interested in me, maybe it was,
Or maybe he paid little attention to you?
But you left, and left my house an orphan,
And I was left somewhere overboard, in empty trouble.

No, I do not believe, I will not believe in the world for anything,
That your heart no longer breathes, no longer hurts.
I look into your eyes and see again
That the flame of love for me still burns.

My dear, you know how sad
And how unbearable it is for me to live without you.
I love you so much, you know
That you are the only one, I adore you!

Now you're an ex-lover
But always kept in memory
Though feelings have become colder
And now everyone lives their own life!

But know, if necessary, I will come to the rescue,
I will always provide any support,
Although we are not together, we remained people.
Accomplishments, kindness and good luck on the way!

It is not easy, sometimes, parting is given,
After all, once there was a first recognition,
The joy of meetings and bright follies,
The feelings were strong and sincere.

But over time we got tired
The bitterness of disappointment was known.
Dear, I wish you strength and love,
And you will certainly find your happiness.

Everything is blown up, there is no return,
You are far away and you are different.
But still, I'm typing again,
You don't expect text messages from me.

I wish you happiness, I wish you love
May he love me more.
Night... Silence... The candle burns out.
You're not mine... You're not mine anymore...

Broke my heart, how come
Why are you so cruel
Everything turned to fluff and dust,
Leaving you alone?

Why should I endure separation
Why not see you?
Believe me, my love, I'm death
Already sweeter than dying.

Like this, not knowing what's wrong with you,
Where are you and how are you, what do you live, -
And God help you
If you are not near, not with me.

Say what I want
It will be very difficult for me
I think you
Another will love.

Love like me
You know I can't.
And he will protect
To cherish you, to cherish.

And we are with you already
We can't return love.
Cold war...
You deserve better.

That's it, and the eternal summer is over,
You left without waiting for the dawn
On the pillow leaving his scent and trace.
What is left for me to do now?
Refuse the light, from your strength,
So that I can touch you again?
You left without taking anything but your heart:
She left half of it for me.
I don’t understand one thing, where does cruelty come from
Appeared in your gentle soul?

Beloved went to another, just fell out of love, realized that you are not on the way? There are many options for reasons and reasons for such an act. And although it seems that now it is too late to do anything, the heart and feelings protest in every possible way against "surrendering their positions."

The question of how to return a beloved girl worried young people many centuries ago and still has not lost its relevance. What to do? First of all, you need to understand that it will not be possible to enter the same river twice, but it is possible to change yourself and try again to improve relations.

If you want to return the old feelings and relationships, you need to calm the boiling cauldron of emotions and listen to the recommendations of psychologists. And these tips largely coincide with the usual worldly wisdom proven for centuries.

So, experts on human souls advise guys to take the following steps:

Analyze whether it is necessary to return the former lover. Perhaps you yourself in the depths of your soul wished to break these relations, and now only male pride cries out in you, which does not allow you to come to terms with the fact that it was the girl who left first. If, however, thinking about the situation showed that love and warm feelings remained, you are ready to change for her sake and put aside reproaches and resentment, it makes sense to take action.
Think carefully about the current situation, try to clarify and find out at what point it was admitted fatal error in a relationship with an ex-girlfriend. It is extremely important to forget about the quarrels between you and forgive your beloved if she became the culprit of the breakup.
Try to arrange a meeting with the girl, talk to her again, avoiding scandals and accusations. Be sure to clarify that you have realized your mistake and are ready to resume the relationship. The likelihood of a positive development for you is quite high, especially if you show that you appreciate her feelings and have become more responsible.
If the ex-lover does not want to meet, try to keep a distance for a while and wait until she cools down and is ready for a serious conversation.

What should not be done?

Before considering ways to return your beloved girl, it is necessary to clarify the list of actions that are strictly contraindicated. Is it possible to resort to them? Yes, but only if you want to turn your ex-lover away from you forever.

No need to constantly call, talk about love, send gifts. Women's psychology is such that a guy kneeling and begging for forgiveness seems like a creature unworthy of attention. Your active imposition will generally destroy at least some respect and alienate the ex-lover even more.
Reject the threat of suicide. Unfortunately, this method is quite common among the stronger sex. First, even if it works, then keeping a girl next to you will not be love, but pity. Secondly, next time such a trick will no longer work, since the young lady will develop a kind of immunity to threats.
You should not promise global changes. The notorious female psychology makes girls believe not in logical arguments, but in emotions and sensations. She will not understand the global nature of your plans, she needs sensual evidence: to see, to feel the difference. Only then will she be able to trust you.
Do not drown out the pain and your blues with alcohol. Alcohol only enhances real emotions. If you are sad, then a few glasses of strong alcoholic drink will only increase the intensity of such a mood. In addition, you do not want to sink even more in the eyes of the former chosen one?

Reasons for breaking up

If you are determined to return your girlfriend, try to find out the exact reason for the breakup.

Finding the source of the problem is already half the battle. It is best, of course, to find out the motive of the act first-hand, but if the ex-lover does not make contact, you will have to figure it out on your own or sign up with a psychologist.

What are the reasons for the breakup?

Lack of trust. The psychology of relationships claims that couples in which there are no trusting relationships will sooner or later break up. Incessant jealousy, constant monitoring of every step of the girl, monitoring her correspondence on the network or via SMS will certainly lead to a break in relations.
Lie. It is difficult to meet girls who could easily forgive deceit and betrayal. If an ex-lover found out about your affair, do not be surprised that she decided to break off your relationship.
Love is over. "I fell out of love" - extremely painful for male pride reason for breaking up. It hurts even more if the former chosen one went to another.
Partner selfishness. Any patience is not unlimited, therefore, at some point, even the quietest and most shy girl can rebel because of male inattention.
obsession with former relationship. If a man maintains close contact with a previous girlfriend, the current chosen one may take this extremely negatively. Women are especially annoyed by the comparison with former lovers.

Of course it's not full list possible causes rupture of relations. You can also recall the mismatch of characters, unwillingness to give in to each other, to compromise. It is important to understand the pile of problems and find the main motive for a woman's act.

4 simple steps that will work

So, some time has passed, and you realized that attempts to reanimate the relationship have failed. Increasingly, the question of how to get your girlfriend back worries you day and night. She says that she has fallen out of love, or does not answer at all phone calls and sms.

You can, of course, continue to guard her near work or university, fill up with flowers, beg for a meeting and beg for a second chance. However, with a high probability, your ventures will fail, because the psychology of the girl does not allow respect for the guy lying at her beautiful legs. Gather your will into a fist and listen to the advice of experts.

Step #1: Agree with her decision

If, after a quarrel or a long tense relationship, a girl tells you about a breakup, try to at least outwardly perceive her words calmly and even with a touch of relief. You can answer the following: “I'm glad that we have a common opinion. I've been thinking about breaking up for a long time."

Why is the effect guaranteed? Women often say such phrases in the heat of the moment or in order to achieve changes in the behavior of a guy. But even if your girlfriend planned such a conversation, an unexpected turn will confuse her and level the morale.

Having agreed, you do not need to enter into an argument, otherwise you can ruin everything. Leave the girl in confusion for a while. At this time, do not call and do not arrange "random" meetings, quarrels. Now the ball is in your court, so you need to prepare for the next points.

Step #2. Contact

In anticipation of her call or message on the network, a “random” meeting, one should not become discouraged and follow her VK page. You can confidently say that the former lover is in the dark, not understanding why you do not find out about her affairs, do not try to return her.

And there are two possible scenarios for the development of events:

The girl will be the first to call, finding any significant reason - she forgot a thing at your place or asks for advice on any issue. Be sure to pick up the phone, ask what prompted her to call, ask about business, but without unnecessary emotions.
If your ex doesn't call, try setting up a meeting at a place she frequents. Naturally, without flowers and balloons, since you met her "completely by chance."

In any of the contact options, answer positively, without rudeness, but in monosyllables, as if you managed to acquire secrets. The girl should feel that you are not talking everything through. End the conversation first, referring to being busy. After a conversation or meeting, do not call or write, again disappearing for a while.

Step #3. Changes

So, you hid, thereby warming up the curiosity of the ex-lover, but you can’t sit back. Self-development and self-improvement is necessary, and you will also have no time for sadness. During this period, you can do the following:

pump up as much as possible, bring yourself to the optimal physical form by removing the beer belly;
update your wardrobe, replacing the usual urban style with something brighter;
go on a trip, go in for some extreme sport (without fanaticism), which will certainly affect your self-esteem and look;
take some photos with pretty strangers (not your cousin) and post them on your page.

Be sure that the ex-fiancee regularly visits you on social networks to mark changes in status or discover new girls in “friends”. The change of image will definitely hook her.

In addition, by changing your lifestyle, you will attract new interesting people to you. Perhaps among them a young lady will be found who will be better in every way than her former lover. Then you will no longer puzzle over the question of how to return a girl after a breakup and rekindle feelings.

Step #4. Personal meeting

If the girl does not call or write after the first contact, arrange communication on your own. A chance meeting will show all the positive changes that have happened to you during the separation. Women are quite jealous of such changes, starting to think about possible rivals. Yes, girls are jealous even of their ex-boyfriends!

It is extremely important to communicate in person, limiting contacts on the Internet to a minimum.

At the meeting, you can make a few compliments, hug and kiss. In addition, it is possible and necessary to show not only external, but also internal changes. If you have not spoken warm words before, become more gallant, etc. Show that you are ready to start a relationship anyway.

Non-standard methods of returning an ex-girlfriend

If you are unable to return the feelings of the former chosen one in the ways described above, try turning to other, not quite standard methods. The only condition is that you must firmly believe that similar methods will help you, even if the girl has gone to another.

Prayer

A prayer for the return of a beloved must come from a pure heart. It is love and sincere feelings that will help make it as effective as possible. If you want to achieve guaranteed success, you should not rush, bother the girl, since it is unlikely that she will change her decision so drastically.

Prayer should be read by a baptized person, you can turn to God, his son or your own guardian angel. There are many prayers that should help bring back loved ones. Prayer to Saint Matrona looks like this:

"Holy Mother! I am praying to you! Please save my love, turn the slave (name) back! Ask the Lord for blessings! I beg you with words from the heart! With a bow, Matronushka, to you, amen!

You can read a prayer both at home and in church. However, priests advise to perform the sacrament in the temple, so that the effect is clearer. Regardless of who your prayer is addressed to, stand near the icon, take a lit candle or lamp.

Love spell on a photo

If you belong to the category of people who are sure that love and feelings must be fought for by any means, try to return your ex-lover with the help of magical rituals- for example, by bewitching her from a photograph.

Esotericists consider the photo to be an imprint of the human aura, containing a particle of the information field. The sequence of actions during divination looks like this:

Carefully look at the image of the girl, scrolling through the imagination of a happy joint future.
Light the wax candle and take a picture. Speak your desire by turning the photo face down and passing it over the fire.
Say the following words: “As I, the servant of God (your name), yearn for the servant of God (name of the chosen one), so let her yearn for me! Amen!"
Then set fire to the photo from a candle fire, and the ashes need to be scattered into the wind.

It is extremely difficult to return a former chosen one who has fallen out of love, but you can interest her in your new personality, in an improved way. To return love and refresh the feelings of the old girl, love yourself. This will help you understand your own priorities, look at old relationships with different eyes and choose the right strategy. Good luck to you!

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How can you get your girlfriend back after a breakup? Some Helpful Tips

Just yesterday, you were walking merrily through the streets, holding hands, watching movies in the evenings and eating popcorn. But the fatal phrase sounded: “we need to leave,” and everything changed radically. A day, a week, a couple of months, or even a year passed, the negative emotions caused by the breakup subsided, and you decided to return the relationship with your ex-girlfriend, who had already stopped loving you. How to do this and do I need to start all over again? Let's try to figure it out.

Why do girls leave

Women are capricious and changeable natures. Even today she is in love with you until she loses her pulse, and tomorrow she is indifferent and cold. Therefore, very often even the girl herself cannot name a clear reason for the breakup. You must determine it yourself, and only then build a behavior pattern.

So, the most common reason for parting.

She got another

Men and women have completely different perceptions of infidelity. A woman usually cheats when she stops loving. She is looking for something better on the side: new sensations, new emotions, new impressions and, ultimately, a new life.

Even in this case, the girl can be returned, but think twice before doing this. If she doesn’t need you, but someone else, your relationship is doomed to failure from the very beginning. Even if you can get back together now, sooner or later a new competitor will appear on the horizon and you will find yourself in the same situation again. Is it worth it?

Even if it seems to you now that it is the one and only and you cannot live without it, do not rush. After a few weeks / months, the seething emotions will cool down and you will see that there are still many girls around. Many of which, quite possibly, suit you better than her.

She lost her feelings

This is the second most popular reason for the gap.

A man in love always embellishes his chosen one and does not notice his shortcomings. But sooner or later, the “candy-bouquet” period of the relationship ends, the passion goes away, the first love disappears and the girl begins to look at you with completely different eyes and make completely different demands. She begins to see your shortcomings, which were not evident to her before. Sometimes, at this moment, the realization comes - "I live with the wrong man."

What to do in such a situation? The advice is the same as in the previous case - let her go and live on. In most cases, a breakup can be dealt with quickly and almost painlessly.

Change on your part

A man can love, but change. For him, treason is either an accident or a search for diversity in bed affairs.

But if rumors about your infidelity still reached her, there is only one way - to try to convince the other half that it was an accident, you were under the influence of alcohol, these are all gross male instincts. And it is desirable to appease the girl somehow nice gift. If she has feelings for you, she will forgive.

You can read more about how to ask for forgiveness from a girl in this article.

Too much or too little attention on your part

Problems begin when a man "falls in love" with his girlfriend too much. Care and attention is very good, but in reasonable doses. The girl needs to be given different emotions. Yes, yes, and negative ones too. Therefore, if she has too much positive, she begins to get bored, act up, lose interest in her partner.

How to return? Change your behavior. You can turn for a week from a caring and gentle man into a rough and cold bastard. Sarcasm, cynicism and provocations are your weapons. And then again - tenderness, affection, attention. The constant contrast of emotions will not let her feelings cool down.

The same thing happens if you quickly lost interest and stopped paying attention to her. To wake her feelings, you can try to give romantic gift, invite on a date to an unusual place or make a surprise.

Too tempestuous relationship

Today you love each other, tomorrow you hate each other. Stormy quarrels with mutual insults are interspersed with no less violent lovemaking and romantic reconciliation.

Such a heat of passion is good at the beginning of a relationship, it gives the parties a bunch of emotions, both positive and negative. But sooner or later, life on the volcano will get tired of even the most ardent extreme. Then a breakup happens.

Do you need to reconcile? If you are ready to be constantly in emotional stress - please. How to reconcile? Provoke emotions: flirt in front of the former with another girl, be emphatically indifferent, even ignore. This behavior will give rise to a girl's desire to find out the relationship. And there is not far from conciliatory sex.

How long do you have to wait?

The more time passes after parting, the less chance you have to return the feelings of your girlfriend. While you are looking for the right moment, she may have some other man.

On the other hand, making contact immediately after a breakup is also a bad idea. It is necessary to give yourself and her a little time to cool down emotions and rethink a little what is happening. This is especially important if you parted with a scandal.

The smartest choice is to wait a week after the breakup and start acting.

How to get in touch after a breakup?

The simplest thing is to call her and arrange a meeting. If a girl starts to wrinkle, break down and refuse in every possible way, stand your ground. You can say that you simply do not have enough communication with her, that you want to talk "for the last time."

By the way, women really appreciate it when a man not only knows how to convince with words, but also proves his aspirations with actions. So just try to buy a bouquet and wait for her near the entrance. An unexpected appearance will stun her and will not allow her to save face, she will instantly give out true emotions.

How to behave at a meeting?

So, long-awaited meeting on which reconciliation should take place took place. What to talk about, how to behave, what to do, and what not to do?

First, don't fawn and be confident. Even if the breakup was your fault, you should not beg for forgiveness. Behave calmly, with dignity and with an attitude: “yes, I am guilty, but I fully admit my mistakes and promise to correct them.”

The decision is hers - to accept you back or not. Women's nature is such that girls are unconscious manipulators. And especially they love to manipulate your guilt. Therefore, immediately stop her attempts to constantly recall your offense. If she forgave, then agree to leave everything bad in the past.

Secondly, try not only to speak beautifully, but also to prove your feelings in practice. The most proven way to return a girl's love is a bright, extraordinary act. For example, a huge inscription on the pavement in front of her window, or big bouquet colors. A candlelight dinner on the roof of a high-rise building or a flight to hot-air balloon.

Finally, don't start talking about your relationship right away. Start a conversation with questions about her, take an interest in her successes or failures, find out what she has been doing all this time. And then smoothly move the topic to reconciliation.

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What to text a girl

No letter can replace personal communication. But in some cases, getting a conversation is very difficult. For example, if a girl diligently avoids you and ignores any attempts to communicate. In this case, you need to write a letter.

The best option is a regular letter on paper by hand. It can be passed with a mutual friend or girlfriend, put under the door or in the mailbox. In extreme cases, you can write an e-mail or message in the social. networks.

In the letter, you just need to describe your feelings and thoughts. Don't try to impress her beautiful phrases or, God forbid, poetry. The girl will appreciate your sincerity more than the form of presentation.

Drawing conclusions for the future

If you did everything right, then most likely you will be able to return your beloved. But, unfortunately, not everything is so simple. Even if the girl agreed to renew your relationship, most likely they will no longer be the same as before. Be prepared for the fact that from now on she will treat you with suspicion.

It will take a very long time to regain trust and respect. Maybe months, maybe even years.

How to keep a girl after reconciliation? Constantly keep her feelings for you in suspense. Try to figure out what emotions she needs: there are girls in whom the “bright side” prevails. Such people need to be “fed” with love, affection and romantic deeds, a couple of times a year giving a negative.

And a girl with a predominance of the “dark” side can be tied to herself only by periodic outbursts of negativity: provoke her, make her rage, make fun of her shortcomings, hint that half of your female colleagues at work are not averse to sleeping with you. Alternate negative emotions with positive ones - and you will be happy.

Is it even worth getting the girl back?

Romantic-minded young men will answer this question: “Of course, because I love her so much.” mature and rational thinking men think: “Oh, I’m beautiful, there are a lot of women around, I’ll find even better ones.”

Therefore, it is worth returning the former only in a single case - when you are to blame for the breakup (changed, seriously deceived). And if you are sure that this particular woman is exceptional, they are very rare.

As for the rest, it’s easier not to correct the mistakes of old relationships, but to build new, happy and fulfilling ones.

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How to get a girl back

How to get a girl back? Similar questions worried young men before and continue to disturb today's youth. How to return your beloved girl, if she left you without even trying to explain the reasons, or as a reason for leaving, she came up with some nonsense, if in an instant she turned from the closest person into a cold and alien girl.

How to return the girl and overcome the emptiness formed after her “escape?” Indeed, until recently, the couple could communicate for hours, the young lady shared the most intimate with her chosen one, and today she left without even telling about the reasons for leaving. What should a guy do when he is steadily pursued by obsessive questions: “why” and “how to get an ex-girlfriend back”, to which he is not able to find even elementary answers.

At these moments, the strong half becomes weak. Men may lose their appetite, and previously pleasing things, today they seem meaningless. And the world in the eyes of abandoned men loses its beauty. It used to play with rich bright colors, but now it has turned into a dull gray. This condition is quite dangerous for them. mental health. Since it is precisely with such an internal mismatch that men can “twist” things and “break wood”, thereby sharpening the situation of internal disharmony more. Therefore, one should not rush into the embrasure or “go all out”, but you just need to take a small “time out”, which should be spent on analyzing the feelings and reasons that led to the break.

How to get your girlfriend back

In order to get out of the circumstances with the least harm to one's own personality and return the beloved girl, it is necessary to act in a certain way, but first it is necessary to deal with the reasons that led her to leave. There can be thousands of reasons for this, for example, a guy often showed his own indifference to a partner or, on the contrary, simply got her jealousy and tyranny. No one will help a man to understand the motives for leaving the chosen one. It is necessary to slowly, in a cozy and calm atmosphere, remember all the requests of the girl and her claims, reproaches, accusations, through which she tried to hint to her partner how she sees her life partner.

If the girl left, and became topical issue: “how to get her back?”, then in this situation you should transform yourself, making yourself such a man, about whom your beloved fantasized about on long winter evenings. It is also recommended to remember all the phrases that were mentioned as if in passing, for example, “you cannot be relied upon”, “you are optional”, etc. After all, before the breakup, it was convenient for a man not to hear women's statements and requests, but now, when he asked himself the question: "how to return an ex-girlfriend" it is no longer possible to continue to ignore them. You can consider that the hour of reckoning has come or treat it as a stage of self-improvement.

For the return of the former relationship, it is necessary that one of the couple has changed. Most likely, this “one” will be a man. After all, it was he who set out to solve the problem: "how to return your beloved girl if she left you." Therefore, the strong half needs to take will into a fist and remember school studies, when after each independent work the teacher was forced to work on the mistakes. Now this work needs to be done in real life. This is often the most difficult step in rebuilding a relationship. Therefore, you need to weigh everything well and decide whether you can become the dream of the chosen one.

After the exact motive for parting has been clarified and work has been done on the mistakes, one should proceed to the next stage of the operation called “return of the beloved”, which consists in organizing an allegedly random meeting with a fugitive. The meeting should carry only a friendly connotation. It is forbidden to ask the former about something, to force, sort things out and humiliate yourself. Such behavior will only push away her beloved and she will be convinced again that she made the right decision when she left her partner. Confident passage and successful completion of the previous stage of the operation - work on mistakes, should mark the birth of a new individual who took into account all the mistakes and eliminated the shortcomings, annoying girl. At the meeting, the departed beloved should see the partner differently, changed. She does not need to hint that she is now facing a changed ex, a man of all her fantasies. She must figure it out for herself. Only in this scenario will the success of the operation be ensured. At the same time, it is necessary to avoid slackness and phrases like “I can’t live without you.” Such statements will aggravate the situation, which is already not in favor of the man. You should not once again indulge women's pride. It is better, on the contrary, to show her that life goes on even after her departure, and the free time that has appeared is planned to be spent on developing her own hobbies and career growth.

The male half needs to remember that ladies love a little self-confident, slightly proud, ambitious people, and if they also enjoy success with the opposite half, then not a single representative of the fair half can resist them. Self-confidence, self-love and ambition can be developed. The situation is more difficult with the success of the opposite sex. But here you can cheat. It is necessary to agree with familiar ladies so that they call when the guy is at a meeting with the former. It is also recommended to learn how to flirt with ladies of the opposite sex and use the acquired skills with might and main. Let the girl know that her ex-couple does not suffer quietly in the corner, but leads active life and is popular with the ladies.

It is necessary to arrange at least two such friendly spontaneous meetings, and preferably three. At each meeting, you should emphasize with your own behavior that the girl is facing a confident, ambitious person with grandiose plans for future life. It is also recommended that, in the process of communication, phrases like “I thought a lot and realized that it’s stupid to be jealous, because any relationship should be built solely on trust” or “it’s ridiculous for me now to remember how indifferent I was” slipped in the process of communication. However, you need to say such remarks sincerely and try not to look forced and forced. With such conversations, a man, as it were, demonstrates that relations with her have become for him great lesson and in the next serious connection, he will definitely behave correctly. This will make the girl think about the correctness of her care.

It should also be noted that a man should make it clear to the girl that he is grateful to fate for the relationship that was between him and her, that he does not regret anything and he has only pleasant memories. The fact that an abandoned man regrets the breakup, that every day he remembers his beloved, a woman should not know. You can even hint to the former that he seems to be pecking serious relationship with a clever-minded woman and just a beauty, but he is not quite sure that he is ready for a new connection, since he did not quite come to his senses after breaking up the previous relationship. In addition to this, it is necessary to say that although he did not quite recover from the breakup, it is still worth a try. Majority beautiful women it is so arranged that even one mention of a hypothetical rival leads them into slight bewilderment, smoothly transforming into rage. It doesn't matter if it's about an ex-boyfriend.

In most cases, following the listed stages of the operation will lead to the fact that the former companion will be hurt for the lively behavior of the once beloved. If this happens, then the final stage of the “return of the beloved” operation begins, which consists in stopping all interaction with the girl for a certain period of time. In other words, calls, correspondence on the Internet or via SMS messages are prohibited. It is better to spend this time on your own hobbies or self-improvement. If, after a maximum of a week, the girl is the first to somehow prove herself, then we can assume that the man came out the winner and successfully completed such a difficult operation. If the miracle did not happen, then maybe she just never loved a partner and will not love again. So maybe you don’t need to bang on closed doors ?!

How to get a girl back after a breakup

As a rule, parting is a rather painful process. If the relationship is over, but the thought “I want to return the girl” has settled in my head, then for this a man can take several important steps described above. Before you take decisive steps, you need to analyze your own motives. It is normal that in the process of relationships people get used to each other, as a result of which the breakup of relationships is experienced more difficult. In addition, abandoned guys have to be alone with their own rather unpleasant, and sometimes even painful sensations in the soul, from which they dream to get rid of. As a result, many guys are looking for a solution to the problematic issue: “how to return the girl’s feelings” only for the sake of returning the usual way of existence and the sensations of comfort and calmness that were previously present in life. Therefore, you should look at the separation situation objectively before moving on to action. You need to think about why the relationship ended, and for what reason you want to return it. If a man is driven by fear or loneliness, then this is not the best motivating factor to renew the relationship. It would be more correct to start thinking about your own improvement, development, and self-esteem. It is also necessary to accept the current situation as a given.

If the strong half is driven by the opinions of others, friends about them or relatives, then such motives for reviving relationships are also fundamentally wrong. You should not prove to anyone that you are able to return your "runaway" beloved at the snap of your fingers. Such actions will only aggravate the state of mind of both the man and his chosen one. Also, you don’t have to fight for a relationship just because you want to get even with your ex-partner and hurt her. These are false motives for the revival of relationships that will lead to a dead end situation. Such behavior can only get pain and emotional trauma. Instead, you should solve problems in an adult way, think soberly, pushing feelings into the background. You should at least for a short time try to forget about the failed relationship. After a while, most likely, the realization will come that the decision to return the departed girl was based solely on emotions.

You don't have to be afraid of loneliness. Loneliness is completely misunderstood by many people. They imagine themselves unhappy due to the fact that there is no companion or companion nearby. Loneliness is just a state of mind. You can also feel lonely in a relationship or, conversely, be without a partner, but feel absolutely harmonious, because it happens in life, today there is a partner nearby, but not tomorrow. Therefore, the freed time, after the departure of a loved one, must be rationally used, for example, by directing it to one's own development.

How to get a girl back if her feelings have cooled

In a relationship, the presence of harmony and mutual understanding is very important, but it does not always reign between a couple. More often the opposite happens, there are conflicts and resentment. Often, as a result, former feelings cool down. As a result, an obsessive question arises in the head of the guys: "how to return the girl if she has fallen out of love." Often, the strong half is tormented by this question from the fact that only their pride is wounded. But this feeling will not help in returning the partner's love. If the desire “I want to return the girl” is based on love for a partner, then you need to be patient and follow the rules below.

Firstly, it is not recommended to arrange a stormy showdown with a girl, you also do not need to reproach her, and even more so, threaten her. A man should be guided by reason and remember that he is, first of all, a civilized person, and not a Neanderthal. Threats and reproaches will only further push the chosen one away.

Also, do not put pressure on the female sense of pity. Since such actions can cause pity, and where pity for a man reigns, there is no place for love. Therefore, you should not tell your beloved how bad it is without her.

Before taking any action, you should wait until the emotions subside so that you can adequately assess your own actions and understand the reasons that led to the fact that the feelings have cooled down. If it is not possible to independently identify the cause of the cooling, then you can ask for advice from your inner circle, who observed the relationship of the couple. Finding the cause of the breakup is the key to a successful comeback past feelings. Since the reason is a kind of direction in which you need to move to win the heart of your beloved.

You should not constantly repeat to the chosen one about your own love. It will only tire her out. It is better to show her a friendly attitude. It is necessary to begin to unobtrusively be interested in her life, work. You can also offer help in resolving any issues. It is recommended to do everything possible so that the beloved realizes that you can rely on a man. Girls love reliable and responsible individuals.

Also, one should not think that the reason for the cooling of the girl's feelings was the bad behavior of the guy. Most likely, on the contrary, if the guy was too helpful, every feminine whim, took into account exclusively the desires of the chosen one, even those that were contrary to his own, it was precisely this behavior that served as the impetus for the cooling of feelings. Men must always follow one immutable rule, which is as follows. The beautiful half should never occupy absolutely all men's thoughts. You must always leave space for your own personality. Successful and strong male personalities put, in most cases, in the first place own desires and sometimes compromise.

It should also be borne in mind that the set of attractive personality traits differs between ladies and gentlemen. For the male part in women, an attractive appearance, her figure, face are quite important, while for women in the strong half it is more important to have leadership qualities, determination, reliability, responsibility, self-confidence, courage and other features that make a man out of a male individual. . It seems nothing complicated and it is quite simple to correspond to the described ideal of attractiveness for women, but in practice a lot depends on the little things. So, for example, girls often ask guys how they plan to spend their time today, to which the guys answer that they don’t know themselves and offer girls to decide, thereby demonstrating their unattractive trait called “lack of leadership qualities”. Therefore, if a man is looking for a solution to the problem of “how to return a girl if she has fallen out of love”, then first of all, he needs to eliminate all unattractive features in himself, replacing them with attractive ones.

How to get a girl back if she left for another

So, if a girl left and how to return - this is urgent problem, then you should accept the fact that women never leave just like that, they always have reasons for this. One of them may be a loss of interest in a partner as a companion with whom you can connect your life. This includes interest in a man as an interlocutor, sex drive to him, personal comfort while spending time together, etc. It is after losing all of the above that the ladies of the heart leave. And if they left the guy for another, then this other has all of the above. But one should not fall into despair. We'll fix everything. After all, a partner still has a lot to do with the former, namely the feeling of love, intimacy, comfort and nostalgia.

Love cannot pass instantly. Therefore, if a girl had a feeling of love for a partner, and the longer the couple was together, the more difficult it would be for her to forget her ex. Therefore, while she has not completely cooled off towards the former, steps must be taken to return her.

How to get a girl back - advice from a psychologist.

If the couple had no problems in intimate life, then this will be another plus, contributing to the resumption of relations. After all intimate life With former partner for a girl, for a short time, it will seem better than with the current guy. This is due to the fact that the beloved during the relationship has well studied the former chosen one, his body and erogenous zones, fantasies, etc. In the same way, like her abandoned boyfriend, he knows everything about addictions in the intimacy of the lady of the heart.

In any relationship, even very bad ones, there is always something to remember. After all, there were joint holidays And romantic dinners, anniversaries, etc. The girl, from time to time, will remember the pleasant moments spent with ex-boyfriend, because with the new couple she has very few such moments so far.

As a result of all of the above, the task of a guy who is interested in “how to return the feelings of a girl” will be to correctly use what else connects him with his former chosen one. But first you need to understand a few elementary truths:

You should become better than you were;

Gotta be better than her current boyfriend;

It is necessary to forget the past (that is, not even mentally remember the bad) and start a relationship from a pure wanderer, not anew, but in a different way;

It is required to seduce the former partner as if she were a new girl;

It is important to always radiate positive, so that not a drop of negativity is present.

How to get a girl back if she doesn't want a relationship? A guy's first priority, if he's been dumped, will be to not waste time. You need to start work on self-improvement, which begins with the following:

Updating your own wardrobe and changing the style of clothing to a more modern and interesting one;

workings male qualities.

The girl should notice in the former chosen one changes for the better after the breakup, as well as the fact that the “abandoned” guy does not kill for her, but enjoys life and is quite happy. This can hurt her greatly, as a result of which she will be drawn to interacting with her former partner herself.

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How to get a girl back after a breakup - mistakes and procedure

Any relationship between two people is complex. And this is natural, because they involve two different people and misunderstandings different kind problems are often unavoidable.

And as for love relationships in a couple, then the matter becomes even more complicated, since they carry too many aspects. Consequently, relationships between loved ones are not always smooth and stable.

It often happens that a couple comes to a standstill, and the girl decides to just leave. In situations like this, guys just can't figure out what's going on. In these moments, men are very vulnerable, because often they simply do not know true reason departure of his beloved. This situation can infuriate anyone, even the most balanced person. And that is why a man begins to make mistakes one after another, which further aggravates everything and becomes the reason for the end of the relationship.

In order to avoid such an undesirable result, the help of a specialist is needed. And today in this article we will talk about important issues, namely:

how to understand a girl;
how to get your loved one back;
how not to make mistakes, for which you will then have to pay very dearly.

As everyone can see, this article is practical and important for anyone who wants to build a serious relationship and protect them from all sorts of adversity.

A few words about the important

In fact, maintaining a relationship is much more difficult than just finding a new girlfriend. This is important to understand and accept.

And in the event that your girlfriend, for unknown reasons, refuses to meet with you, answer your calls, etc., then the first thing you need to ask yourself is the main question: do you want to return your beloved? If the answer is yes, then you need to be patient and not lose your calm. And in order to return it, you need to follow the simple advice of psychologists who will help you.

Why does a guy's behavior and patience play key role in this case? But because, unfortunately, many men, having learned about the decision of their girlfriends to leave them, begin to behave just awfully, aggressively, begin to be rude, annoy with drunken visits, etc. (I think the picture is clear to everyone).

But in fact, a girl leaves a guy in 90% of cases precisely because the latter has lost his dignity in her eyes. Therefore, first of all, you must show her that you have changed, become better, more attentive.

The mistake of the majority is that they think: “My girlfriend wants me to apologize a hundred times, humiliate myself. And I won't humiliate myself." What your girlfriend really wants is for her boyfriend to be more logical, respectful, and more empathetic.

In practice, everyone has a number of familiar couples where a girl leaves her boyfriend three times a week, and then returns again, and they live quietly until the next time.

In this article, we will not talk about this type of "parting", which in its essence is nothing more than a simple way of blackmailing and influencing a man. And if you have just such a case, then there are 2 options:

Adopt your favorite manipulator and appease her with "excusatory gifts." But keep in mind that this will be for life.
Decide for yourself whether you need such a relationship, and in the event that you do not need it, put an end to it.

It is for this reason that it is important to decide: if you do not have the above case and the girl did not leave you out of “habit”, then in order to return her, you must understand some important nuances.

If your girlfriend is not a manipulator, and after a certain stage in a relationship, she shows her coldness towards you, and after some time she completely declares that it’s time to leave, since there is no point in continuing this relationship, then chop on your nose: in this case, a gift or an apology is simply inappropriate, as it can cause a backlash in girls.

Often, without knowing this, guys bring their loved ones to hysteria by calling a million times and apologizing, or writing tearful texts.

Therefore, it is more important to always determine the degree of seriousness of the girl. Since the correctness and effectiveness of your actions entirely depends on this.

Main question

Until you find the answer to the main question “why did your girlfriend leave?”, All your attempts to get her back will come to naught, and there will be no chance of getting her back. After all, in fact, there is no smoke without fire, and if a girl (not a manipulator) decided to leave her boyfriend, then there must be a good reason for this.

In 90% of cases, the reason is that the guy from whom she was once simply crazy, behavior, mannerisms, words, thoughts and, of course, whose appearance delighted her, the person from whom she met enjoyed and longed for these meetings most of all, now for some reason began to change.

When Relationships Last for a long time, then each of the partners changes over the years. And at one fine moment, your girlfriend may notice that she no longer knows you, that you have become strangers to each other.

In this case, there are two possible reasons for parting:

The guy has changed and now he just does not delight her.
The guy does not change, despite the fact that the years go by, and the girl has already switched to new level and for her you are already incomprehensible with your old jokes, customs, which she is already tired of.

It doesn’t matter which of these two reasons you have, the consequences in both cases are parting if serious steps are not taken in time and the situation is not corrected.

If almost a month has passed since your breakup, and you have already made almost all the mistakes that 95% of men make when trying to get their loved ones back, she has heard your apologies with which you showered her in all possible ways (Internet, telephone, mutual acquaintances and friends ), or you also managed to bore her with your arrival from work, trying to explain how she is wrong and how unfairly she treats you and all that, then it's time to stop and admit to yourself that your ways in best case does not work. And at worst, they can make things worse.

Well, judge for yourself, does a girl need a guy who all the time begs for attention, love and tries to return the relationship with tears? Of course not! A woman doesn't need a needy guy. Therefore, leave your false attempts and listen to the opinion of a specialist.

Psychologists call this period the “wall”, since all the guy’s attempts remain without results.

At first glance, a deadlock, and everyone may have a question, what to do to make the girl return? So, below is a working method step by step.

Calm. One truth has long been known to everyone: a person cannot appreciate what he has. And your girlfriend will never truly appreciate you as long as you are there all the time: with your calls, messages and just being present. This gives her the advantage of manipulating you. Indeed, in this case, she will be sure that you will always come running to her with an apology and do whatever she wants.

If you do not value yourself and do not keep your distance, then this will turn you into unnecessary material that is easy to manage and then quit.

And when you are calm and confident, the girl herself will want to return you. After all, a calm, self-confident guy among girls is associated with strength, and having strong guy every girl wants.

In other words, be a little selfish, mind your own business and although it is difficult, do not show your suffering and a strong desire to return her.

Often it is at this first stage that the girl herself returns to her boyfriend, as she realizes that she can really lose him.

Ignoring. If the first stage did not return your beloved to you, then you should not give up, but go to the next step: to lose sight of at least for a month. And most importantly, at this stage it is necessary to fence off not only from your beloved, but also from those acquaintances who can tell her something about you.

This is the most difficult stage, and it is here that many give up and spoil the whole thing. You can often find yourself staring blankly at your photos for hours. Dream about her, follow her in in social networks and you ascribe to yourself all its new statuses (although in fact this is not entirely true). However, if you hold out until the end, the results may pleasantly surprise you.

And don't just sit and suffer. During this period, you need to work on yourself: change your image, become successful, so that when you meet your girlfriend will be pleasantly surprised and fall in love with you again. If you don’t manage to change your life for the better in just a month, then you can at least try to create such an image for yourself.

Meeting. After you have successfully gone through two stages and you already have a new image, it's time to move on to the next stage - meeting your girlfriend. By this time, you are already calm, in control of yourself and can contact her without mistakes.

Many girls, after a month of calm, have already realized their mistake and are simply afraid that you will be able to leave her completely. Therefore, your appearance in her life becomes a mini-holiday for her, and she willingly agrees to meet with you. After all, during this time she herself managed to miss you, and she is just wondering where you disappeared to.

That is why call her and invite her somewhere. It will work here too chance meeting". So the choice is yours.

If she did not agree to meet with you, then she needs more time, leave her alone for another 2 weeks and try again.

First meeting after breakup

In no case should you come to her with a large bouquet and start a conversation about how you missed you, that you want to return everything as it was and the like.

It is important to remember the rule: the first meeting after separation should last no more than 40 minutes.

The second rule: you need to speak concisely, during the conversation, never even hint at the past, and not a word about your torment.

The meeting should end with the fact that you were pleased to talk with her. No tearful goodbyes, etc.

After the first meeting, you have a “vacation” again. About a week no calls, no messages. Even if she writes herself, wait at least two days and only then answer her. You will show your strength, and this is only to your advantage.

One more meeting

In the event that the first meeting produced on her impression, and she saw changes in you, then she herself will burn with curiosity and look for new meetings with you. Don't give in right away. Trade, because if you hooked her, you can be sure she will not go anywhere else.

That is, you do not need to communicate with her for hours on social networks or chat on the phone. Get her to come to unpromising meetings, like walks in the park. And now, after a couple of meetings, you can already compliment her, “accidentally” touch her cheek, hug, etc.

It is important to remember that during these meetings you must be in complete control of yourself. Your girlfriend should understand that you live well without her (believe me, this is a strong blow for any girl). She needs to know that you are not trying to win her back with these meetings.

In the event that after the first meeting she does not take the next step herself, then you need to ignite her interest: upload a new, bright photo on the social network, spread the word about your new success and invite her to the meeting again a few days later. But do not forget about the above rules.

The final touch is your detached behavior and all three steps will do their job and you will have sex with your girlfriend. However, remember that this is not your end goal. Since there are times when, after sex, a girl runs away from a guy again. And all because he relaxed too much and revealed his cards, showing that everything was just dust in her eyes (the guys' biggest mistake). If a girl after sex realizes that you have not changed at all, and now you are the same as she left you, then this time she will leave forever.

That is why remember the most important thing: treat her not as your own. ex girlfriend, which you want to return in all possible ways, but as a new girl, and she needs to be seduced and conquered again.

These are exactly the steps that will help you return your beloved, of course, everything is not so simple here, however, it is very possible.

And what is important, going through these stages, you yourself change, you begin to look at your relationship differently. After these stages, reuniting with her, you understand that your girlfriend needs personal space just like you do, you begin to appreciate yourself and her. And this is all for the good of your relationship.

Behavioral Mistakes, or Caution: Dangerous

In order to return his beloved and past a good relationship, every man should know not only what he should do, but what should not be done in any case. Since there is a style of behavior and actions that not only will not return your girlfriend, but will also move her far away from you.

Depression. You can't drive yourself into a corner, get depressed, drink just to make her feel guilty and feel sorry for you.
Manipulation. There is no need to manipulate, use money, children (if any), acquaintances, so that she returns.
Charm itself - you can not become a cute toy in her arms, which all the time repeats how much he needs her and how much she loves her.
Signs of attention. Yes, every girl loves signs of attention, but if she left you, then your gifts, flowers and the like will most likely annoy her, but certainly will not return her to you.
Arguments - no need to prove, give logical arguments that she should return. If a woman decided to leave, then she did it without thinking logically, but relying entirely on her intuition and emotions, so that your conclusions will only alienate you from each other.

Remember these points when the girl leaves you, and do not make the mistakes of the majority. All you can achieve by doing something from this list is a complete distance from your loved one.

One last thing

At first glance, following the above tips is almost impossible. However, remember that doing nothing at first, moving away and calming down for a while is the best option. After all, this method is based not on feelings, but on female psychology. And by understanding her psychology, you can turn her into a complaisant girl who can no longer possess herself. And without self-control, re-winning your girlfriend is easier than ever.

Therefore, work on yourself and make her, seeing your strength and character, want you again.

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