Ex-husband. Your ex-husband is getting married

Behavior of a man: where does love for a child disappear?

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So I will say. My wife and I recently separated. I haven't talked to my wife or daughter for a month now, and I don't want to for even longer. The reason is that it is simply useless with my wife, some scandals, reproaches and so on. Memories are just very painful with my daughter - that's why I don't want to communicate now. He offered to pay alimony himself, the wife seemed to have filed it so better - better and better. I'm thinking of visiting in the summer. I know it will hurt, but she is my daughter and I love her and in life, I will always help. Now she is 4.5 years old, she still does not understand what happened and it is probably better not to injure her. I don't know, it's very sad. Women, do not judge from your bell tower different reasons there are.

We've all heard those tales about "I never stopped him from seeing his kids."
All divorced women from the first to the last lie insolently on this issue.
Therefore, at some point, the man runs out of patience and he sends her nah forever.
Yes, it’s hard, difficult, painful not to see children, but to constantly communicate with a woman terrorist who holds children hostage and does not go to any improvement, even if you fulfill all her crazy requirements - this is not self-respecting.
In general, divorce is a shame for a woman.

About the role of husband and wife in the family, men's dreams and fear of loneliness
...They are afraid of disturbing the peace in the family, the existing balance of relations. And no wonder they are afraid! For a man, this can be a big blow to pride. Traditional role does not allow the supremacy of women in providing for the family. Have you ever heard of a wife suffering because her husband began to earn more? Only if big money took him away from home to seek adventure. A new generation of men is learning to overcome the inertia of tradition and cooperate with women. But for them, the question of why to marry remains unresolved. The only thing that reconciles them with the need to take such a step is the desire to have children. Interesting...

Love marriage, can you have one without the other?.

Love marriage, can you have one without the other? This morning as I was going through my inbox, I came across some tweets about the upcoming wedding season along with interesting message about the advantage life together (civil marriage) compared to marriage. That's when it dawned on me that I had not attended a wedding in recent years. In fact, I can't remember when last time I heard my friends talking about someone getting married. I'm on Facebook...

Serious relationship men and women - but when is the wedding? How to get a man to marry?
... It is necessary to develop a plan that combines elements of the hostage exchange procedure and the act of seduction. How to ask main question: 1. Remember, no sudden movements. Nothing to scare him at all. Therefore, do not attack him with this question during breakfast. 2. It is necessary that he be completely relaxed and able to give you maximum attention. And this means that the main question cannot be asked at the moment when he is focused on something. For example, during the final football match (even at halftime) or when he has some potentially traumatic tools in his hands. Again, there is no point in raising vital questions when the audit came to him ...

Dad and child: methods of education. Where do they come from and how to change them?

Do you have such stories when husbands returned to their wives after a six-month or one-year break (remaining officially married) and started all over again? And how did this second beginning end or last for someone? I don't believe in second wind. And you?

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Only parents, dad left for his mistress, exactly 9 months later he returned, life began to be 100 times better, but my mother was the reason for looking for a mistress, she didn’t live normally, I remember it very well, I was 14. My mom appreciated my dad, they live for 16 years after the break, they lived for 23 years before the break. I am even now grateful to my father that he left then, otherwise I, apart from my mother’s scandals and tantrums, that everything is not like that and not like that, I didn’t see much of anything , now they are almost an ideal family for me, I don’t know how they are with love-carrots with such and such experience and at such and such an age, but they respect each other, take care of each other, support.
I don’t know other examples, I myself would not have returned to my former husband.
IMHO, this is an exception, in the case of my parents, my father was not a walker, the problem was in my mother, in her incontinence and intolerance, she drew conclusions in 9 months, of course, everything worked out for them, .. if a woman wants :))) And if a man is a walker, an alcoholic, even the grave will not fix him (introduced the walker to the cemetery :)) brrr)

For certain :) I know only one case - the husband first returned to his first wife 7 years after the divorce, a year later - he came back to the second.
For this case, I don’t even know how to calculate% :))

Love will suddenly come... What to do with someone else's husband? Psychologist's advice.

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I'm 18 and I'm a lover... In the summer I met a man who seems to be the best. He was 23 at that time, I was 17. He wrote to me on the social network from a fake page, at first I didn’t attach much importance, then he threw off the photo - he turned out to be a real handsome man, and I liked his communication - competent, well-read, polite, everything is like me I love. He immediately said that he was married, he loved his wife, that he had married early, he did not regret at all. With his wife at that time they lived in different cities but he didn't go into the details. When I found out that I was married, I immediately relegated him to the background, since I did not plan to become a mistress. We corresponded with him about three weeks, then called to meet and I, in my stupidity, agreed. He called for me, waited for me for 20 minutes, because I did not have time to get ready. And so I went out to him: in a short dress, on heels and with a twinkle in my eyes, such a young, lovely girl. To be honest, I didn’t really like him, his face was dissatisfied, some kind of evil, harmful. We sat in the car, took a walk, and he drove me home. Our next meeting was about a week later. He fell ill and said that he would take me to his home so that I could “cure” him, I don’t know what kind of treatment he was talking about, but there were no hints of sex. I told myself that we would not have anything, but just in case, I prepared for everything. He picked me up and we went to him. I was in a skirt and blouse, he offered me to change into his shirt, and I agreed. I was incredibly sexy, and he undressed me with his eyes. We drank tea, talked, joked. And I realized that I fell in love. He lay down on the bed, told me to lie down too, I lay down, however, a whole meter away from him. He moved closer, and I did the opposite. It amused him, he joked, I was so comfortable with him. He said: “I want to kiss you. Can I?”, and I replied: “Well, try it.” Everything turned to sex, it was the best night in my life, we didn't sleep for probably a minute. In the morning he took me home. So we met for a month, and on August 10 his wife arrived, he was unrecognizable. Approximately two weeks before her arrival, it was as if he had been replaced: he stopped calling, writing, began yelling at me, we stopped seeing each other. I endured all this because I loved, but I understood that he only needed from me the possession of my young body. When he was at work, he tried to write, saw each other about once every two or three weeks. Our last meeting was September 20th. We went, as usual, to the hotel, had great sex, he brought me home ... and disappeared. A week passed, two - from him not a single message. I was in pain, very painful. I often thought about him and cried. He said that on October 6 he had to go on a business trip to another city for two months. By the way, I found his wife on Instagram, subscribed from the left page. She almost did not post photos, but on the night of 5 to 6 she posted a photo of the train and left a caption: “I will miss ...” I am not at all deprived of the attention of men, I’ll say more, I get it in fairly large quantities, respectively, I have suitors a lot - beautiful, rich, smart, but all this is not the same. I hated all men. Yes, I went on dates, even kissed to forget him, but it didn't help much. And yet, over time, it became easier, surrounded by new people, things. So almost a month and a half passed. November 11 morning he called. I answered, and he said: “I can’t live without you, I love you, I feel bad without you, I dream about you every night.” The fact that I was in shock did not say anything, I said that I also love him and miss him very much. Perhaps this call was a mistake, and I did not need to answer him then. I was waiting for him for a month, we talked virtually, as he was on a business trip. I believed him, believed that he really loves me. He arrived on December 12 and seemed to have been replaced. Of course, he almost stopped writing and calling, I understand everything, my wife did not express anything to him. And on Saturday morning he called and said he would come. I imagined our meeting differently. We sat in the car for an hour, I gave him a blowjob and that's it, then he said that he needed to go for his wife. I felt used, I was terribly offended. Then we met on the 19th, also in the morning, went to the hotel, stayed there for three hours, and then he went on urgent business, and took me home. I told him that I was tired of waiting for his messages, calls, our meetings. She said he had a week to see us again. By the way, he stopped telling me that he loves me, I asked him about it, he said: “Silly, of course, I love you” and I melted. That's all. On the 21st, we exchanged a couple of messages. Then in the group of our city, I saw that in the comments he met girls, complimented them, corresponded with them, but absolutely nothing to me. It's been 24 now and there were no messages from him, but I'm still waiting. I understand that he is deceiving and that he does not need me. I'm only 18, I have so much ahead of me, but I can't let him go, I love him so much. I don't want to destroy his family. The only thing I really want is the truth. I'm tired of waiting, hoping for something, I need him to tell the truth that he does not love, that he does not need, and that it was all just a game. So it will become easier for me, because I myself can hardly part with this person.

I'll tell you right away - article complete nonsense. Our life is very multifaceted and unpredictable. My wife is me, and I am also abandoned. The choice was in favor of the mistress. No need to write about unsettled life, etc. Everything is normal - there is a son, and life, and money, and an apartment. My husband chose for six months - he wandered back and forth. And in the end he went to his mistress. They have been living and happy for 8 years. He is not divorced from me (this suits me for a number of reasons). No need to write nonsense about happiness, not happiness on someone else's grief. Everyone is different.

Inspired by a recent topic of one girl. We know each other for 4 years, married for 3, the child is 1-4 months old, the husband is the breadwinner, I'm on maternity leave. About three months later, I began to notice a bad change in myself towards my husband. I became indifferent to physical contact with him. And not for sex! In sex, everything is fine, you want sex, it delivers great pleasure Everything is the same as before, even better. But before, I was very fond of "hugs" after, falling asleep in hugs, waking up together - I was so delighted that my husband was inclined to this, there was so much joy ...

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Are you talking about my topic?))) I envy you if the passion has not passed, you adore him and get pleasure in bed, what kind of divorce is there!? You should rejoice!
If I didn’t have a child, touches and hugs-kisses with which are pleasant, I would have gone crazy (((

You just switched to a child :) My son is also so affectionate that now I grumble at my husband more often than hug. It will pass. If you have a son, then he will soon be able to say - Mom, leave me alone! And you will again begin to hunger for tenderness. go to your husband. :) Do not read this nonsense about 3 years. By the way, in this book there was a moral not to marry, and not that love lives for 3 years.

Do grateful men exist?

Today I had another fight with my husband. AND Last year it happens for the same reason: i maternity leave, the child is two years old, I took on most of the life. Thank God my mother actively helps me, without her it would be unbearable for me. Every time my husband comes home from work, he looks for a reason to complain about the cleanliness of the apartment. I am tormented by the question, why didn’t he care about it before, and now, even some toy left uncleaned after the child becomes my “jamb”? Let me explain. When we started living together...

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Thanks a lot to everyone for the feedback. My mother's example still taught me, and in any case I won't be left without a penny. From September, my daughter will go to kindergarten, and there I will go to work and my husband’s quiet home life will end. Under no circumstances will I hire a nanny, this is my subjective opinion.
For those who do not quite understand me, I want to explain: to do household chores with all household appliances, of course, not catarrh, but I don’t have a desire to do it every day. When, for the whole day, you have time to do a lot of things with the child and the doctors and around the house, and to the store and something else to sew for your child, and to work out in sports. And by the time your dad returns, you are satisfied with yourself, if not admiration, then at least some kind of gratitude, but instead you hear: “That’s it? I could have done it all in 3 hours, but was it difficult to clean it here?” It ends with nothing but a scandal, and after that I don’t want to have sex, warmth, or even talk.

An example of my mother’s life (. She didn’t really get out of the decree with me. But there were musicians, a ballet artist, etc. The institute and everything is in order. My father provided VERY well. But ... as I grew up, he from time to time he started a conversation with me about why my mother does not work (apparently, he was counting on what I would tell her. I did not dare to open such a topic ..). I know for sure that money did not play any role. Father received a lot (high rank in the army) and at the same time was very intangible. He needed social status wives. Exactly the same beautiful mommy is my friend. Her husband is a wealthy oriental man. At the same time, his housewife wife is very burdensome. there are such men. Although women too .. I can’t imagine that I can fall in love with * a householder *, even if he is rich.

Inspired from below. At first I intervened, but then I decided to make a separate issue ... Unexpectedly, many ladies (Bun, Alek79, Local, etc.) wrote very sharply about the children's acquaintance with the new wives of their fathers. In the sense that it’s not good and there’s no need for children, nothing good will come of it, and men, bringing children to new family thus assert themselves and do very wrong. Question: WHY? I have the opposite opinion. Especially if there is no negativity from the new wives, they did not ruin that family ...

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Maybe I can explain, "he wants to be with the children, take them to rest, go shopping with him"? On your example.
There are two children, the eldest was then 11 years old, the youngest was 3 years old. I divided the folder of children: I "took" the older one for myself, and I "got" the younger one. Dad traveled "in the north", did not give alimony, but went shopping to the older one. ONLY HER was bought, including food. Here she eats, but she does not give to her sister, although she asks.
Further. Dad bought everything from the eldest, I buy clothes for the youngest. So the eldest gives me: "You DO NOT BUY ANYTHING for me," and does not listen to any advice and orders at all: dad is good, and mom is evil, makes her learn lessons. :-)
The father took the child to rest in the suburbs. He works there, they registered them at the camp site. By September 1, NOT RETURNED. I called and said that they would arrive a week later, on September 1 there would be nothing new at school, only a repetition. I returned my daughter only on September 15th. And the daughter began to lag behind (after all, this "repetition" was just to reach out, remember, etc.), and STARTED to play truant, because she knew that it was POSSIBLE and there would be nothing for it, as mother did not rage.

Am I supposed to experience something other than anger, negativity, and rejection after this?

If BM, with its generally positive actions, creates situations that the ex-wife will then disentangle for a LONG time ...
When, for the sake of momentary popularity, it REALLY causes long-term harm to a child ...
When with his “I want with a child here and now” he violates the family’s plans drawn up in advance, thus striking a blow to the authority of the mother (which is unequivocally unprofitable for the child) ...

And I'm still wondering who ex-wives licenses the right to distribute labels and conduct a moral assessment of new wives. And after all, it doesn’t even occur to any of the “she-morally-doesn’t fit” applicants that these assessments are of little concern to anyone and will have little effect on anything if there is a desire to ignore such things.

Today I found out that my husband got married. It's only been 1 year and 5 months since our divorce. strange feelings some. When they got divorced, he swore that he would never marry again. We got married in the church ... I thought that after the wedding it was impossible to get married. I'm not happy, but I'm not crying either.

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Did you find out by chance or are you constantly interested in his affairs?
I think that he survived "decency" more than a year. On this side, you have nothing to be sad about. And the fact that I got married, I understand. Now he has become a complete stranger to you. But you know, give yourself time, and for you it will soon become an empty phrase. I think you are sad because you still feel a kinship with him. Take a break. Life is going. And there are places for ex-husbands in it.

BM got married probably six months after ours official divorce. in a new family gave birth to a second child.
And I don't care if he's happy or not. I'm sorry... that I made a mistake at the time.

What do men want to see in women in their twenties, thirties, forties and older?
... Dear ladies, of course, there are no rules without exceptions. In this chapter, I have tried to paint only a general picture of what happens to men as they reach each new milestone of biological age. I will be happy if what I have shared with you helps you achieve love and respect from men and build harmonious relationship which you certainly deserve. A chapter from the book "You Know Nothing About Men"...

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Most people were brought up and continue, according to the pattern of the customs of society, instinct, decrees of authoritative personalities in the form of parents, etc., to say common definition without your personal opinion. The sciences of human research are reduced to these underestimated, and rather incorrect indicators, from the point of view of ideality. My opinion is this / At the age of 33, the end of the formation of a man’s worldview (the end of education, a clear picture, thoughts, ideas, etc.) Provided that self-importance has been developed through self-study (not education, not copying examples from a person!) And blood, genetics 80 % depends on her (intellectually). But unfortunately I am not aware of the girls!

well, a 50-year-old bachelor is already a diagnosis

He constantly yells at her, does not hesitate to call her a fool. I see that he is wrong, that the girl needs praise, encouragement and support. The husband also wants peace, a second child. And how can I imagine what these bans can result in in six years ... Well, if it turns into rebellion and rudeness, but if it turns into drug addiction? A man marries a woman because he loves her, and not at all her child, besides, born from another person. Of course, the baby does not seem to be a stranger, he is part of his beloved woman, with whom he wants to tie his fate. But the child takes too much time and attention from his mother, and the second spouse finds himself in a situation of being abandoned. A rare man can accept a child from another person as his own, and this cannot be demanded of him. TO...

I recently found out that my husband is talking to a girl. It's unclear how far they've gone in the relationship. Their relationship continues for no more than 3 months. She was not married, no children, she is 30 years old. I know her mobile phone, what is her name (last name and first name), found her photo on the Internet (much inferior to me in beauty). I know where she works. I know her ICQ number. I found out about the connection by accident, firstly, I felt it by the changed attitude towards me, and secondly, I read their love SMS correspondence, with bunnies and tender ...

I am like a child with him. At first, Stas was terribly angry when he found Vanka at our house, once he even wanted to lower him down the stairs. But somehow Ivan came half-dead with pneumonia and almost died before our eyes, and here the husband resigned himself. Now, when friends who are not in the know ask him who Vanya is, Stas replies: "This is my stepson. I thought that I would marry a youngster, but she has a son-a fool. That's how women learned to hide their age!" Psychologist's Summary: Such an alliance will not last long. Sooner or later, Stas will get tired of the third extra, and he will put forward an ultimatum, or he himself will feel superfluous and leave Marina. No matter how extravagant it may seem family life Marina, a situation where an ex-husband tries to interfere in a new marriage...
... You do not quarrel, do not sort things out and do not compete in wit in front of a child - and rightly so! When meeting with such a husband-friend, discuss children's affairs, consult about important issues regarding the present and future of your child, but do not translate the conversation into the plane of personal experiences. Neither he nor you need it anymore. Ex-husband- enemy. This also happens. Pre-divorce passions were so heated that you don’t even want to see each other. But you don’t dare to leave the child alone with the father either: “He does everything wrong”, “He uses the child as a spy”, “He pours mud on me!”. What to do? There are two options: or, having collected the remnants of benevolence and patience ...

Knowing about the merits of his father, he will regret the illness that has knocked him down, but he will not feel hatred and disgust for him, some of which he will transfer to himself. Your ex-husband got married... But think about what can change in your life and in the life of your child for the better? Imagine the future of your child, how you and your ex-husband will experience his teenage tricks, first love, prom, wedding. Let the bonds of love and marriage not bind you, but the feeling of kinship, common cares and joys can make you truly good friends. Everyone will benefit from this, especially your baby. Nadezhda Yurgina family psychologist Sta...

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We have lived for 7 years, we are raising a son for 5 years. I live as a husband and child, they are like air for me ... But my husband fell out of love, filed for divorce. It’s hard for me. Very. Burden him with your love? I love him too much ... I have to live. The theory is good, but how will it be in real life? Will I be able to create a bridge of friendship with my father?

Anechka 13.8.2004 Very agree with you and with you Olga 14.11.2004.
My husband and I separated six months ago, we have not yet officially divorced (he is in no hurry, but I cannot take the first step). I still love him, we have a 4-year-old son, a copy of dad. I now have a person who is ready (as he says) to love both me and the child, but it makes me sick, because I understand that neither me nor the son of a real dad and beloved husband will be replaced by any good man. Yes, he behaves better native dad but are we all perfect? But dad found a "good" girl. I wonder how you can be a good girl and at the same time break up a family? And I don't know what to do with the lives (of my own and my son's). Maybe you need to live according to the principle "be patient - fall in love" and "let the son and uncle be good friends, sometimes it's better than loving dad unable to raise his child. "Who knows the answer - write.

For such remarks - since recently, however, since - I get "thank you". Previously, he did not really react to my reproaches, calls to relax. Even angry. Then I said: "Go alone to where you are so preoccupied. I won't make any more remarks to you, I'm not a nanny! Why do I need this?" And mine smart husband replied that he would no longer spoil my mood with his concern. I believe ... I also "got" him with claims to clothes (probably, many husbands suffer from this; but what handsome men!). At first, Leonid scandalized, said that he had dressed, got ready, that we were late ... I answered: "Let's be better late than I'll be all day in bad mood because of your appearance; who is looking at you?
... "You were fired from your job? That's what you need!" Those from whom they do not leave tactfully dispel men's fears. "Kicked out of work? With your golden hands - we will not be lost!" In our family, the word "I'm afraid" is forbidden. We are not afraid of anything. 9. I try to become more beautiful than myself. I immediately found out: what do you want? And then, after all, how it turns out: a guy married a plump and black woman, and a year later she decided to become thin and white. And women who wear what their husband does not like are strange to me. I was ordered a thin figure and blonde hair more authentic. Ordered "no trousers", ordered shorter dresses. Comfortable shoes. OK! This is what I'm always working on. I'm losing weight, growing my hair ... The number of compliments from my husband is increasing. Another husband...

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I liked the ending about "even more curly"

You know, in fact, it happens that they leave both the cheerful and the beautiful and the docile. And they do not leave the terrible, fat and groomed. And on what it depends - it is impossible to understand ...

"I live in two families and do not know what to do in this situation!" were the first words of my client.

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Every person must think. If a person cannot make a decision, it means that he lacks some information.
The most important thing in this situation is honesty. Everyone should know what everyone thinks.
I myself am now in a situation of making a choice. I have already spoken honestly with my wife, now I am waiting for a calm answer from her.
Alas, in addition to the happiness of a man, the happiness of the family and children lies on the scales. The choice is difficult and real choice done once in a lifetime.

If he cannot make a choice, then this, sorry, is not a man, but Buridan's donkey.

When they, peers, create a family in their youth, marrying for their first (or second) love, both are completely satisfied with each other. But time goes by, children grow up, now silver wedding on the horizon - and suddenly the husband begins to look "at the young." Is this always explained by the notorious truth "the demon in the ribs"? By no means! The elderly husband has other serious reasons behave like this. Sexual dissatisfaction C sexual culture in the generation born in the forties and fifties, as you know, the situation is almost the same. Of course, this is not their fault, but a misfortune, but this does not make it easier for them, first of all. After all, as a result of "unenlightenment" - twenty years of living at night in the same position under...
...Of course, a controversial postulate, but for such girls it serves as a rather strong consolation. Such, even if she is a beauty, in the depths of her soul does not even hope to charm a "free" man and marry him to herself. In the meantime, she has a family man in her "cavaliers", there is an excellent excuse for society: "He will not marry me because the divorce has not yet been filed." Moreover, in fact, it is not at all necessary to marry ... Thirdly, there is a certain category of women who vitally need to assert themselves at the expense of others. In particular, take away someone else's partner, even if he is not needed at all. But if she was given preference, then she is better than "that old wife." And nako...

He she. And her child. Love | "Your child will not be a hindrance"

To make it clearer, imagine that a man is estimating: his income is enough to provide a decent standard of living for himself, his wife and two children, the third child does not fit into the budget. This automatically means that if this man marries a mother with a child, then he can have only one child of his own. And if you marry a mother with two children, then it may turn out that the matter will no longer reach his heirs. Thirdly, someone else's child is a constant reminder of who used to sleep with this woman. Agree, few men would like to build relationships with a woman who has a portrait of her "ex" hanging on the wall in her bedroom. And k...
... And one more thing: for some reason, a man is almost always charged with the duty to love the children of his woman, to treat them as if they were his own. But rarely is a woman ready to respond in kind if a man has children from a previous relationship. How many groans on the topic: "He has a spoiled daughter, she interferes in our lives, her husband spends too much money on her!" In a word, summarizing what has been said. I'm not saying that it's unrealistic to get carried away by a woman with a child. But she must be a very, very outstanding personality, be able to interest, captivate, be a worthy companion, successful in her career, initially self-sufficient. And to see in the satellite, first of all, a man, and not a wallet and a worker ...

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I would not accept someone else's child, but I would not be able to endure a man who would not love my child. I may be selfish, but it is very difficult for me to show emotions to other people's children.

There are a lot of people around me who are raising children of spouses from previous relationships, and they are happy.

Where is the guarantee that he himself will not deceive you later?.. What can be offered as a safer alternative? Probably, only to invite the lady to think about why a particular man himself does not want to start a family with her and have children. There are several reasons for this, and if you want, further actions very strongly depend on these very reasons. Maybe he himself is still a child at heart, and simply has not matured to be a husband and father? As they say, every vegetable has its time, and if you still drag it to the registry office, well, he will play with you in the family, and then over time he will be carried away by other toys. Or vice versa, he mature person and understands the full measure of responsibility that falls on his shoulders when registering marriage and paternity: but at the same time, his life is simply different ...

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I would like to hear opinions from the outside, my head is already thinking badly: ((I have a beloved husband, we have been together for 8 years, my daughter is 4 years old. Four months ago I found out that my husband had an affair for 2 years. I found out by accident, he could deny, but "He didn't. He said that he loves me, that these relationships are needed only for self-affirmation, etc. Well, in general, probably what men usually say in such cases. He promised that this would all be over, that I could trust him again. I weighed all the pros and cons, decided that not ...

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I have a friend in Moscow...
Married 19 years, 2 teenage kids..
the sweetheart appeared, but it didn’t seem to be a sweetheart at all ... but at the party she still slept with him .. and flew in .., gave birth to herself ...
a friend knew, but pretends not to know ..., there is no trust in her husband, she is waiting for the children to turn 18 years old ...
completely different people became each other ..
and her husband did not go to the child and the sweetheart did not ask for anything ... but a couple of years ago the child went to first grade and the sweetheart called ... like the son wants a computer, but for now there is no money, can you help?
he bought a computer and told my girlfriend ..
no longer communicates like ... but who knows?????

you - make a decision that is beneficial to you ... it will not be the same as before ...

Directly according to A. Marinina - read to the end - you will find out what will happen :(

How common is this situation? After 10 years, for example. According to my observations, after a divorce, all men are divided into two types - the first - whine, drink too much - in general, they degrade in all directions. The latter, on the contrary, get married quite quickly, create a new, most often stable family (since they are getting older and more experienced and do everything wisely from the first day), but, perhaps, the first marriage .. the memory of the first relationship (children?) of peace does not give ... But, it is clear that the second type becomes ...

My current man was officially married 3 times. There are children from the first two marriages. Wants to spend "the rest of the days" with me. 15 years older than me. He is under 50. A lot of thoughts crept into my brain..... Can a man "stop"? That is where is the guarantee that I will last wife? I understand that no one can give guarantees, well, you know what I mean .....

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Good way- sex, a lot of sex, nightclubs and right there - plentiful fatty food and wine + expensive cigars. The heart will not stand it ... but it will die happy ... :))))

Actually, maybe. Observed this as well. And there are wonderful marriages. BUT ... often elementary reasons such as illnesses, operations: ((That is, here life no longer allows you to roam. And I would also look not at the number of official wives, but at the number of unofficial connections. Maybe he is on every girlfriend married!!!:))))))))) Then he is an angel in the flesh. The most important thing- attitude towards mother, children, help, etc. Ie. if it pulls, it helps, that's one thing. The degree of reliability is normal. If children and grandchildren are abandoned, there are more chances that they will leave their next wife and child again: ((

My husband just hates such words as "husband", "wife", "spouses". Sometimes you have to call him that, he just shakes. Even if in jest, he does not understand such humor. I try once again not to use these words, but sometimes I still have to, when I need to indicate the status of a man next to me. This is Vasya, my ... uh .... husband (I know that he is boiling inside), but what else can I say? Beloved, lover, faithful .... how? Actually, we have been officially married for 1.5 years, our son is about to be a year old. We are 25 years old...

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We have no problems in this regard, but here we have some acquaintances, I don’t know why, I didn’t ask, but they call each other “my half” :)) Very nice, at least not as slobbering as the beloved, the only one .. . I like:))

Well, I forbid calling myself a wife! It shakes me too. Why is it so hard for you to adjust? Personally, I am very satisfied with the performance by Name, First Name, Patronymic, even My + name will calmly endure. Ask him what's on his mind. Once a year, at a completely unfamiliar reception, you can separately say to people you know and strangers: "Let's go, I'll introduce my husband to you." And with him, no gu-gu, only by name. Is it difficult? If receptions are frequent, then you are already known as a couple. Why tease the bull? There are some agreements in any couple, for example, I tolerate his mom's red curtains, huge paintings of his mom's girlfriend, and that my brother's wife stubbornly calls my child behind the eyes with a stupid name, but he also tolerates my bells and whistles. Such as this one. I think that such a wish is very innocent. You can totally respect him.)