An example of a letter to a foreigner in different languages. Choose the first phrases to meet a girl or a guy

Often young people do not want and do not know how to get acquainted on the street (due to innate modesty) or do not have the time and opportunity for this (due to a busy schedule and high employment), but everyone wants to build new relationships, which is why men turn to social networks and dating sites in search of the perfect girl.

Interesting phrases for guys: use when meeting

Despite the fact that the world is now propagating the idea of " magic pill”(pump up the press in a week, lose 17 kg in a month, get a girl in 1 day, buy yourself cool clothes and you will become cool yourself), there are things that really work.

For example, when you first meet, you can use these options:

You know, the Constitution says you can't deprive a person of the right to happiness.
Today I finally understood for whom I registered on a dating site ...
Hello Anya! My name is Max. I stumbled across your page by accident and wanted to get to know you. The smile on the avatar is painfully charming 🙂
Hello Sveta! I was looking for posts on the hashtag #anapa in the news, and accidentally landed on your page. I saw that we are both from the same city, and that you went there this summer. Wouldn't it take me a long time to ask a couple of questions about the trip? By the way, I forgot to introduce myself - my name is Arkady.
I lost the bet, and for that I have to ask the most beautiful girl in the world on a date!
Hello Tanya! My name is Oleg. I saw the photos and videos that you recently posted to the Bon Jovi group and wanted to ask how it went? In Moscow it was not possible to go, but the day after tomorrow they will be in St. Petersburg. So I'm wondering if I should go or not?
Hello. I know things about you that others don't know...
Hello! I'm one of those pushy guys who think you're stunningly beautiful.
Your parents deserve a Nobel Prize. Or what do they give out to the creators of world masterpieces?
I guess I'm not the first one who wants to meet you. But I am the best. Do you want to check?

Or simpler, uncomplicated phrases like:

Hello! I have been looking for you for a long time, and you are here!
I've wanted to meet this girl for a long time.
Your beauty cannot be compared to anything. You are unique!
Is there any chance for me to meet such a beautiful girl? If yes, let me know.
Are you by any chance from royal family? Look like a princess!
I had a desire to find happiness after seeing your profile.
Girl, do you have a dream? And I dream to meet you.
Hello. And I saw you today in a dream. Help me make it a reality.
I read in your profile that you don't smoke. Always dreamed of meeting a girl who leads healthy lifestyle life.
Do you remember me? We met in a dream. But I was sitting on a white horse.
Are you looking for the perfect man by any chance?
Let me make you happy.
Today is such a wonderful day. How not to write to such a beautiful girl?
I got very lucky today. I found the most charming and sweet girl. May I meet you?
Girl, what are you planning to do for the rest of your life? Is it possible to include me in the list of your life plans?
Do you know that you hit me with your look? You are insanely beautiful!
You must have put in a lot of effort and energy to look so good. I fell for your bait.

In this video, psychologists Anton and Ekaterina will tell you how you can determine how interested a girl is in you using tests:

With these options, you will surely be able to win her attention:

You couldn't smile, otherwise it's dark outside.
How do you do it?.. Look so good.
Why did you stop smiling, I just started falling in love?!
Have you had young people crawling at your feet before?
You are so beautiful that I forgot the phrase with which I wanted to address you!
Many already today sent off? I have only three so far. Well, the arrogant girls are gone now.
You must have started. At least you're scary for me.
You are so cool that I am ready to drink bath water after you!
Girl, are you interested in cute unmarried guys? No, I'm not talking about myself, I'm talking about a friend. His girlfriend is a bitch and left him. And you are not a bitch?
On the street: Walk past her, then turn around sharply and ask: "Didn't you just pinch my ass? .. No? .. Too bad ..."
Is it okay that I come to you with such a smart look?
Could you wake me up tomorrow morning by calling my cell phone, otherwise I'm afraid to oversleep.
Girl, can you tell me how to get to your heart?
I looked in the dictionary for a synonym for the word "beautiful" - your name there was also...
Girl, I'm looking for a dance partner... Allow me to examine you more closely.
And you, by chance, do not have my book? .. No? Yes, I gave it to someone to read, and to whom ... I only remember that someone is very nice!
And what will you do tonight, after we get to know you?
Shall we talk, or will we continue to wink?
You did not see by chance, here five minutes ago my White horse did not run?
You smiled so beautifully that I forgot where I was going.
Unfortunately, now I don't have time to melt your cold look, but I can call you in the evening.
What is your shoe size? .. I have the 45th. Well, we got to know each other!
Girl, how long do you think it's decent to be late?
Hello! Today we are lucky ... We met.
Girl, please call an ambulance! Cupid just shot me!
Hello! Recognized? ... So I didn’t recognize you right away either.
Let me take you home. At least with a glance.
I have an unusual question for you - what do you need to say to a girl to get a slap in the face? ..
Girl, excuse me, but your legs are not tired? .. You always do not get out of my head.
Girl, do you know what makes Tefal dishes good? The fact that it can hit on the head of someone who is very tired, and since you now do not have this valuable dish, I decided to get to know you better and ask for a phone number.
Do you play trombone? No... Me too! See how much we have in common. Let's get to know each other better?
Sorry I forgot my phone number. Won't you borrow yours?
You know, after a long search, I finally found a cafe where you and I can have a wonderful time.
Do you have a thread to start our relationship right here?
Girl, do you have a compass? A hourglass? I think it's not worth asking about the barometer.
Girl, your help is urgently needed! .. The fact is that I'm going to drown. And your eyes are perfect for that.
The only thing your eyes didn't tell me was your name.
I'm a visitor. Can you tell me how to get to your house?
I noticed that you noticed me, and I would like to notice that I noticed you too.
Girl, don’t you know why the lens is round, but the photos are square?
Giving flowers to a girl: “I really wanted to show this rose (tulip, mimosa, etc.) how beautiful you are ...”
If you think that I am going to meet you, then you are mistaken - I also want to invite you on a date!
Girl, don't you know New Year will it be this year or next?
Girl, over there, do you see that young man? So he doesn't know yet, doesn't know yet... And what's your name?.. And my name is Sasha. So, here - that young man does not yet know that we just met.
You know, I have absolutely no idea what I should say to get to know you, but let's better imagine that I have already said all this.
Girl, did you sleep well yesterday? And didn't even flinch? I couldn't sleep all night waiting for our meeting.
Girl, do you have a home Plush Toys? Me too! Let's introduce them.
I bet you are a stubborn person... I read in a magazine that girls who wear round earrings/red pants/green bags/whatever have very stubborn personalities. (Most people consider themselves stubborn, so it's easy to strike up a conversation.)
Can you tell me in which direction you need to go in order to meet a SIMULTANEOUSLY ATTRACTIVE AND SMART girl?
Don't you remember me, I lived next door? No? And no wonder - after all, I have never lived near you. Maybe we have everything ahead of us?
When I get old, I will remember the most bright moments of my life: the day my children were born, the day I got married, and the day I met you.
Please remind me what I was wearing when we saw each other last time?
Girl, do you meet young and pretty people?
Girl wait! You seem to have lost something!.. I don't see your smile anywhere!! Ah, no! Here I found it!!
Girl, kiss me if I'm wrong, but it seems your name is Antonina?
Girl, you know what I just saw? I saw a young man just meet a girl. And literally after five minutes of conversation, they communicated as if they had known each other for 100 years. By the way, you know how the young man started the conversation. He said: “Do you know what I just saw? ..”

Girl, I'm sorry, didn't you get hit by a shrapnel? .. It's just that you, passing by, broke my heart. I thought, suddenly I hooked you?
Such a beautiful girl should have a beautiful phone number!
How did you know that I'm here?
Can you forgive yourself... if I don't get to know you?
My friend said that being sent by a girl is very difficult. I made a bet with him for 20 rubles, so you can help me earn money for beer. But I ask you - the message must be of high quality and original!)
You appear in front of a sitting girl, you say: "I'll come right now." And you disappear, after which you reappear, but already as an old acquaintance of hers.
I knew that the most beautiful girls are here!
I am ready to erect a monument to the inventor of the Internet - because without him I would never have seen a photo like this charming girl, how are you!
Girl, I can’t help myself: the charm emanating from you works even through the Internet.
My dream is to get into those 30% of the lucky ones who found their soul mate on the Internet. Can you help me with this?
From your page on the social network I learned that you are a big fan of vanilla coffee. But, unfortunately, the Internet is not yet able to convey the taste and aroma of this drink of the gods. Can I still treat you in real life?
I don't know what Internet gods to thank for seeing your photo on social networks. And it's a spark, it's madness!
Girl, can you help me find my pulse?
I don't usually meet girls like this...
I'm sorry to interrupt, but I need to urgently inform you that you are terribly cute.
I've been thinking of a reason to meet you for an hour, but so far nothing has come to my mind.
You know, I just realized one thing. I could have stayed at home today and never found out about your existence. Terrible prospect, right?
Hello! I have a completely unconventional question for you. I'm interested in what you would say young man, who turned to you with the phrase: "Let's get to know each other?"
And what does it feel like to be beautiful girl in this city?
The gypsy told me that today I would meet a beauty in (say the color of the girl's clothes). Does this description remind you of anyone?
Allow me to offer you a hand and a heart. I am a surgeon, I have this stuff in bulk.
Your right eye is lighter than your left - I've never seen anything like this in my life! Or so it seems to me? We need to figure it out and get to know each other better.
There's something wrong with my eyes - I can't take them away from you.
Oh my God! Imagine, I thought I was gay until I met you!
Excuse me, but what do you do the rest of your life?
Are you Catherine, my contact? No? It's a pity ... Maybe then I can treat you to coffee as a token of apology for mistaking?
You are beautiful like a star! Only the stars are beautiful at night, and you are beautiful during the day.
Did you meet me in Anapa in 2008? No? And no wonder, because I was not there. And where did you meet me, do not tell me?
Can you tell me what the current rate of the Spanish peseta is? And the Portuguese escudo?
You have arrested me with your beauty, and I would be happy to serve a life sentence in the captivity of your heart.
You know, it's terribly nice to see at least one girl walking slowly. In our time, everyone is running like that ... In our city it will soon be like in the ancient tribes: caught up - it means you got married, if you didn’t catch up - it’s your own fault. Do you know such a custom?
My request may seem crazy to you, but I just bought a lottery ticket and I want you to kiss it and bring me good luck.
I'm sorry... I just want to thank you!.. Have you ever had a day when you felt alienated, indifferent? When you're not entirely happy, and not...when you feel like you're going with the flow. And suddenly you run into someone and see a surprisingly warm and beautiful smile, which instills in you a feeling of happiness, fairy tales, a sense of beauty for the whole day? .. You see, I didn’t want to distract you at all, but you look like you have adorned my life with your appearance ...
Your parents are thieves! Two stars have disappeared from the sky, they are burning now in your eyes.
I wanted to compare you to a star, but that would be unfair to you. After all, the stars are beautiful only at night, and you are always beautiful.
Excuse me, can you help me? I am a journalist and I am assigned to interview the most beautiful girl in the city.
Hello! The ruble is falling, and my interest in you is growing ...
Girl, you look so much like my first wife! I haven't met her yet...
Hello. I decided to open a help center for homeless cockroaches. Can you help me with my pet?
You are so sad... Can I take your sadness? I need it for experiments.
Hello! Listen, my friends and I are doing a study on the topic "What is the best phrase to get to know such a spectacular girl, How are you…"
You are so sad. Can I take your sadness? I need it for experiments.

These words should never be written

This will only push the interlocutor away from you, never text her:

I would like to see you up close!
Hello! How are you?
Wanna ride my Hummer?
I really like you, and I don't know why.
You look like my ex, only much better!
I oh...ate when I saw you.
It seems to me that I don’t fit you in status, but I’ll try anyway ...
I like pose number 69 from Kamasutra, how about you?
Girl, don't you know how I'd better spend my ten thousand?
Girl, I'm on the ad. Are you giving away your phone number for free?
Girl, does your mom need a son-in-law?
And you are awfully beautiful. It's even scary to approach you!

Typical mistakes guys make when texting a girl

Below we describe the most common mistakes all the guys who only push the girls away:

Don't text just for the sake of getting positive emoticons and good reactions from her. It will only destroy everything between you.
Don't pretend to be someone you are not.
Do not "mow" under too smart in private messages with her. Don't quote Shakespeare or facts from evolutionary biology.
Don't write overly large, unwieldy texts. Volumetric texts take a very long time to write. Because of this, the thread of the conversation between you is lost. Brevity is the soul of wit.
Don't go overboard with compliments. No need to remind her through every word that she is beautiful, and this is your first experience of correspondence with such a beautiful girl.
Communicate with her in private messages, and not somewhere in the comments under the photo. The girl will behave in a completely different way and write the wrong things at all if your correspondence is going on in front of everyone.
Write correctly and without errors, without swearing. This will only be a plus in your piggy bank. The girl is not your bro. She does not need to write all sorts of curse words that you use in correspondence with friends.

Know that you want to see her in person first and not chat forever on the internet. Do not stick with her on the Internet for hours. Call for a meeting as soon as you feel that this moment has already come.

Video: how to chat with a girl correctly?

In this video, Alexey Samsonov will tell you what to write to that very impregnable beauty from the social network:

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A beautiful love letter to your beloved man, boyfriend

Hello my lovely! It's been years since the day we accidentally grabbed the same ice cream at the counter, do you remember? And you didn't let go for a few seconds. And I was surprised at the impudence and decided to fight to the death for the last ice cream in this stall. Of course, then you made excuses, kept talking about my bottomless blue eyes, from which there was a noise in my head and my consciousness turned off. And I laughed merrily and did not trust a single word, because I knew what kind of guys can sing praises, just to powder the girl's head.

Until dawn, we wandered with you along the shore of the pond, along the linden alley. It seemed that this ice cream, already eaten for a long time, became our common star, one for two, like the one that slowly, slowly fell from the sky, so that we managed to make a wish together. And you never told me what you thought of that night. Do you remember, darling? We all walked and walked, holding hands and looking at each other as if we would never see each other again. But we met the next day. And than.

Do you remember the first time you wanted to kiss me? Do you remember how embarrassed and tangled your tongue at this request? And I was seething inside: the stupidest person! Why ask when you can see with your eyes! But you did not see, you were glowing with paint, although it was dark, and the distant lamp highlighted our shadows on the asphalt path. And how we kissed! Selflessly, to pain, to small cracks on the lips! Sweet and salty, remember?

You asked me to marry you on the bus when we were driving from the skating rink. It was so funny: disheveled hair that had fallen out from under the cap and stuck to the forehead, cheeks dyed crimson by frost and a bewildered look. Were you afraid that I would refuse? And I agreed! Immediately, without hesitation, without consulting with my mother and grandmother! It was then that they shouted that I was a careless, stupid girl who was dropping out of her studies and career because of the first person she met. They also cried, dressing me up on my wedding day, they both roared in a voice, no in three voices. I also cried with them, not knowing why. Maybe from happiness, or maybe for the company.

You went to the army, did not excuse yourself, although you graduated from high school. And he could hide behind our son. You didn't. I'm offended. Silly, how I did not understand male honor, pride. In general, patriotism - the word then for me was completely distant and alien. And only later I became proud of you, my love, I realized how important it was for you to serve your Motherland, protect the country, parents, me and your own son. How you rejoiced at his clumsy words! How he tormented him when he returned! I was jealous, yes, very jealous of both of you for each other. Alone, you belonged to me without a trace, and together you seemed to be able to do without me. Silly! How can you do without me!

And now I'm sitting on the edge of the bed, where you haven't had time to wake up yet. I look at you, my love, and I feel myself happy woman in the world. I have a house, I have a son, I have you. So big, strong, smart and kind, you have been in my life for ten years. And you haven't forgotten about our date. Here it is, ice cream on the nightstand. You brought it at night and didn't wake me up. Melted. Well, let. We'll eat it together when you wake up.

Other beautiful love letters to your beloved man, boyfriend:

Your first letter

General tone of the first letter

First impressions last forever

Your first letter is your first personal contact with a man, and it depends on it whether or not your relationship will be in the future. You will never get a second chance to make a first impression. There is an expression in English: "First impressions last" - the first impressions remain for a long time.

The principle of constructing the first letter

Whether you're responding to an ad or a potential candidate's email, the principle of building your first email is the same.

The first letter to a man should be long enough to interest him, but not get bored - 1.5-2 pages. It should be informative, but at the same time entertaining and interesting. A little bit of humor is always welcome.

And, of course, it must be in English (or mother tongue men). A man is unlikely to run to look for an interpreter; rather, he would prefer to answer another letter. Prepare the initial "sample" of the first letter, and in the future you will only have to vary the details slightly, sending it to different men.

Begin the letter with "Hi", or "Dear", putting the man's name after the address. "Hi" has an informal connotation, "Dear" is more strict, usually translated as "respected". Mention where you got the man's address from if you are the initiator of the contact. Say that you are looking for just such a partner as him, and quote a few phrases from his own description.

If you are the initiator of the contact, mention where you got the man's address from. Say that you are looking for just such a partner as he is, and quote a few phrases from his own description.

If you are responding to a letter from a man, first of all thank him for his attention and warm letter, and say that you liked it very much (I suppose if you didn’t like the letter, you just write a short note with a refusal). It is important to show the man that you carefully read his ad or profile, and not just send the same letter to everyone. Quote or paraphrase a couple of phrases that you liked the most and say that you think that you might be right for each other (I think we may be right for each other) and that you would like to start corresponding with him to find out if this is so (I would be happy to start corresponding with you and get to know each other better).

Briefly tell us who you live with, whether you have brothers and sisters, what education you received, where and with whom you work. This whole "autobiography" should not take up more than half a page - but this is very important, Western people attach great importance family ties.

Next, tell us what kind of person you are, what you like and dislike, what you value in people, what you dream about, what place your family occupies in your life. If you have children, tell a little about them, especially if the man also has children. (For more on what to say about yourself, see What to say about yourself.)

When you talk about your positive qualities, sometimes it seems inconvenient to "overpraise" yourself - give your description as if from the words of others ("My friends say that I am." - "My friends say that I am."). Tell us in detail about your hobbies - not just "I love music", but what kind of music do you prefer, what bands are your favorite. If you have animals in the house, tell about them, oh funny cases with them and in general about funny cases with you, if they are "in the subject."

Ask a few questions about what you would like to know about the man, about his country. It is desirable that questions about the country be more specific, let the man understand that you already know a lot about his homeland, but would like to know more.

A man should feel that he is interesting to you. Ask if he is going to come to Russia, and if he is going to, then when he plans to travel. Say that you will be happy to be his guide when he arrives.

How to make your writing stand out from others

Try to make your letter original, the way you yourself would like to receive. Constantly correct and supplement the original sample.

At one time, within a few months, I wrote a wonderful first letter, to which I received about 9 responses for 10 letters sent (with an average coefficient of 2-3 responses). My knowledge of English at that time left much to be desired, to put it mildly, and I constantly had difficulty expressing my thoughts. How to find a way out of this situation?

I used letters I received from men. When I found an idea, phrase, or expression I liked, I included it in my sample letter. Gradually, I came up with a great message - interesting, fun and, most importantly, 100% "English".

Your letter should not give the impression that you are unhappy. It should come from a woman who is completely satisfied with herself, life and others, but who is not enough for the complete happiness of a loved one.

Topics that should not be developed in the first letter: problems in Everyday life, shortcomings of Russian men, unsuccessful marriages, politics, the size of your salary, problems with money or health, drugs and alcohol in Russia, etc. You don't want a man to think that a foreign marriage is just a means to escape from the harsh Russian reality for you, do you?

General tone of the first letter

Try to carry on as if you were already friends. Do not be afraid of men - they are afraid of you. Ask the man to answer your letter, write that you are really looking forward to his answer.

Be sure to include your photo. The photo does not have to be professional - a high-quality amateur one will do. If the photo is not from a studio, write a short comment about where and when it was taken.

FIRST LETTER TO A MAN FOR ACQUAINTANCE: EXAMPLE

HOW TO WIN A MAN'S HEART

Since the time of Pushkin's Tatyana, the norms of etiquette have seriously changed. Writing to a man first today is not at all shameful, it is a sign of an active and purposeful woman. If you have registered in a dating service that involves correspondence, and you want to interest a man in your first letter, you should use the following rules.

Top 10 Rules for Initial Chatting with a Man

Avoid template expressions. Phrases from the series "Hi, how are you?" or "Do you want to meet?" beaten. The first impression that a man gets after reading them is that this woman is banal, she most likely has a small lexicon. Better try to use more original expressions to start dating. Example: “Are you also looking for a pretty, outgoing and fun girl? Here I am!"

The first letter to a man for acquaintance is an example of an unobtrusive sign of attention. Ask him about things that are important to him. This is not yet the moment when the candidate needs to be interrogated with prejudice. One or two questions are enough, and they should be pleasant, such that he himself wants to answer them. Based on the information from his profile or on his photographs.

Example: “The photo in the background is such a beautiful landscape, reminiscent of Switzerland. You were there?"

Encourage him to talk about himself. Give the interlocutor the opportunity to speak out, become a grateful listener. Let him know that you are interested in getting to know him.

Stand out. In the first letter, it is important to hook the addressee. Tell us about your unusual hobbies or hobbies. But you shouldn't imagine that you are an ardent fan of snowboarding and climbing, if in fact you are terribly afraid of heights and prefer to relax by the fireplace with your favorite novel.

Maintain intrigue. Don't tell everything about yourself at once. Don't clutter up the letter. It is better to give out “secret information” bit by bit. Men love it when a woman has a mystery. This increases your chances that he will want to know more about you and continue to get to know you.

Don't write about problems. Don't scare your new friend. On initial stage communication should be easy and bring only pleasure. If the relationship moves into a more serious phase, you will have time to discuss all the pressing issues. Remember, this is the first letter to a man for dating. An example of phrases that can scare a potential groom:

"All previous men have disappointed me."

"I'm all alone, and I'm so sad..."

"Hope you're not one of those people who don't answer emails."

"My two children really need a father."

Don't go overboard with compliments. Everything should be in moderation. Here is an anti-example of such excessive praise for you: “When I saw you, I immediately thought that you were the one I needed. You look like the man in my dreams. You are just perfect."

Remove jargon. Keep a literary style and restrained tone, otherwise the addressee may think that you are not a serious person. If you communicate with a foreigner, he may not understand you at all.

Avoid controversial topics. For example, questions of political preferences at the beginning of communication should definitely not be touched upon.

Be yourself. This is the first letter to a man for acquaintance. He doesn't need a role model. He wants to know the real you. So, while observing all of the above, try to be sincere at the same time!

If you want to get to know a man without racking your brains over the first letter, we suggest you do it via Skype. We will select for you really interesting candidates for husbands who will meet your needs, and we ourselves will establish initial contact with them on your behalf. Do you want to know how things are going? Ask your questions to our consultant. Contacts for communication here.

Writing a love letter to a man

Writing love letters to your loved ones is a long tradition, although somewhat modified. Now they write mainly emails, sms, messages through social media skype. Traditional paper letters still have their charm. You can touch them, inhale the scent of perfume-scented paper, press them to your heart, even kiss them (romantic people).

Reason for writing love messages, is clear. But there are nuances: the content of love letters to a man depends on the nature of love. They are passionate, timid, sad, hopeless, pleading, joyful or filled with bitterness. There are messages addressed real partner(husband, boyfriend), your potential partner, your ex, someone else's man, or even a beautiful stranger.

sad letters

Perhaps, let's start with the sad ones, then we will consider more life-affirming variants of letters. Sad love letters to a man are the result of unrequited, sometimes hopeless, doomed love, sometimes asking for love, where there is hope for reciprocity.

Letter of hope for reciprocity

Associatively, Tatyana Larina is remembered, who wrote a similar message to Eugene Onegin. Such a letter can be sentimental, a little begging, touching, or vice versa, bold and passionate. The main thing is that the letter should be sincere, revealing emotional experiences. Like this:

When I saw you, the ground left from under my feet, my breath caught, my heart beat faster. I then realized that I was waiting for you all my life. Please hear me, understand. You are my Destiny. I want to see you, enjoy your touches, hear the music of your voice, gently hug you, die from our kisses. I love you forever...

Hopeless or unconditional love letter

There is love unconditional, humble, accessible to the chosen "saints" women's hearts. The feeling is directed at someone else's partner or a man who does not reciprocate. The motto of such love is: “I don’t need anything from you. I'm happy that you exist." In such a message, sadness is bright, although love is unrequited. As an option:

I breathe you. I wake up - I think about you, I wish Have a good day. I work - I remember your voice. I fall asleep - I imagine your face. Mentally I wish Good night. Your eyes are bottomless, your smile is the sweetest, the timbre of your voice is the most pleasant. You are my favorite, unique, desired. I perceive everything that happens through the prism of you: public transport, my job, any weather, music, movies, books… My heart is yours. My thoughts are for you. All of me is for you. Be happy, love! Too bad it's not with me...

joyful letters

Such letters are written by lucky women: a beloved partner is nearby, everything is harmonious, joyful, good. The message can be addressed to the past (memories of acquaintance), to the present, even to the future (modeling happy life together).

A kind of recognition-memory revives feelings. Remember in the letter the day you met, your first date, your first emotions, funny situations. What did you like right away? What made you laugh? What's hooked? For example:

You weren't alone when we met. I didn't like your companion right away. The thought flashed: "It's a pity that I'm busy!". Turns out it was a friend. How glad I was! You were on plain t-shirt And frayed jeans. You shook your shaggy hair, tried to please me, joked, looked into my eyes. I smiled, a little embarrassed. acted out the role snow queen, while she herself was drowning in sparkling blue eyes. The imaginary queen's heart melted. I was afraid you wouldn't ask for my number. You still asked...

We write a letter of encouragement. You can list the qualities of a loved one that you like, recall small joint joys, secrets. Your partner will be pleased! For example, like this:

You are special. I like your sincerity, the ability to listen to all my nonsense, to understand perfectly. I love your sparkling sense of humor. I love your courage. I'm proud of your mind. I melt from your tenderness. I like your romance, passion, ability to surprise, delight with surprises. Ready to love you forever! You are my ideal…

About future

We write a message to the future. We list the components of a joint happy life. What will life be like? How many children? Which house? We fantasize, modeling an ideal future with a loved one! Let's say:

10 years will pass. We will only love each other more. Let's build beautiful house surrounded by a garden. The house will be full of friends. We'll have naughty kids. The son is your copy. Daughter is like me. We will love them, scold them for pranks (occasionally), walk in the park, travel together. Sometimes we will send children to their parents, arranging for ourselves romantic evenings. After such dates, I will be younger, bloom again. You will admire me, I will adore you. In 10 and 20 years we will be happy...

Want to write a letter to your loved one? It's great if the beloved man is nearby. Then the letter will be joyful. If so far unlucky, you can write a sad letter. In any case, the writing process love letter- a pleasant activity or a kind of cardiac psychotherapy.

We compose a letter to a man so as to get a 100% answer

In our computer age, letters are no longer masterpieces of the epistolary genre. Gone are the days when they were written with goose quills by candlelight all night long. beautiful handwriting. When, before sending, a letter was smothered with your favorite perfume, decorated with kisses and official seals, and the received letters, tied with a silk ribbon, were carefully stored in expensive boxes for decades.

Today, handwritten letters are extremely rare, many prefer faceless electronic messages. Therefore, it is especially important to give them sincerity, to make them individual and unique, in order to attract the attention of the addressee even with a few lines.

On the site intdate.ru, we have already published an article about what can and cannot be written in letters to a man.

But how to write the first letter to a man so that he is interested in it?

First of all, each looking for a woman You may be advised not to wait for a letter, but to write first. Of course, for the most part, few women decide on this. But in vain. After all, this is a guarantee that you will not receive a letter from someone unknown whose profile does not interest you at all, and you will have a chance to wait for a response letter from a person who really interested you. Therefore, the more emails you send, the higher the chances of getting multiple responses.

Of course, not all recipients will answer you. And there are several reasons for that. For example, if your photo and profile seemed too positive to a man, then he may not answer simply because he thinks that you are too good for him, or he thinks that you just want to use him as a chance to move to another country. Or just learned from bitter experience foreign suitors think it's too beautiful girl("a la model") will just love his money.

A nondescript photograph of a woman will also not cause a desire to answer a letter, because many modern European men consider Slavic women the most beautiful, and may take their time to answer you in search of a more attractive photo.

You may not even wait for an answer if a foreign man considers that your profile contains excessive requirements for candidates for the position of the second half. Promising foreign suitors are also afraid that Russian women in their letters often adhere to an assertive tone, and sometimes openly, already in the first letter, hint that they want marriage and children.

By the way, the upbringing of many Europeans tells them that it is better to ignore the letter than to write a polite refusal about the fact that you are not suitable for them.

In any case, there is no reason to be sad. No answer - it's okay - it just means that the silent addressee is not your man.

So what do we write in the first letter?

Read here examples of letters to a foreigner in different languages.

First, the first letter should not be too long, but should also consist of two sentences too. It is enough to write 10-20 lines, in which there will be no unnecessary burdensome information, but at the same time, the letter should interest him.

Be sure to address the foreigner by name, as a faceless letter implies that this is just a template addressed to several people. And addressing by name indicates that the letter is intended for a specific addressee, and also indicates your interest in him. Remember: your letter must be original, because it is likely that the man you are interested in receives ten letters of the same type a day, and yours should be out of this pattern. Agree, a letter that simply says “hello, how are you?” won't spark any interest.

In the first letter, you do not need to write only about yourself, but on the contrary, indicate why you chose his profile, or find some common ground and talk about them. For example, if it is indicated in his profile that a man likes to travel, you can write that you also love it and indicate the places where you managed to visit.

If you can’t think of anything at all, then just write honestly that you have recently registered on the site, are still inexperienced in meeting foreigners, and for some reason you liked his profile. Will it suddenly work?

At the end of the letter, be sure to indicate your name, and it is also desirable to attach a photo. Moreover, the photo should not be the one that has already been placed in your profile, but a new one, and preferably recent. These two circumstances will oblige the man to answer your letter, because he will not have to waste time looking for you on the site, and he will immediately be able to evaluate everything.

By the way, if you still muster up the courage to write a letter first, then take care of your profile. In addition to the fact that it should be original and unique, it can be "customized" a little. That is, after evaluating the questionnaire of the chosen one and noting a number of unique points, you can indicate something in your questionnaire that will correspond to his parameters for finding a bride.

It is also worth asking one or two questions in a letter - this also encourages you to answer your message so as not to seem impolite. But do not build a letter out of questions alone - men do not want to feel like they are being interrogated, and most of them do not have the literary talent to write a multi-page answer.

Probably, it is not worth reminding that your letter must be literate, because an illiterate message will be regarded by European men as impolite, or even as an insult.

Remember, your main task is to get a response to your letter.

There are a few things that can almost certainly scare off a potential groom. Some of them are noted above. You can add to the list by saying that you should not write in an enthusiastic tone about how you dream of living in England (Germany, America, etc.) - this may suggest that you perceive a foreigner as a bridge in new life, and no more. It is also not necessary to express unflattering reviews about local men, it is more reasonable to simply modestly indicate that you could not find your soul mate in your homeland and therefore turned your attention to abroad.

You should also not talk too frankly about yourself, if no one asked about your past, keep silent. Of course, if you are asked, you should not lie, answer sincerely.

Sincerity must be in everything. In every letter. Of particular note is that you should not lie about your age and whether you have children. Understand, for most European men this is not a disadvantage.

The fact that you have children indicates that you can have them, and age in most European countries- the concept is shaky. After all, as you know, from the point of view of the majority of the inhabitants of mother Europe, their childbearing age comes after 27 years, and not at 18, as we do. And any, even your most insignificant lie, can be regarded as a sign that you will deceive in the future.

Interest in oneself needs to be warmed up with each letter, constantly keep a foreign man in suspense, in good sense this word, only in this way can one achieve that virtual communication turn into a real meeting.

Elina, especially for intdate.ru

5. Content:
short letters not very effective for dating. A person is a complex nature, therefore it is impossible to put all his characteristics in one line. However, very often people, first of all, in response to the questionnaire, write short letters, sometimes one sentence long, or even a phrase. This is a kind of probing, checking the seriousness of the intentions of the person who posted the questionnaire. Respond to such letters only in the absence of others more interesting letters. But, what is most surprising, people continue to write such letters, and, sometimes, behind a short, uninformative phrase: “Hello! My name is Lesha. Let's get to know each other! ”, - a very interesting and worthy of attention Human.

Letters - "personal data"- rather stupid letters, designed only for compatibility in physical parameters. Usually this is not enough for dating. As a rule, getting to know you, they expect something special, something new from you. You must interest a person, give him what he is looking for on the net - and, as a rule, these are new sensations or a promise of the fulfillment of his desires. First of all, this task is facing men, as women online are looking for something more than just male society.

Example:
“My name is Michael, 29 years old, height 172cm. Without bad habits I don't smoke, I rarely drink and in moderation. By nature, he is a workaholic (I live by work that I like). Ready to meet and chat with possible consequences. If you don't mind, write, Michael.

Humorous and ironic letters- Irony and humor in the first letter are inappropriate, unless such behavior is part of your life, and you are ready to joke "all night long." Humor is usually characteristic of people under the age of 30, who are still romantic, and for whom the whole life is still ahead, and you need to live it cheerfully. If you are already over 30, but you want to have fun, then write about it in the next letter, but not in the first. Otherwise, you may simply be misunderstood, and you will look very strange in the eyes of the interlocutor. In general, a sense of humor is a very valuable quality of a person, and therefore do not hesitate to use it when meeting.

Example:
“Surprisingly, this is the first ad written by a girl with a head on her shoulders, and not a makeup display case. And if the photo is yours, then you are amusing in your youth and insolence, but what is it for? Do you like to play tricks, to scoff? Good too! And yet .... I would like to talk with you, you, in my opinion, are the most amusing little man! B.P."

Romantic, sensual, emotional letters with "personal data" or with a brief mention of "personal data" Romance is a state of mind. If your state of mind is not like this, then never write romantic letters. Well, if you really are a romantic nature, or at least 10-20% romantic, then do not miss the chance to take advantage of this. A huge number of people come to the Internet who want to know the taste of romantic dating, especially when you consider that, in itself, dating through the Internet acquires a romantic connotation for some. One thing is that young people aged 24-25 who write romantic letters 40 year old ladies and get answers from them, already talking about something. And if you write the same letter to a young girl or young man. In this case, your letter will have a great chance of being noticed. As for the question: “Should I write personal data or not?”, The answer is: Write, then you will throw off a certain veil from the secret of your personality, and this will begin to determine your future relationship already at the stage of the first letter. If you do not leave personal data, then the person will be intrigued, and if he is as romantic as your letter is romantic, or accepts romanticism in principle, then this person will definitely answer you. Thus, in the case of the first option, people who are unsuitable in terms of parameters will be cut off, and in the case of the second, those who are unsuitable for the state of their soul. Which is better, you choose.

Example:
"Hi, mysterious stranger!
Intriguing greeting. Is not it? It just so happened that I don’t know you at all, but still your profile managed to intrigue me. I found it in the "passionate love" section and decided to write to you. After reading your profile, I simply could not tear myself away from the image before my eyes, which beckons and burns with its beauty. You seemed to accidentally entered my soul and remained in its depths. The elegance and grace of your movements is so attractive in the radiance of the sun that sky blue, which has enveloped our land, simply cannot keep this mighty source within itself, and launched it here - into the virtual. It probably sounds stupid and funny, but I suddenly wanted to take you away from the virtual and return you to real world feelings and pleasures. Let me try to make it. Please don't deprive the hungry traveler of that little tender living violet that he found in this virtual void. My name is Roman. It's been 26 years since I was born into this world. During this time, my main hobbies were economics, the Internet, psychology, cinema and art, but they did not bring me such feelings and emotions as the thought that we could be together. I look forward to your soon reply.

With love in my heart and hope in my soul.
Your Romantic »

And here is an example female writing, which is simply amazing (believe me, on the Internet, such letters are very rare in the mailboxes of men):
“Good afternoon, Vasily! By the way, nothing if it's just Vasya or Basil or something else? And then Vasily is somehow very official. This morning in my horoscope, for the sake of laughter, I read the forecast for today. They promised me romantic acquaintance which will be of great importance to me on for a long time forward. Well, I think it's fate, not otherwise. But somehow no one comes up to me first, there are no charming strangers in the elevator, no one steps on my foot, no one asked for what hour. It's okay, I'm a pushy girl. If the mountain does not go to Mohammed ... In short, I go to a dating site and find a profile of a person who believes in love. Well, maybe in horoscopes they write not only nonsense, what if I have a chance?
And now a little about me. Small (152), thin (size 40), modest in appearance, but very temperamental inside. My name is Katyushka, I am 24 years old, I work as a nurse, I am divorced. I will send you two pictures. Looks like I got nothing on them. I really hope for an answer."

Problem letters Never write about your problems to the person you want to meet. Having problems will only repel you, not attract you. Everyone has their own problems and no one wants to solve someone else's.

Example:
" Hello,
Today in the morning a great sunny day was planned, but by the middle of the day the clouds began to thicken. The weather is changing. That's how mine is state of mind, then it flares up like a flame into which diesel fuel has been poured, then it goes out. It's probably okay. Emotions in a person have always been considered dignity. However, emotions need to be put somewhere, splashed out somewhere. After all, if the reactor starts to smoke, and then pour water on it, it can explode. It is better to spend energy gradually, without haste. For this, a person needs someone who will understand him, perceive him, become his friend, and maybe even something more. The latter depends on the circumstances. I will not talk about myself yet, I think, from my introduction, something has already become clear to you. A photograph completes the overall picture.
Waiting for an answer.
Maksim "

Sitting and waiting for someone to write to you is pretty boring. Usually those who no one needs write to all the new girls - maybe someone will answer. Therefore, after registering on a dating site, you can get a flurry of letters from guys, men and grandfathers that you are not at all interested in.

To increase your chances, you should write first to the men you like. In this case, you will be able to choose from the men who are of interest to you.

Since on a dating site with foreigners you will not be able to meet any of them tomorrow or the day after tomorrow (they live abroad), there is no problem that you will be misunderstood - weeks or even months will pass before a personal meeting, you will have time to find out what kind of person this is and how seriously he takes you.

When I met foreigners, I wrote myself to those guys who interested me - and as a result, I married a man whom I chose myself. Although I received a lot of letters from potential suitors, it was one of the men to whom I wrote first that I liked the most.

To give you a rough idea of the scope of my search, I sent about 100 emails and received about 20 responses. About 250 men wrote to me themselves. I corresponded with 40 candidates (not at the same time, during the year - I had 10-15 correspondents at the same time).

When you write first

The easiest thing on our dating site Elenasmodels.com is to send an expression of interest (Expression of Interest, or EOI). In this case, you do not need to write anything at all. The recipient will answer whether he is interested or not.

The simplest is to send an Expression of Interest (EOI).

If he is interested, he can write you a letter himself, or simply send a reply to your EOI and wait for your message.

You can also send an email right away without having to send the EOI first. But in this case, it may turn out that you waste time, and he is not interested.

Start by sending EOI. Write individual messages after you have received a positive response.
If you don't get positive responses at all (on average women get 1-2 positive responses per 10 EOI across the site), then try writing individual letters right away.
The older you are, the fewer men you are interested. Women over 35 should definitely write to men themselves and treat it like a job. Gentlemen will run after young women, but not after middle-aged women. You need to be able to interest the right man because there is more competition. It is not necessary to win guys, but it is necessary to interest them. This is where the ability to write the first letter will help.

What to write in the first letter

In the first letter, the most important thing is emotions.

Your first message should interest a man and inspire him with an irresistible desire to answer. To do this, it should be meaningful enough, but at the same time short and emotional.

First letter rules:

Brevity- Your message should be maximum 500-1000 characters. In a long message, it is easier to make a mistake, to say something wrong, to lose the intensity of emotions. Yes, and more time is spent on writing long messages.
Emotionality- your message should make a man smile, cheer him up. positive attitude and openness is the key to the success of the first letter. The same facts can be stated in different ways - the impression that your letter makes is more important than its content.
Individuality It must be clear to the recipient that given text written specifically for him and could not be sent to anyone else. Individual messages take time, but non-individual messages just go to the wastebasket.
Here and today- attach a photo taken today and briefly explain where it was taken (at work, in the gym, in the park for a walk, at home on the balcony, on the embankment, etc.). Most big fear men - that the photos in your profile are old and you look worse in real life. Today's photo will help him believe that you - real woman(they really doubt it). It will also let him know that you haven't sent the same picture to dozens of other guys. You yourself should like your photo, take it with a smile, in bright clothes or against a bright background - this will add positive!
State what attracted you- we all want not only to be liked by others, we also want to know why we are loved. Write what exactly attracted you in his profile or photos, this will make your letter personal and sincere.
Copy his words- the meaning that we put into certain concepts is very individual. Use the words from his profile so he can relate your ideas to his own.
Copy his style- if his profile is in a playful style, write with humor. If he is very serious, be serious.
Ask 1 question- so it will be easier for your correspondent to answer. The easier it is for a man to communicate with you, the greater the chance that he will choose you from all hundreds pretty girls Online Dating.
Literacy- the more correctly your texts are composed, the smarter you seem to a man. Illiterate texts create an unimportant impression. It's easy, just follow these rules.
Give know, What You waiting response- end your letter with the words “looking forward to hearing from you”, “talk to you soon”, “hoping to hear from you quickly”. It should be so understandable that you are waiting for a response to your letter, but for some unknown reason, these words add enthusiasm to the guys and give them the impulse to write faster.