Become the best lover. Rules for the ideal lover

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We all learned a little, something and somehow. At school or university, we had to learn the basics of sex on our own. Nobody taught us about sex, which has affected the fact that now there are a lot of logs in bed with feminine side and bad lovers with men. How to become a better lover and best lover?

In bed or out of bed, new relationship or old, everyone can become a better lover. Your partner deserves it! Read this article to learn great tips and tricks to make your relationship more exciting and exciting.

1. Be the best

1.1 Intimacy should always be a priority. It's easy to get caught up in a routine and feel like you just don't have time for intimacy, especially if you've been dating for a while. However, a relationship in which one or both partners are dissatisfied cannot last long. Find time for intimacy so that your flame flares up with renewed vigor.

If you have older children, tell them you've had a hard day and are so tired you're going to bed.

If you have younger children, put them to bed early.

Avoid making your intimate encounters a rare exception, such as only when traveling or on a date night once or twice a year. This is bad for relationships.

1.2 Express your consent. Make sure everyone involved is happy and fully consenting before things go too far. This is important for both men and women. If your partner has drunk enough to see giant purple mole mice, you shouldn't have sex.

1.3 Overcome the cultural barrier. Don't expect sex to be like porn or for your partner to look like a supermodel. And especially don't expect to look one way or another. This will make you feel insecure and uncomfortable, reducing the pleasure for everyone involved.

1.4 Do your research. If you want to know what your partner likes, do some research. Read sentimental novels or read online advice columns to get ideas about your partner's likes and dislikes.

1.5 Be attractive. This doesn't mean losing weight or getting bigger (making yourself bigger): your partner is with you because he already finds you sexy. When we talk about attractiveness, we mean good hygiene. Wear appropriate clothing. In this sense. Weight is a very subjective category, but few people are attracted to the smell of a week's sweat.

1.6 Watch your partner's reaction. Watch how your partner reacts. If he responds positively to your actions, keep doing it! If he is uncomfortable, stop! Look for subtle cues, such as your partner placing your hand in a specific place. You can also try to imitate his movements, since most often this is a way of asking for something specific from you.

1.7 Slow down. Take your time in everything that concerns you intimate life. Proceed to sexual intercourse slowly, not forgetting the delicate art of kissing and other types of foreplay. You should also slow down the act itself! This prolongs and increases the pleasure for all involved.

1.8 Don't be selfish. Of course, you should also enjoy intimate relationships, but if you focus

1.9 Find out more about your partner. We all know a few basic places to touch on your partner, but don't forget to explore their entire body! People are sensitive in all places and in different ways. You can tell if your partner is going crazy if you kiss the back of his knee! You never know for sure!

1.10 Become a kissing master. It is important to be a good kisser, while bad kissers can kill the whole mood. Learn to be a good kisser before practicing other skills!

1.11 Change. Don't let your intimate relationship turn into a routine. Avoid the same positions or places or the same time of day. If sex becomes a routine, there will be much less romance and pleasure. Break out of your routine and keep changing to keep the romance alive in your relationship.

1.12 Be open. Human sexuality, like everything related to people, is extraordinarily complex. And since we are all different, the limits of what can be considered normal are indescribably wide. Never close your mind because you might be surprised at how your partner likes something you've never thought of before. Try new things and if you like it, keep doing it!

2. Tips for guys

2.1 Don't treat anything like a button. Constantly repeating movements do not work in intimate situations. Her genitals are not a button in an elevator that you can press several times and hope for a result. The same can be said about nipples. Follow circular movements and apply different pressure, and everything will be fine.

2.2 Understand what women like. Men enjoy stimulation of the penis, so you might think that vaginal stimulation is best for women, right? Unfortunately, it's not that simple! Most women do not derive pleasure from vaginal stimulation alone. Read about the clitoris on Wikipedia.

2.3 Be gentle unless she insists otherwise. If you are dealing with delicate parts of the body, be gentle unless she asks otherwise. Biting and pinching may appeal to some women, but not to all, and you don't want to get slapped.

2.4 Talk. Guys, you know how much you love those little moans. So you know she likes everything, right? But did you know that she also likes to hear these sounds (for the same reason)? Of course, you shouldn't grunt because it's a little weird, but say something like, "Oh, that's so good..."

2.5 Turn up the heat. No, actually, turn up the heat. Women find it difficult to experience pleasure in the cold. Get under a cozy, warm blanket or turn on the radiator if you see she's really struggling and you've already tried all your tricks.

3. Tips for ladies

3.1 Don't hold him hostage. Don't use your intimate relationships as a weapon in fights and never promise sex and then refuse. It's cruel. It would be cruel if he did this to you, and it would be cruel if you did this to him. This doesn't work in your favor because he will associate sex with negative emotions and disappointment, which can harm your relationship in the future.

3.2 Keep moving. The main complaint of guys is that a woman behaves like a “dead fish”. Move when you have sex. Guys need to work, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't help them. Let your arms and legs move, caress him when you're together, and sometimes take the initiative and control the situation. You'll drive him crazy.

3.3 Be natural. Wash off your makeup, and don't get carried away with hairspray. Guys are attracted to your softness and will be even more turned on if they can run your hair through their fingers or kiss you on the cheek without fear of getting too much powder. Nasty!

Increase your softness even further by shaving and moisturizing your skin.

3.4 Allow him to try out his fantasies. Guys watch porn. Almost all. And they think a lot about sex. It's just a fact of life. Because they do this, they have ideas, fantasies about what turns them on. If you want to make your boyfriend happy, let him try out his fantasies every now and then. Put it on school uniform. Play doctor. Talk to him about what he fantasizes about, and then make it happen. He never knows what he will like the most.

Make sure you are comfortable with whatever fantasies he decides to try. Everyone should be happy!

You may not condemn him, but still refuse him. Everything must happen by mutual consent.

3.5 Wake him up. If he wakes up next to you soft body and you start kissing him, he will be pleasantly surprised. You can do this on the weekend, or be spontaneous and do it in the middle of the night (if you know he can sleep through the morning). He will enjoy spontaneity and breaking norms.

4. Away from the bed

4.1 Focus on your partner. The person to whom you want to express your sympathy should become the only object of your attention. You will be a great lover if your partner feels like the only person on earth when he is with you. This is exactly the impression you want to make if you start with a focal point.

4.2 Be optimistic. You should express positive emotions when expressing your attitude, whether it is your attitude towards his personality, situation or position in the world in general. Be the one who helps him see everything in a positive way, especially what concerns him.

4.3 Listen to him. Make sure you listen and see how the person responds to your attention at each stage - the goal is to find the right pace at which your partner is able to hear, see and fully feel your expression of affection. It's all about him, not about your ability to perform and play - you need to understand this experience in order to improve it every time.

4.4 Show enthusiasm. You must express positive emotions with a passion that rubs off on your partner. Bring a wave of positive emotions into their lives that will help them enjoy themselves and the world around them, and then they will be with you forever.

4.5 Develop a sense of humor. Life is too complicated and full of difficulties. We often get caught up in our problems and forget to see all the wonderful things that surround us. But that's what your partner is there for: to remind us of the good, to make us laugh, and to help us find room for humor in our lives. difficult situations. Be that person for your lover.

4.6 pay attention to detail. If you really love a person and observe him closely enough, you will notice that he has certain habits and techniques that you like. Most people notice these things only through long years relationship, but if you start now, you'll start with more love treat your partner and become closer to him or her.

4.7 Make compromises. You should learn to make compromises. To be a lover is to share. This is fair because the essence of love is sharing and growing. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

Adviсe

If you truly enjoy helping other people feel better, you can become the best lover in the world... and others will love you back.

If you don't get a response, think about your intentions and how you communicate with others - are you being too hasty, not trying too hard, or taking things too casually?

If you become a master at monitoring your own sensations, you can apply what you learn to others... and vice versa: it's easy and fun.

Smile first, then ask...

The first rule of a good lover: forget everything that porn movies teach. No, porn itself is even useful if it is a warm-up with your partner before the main game. Porn just teaches you the wrong things. It doesn’t happen in real life the way it happens in porn videos. You can draw an analogy with films about sports: you wouldn’t learn karate from Bruce Lee films, would you?

Porn films are work for the camera, not a desire to please a partner, not lovemaking.

Let’s take the position “Backward cowgirl”. This perfect option for the operator: the process is in full view, you don’t need to perform miracles of acrobatics to capture a piquant look. In reality, not the best good choice. Firstly, the penis does not reach sensitive areas vagina. Secondly, it is inconvenient and even dangerous: there is a high risk of damaging the penis if the movement is too sudden.

Good foreplay will help. Attempting to “catch the radio” by twisting your partner’s unfortunate nipples, or eating her ear is not foreplay. A sensitive man knows that a woman, in addition to her breasts, has other erogenous zones.

A gentle kiss at the junction of the neck and shoulder can drive a woman crazy. Touches inner surface your thighs with your fingertips will make you tremble with passion. Take your time to start the main course, be patient and spend time studying your partner’s body. The result in the form of fireworks of orgasms is worth it.

3. Stop thinking with your penis

Start thinking with your hands as well as with your tongue. The most big mistake men - to believe that quality sex requires only the right equipment, preferably larger and thicker ones. This is enough to make a woman moan with pleasure and her friends to envy. That's what porn teaches.

In reality, the woman sadly studies the ceiling and hopes that you will still decide to pay attention to her desires before you turn to the wall and fall asleep.

It is men who need a penis for orgasm. For women, things may be different. According to some data, less than 35% of women experience a purely vaginal orgasm. For the majority of women (almost 80%), orgasm depends on oral and manual stimulation of the genitals. They don't care about the size and thickness of the penis, the speed and strength of friction.

There are no general recipes. One likes caresses with the tongue, another likes the touch of fingers, the third likes to be touched with the whole palm. Study the woman and, for God's sake, cut and clean your nails.

4. Strive for variety

Sex is killed by monotony and monotony. Remember the first months life together- the sex was mind-blowing. And not because you mastered the poses from page one hundred and fifth of the Kama Sutra. It's all about newness. The human brain needs fresh impressions, new experiences and stimuli. Honeymoon- the time when the brain filled the body with dopamine. Unfortunately, the brain quickly gets used to everything new.

Boredom sets in too quickly, and what yesterday you both were delighted with causes you to yawn today.

Good sex needs variety. New caresses, techniques, toys and devices - study topography own bodies and stimulate your brain with new experiences.

5. Talk to your partner

High-quality sex does not depend on the penis, but on the man’s brain. good lover knows that sex is more than the connection of bodies. This means flirting, compliments, teasing touches and - most importantly - words. Communicate, discuss wants and needs, ask questions to find out what you like and what irritates you. After all, women love to talk, especially about themselves.

A woman is a combination of a riot of elements. From the calm and peaceful element of air to the scorching touch of a hot flame. A woman is a vessel of passion, contradictions and desires. Desirable is the woman who is for a man one of the embodiments of his most frank fantasies and dreams.

Have you often noticed that beauties are not always looked at by representatives of the opposite sex? And some are frankly not attractive women have a dizzying success among men.

It is impossible to be born into the world as an ideal lover, but almost every woman can become one. Even in those ancient times, covered in the darkness of history, men adored women who knew how to win over, create an atmosphere of sensuality and mystery, and realize all kinds of fantasies and ideas in sexual relations. Just remember the geishas. A professional mistress had to satisfy a man in all respects. Physically and spiritually. The girls underwent the strictest selection in order to become a skilled priestess, possess not only beautiful appearance, but also excellent education, the ability to conduct dialogue and even play traditional musical instruments.

IN different stages human development there were women who eclipsed the mind and heart with their magnificence. Just remember the courtesans, the brightest of them being Diane de Poitiers, who lived in the fifteenth century. This lady, with her intelligence, tenacious sexuality and charisma, was able to keep short leash The king of France, Henry II himself, until his death, the king was fascinated by this woman. Have you already realized that you want to succeed in the art of seduction? Then you need to follow certain rules.

Proper self-presentation is the key to a third of success. A woman is not a means to satisfy a man's needs. This is, first of all, a psychologically and physically formed personality, with a certain psychotype and model of behavior in society. Men love women who know their worth. You should not think that by playing the weak link in your tandem with a man, you will be desired by him. You must adapt to your partner's mood. But don't give in. Maneuver in difficult situations. Tell your man more often how extraordinary, strong, and brave he is.

Your appearance is your trump card

No matter how much you would like to put on a soft, cozy robe and create a bun on your head, you should not do this in the presence of a man. After all, he “loves” with his eyes, and you must keep yourself in shape, beautiful lingerie, good makeup, a slim body. You should smell like perfume that excites him, you should look not just neat, but stunning. Not only in male society, but in life in general. Then success will await you.

A man will not like a radical appearance in the form of piercings or large quantity tattoos on the body. Remember Marilyn Monroe? This is an exemplary role model for you. Modest but screaming sexuality. Follow the latest fashion trends and get inspired by them. First of all, you must have well-groomed hair, skin and nails, you should carefully monitor the general and intimate hygiene, if possible, visit beauty salons.

Learn and discover.

Beauty alone is not enough to cause delight. Of course, at the initial stage of a relationship, you will keep a man with the help of sex and your attractive appearance. But then he will get fed up and want new sensations. Men don't like pacifiers. You must be able to formulate your thoughts correctly, express your opinion, and have the knowledge to maintain a quality conversation.

You could be interested in the latest business trends, read something about hunting or fishing, maybe your lover is interested in astronomy, and you could discuss one of Stephen Hawking's works. Even if you are not particularly interested, you still need to understand what hobbies and preferences your man has. Then it will be easier for you to strengthen your connection. A person, feeling that you are interested in the same thing, will be attracted to you.

There is no modesty in sex.

Sex isn't just missionary a couple times a week. If you want to keep a man, you must learn new techniques and sex positions. If he asks you to try anal sex, don't turn him down right away. Perhaps you will discover new facets of pleasure. Try it role-playing games, or change the situation. Even if you don't have multiple orgasms, don't show it to your man.

The first rule of a strong attachment is to maintain love. Everyone is yours sexual contact should be bright and rich. Show how much you enjoy foreplay, make it clear that you are passionate about sex with this person. Change sex positions, create an environment using dim lighting and scented candles, have different sets of erotic lingerie, use devices or sex toys if your partner likes to experiment in bed.

Say no to a bad mood.

Don't ask to leave your family. Even if you feel bad and the cats are scratching your soul, you cannot show this to a man. Your problems remain purely yours. He can constantly listen to complaints from his wife at home. For him, you are a kind of outlet from sometimes difficult and burdened family relationships. Be kind to him, gentle, talk sweet words. You should not extract information from him if he is in a depressed mood. Don't demand to leave your wife every day.

You should become for him the ideal of femininity and beauty. The man himself, unobtrusively pushed by you, should come to the realization that he wants to leave his wife. There should be a mystery in you, do not reveal yourself completely to a man. Men are hunters by nature. Who likes prey that crawls into its paws? Try to surprise your lover, give small surprises and gifts. A man should see you as a holiday. A fountain of energy, cheerfulness, and not despondency or tears.

You should not show financial interest.

This is one of the main rules. Allow your man to give you gifts, flowers, jewelry, but clearly understand that you shouldn’t beg for anything yourself. Especially at the initial stage of relationship development. Let your chosen one know that you do not need money, and you can afford to buy something yourself. But don’t refuse gifts; over time, when the attachment to each other becomes stronger, you can get what you want with hints.

Don't complain about yours financial difficulties, don't cry in front of a man. And if you were given, for example, financial assistance, don’t get carried away and ask for money again and again. A man will consider you too materialistic and will be afraid of the relationship. Know that everything given to you by your partner is not your property, but his will.

Try to give something in return too. It is wrong if someone gives you gold jewelry and you receive cheap deodorant in return.

Not tricky rules, right? But they are the ones who will lead you to success, and you can become the ideal lover for your man. You will be admired, desired, your partner will feel a strong connection not only on a sexual level, but also on a psychological level. The relationship will get stronger. And most importantly, you will be able to feel yourself on a completely different level, liberated, sexy and majestic. Becoming the only one for a man is not so difficult, and every woman can do it.

Before visiting a certified sex specialist, it took me a long time to gain courage. And it’s still somehow awkward - how can I tell a stranger about THIS? About the fact that sex with my husband has become somehow non-sexual. The love did not pass, but for some reason the desire faded, marital responsibilities remained. But I want, like at the beginning of a relationship, to feel dizzy just from the thought that we will meet tonight. And for the pleasure of sex to be the same as they write in women's novels - it's just crazy. And so that my husband would feel so good with me that he wouldn’t even want to think about other women. It was with these “simple” requests that I crossed the threshold of the sexologist’s office.

“I want to become an ideal lover for my husband, tell me how to be the best in bed!”

It was a prepared phrase. I decided that it was better to come with such a desire for perfection than with complaints that everything is bad. The sexologist was not surprised, but patiently explained that my approach was wrong. Because intimate relationships are the whole world, and sex itself is not even the main thing in them. You can master the technique of intricate bed tricks - and still not become the best for your husband. Unfortunately, the life stories that I heard from my friends told about the same thing. “What, nothing can be done?” - The voice betrayed the despondency that gripped me. "Of course you can!" - I heard in response and perked up.

Rule No. 1 - be attentive to your partner

“It’s a little strange to hear in a sexologist’s office that my husband and I’s bed problems won’t be solved if we don’t decide on our life attitudes, upbringing, interests, aspirations. I specifically watched several very frank films - the characters practically didn’t talk there, but in the end We were happy with each other."

Life is not a movie, and in this case too. You can learn something from such films, but a relationship with a husband is not for an hour and a half, but for life. Do not try to reduce intimacy to sexual intercourse; such a simplification is the enemy of sexual well-being.

“I was ready for the fact that I needed to learn sex, because before I met my husband I had practically no sexual experience...”

Many women could use an initial course in geisha school: knowledge of their body, their advantages (we often focus on disadvantages), the art of seduction, the ability to maintain a conversation, to be in the know modern problems... It happens that at a reception it turns out that people have no idea not only about intimate relationships, but simply about relationships. As Freud said, frequent change sexual partners supports desire, but discolors the soul. “Gaining experience”, you can bring the technical part of intimacy to perfection, but only one person evokes true desire - your loved one. And then at the level intimacy First of all, the spiritual arises, and in such conditions you can learn sex with pleasure, discovering new heights of pleasure for yourself. Sexual relations can be a sedative, an anesthetic, a pill for loneliness. But true happiness comes only when physical and spiritual attraction is united. After all, it is impossible to separate the body from the soul.

“My husband and I are the closest people, no doubt: we almost never separate, we even work in the same office.”

Sensuality in relationships sometimes becomes less precisely because of an excess of intimacy. Always give yourself and your partner some space - when you get too close to a person, there is no room left to get even closer. And relationships that do not develop become uninteresting. Here are ways to get to know your loved one again with some distance...

* If your husband has to speak in front of an audience - at a conference, at a meeting, at a concert, sit in the audience and try to perceive him as a professional. You'll see, you'll find him very sexy.

* Make him a date “on someone else’s territory” - for example, rent a hotel room or ask a friend who is going on vacation for the key to the apartment. Unusual situations are exciting.

* Go to a party or other social event together, but agree to act as if you just met. It warms up the feelings.

Rule No. 2 - do not fall into the trap of stereotypes

“I read somewhere that men simply need regular exercise for health. sex life, well, and to prevent betrayal, I never refuse my husband, I even try to ensure that we do this at least three times a week. So you can imagine, he sometimes refuses! I don’t know what to think... What should I do?”

Three times a week is a myth. Sexual temperament It’s individual, for some people once a week is enough, but sometimes you want it every day. A discrepancy between spouses on this point can be the beginning of disharmony in the relationship. It’s better not to hope that it will “go away on its own”, but to turn to a sexologist - now such moments are “evened out” by specialists without any problems.

What is much worse in the situation described is that you “don’t know what to think.” This is already a signal that it is precisely the intimacy in your relationship that is lacking, and not in the sense of the number of sexual acts. In order to become an ideal lover for your husband, you must first of all be like-minded, sincerely interested in his life, know the characteristics - and strengths, and weaknesses, its joys and problems. Of course, for complete happiness, your husband must have the same interest in you. And mechanical adherence to “sex three times a day” will not protect you from distance. Nowadays it has become quite acute problem loneliness in the family. People live together and don’t even know simple things about each other. For example, the request to indicate on a special map the erogenous zones of the spouse of many “heads of families” was perplexing. More than 200 people were examined married couples with a relationship experience of 3 to 15 years - and in almost 70 percent of cases the erogenous zones noted by the wife and husband did not coincide. It happened that a man wrote: “My wife erogenous zones no." This indicates that marital relations turned into a cohabitation of two strangers, between whom there is a wall instead of mutual understanding. They don't see, don't hear, don't feel each other. This is what should be of concern, not the counting of sexual acts.

"I’m also very afraid to find out that he’s cheating on me. They say it’s inevitable, because men are polygamous. Is it possible to keep him good sex?"

If you love a person, the theory of polygamy definitely disappears. And if the relationship is formal, then you can justify yourself with any theory - this statement is suitable for both men and women.

Scientists conducted a large-scale study: for six months they assessed sexual health indicators in three groups of women: those in legally married who often change partners and live in a civil marriage. It turned out that the latter had the most favorable indicators. Researchers explain this by the fact that in relationships civil marriage there is no completeness, understatement and intrigue remain. The belief that your partner belongs to you forever is a killer. sexual desire! IN intimate relationships there should be a feeling of celebration. This is what they usually look for “on the side”. Anyone who wants to enjoy sex should not perceive it as marital duty. This debt will not keep people together. Make sex a beautiful game, fill another person's world - make his dreams come true. the main task- so that he tells you about them, and not another woman.

Rules of seduction

Seduction instead of accusations:

I don't remember when we were last time had sex!

You are such a wonderful lover! Show it to me today.

Activity instead of waiting:

Well, since you don't want to do anything, I won't do anything either.

I bought Massage Oil. I know you're tired, but you'll probably be able to handle the massage.

Be curious, but not a know-it-all:

Good family relationships require at least three sex sessions per week. Let's start this Monday!

What would you like to try with me?

Appreciate, not evaluate:

You are always so demanding!

I love your inexhaustible imagination.

Allow freedom of choice instead of putting pressure:

I will now offer something, but on the condition that you also participate in it.

I have a problem great idea, What do you think about this?

“Well, I’m trying! Once I decided to ensure a passionate night of love - I bought an expensive, very beautiful underwear, a garter belt, complemented the outfit with a miniskirt and a blouse with an ample neckline. This is how I met my husband from work. But he looked at me, dressed, or rather, undressed, according to all the laws of seduction, with bewilderment and even slight melancholy. And then he asked for a long time what happened, instead of wishing right on the kitchen table... The conversation turned into a showdown (I, of course, was offended - all my efforts were in vain!), and family life I went completely wrong for almost a week. What did I do wrong?"

The fact is that erotic lingerie does not excite every man - it another myth, which spoiled a lot romantic evenings. Some people prefer to see their wife without any underwear at all, while others prefer to see them in “innocent” white panties. Don't think that "they are all the same." Success is in individual approach to a partner. What can cause a flash of passion in him is not underwear at all, but straight Talk, For example. Or watching an erotic film. Or a walk in the woods, going to the gym together. There are no standards in intimate relationships.

Take a closer look to see if your spouse has any problems that are preventing you from thinking about intimate joys? Do not forget that sexual disorders can also arise as a result of diseases. Or perhaps he was taught as a child that only women look provocative prostitute, then all the tricks with dressing up his wife will not really excite him, but rather upset him. As you can see, the coincidence of these two worlds - the views on life of a man and a woman - is very important in sex.

“I also thought about seductive dancing, I even signed up for a strip dance section. But I never went. You know, my tummy is so noticeable... And my breasts are small. And there’s cellulite on my hips! Well, how can I show him a striptease ?"

First of all, the most beautiful woman- the one who is happy with her appearance. Of course, it is necessary to take care of yourself; you should not hide behind the motto “what is natural is not ugly.” But strive not to meet standards, but to please yourself. You need to be able to enjoy life, not cultivate negativity and not focus on problems. Love yourself, and those around you will love you too.

And secondly, sociological surveys show that men value sex appeal more than external data. Translated from English, sex-appeal means “sexual appeal.” That is, sex appeal is everything that attracts members of the opposite sex, including the timbre of the voice and the sparkle in the eyes. Everyone has their own criteria for sex appeal. And if your husband chose you, it means that cellulite did not overshadow yours. positive qualities. There is no need to be ashamed of yourself - this is the secret of sex appeal.

Rule No. 3 - surprise and delight

“Sometimes I think: maybe to become a superlover, you need a special talent? What if I don’t have it?”

In fact, there are liberated people who are aware of their desires and strive to fulfill them, as well as those who let everything take its course. This also applies to sex. How would you make a career if you were embarrassed to work?! If we draw parallels further, was it the first time you succeeded, for example, in borscht? Remember how much effort it took to become a skilled cook. And admit it, failures still happen. So, in intimate relationships you also need to try and try. You can become an ideal lover only by making love. To be happy in bed, spend time on your sexual progress. Nothing will happen “by itself” - there is very little instinctive left in human sexuality. And you don’t need to think that the number of partners is proof of skill in sex. Rather, on the contrary, it is a long relationship with one partner that makes it possible to better understand and learn to give him pleasure. Time is the friend of sexuality! Be curious, try to explore all the possibilities and don't stop there. You can come up with anything with one single condition: do it not because it is “needed” or “it might help,” but because it gives you pleasure. Important point for women: only by enjoying life (and sex!) can you not lose your visual attractiveness and sex appeal over the years.

“It seems to me that even such an extreme sport as a parachute jump cannot be as exciting for the tenth time as the first. That is, long relationship sensations inevitably become dull, is it worth wasting energy, because this cannot be changed?”

Nature has not provided a button for a person, by pressing which, after many years of living together, one can immediately again experience the feeling of falling in love - with all its pleasant worries, excitement, inspiration. And the desire for sex, of course. But intimate relationships are great happiness and joy for a person, and those who underestimate them deliberately refuse longevity and prosperity. This means it’s worth looking for ways to maintain yourself in a state of love. Little things in everyday life can cancel out a lot. Don’t forget, in life together there must always remain an element beautiful game. At home we are often “without a veil”, but we need to maintain a mystery within ourselves - this is very important in intimate relationships. Great lovers like Casanova could create the illusion of an extravaganza, a holiday - this is exactly what their main secret. Which is quite possible to borrow. Try doing something unusual. Eg...

* Invite your husband to listen to your expressive reading instead of watching TV at night. And take an erotic novel.

* Give him a certificate for purchase... in a sex shop.

* Make a spouse Erotic massage. Only the real one! For such a case, buy tutorial or sign up for a massage course. If this is troublesome for you, go to a massage parlor together.

*Take advantage modern technology. Write exciting SMS and letters to each other e-mail It’s already quite banal, but you start a page on the Internet where you will anonymously describe your intimate fantasies. And send him the link.