Do married men fall in love? Wife's perspective. How to End an Unpromising Relationship with a Married Man

Some special signs of love between married man and single does not exist. Almost everything is identical. The only negative is the restriction of free movement and secrecy during telephone conversations, because it is unlikely that your chosen one will like to call you at the moment when his wife is nearby. It is also less likely that he will call you in the evenings. The rest of the time, of course, he will get in touch, communicate, make appointments and provide attention. Therefore, it will not be difficult to understand that a man really loves you if he is married. Below are the tips of psychologists on building relationships with a married man.

First signs of interest

Here is a list of signs that a married man wants a relationship:

The young man will surely distinguish his chosen one from all those around him and will try to attract her attention, transfer the conversation in order to find out something about her.
Being next to the girl he likes, the guy will begin to adjust his hairstyle and appearance generally.
A man can stop his gaze on a woman for just a few seconds, and then slide his interested eyes down her figure.
In a personal meeting, the guy will try as often as possible to touch the object he likes with his hand. These touches will certainly be sensitive, airy and pleasant.
If on a walk a girl deliberately moves away from him, and he immediately notices and follows her, then this clear sign the fact that the guy is in love and the girl is not indifferent to him.
Once outside in a cool time, a man offers a woman to warm her up and gives his clothes, thereby showing his care and future plans for his companion.
Often the behavior of a man in love betrays him. He begins to behave like a child, showing boundless joy, begins to get nervous for any reason, and sometimes even laughs for no good reason.
When a guy sees a girl, his facial expression changes, his voice becomes softer and a smile appears.

Does a married man love you?

You should not find out the reasons why this man began to cheat on his wife. Until the end of these reasons, perhaps he himself does not know. The main thing that is the main point in this situation is his feelings towards you. But how to understand that a man really loves you if he is married? It will not be difficult to notice cardinal changes in the behavior of a man, especially if you have not had a relationship with him before.

The manifestation of his tenderness, special care, interest and attraction will be an indicator that the woman is interested in him. During this period, he will become calm as never before, but at the same time he will try not to go unnoticed by his chosen one.
His appearance will remain inconspicuous for you, he will look as usual, nothing surprising, but the fire of passion will burn inside, his eyes will burn with desire. Your meetings will increase in number in order to admire each other's gaze and smile as often as possible.

Another manifestation of his interest in you will be his attention and attitude to your request for help. If you are not indifferent to him, he will come to the rescue at any time of the day or night, come up with the most unprecedented excuse, just to escape from his wife.

Situations in life are different, and it may happen that you meet his wife or even worse, she will be your girlfriend. How in this case to choose between a loved one and a friend? Here you need to decide what is more important for you: a relationship with a man or a relationship with a girlfriend. The main thing is not to apologize and please his wife. Be natural, otherwise she will easily guess about your flirting and it is not known how the further course of events will unfold.

A married man and the manifestation of his feelings

In almost all cases, married cheaters do not show their feelings in public. Therefore, it will be more difficult to understand his attitude. After all, not every married man can decide on such an act. And, nevertheless, sympathy cannot be hidden for a long time, if it takes place.

As a rule, lovers can be identified by the way they hold each other's hands, look at each other. For them very an important factor is physical contact. This will be quite enough to make sure of the sincerity of the intentions of the chosen one and his love for you. In the future, gifts from him may appear in the form of a bouquet of flowers or sweets. In this case, the main thing is to pay attention to how he will present this or that gift and whether he wants to touch your hands at this moment, as if by chance.

If he tries to delay this moment as long as possible, then this is no accident and his feelings are really sincere.

Your chosen one will be mentally stable and patient with you as much as possible, even if you provoke some kind of stressful situation or try to bring him out of emotional balance and peace. For example, if his wife repeats the same action, he is unlikely to restrain his indignation.

If a married man is your boss

If the man you like is your boss, then sympathy can be identified in the following situations:

He will try to find any reason to keep you at work and stay there himself.
He will give you attention and take care by offering you tea or coffee.
He will invite you to a business dinner, maybe even with work partners, but they may not be there.
He will offer to take you home or call a taxi.

Usually men do not show such care to everyone, especially about their subordinates at work.

intimate relationship

In the event that your relationship has moved to another stage of communication, and it has even gone to bed, you can try to plan and create a situation during which he automatically confesses his love to you. Naturally, you will be aware of everything that happens to him during the day, he will begin to share his experiences. This will be a sign of his trust in you. It is unlikely that he would begin to share with a person who is indifferent to him and devote to his plans. This already speaks volumes.

The only thing you can’t do is ask him to leave his wife. After all, you knew when you took this step that it was not only yours. The situations may be different. He can love both of you and admire you, or he can love only you alone, and he will feel a sense of affection and duty towards his wife. Many men are held by children. Moreover, if you insist on your own and put pressure on him, it is not known how he will behave and whether he wants to continue this relationship at all. In any case, the choice will be his!

Love is the territory of only two, therefore there are no women in the world striving for serious relationship with married men.

In theory, everything is simple - a married man cannot be "the man of your dreams." He is simply not seen as a potential partner.

But real human relationships are far from ideal. We do not always find out in time that a man is married (you can verify this by visiting almost any women's forum).

Absence wedding ring acts soothingly, and when meeting an absent wife, they rarely talk about it - after all, we get to know each other first of all as individuals, and not as possible spouses. And we sincerely rejoice if interest and friendly relations pass into a romantic stage.

But it often turns out that your prince is already married. And the woman begins to wonder what to do and how to stop loving a married man.

Why are relationships with a married man usually futile?

If you, having learned about the presence of a wife, do not lose interest in him and decide to continue the relationship with this man (many do this, because love is blind, strong emotions prevent you from thinking rationally, and the question “why and why am I doing this?” Does not arise) , a love triangle is inevitably formed in which you are assigned the role of a mistress.

In some cases, the triangle quickly breaks up, and the mistress acquires the status of a legal wife. But such cases are the exception rather than the rule.

What do dream books say about this?

Subconsciously, most women know this - it is not for nothing that the dream book, in which folk experience is concentrated, predicts that a married man dreams of trouble. This is not surprising - women usually negatively perceive men who have mistresses.

The dream interpretation also portends the appearance of guilt and tension. If a woman is interested in the meaning of dreams and believes in omens, she can part with a married man in time. And if she is married, she will be able to pay attention to her marriage in time - the dream book interprets such a dream as dissatisfaction with marriage.

Although many dream books modern women considered an archaic relic, psychology and statistics in this case I agree with them - Sigmund Freud used dreams to conduct psychoanalysis, and even compiled his own dream book.

Statistics say that the resulting love triangles:

Often become "chronic" because all its participants are not able to leave.
All its participants are psychologically traumatized, and the longer such relationships last, the more severe the trauma.

A woman, having decided to have a relationship with a married man, usually does not take into account the psychological background of his behavior. Psychologists say that in most cases, men with certain problems (complexes, etc.) have mistresses.

Despite the popular notion of male polygamy, male psychology does not allow, with a stable, warm and sensual relationship with his wife, to have an affair on the side. Why are even tuned to married life Do men sometimes have mistresses?

Why do men need a mistress?

A mistress in the life of a normal married man appears when in his family relationships problems arise. Husbands are not inclined to analyze the causes of these problems and eliminate them (the exception is a lover who appeared with his wife).

In most cases, with family troubles, a married man either goes to work or seeks understanding on the side. And then you appear on his horizon - not married, you yourself show interest in him, do not condemn, do not ask “why?” and understand everything as it should!

And the mutual understanding that has arisen between you (if there is none in his family) is the reason why a love affair arises, which a man may later regret. Very often in such cases, your lover begins to rush between you and his wife, to whom he is still attached.

He starts to feel guilty. You can look for answers in dream books, guess, hope that he will go to you forever, you can endlessly. And in the end, most likely, he will not be able to choose: with whom to maintain relations, and with whom not.

A woman who has entered into a relationship with a married man always expects to remain in his life forever, not as a mistress, but as a lawful wife. But many men are quite satisfied with the status of a lover.

A married man needs another woman if:

The wife often makes scandals, all the time she demands something, and he wants an easy relationship without special responsibilities.
Intimate life has become monotonous, but because of this, you don’t want to share property and children.
Married too early or on "aerial flight", to his wife in this moment special feelings no, other women are of interest, but he is very attached to the child.

The spouse usually does not plan to leave the family, since the domestic side of the marriage suits him perfectly. Often the interest of such men is a bright and married woman because she rarely wants to leave her husband.

What promises a love triangle to a mistress?

Psychology and statistics say that at first, relationships that are not burdened by everyday life and adorned with romance (a married man is trying so hard not only to please you, but also to compensate for the presence of a wife) suit most women who have fallen in love with a married man.

The woman still believes that the lover is really going to part with his wife and draws in her imagination bright pictures of a joint future.

Over time, she realizes that if she becomes the only one, then not soon, she begins to look for a forum with similar stories, look into a dream book or try to clarify the future by other methods. The dream interpretation focuses on the external data of the dreaming man, the forum recommends breaking up, and various predictions are vague.

At the same time, she still likes the man and has no strength to part with him. The woman herself does not understand why she and her chosen one need this relationship, but “I love him” outweighs all arguments, and the dream book that allows different interpretations gives false hope.

Over time, interest gradually fades away and the relationship becomes painful. The question of what to do with these relationships, how to fall out of love with a married man and how to part with him, becomes especially acute at the later stage of the existence of the triangle.

The woman worries why she herself allowed this and why she did not stop in time. In some cases, self-esteem falls, and the woman herself does not want to do anything to part with her lover.

Other men do not arouse interest, because in addition to a kind of dependence, a belief is formed that almost all men at least occasionally have mistresses. That is why, having fallen in love with a married man, it is better to immediately think about what to do in order to avoid the fate of a mistress.

If a married man is of interest to you

Although the concept of "mistress" comes from the word "love", society treats women with such a status extremely unfavorably, but "lover" is perceived more adequately. As a result, you are forced to:

Endure the pangs of jealousy and at the same time carefully hide them- being married, you can last resort to beat the dishes, but he already has these joys of life “there”. And he is looking for peace, sympathy and complete understanding from you.
Never call and never count on him. If necessary, you can write sms, choosing neutral expressions, but no “I love”.

Live in constant anticipation of his visit, i.e. regularly be on full alert and keep his interest.
Spend the holidays alone. Even if your lover celebrates some event surrounded by colleagues, it is inconvenient for him to take you instead of his wife.
Tolerate his lies.
Deal with the fact that he has a child, therefore, in addition to remorse, you are still waiting for “I can’t today - my son has training, temperature, Parent meeting etc."

At the same time, you also want to have children, but a child from a married man either remains completely without a dad, or his dad is coming, “Sunday”. Even if a woman thinks that she can tie a lover to her as a child, and he leaves the family, in best case she'll just turn into a secret wife.

Forum on this issue replete with sad stories about believing in what he “loves” and about unfulfilled hopes, but even sadder when a child is involved in this difficult relationship. So if you decide to create complete family, with a loved one, but married, it is better to leave, and it is better if you do it yourself.

How to end a hopeless relationship with a married man?

Psychology claims that a person is not able to control love, but we are quite capable of preventing love from developing into a deep feeling. If you realize that you like a married man, try to study all the nuances of the situation.

The man who arouses your interest may well not live with his family (marriage exists only on paper). It is desirable to obtain information not from the man himself, but from disinterested persons (mutual friends, etc.).

If the marriage is formal, you can give free rein to your feelings, and not even look into the dream book.

If there were no signs of “disintegration” in the family before your appearance, and you do not want endless meetings with a lover who will never become a husband, you need to understand how to stop loving a married man and what you need to do for this.

Desirable:

Take a timeout in communication. During this time, you can meet a person who will be of interest to you and at the same time will not be married.
Imagine that you are married to him and what will you do in this case. In the process of courtship, a person manifests himself with better side, but it is no coincidence that his family life is not ideal, because not only the wife is to blame for this situation (often the mistress believes that only the wives themselves are to blame for the fact that men have mistresses).
If your relationship has been going on for some time, you are most likely sure that he loves you, but is still living with her (there is always an explanation for “why”). Your "I love" does not allow a sober look at the situation, but it is simply necessary.

If a divorce does not occur in the first months of a new romance, according to statistics, it will never happen. In this case, it is the man who must decide who to him more roads- wife or mistress.

If he really loves you, he will definitely decide on a divorce. But for some reason he can't make up his mind. So why waste your feelings and life on someone who did not deserve it?

Why me?

In addition, in order to understand how to forget a married man, it is important to analyze your past. Not every woman loves a married man and agrees to the role of a mistress.

Psychology says that married men come across quite often to women with low self-esteem. Therefore, first of all, you need to increase your self-esteem, throw away the dream book and fortune-telling cards, pay attention to yourself and surround yourself with new positive impressions.

Try looking at the forum at this topic- communication with people similar situation help you accept correct solution and avoid in the future men who have mistresses.

Think about whether you can trust this man if he becomes your husband. After all, once he had already decided to have a mistress, and for some men, the presence of mistresses is the norm.

Do not live in illusions - the sooner you can correctly assess the situation, the more chances you have to become happy. Without false hopes, interpretations of dream books, advice from friends and fortune tellers.

Every person strives in this life to love and be loved. It is good when this desire is fixed in marriage. Sometimes a family, as it turns out, soon cannot give a person what he so longed to receive. Then a person seeks out of marriage those relationships, feelings, to which the soul is so drawn.

Whether such a passion will be sincere or whether it will be a mistake in life - but you will not know without experiencing it. Some spend long years looking for someone with whom you want to spend your whole life. Some try to build the relationship of their dreams with one chosen person. Often relationships turn from romantic sublime into ordinary routine, the sharpness of the first touches, the first kiss is lost. Arises passionate desire to feel it again - and then the search for another begins.

Someone is looking for love, someone - passionate sex. But when you find an object that is interesting from your point of view, you really want to make sure that you are experiencing mutual emotions, interest, that something real is happening between you, and not an ordinary romance, and it doesn’t matter yet what the prospects for such a connection may be. How to know this, how to understand whether it is real between you, whether something will grow out of these relationships, even if these relationships arose between not free lovers.

How to check what feelings arose for you, how then to believe in them? Are there instructions, rules, signs by which this can be recognized? It turns out there is.

How to know if your man loves you? In addition to female intuition, which in itself is a very subtle and sensitive device, there are a lot of factors, observing which, you can understand how your lover treats you.

To begin with, let's dwell on non-verbal signs - body gestures that speak of certain thoughts and intentions, attitudes.

Non-verbal signs

General body position. The body in such cases, when a person is interested in the interlocutor, is tilted slightly forward, as if it is stretching towards you.
Touch. The interlocutor constantly strives to touch the object of his sympathy, as if by chance, lightly or seriously: with his hand, shoulder, foot. From light casual touches to serious hugs.
Sight. Peripheral vision in girls is more developed than in males, therefore it is easier for ladies to notice whether they are looking in the direction where she is or not. And if the object is of interest, then it looks very often. Whether he passes by, looks purposefully, casts a sidelong glance - one way or another, visual contact is traced very easily. The lover looks at the object of his sympathy twice as much as at anyone else.
Lips. A beloved person provokes a companion to smile. It can be open and wide, or a quiet modest half-smile, with slightly curved raised corners of the lips. Lips are a clear indicator of the relationship to the lady - whether the partner is laughing or sad at this time.
Smell. love passion — chemical reaction, and so it is not said in vain: smells play a big role in establishing contact between people. So the lover will constantly strive to catch at least a slight smell of his beloved girlfriend: inhale the fragrance of hair, feel the slight smell of the body, perfume or natural - this is very exciting for a partner and means a lot.
Demonstration of importance. The very tail that a peacock spreads while courting a modest female is the male significance that is so important to show with her beloved. Impress with your strength, masculinity, ability to resolve issues and many others - and win the ladies' heart with your masculinity. Show superiority over others - thereby proving your uniqueness and that you are worthy of the most beautiful.
A lover does not seek to correct you, change you. You are already good for him, any image is accepted by him as beautiful.
General behavior of a gentleman: gallantry, care, attention. The ability to court a lady is still valued in the world, despite general trend towards equality in all areas. Opening doors, bringing a bag, offering a jacket - these signs of care have not yet become obsolete and are important for ladies.

Now let's move on to verbal manifestations - expressions of sympathy through speech, words. How can one determine the degree of partner's interest in the object?

Verbal signs

Avoidance direct contact. Restraint that is not entirely natural. All this looks a little deliberate, so you can see when this happens. Usually this is typical for too serious guys who will think about their actions for a long time before committing them. Such people prefer to be alone with themselves for as long as possible, they are laconic and reserved.
Meetings that happen "completely by chance." If a person is married, he will easily and variously come up with occasions where his passion could be present. Even if it love affair at work and meeting is not so difficult, anyway these meetings are more frequent to be spontaneous and natural. He will want to spend as much time with you as possible. And work will not become a barrier to meetings, rather the opposite. He will find time for calls, and no inconvenience will prevent him from doing this - if he loves or is at least interested. For the sake of sharing time with his beloved, he will sacrifice fishing, meeting friends, hunting.
Unusual pronunciation of the name or inventing individual nicknames. Usually such nicknames are a diminutive form, they are something harmless and pleasant.
Actively helps in all matters. Even if he cannot help himself, he attracts those acquaintances who may be useful in the situation. And this can apply to any sphere of life, from financial to domestic.
He listens with interest to stories about himself, about his life, asks questions - and all this is enthusiastic and sincere. He is really interested in the details of the life of his beloved. Moreover, the gentleman himself will also tell everything without concealment about himself, and not only about work.
Sincere feelings make you nervous when you meet. Therefore, it is not surprising if at times a friend will seem strange and awkward.
Shows signs of attention, rejoices when he manages to surprise and do something pleasant.
He will try to enter the circle of your communication, learn more about his beloved through those who already know you. It will be important for him to good impression- first on your environment, and then on you.

Of course, each one manifests its signs in different ways, and it is not worth categorically applying everything with the same confidence, but if most of them are noticed, then there is reason to believe that the spirit of love has flown by here.

Of the common manifestations sincere love the following can be noted, for example:

If you already have a connection, and the partner still compliments, shows signs of attention, admires you, it means that he really is not indifferent to you. Especially if he does it not only in public, as if working for the public, but also in private.
A lover will never offend his woman, no matter who she is. No sarcasm, humiliation, aggression towards passion.
A partner easily does what will bring you pleasure: a massage, a bouquet, a nice frivolous gift ... You should feel good - this is the only thing that is important to him. If, however, he easily ignores the request, forgets about it, then love is still far away.
behavior in bed. The pleasure should be mutual, and often the partner gets pleasure already from how good his partner is. If he seeks to get the most for himself, completely forgetting about your interests, this is not a real feeling.
The lover has no pretensions and nit-picking. If your every action causes a dissatisfied reaction on his part, if all words and actions are criticized and changed - up to sincere feeling far away here. Even if I do not agree with you, the proposed version will be presented correctly and with respect, without authoritarian coercion and violence.

A companion in love will always let his partner know that the most beloved is simply necessary, even if he has not yet confessed his love.

In fact, for ladies, the feelings that she herself experiences for the object are much more important, from this the relationship develops more vividly, and the sex is unforgettable. So whether a lover loves or not is sometimes a secondary question.

A lover will never allow himself to appear in front of his beloved in an unsightly, sloppy, uncollected form.

He will try to put on better things, put himself in order. Except when slovenliness is character.

The female gender is usually quite simple and quickly recognizes when it likes - the internal radar quickly shows it. But usually more serious proofs are needed later, in addition to ephemeral intuitive ones. This is where these symptoms come in handy. Or facts and signs will be appropriate for those persons who rely on logic and prudence - in such cases, abstractions do not inspire confidence, only clear arguments will help calm the soul. A person who understands that she is the object of love, but does not want or is not ready to respond, usually pretends that she does not understand anything, or fights back.

You can understand that a married man is in love with you by the same signs. The trouble is that they are also visible to the wife, if she is observant and cautious. A person who values the family will try not to change his usual way of life, not to destroy the family, he will try to stifle his feelings in the bud. If the feeling has already taken root, it will be very difficult to stifle the feelings. But even when a companion is seriously in love with you, it does not follow from this that intentions will turn into deeds, and that a long happy life awaits you. living together. Even if a friend is in love, he may not seek to connect the future with you.

Married lover

If the partner behaves as one of the points below describes, it is not destiny to be together - the companion is satisfied with the situation with his real wife and is not at all going to get divorced and connect life with you.

categorically forbids calling, sharply limits communication;
forbids telling about you to your friends, relatives;
you do not celebrate together any holidays related either to both or to any one of you;
you feel that he constantly lies and is nervous;
talk about the future is cut short;
acts as if you are his property;
showers you with gifts instead of the expected courtesies.

Love is a Beautiful Thing. However, it is better to remember that you cannot build your happiness on someone else's misfortune, and by destroying a family, you will not create anything good for yourself. Although - everything in life is individual, and sometimes the most real passion comes when happiness already seems quite impossible.

Not a single representative of the fair sex is immune from the situation when she is overtaken by love for a man who has already managed to marry another woman.

In such situations, numerous unforeseen questions arise and, of course, after each communication, excitement grows. How will the romantic story develop?

How to find out if a married man loves you and make sure of it? In addition, it is not always possible to immediately understand how high the chances for development become. romantic relationship not to mention staying together...

Signs that a married man is in love

There are several signs that a married man really has an interest in another person.

Communication

Married men behave differently with girls who have managed to please them. It all depends on the nature of the representative of the stronger sex. On the question of how to find out whether a married man truly loves you or not, you need to understand one serious limitation that exists - a stamp in your passport.

Attention from a married man does not always mean something serious

It is possible that restrictions will be noted in communication, which sooner or later will lead to reasonable suspicions.

If a man is not ready to betray his wife, any contact will be prevented

Sometimes, after all, a married man is not ready to deal with his feelings, the existing cravings. In this situation, he is ready to act openly with his chosen one. Such manifestations of love can be dismissive., it's not so easy to admit that the wife no longer causes any interest. However ... you can’t get away from feelings, so sometimes romantic notes begin to appear more and more often and sincerely.

Man's behavior

Sooner or later, deeds give out true attitude married man to his mistress. Interested in how to find out if a married man loves you, you need to understand that Can't hide real feelings...

If a girl needs help, a man will find a way to contribute to the successful solution of an existing issue. Even if there is a desire to prevent contacts, help will be provided indirectly, through other people.

Body language and gestures

In many situations true feelings manifest themselves in gestures that are not so easy to control. Many girls try to understand how to find out if a married man loves you or just has a passion for you, they forget that sign language becomes amazing discovery the meaning of all actions.

What features to pay attention to?

long stares- this is the first and very shy step of two people in love who are still trying to fight what is emerging between them ...
You can follow the fleeting movements of the eyebrows. If a man is in love with a girl, he will make an involuntary movement of his eyebrows for one second.
Every man tries to look irresistible in front of a girl. which interests him. For this reason, he will straighten his shoulders, raise his head and draw in his stomach. All this will testify to the desire to please.
Classic intimate gesture- laying thumbs hands on the trouser belt. Sometimes a man can keep one hand on his hips or sit on a chair, stretching his legs. Such changes indicate that he is trying to show the existing physical strength and willingness to be with a girl.
The desire for intimacy often manifested by the fact that a man gently takes a girl by her hand or accidentally touches her hair. Such gestures ensure that a man is pleased to be around, so he wants to prolong this pleasure.

Even if communication turns out to be unnecessarily strained, it is recommended to take care to pay special attention to gestures and think about why a married man behaves a little playfully ...

Signs of attention from a man

Important fact! Signs of attention that can come from a man say a lot. In the initial period of communication or romantic relationships, it is possible to understand how the situation is in reality.

If everything calmed down and became commonplace, there will be no chance for positive changes.

Men show their attention in different ways, because not all of them are ready for fundamental changes in life and active rapprochement with a girl. Only free guys ready to look after the girls passionately, trying to successfully cope with the tasks.

A married man can offer help in a friendly or sympathetic way.

In fact, if the marriage is not going as well as we would like, the chances of starting a romantic relationship increase significantly.

Perhaps, after all, there will be a transition to the romantic stage of communication with a further perspective ... But you should not think so far, because you first need to understand how to find out if a married man loves you.

The girl, despite her status as a potential lover, retains good opportunities in order to try to get closer to her beloved man. If a man tries to help in difficult situations, encourage and inspire, no need to act recklessly, immediately showing your interest.

How to understand the intentions of a married man

First and most important task is an attempt to understand the true intentions of a married man. To do this, it is advisable to start with friendship, having your chosen one to learn more about the relationship with his wife, to understand what their marriage is and whether there are problems.

A long look indicates a clear interest

If you managed to find out about the married status of a new acquaintance right away, it is recommended to end any relationship. Otherwise, the question may arise, how to find out just having fun, or the answer about whether a married man loves you will be joyful and encouraging.

Carefully! Of course, there are cases where marriages break down after the love passes and people make a serious decision to break up. However, many situations confirm that the man did not even plan his divorce at first.

Unfortunately, it is impossible to 100% know the thoughts and desires of another person, but it is possible and necessary to try to predict the development of the situation.

If, nevertheless, the relationship is laid down and promises to be happy, you won’t have to wait long for a divorce.. Nothing good should be expected if a man is constantly looking for numerous excuses and does not even strive to take a serious and decisive step.

It's very frustrating to listen to all the new excuses and excuses every time.

Relationships can be given a chance, but only up to a certain point, because sooner or later it becomes clear that nothing good will happen.

Is it necessary to build a relationship with a married man

Life is an unpredictable thing, therefore it is impossible to give an unambiguous answer regarding relations with a married man. In any case, such romantic connection promises to be dubious. The woman will be judged by other people who will not approve of trying to take someone else's husband away from his wife.

Doubt and uncertainty are unpleasant moments of such a romantic connection.

Interesting fact! If a man cheats on his wife and takes active steps in a relationship with his mistress, it can be assumed that serious problems V family life. For example, womanizers cannot live without new relationships, and a husband disappointed with life is not ready to be faithful to his wife.

However, sometimes relationships have a perspective, because forced marriage or early marriage can collapse quite often.

How to build relationships

If a girl nevertheless decides on a relationship with a married man and values them, she needs to know how to behave with him correctly.

What can and should be done

First of all, it is recommended to understand that relationships are built on the positive and the absence of conflicts and quarrels. For this reason, it is recommended to follow right tactics with a married man.
It is desirable to enjoy relationships at the beginning, without thinking about the future. Pleasure can be obtained from romance and sex. Of course, it is advisable to treat your personal future with respect, so it is undesirable to delay communication without prospects for a long time.
The personal time of a married man cannot be claimed, as it becomes a valuable gift for his family.

He still has to go, react calmly

Aggression can destroy any romance, so it is advisable to control the mood.
A lover cannot be forbidden anything. Even if a man decides to meet with friends, his decision must be respected.
Patience can be valuable. If a girl is interested in how to find out if a married man loves you, it is best to gradually bring him to the need for a divorce. Only tact and understanding of the current situation will help to maintain relations.

What not to do

How can one not behave if there is a desire to maintain the existing relationship as long as possible?

the spouse of the beloved cannot be criticized or blamed, trying to emphasize his leadership;
you should not tell your friends about the secret, because no one from outsiders should know about the relationship;
you can not abuse whims;
you can not put pressure on the chosen one and demand a divorce;
it is not recommended to impose your society on a man.

Relations between lovers will be happy and promising only if both parties find a particle of happiness in what they can build or destroy.

Communication with a married man: love or problems?

Many girls are ready to be mistresses of married men, but at the same time, the question regarding the prospects for relationships continues to remain open. You need to understand that only the person who finds himself in a love triangle has the opportunity to make his final choice and put everything in its place.

Mistresses often worry about a shared future with their lover, so they are not always ready to maintain a romantic union for a long time.

Is it worth it to be a part love triangle- you decide

Before you set the perspective, you need to understand the features of marriage. Most often, men in whose relationship problems are noted, they decide to cheat.. If coziness and comfort always reign at home, there is a happy and loving wife, nothing bad will happen. The only exceptions are the womanizers.

For this reason, it is necessary not only to understand how to find out whether a passionately and truly married man loves you or not, it is advisable to analyze the situation from all sides, and then make the right decision regarding the relationship.

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It often happens that one meeting can turn our whole world upside down. This also applies to relationships between men and women. In youth, it is not always possible to find a person with whom you want to live your whole life, you find yourself a life partner, but it turns out that he is already married to another.

It is believed that the formation of a full-fledged personality occurs before the age of 25. One already accomplished husband and father, a businessman with a respectable amount in the bank account, when asked how much he had changed from adolescence, answered that now, from the height of the experience of fifty years, he would not even give a hand to this eccentric youngster.

Why does a married man fall in love with another

Throughout our lives, experience shatters youthful illusions and aspirations. Gives way to other values and goals. Often, marriage young age, then brings one disappointment. And a woman appears who suits the man in all respects - he falls in love, but at this stage he is already married and far from being a young man.

This situation is not new and has happened countless times in human history. Whatever public morality, no matter how many evenings girlfriends and grandmothers gossip in the yard, there have always been and will be mistresses, women abandoned for the sake of a momentary hobby, adultery and new families. Why does a married man fall in love with another woman? What are the reasons why a married man falls in love?

No responsibilities

Family life is not always sugar, running away from his second half, the spouse is looking for comfort on the side. If this is a momentary hobby, without responsibilities on both sides, then a sudden romance will go stormy and leave pleasant memories with a touch of sadness not only for a man, but also for a woman. But when, after several meetings, the continuation of the relationship follows, you already become a mistress. A married young man will only be happy about this.

By the way, the position of a mistress has its bright sides. Firstly, rare meetings bear the imprint of novelty. A man gives gifts and shows pleasant signs of attention. intimacy with a married man who has seized upon such sweet freedom will bring a lot of joy. He will work for three. Again, you are spared the usual routine of a wife in housekeeping for the family. No need to wash, wash, cook, clean.

If your beloved is a married man with money, he can suit you small holidays like weekend flights to Phuket or Dubai. In this case, the wives, quite often, are aware of the secret life of the faithful, but they are afraid of the loss of material wealth, along with the departure of the breadwinner, and they make a good face when bad game. As in a joke, when a husband and wife went to the theater and he tells, pointing at the women: "Here is the mistress of Sergei Vladimirovich, and that Ostap Petrovich."

The wife replies: "Ours is still better!". In this case, if your goal is to create future family with an admirer, you will have to be disappointed. A married man is not going to change habitual image life into the unknown with a new wife. But usually, women in the roles of mistresses, in such cases, are well aware of their place in this play. In most cases, a married guy is an unattainable dream.

A married man and a happy outcome

However, most women, no longer girls, with some life experience, hope for something else. That her beloved, but married man will divorce and come to her. Still, a woman is more of an emotional being than a practical one. And love is a sense of ownership. I really do not want to share a man with someone else. men with capital letter always clearly understand what they are doing and why. Lawless Heart.

If there is love, they will not lie to their wife, they will collect personal belongings and go to the one they love. ex wife it is important to understand that a person is honest, and not to tyrannize him later for leaving her and the children. Usually such people never forget about children. They meet with them, pay alimony, help financially. These are real men, not rags.

If you are abandoned, this is not the end of life - you will still meet a person who will be with you. It is better to maintain relations with the former, if not friendly, then at least neutral. After all, if there are children, they need a father, no one will replace him, even another husband.

A married man is a vicious circle

Not all men leave the family. There are those who live in two families. They find a lot of excuses for themselves and their mistress. Now is not the time to leave because the children are small, they will grow up ... We need to help them get an education and marry or marry. He cannot leave his wife because she cannot live without him and will do something for herself.

Lots of options. And the truth is, he's fine with it. A man does not want to change his usual way of life, warm slippers in the evening and hot borscht of his "unloved" wife to the unknown with a new passion. So to speak, healthy male egoism is to take more from life and give less in return. So if a man from month to month, or even from year to year, promises to “solve the issue” and get married, but insurmountable life obstacles do not allow him to do this, this translates as “after rain on Thursday.”

If you put a question of choice before such a man, either you or she, he will avoid answering and will try to quickly hush up the topic. In this case, the relationship with a married man has many more disadvantages than pleasant moments. You must hide your relationship.

In safe houses or hotels. Often, your colleagues will not fail the opportunity to "make happy" his wife. Holidays for lovers and family people also not for you if, apart from a married man, you no longer have boyfriends.

You meet Valentine's Day, blues in the apartment or in the circle of lonely girlfriends. As known for lonely people New Year, Christmas and others family holidays the heaviest in emotionally period.

The frequency of your meetings will depend on the ability of a man to cut off his “tail” in time, in the role of a wife. In addition, every woman sooner or later wants to have children. You will not have the opportunity to have them with a lover. And if you decide to give birth to a child from him, most likely, this will cause a break in relations. You will become a single mother and it is unlikely that the father will have parental feelings for your child.

What do we end up with? And in the end, if you are a girl hoping for a bright future, do not look for it in muddy water- he's not there. There are lies, unfulfilled hopes and wasted time. The exception is love. But real love This team game And by no means in one gate. So that even after the first half it will be clear who is who.

Life will be. And if a married man has fallen in love with you unconsciously, and there is no benefit from his love, kick him to another gate.