Mistress of a married man rules of conduct. Does a man leave the family for his mistress: how often, in what cases? Does a man go through a breakup, do men forget former lovers
1. If you decide to become a mistress married man, then remember that you can stay in this role forever. According to statistics, only 3% of men leave their families and leave their wives to marry their mistress. The rest prefer to change the latter, remaining "faithful" family men and fathers.
If so, then immediately give up blackmail, persuasion and attempts to prove that you are the best, and live the way you live. Get the most out of these relationships, or at least get rid of loneliness at least for a while.
2. You must remember that married men (no matter how much they earn) love to give gifts to their mistresses. Therefore, since they still don’t marry you, use at least this - find yourself a richer man, and rejoice at each gift as if it were the first and last in your life. Only with such a reaction of yours will the generosity of a man dry up only when he loses interest in you.
3. Many wealthy lovers simply love to arrange the fate of their mistresses. And if so, if you are suddenly sent to study, or offered to get a well-paid job, do not say no. The lover will leave, but the education and work (or at least the entry on the resume) will remain. And this is not so bad, if you look at it soberly.
4. Remember that in romances on the side, married men are looking for what they don't get at home. Therefore, you will always have to play a strictly defined role: act like a fool, only have certain types of sex, always stay at home and wait for it. There may be many options, but whatever they are, any departure from the once and for all established rules will repel your lover forever.
5. As much as you would like, try not to date several men at once. Better be patient and find yourself one, but the best. It will pay off both financially and morally, because there is nothing worse than dodging, hiding and lying. Yes, and men are not as stupid creatures as they try to pretend, and almost any of them will immediately understand if you suddenly have an affair on the side.
6. Always remember the "rainy day", the moment when your lover leaves you. Therefore, if you live solely at his expense, then try to ensure that by the time of the break you have accumulated enough funds to start, if not completely independent, then at least a calm and unhurried search for a new man.
7. Men are suspicious creatures, and therefore it will always seem to them that their wives know much more about them than they show. Therefore, they will always ask you (or even demand) to comply with a certain conspiratorial code. Do not resist in any way. Do everything as you are told. Does not frame her lover chance meeting or a random call. He will not leave his wife, and most likely he will leave you. If he doesn’t leave, and you even make peace, then you will have to forget about gifts and trips abroad for a long time.
8. Remember that you should always, under any circumstances, be better than his wife. This will not increase your chances of marriage, but it will strengthen your relationship with your lover many times over, and if they are, then your financial situation. Unless, of course, you are a fighter for clean relationships with married men.
9. Break up easily. Without tantrums and tears. There is nothing worse than a guilty man. After all, you don’t need him to come to you again and again, hoping to make amends for “his guilt”? You need to improve your life, and not drag along dead and going nowhere connections. Therefore, part once and for all, and if a man tries to meet you again, then let him know that repetition is impossible.
10. Never let one lover "bequeath" you or transfer you as a thing to another man, otherwise you risk becoming a prostitute who costs almost nothing, which means she does not need to give gifts and does not need to be won. Always remember that what men value most is what they had to conquer. Therefore, even if the initiative in your new relationship belongs to you, always make the man get the impression that he conquered you, and that if he had not tried, you would never have become his ... mistress.
Questions of conquering the opposite sex have always been and will be relevant. What tricks women just do not go for in order to attract, win and keep a particular man. This happens to everyone with varying degrees of success. What is the secret? There are actually a lot of them, we bring to your attention an express instruction "How to become an ideal lover".
It all starts with a special relationship...
What is the most important thing for a man in a woman? Appearance? By no means! How many beauties meet old age alone or suffer in their youth from the absence of that very, only one in their lives. A man will at least stay for a long time next to the woman with whom he is comfortable and interested. You will never find the answer to the question: "How to become an ideal lover?" - if you do not learn to understand men. To do this, it is enough to listen to your partner and try to let everything you hear through yourself. Learn to feel like a man too. Nothing will work without this. Guess his mood: sometimes it is necessary to support, in another situation it will be enough just to remain silent, but show your interest. When a relationship is just starting, learn to change your behavior strategies. And one more tip - ideal woman has no problems. You can ask a man for help and advice, but constantly complaining in vain and loading him with your problems is by no means worth it. On the contrary, you need to be more positive and calmer - always demonstrate the joy of meetings and the absence of any troubles in your own life.
How to become the perfect lover in bed?
Intimacy is a big part of a relationship. It’s worth starting with yourself - even if appearance is not the main thing, you should not forget about grooming. You should also definitely purchase several sets of erotic lingerie and some accessories. But with preparation appearance it is important not to overdo it with love games: it is unlikely that the partner will like it if during the foreplay he constantly clings to jewelry or you are shackled by uncomfortable underwear, in this situation, all desire can disappear. When it comes to sex, all the advice of an ideal lover comes down to looseness and a willingness to try new things. It’s not a shame to be able to do nothing, the situation will be saved by the desire to try new positions with a partner, types of caresses, and maybe even some toys for adults.
I want to be perfect in everything!
The best lover should share the interests of her chosen one, but do not forget about her own initiative. Arrange unusual, try to give a man such impressions and memories that he had not previously had with any woman. And so it is worth doing in all areas, the answer to the question of how to become an ideal lover is to be better than all the surrounding women in everything. If meetings at least occasionally take place on your territory, be sure to maintain comfort and cleanliness in the apartment. Learn how to cook deliciously or at least regularly offer your partner drinks according to the time of day and season. Take care of your chosen one in everything, starting with the smallest details, and he will definitely appreciate it.
Why do many of us, from the very early childhood dreaming about lavish wedding and endless family happiness, as a result become constant mistresses of married men? Oddly enough, but for a fairly large part of the fairer sex, such a fate seems to be predetermined by fate itself. Of course, they are not to blame for the fact that by the time of the meeting, the beloved man was already married. Sometimes potential mistresses do not know about it, and sometimes they do, but, completely captured by their feelings, they attach little importance to the fact of marriage. And without resistance, they accept the status of "mistress of a married man", rushing into love, like into a pool. They decide to live for today, and then - come what may! And anything happens. After all, a man is married, and therefore not free, and he usually tries to build relationships with his mistress not to the detriment of his family. Not every woman can stand it. So how to behave if you suddenly (or not suddenly) managed to become the mistress of a married man?
What does it mean to be the mistress of a married man
Why does a woman become a mistress? After all, the trap of an affair with a married man is very insidious. After a romantic period of relationship that completely sweeps aside any sober reasoning, a bitter epiphany comes: “I have nothing to dream about, because he has another.” And a burning, unbearably painful jealousy wakes up. Otherwise it can not be. Yes, usually married men tell their mistresses that both physical and spiritual connection with their spouse has long been lost. But unless a completely naive lady believes that intimate relationships beloved and his wife do not. And his legitimate missus has much more rights to these intimate relationships.And yet - there are holidays that a married man spends with his family. There are calls from his wife during your meetings and his slightly guilty and rather gentle answer: “Yes, dear, I will be soon!”. There is a nervous glance at the clock at the most inopportune moment and there is much, much more ... All this screams from all sides: “He is not yours! You are just a constant lover, but not a wife! This fact becomes painful, and rare meetings no longer bring the satisfaction that was at the very beginning of the acquaintance. Somewhere inside, at first, it quietly matures, and then grows to a gigantic size, the question sweeping away all thoughts: “Will he get divorced or not? Does he really love or is he just playing with me?
It would seem that one does not have to be seven spans in the forehead to foresee such a development of events, risking becoming a real mistress of an unfree man. We will not talk about temporary, for one night, girlfriends of such men - if such relationships bring suffering, then in exceptional cases. And they are not considered as promising at all. So why should a woman complicate her life so much, comforting herself with ghostly dreams and often realizing that all her hopes are nothing more than illusions? And that the mistress of a married man can hardly be sure of a happy future with him?
Do married men leave the family for mistresses? It happens. But quite rare. And the point here is not that they do not have any feelings for women on the side. It happens that they experience, and even very strong ones. But even representatives of the stronger sex who are extremely in love with such a woman turn out to be weak if the issue of divorce from his wife is very acute. For many men cardinal changes in life are tantamount to a natural disaster. And arrange it with my own hands they don't strive at all. Therefore, in order for them to have the thought of whether to marry their mistress, the thought of divorce must first appear. In other words, a married man should be ready for a divorce even before meeting another woman. Otherwise, the question “should I go to my mistress?” will stand in front of him far from immediately, and perhaps never will.
So why, after all, do women so thoughtlessly rush into the arms of a married man, if deep down they understand that the romance will be difficult, and often unpromising? The reasons are different. 
Types of mistresses of a married man
In general, there are several types of mistresses:- Mistress-masochist This is a woman who is impressed by the position of the victim. In a relationship with a married man, she understands everything, accepts everything and agrees to everything. The masochist with sympathy, tenderness and love listens to the outpourings of a man about how unhappy he is in the family, while perceiving him as a noble and strong man. This is the ideal lover of a married man, who sincerely believes that her lover does not divorce his wife and endures "this mymra" because she feels obliged to her children (parents, a sick wife, and so on).
She is convinced that “you can’t build your happiness on someone else’s misfortune” and is absolutely not going to destroy someone else’s family. A man with such a woman really likes to play nobility, and from time to time he leaves her so that she finally arranges her personal life. Being an ideal lover, a devoted masochist suffers a lot during such periods, but does not even think about trying to start her own family. And when the beloved returns, she again accepts him, shining with happy eyes. These are very convenient types of mistresses, relationships with which men can continue for many years.
- Hysterical mistress This woman likes thrill. Usually, hysterics include bright, self-confident, independent ladies who can easily arrange their personal lives. If they want. But they don't want to. They are adventurous and cannot imagine their life without risky situations, therefore they choose married men as the object of passion, and those who are able to constantly create these risky situations. The psychology of a lover of this kind is based on a high level of aggression, and she keeps her chosen one in suspense all the time, either flirting with someone in front of his eyes, or disappearing for several days, or calling his wife ... The fantasy of a hysterical lover has no limits, And she can throw out anything.
An affair with such a lady is not for every man. Relations develop quickly and rapidly, without delays and equivocations. A lady with the psychology of a hysterical mistress is not capable of maneuvers - she needs a victory at any cost, and she goes to her goal over her heads. Numbers with a sense of duty and obligations to children do not work here. And the married women should stay away from her, and run headlong, but it doesn’t come out! Attacks of aggression in a hysterical mistress are replaced by attacks of incredible tenderness, and such a stick and carrot keeps a man cleaner than any waterfall of continuous caresses. But, since he stepped into a minefield, it means that he needed a powerful surge of adrenaline. And a married woman will be drawn to such a woman until he is finally exhausted. When that moment comes, no one knows. The most paradoxical thing about the behavior of hysterical mistresses is that if a married man suddenly sets out to start a family, they immediately break off all contacts with him. Because the object becomes uninteresting.
- Lover-eternal bride This is a woman with a refined nature, unable to pragmatically perceive the world. She is looking only for the prince, and finds all his features in a strong, courageous, but, alas, married man, who strenuously plays the role of the one who needs the eternal bride. However, often he does not play this role at all. Just in a relationship with a mistress of this kind, any man involuntarily becomes indulgent. Otherwise it can not be. After all, she is so trusting and naive, and so reverent before him, that he always feels with her nothing more than a noble knight! The eternal bride, looking at him, experiences serious delight: here he is, her prince! And at the same time, he does not think at all about the fact that he has a family. And, by and large, she doesn’t care, because next to her is such a reliable, experienced and exalted man!
In reality, the situation in relations of this kind is somewhat different. The lover-eternal bride is looking for someone who would take responsibility for her future. She cannot and does not want to make any decisions on her own, therefore, as a protective wall and support, she is quite satisfied with a married knight. Main life rules mistress-eternal bride are striving not to allow destructive reality into their fragile inner world. She almost sincerely believes that since her beloved is nearby, it means that they have only a bright future ahead of them. The “eternal bride” prefers not to think about his wife and children. And if one day this fact makes her change her behavior and thoughts, the young lady is amazed, frightened and often begins to behave like a complete hysteric. She showers reproaches on the man, calls his wife, complains about her deceit to others, sobs and appeals for sympathy.
- Lover-mother This woman is a real lover, next to which a man rests both in body and soul. Weary from the decision of the never-ending domestic problems and tired of the demands of his wife, he finds peace in the house of his mistress-mother. No one climbs into his soul, no one forces him to earn money, take out the garbage, nail a nail ... Wrapped in care and affection, he seems to dissolve in the arms of his mistress, feeling completely safe.
The rules of the mistress-mother are based on the principle of "do no harm." She will not harass with questions about a divorce, she will not ask about where he was worn for so long, she will not call her wife and will not reproach her for anything. Nourishing and tasty food, lay down, give unforgettable sex ... It would seem that complete idyll Get divorced, settle here forever! After all, at home - a grumpy wife in a washed-out bathrobe, serving store dumplings on the table, and children requiring regular attention. So no, no! He returns to his wife and children to wear out his nerves in order, and then again comes here to come to his senses. Why?! Yes, everything is very simple. After all, men understand that all this calm comfort can turn out to be a carefully built trap. And, if they finally fall into the tenacious paws of a mistress-mother, who knows what her care and attention will turn into then ... Perhaps the new family life will turn out to be much worse than the previous one. So why take the risk and get a divorce, if it's so good?
These are the most common types of women who, without much moral torment, associate with married men. There are still unsatisfied family life women, women who only want sex, women who want money and so on… But we are not talking about them now. We are talking about those who, one way or another, are pushed into romance with married women by nothing more than a desire for love. All of them, deep down, cherish the hope of becoming the wife of their chosen one, and very often this desire does not come true.
The psychological background of such connections, as a rule, is different. Such a complex object of desire is chosen by a woman, because subconsciously she strives to overcome obstacles. Overcoming is accompanied by internal tension, tension is removed by meeting with a loved one and appears in separation from them, then it is removed again, again pumped up, and so on. And often, in this case, the main role is played not even by the attitude of a man to his mistress, but by the very fact that this relationship is forbidden.
However, among the mistresses there are also women who have managed to seriously fall in love with a married man and very much hope that someday he will belong entirely to her alone. In the event that she belongs to the category of masochistic lovers, dreams can come true only if lawful spouse she leaves her husband. Hysterical mistresses practically cannot count on a successful outcome of a relationship. What man in his right mind would agree that his life will turn into a living hell? Even if he gets divorced, he will try to find a safe harbor for himself, and will not rush headlong into the stormy sea! Do they marry lovers-eternal brides? Only if love for a man is one of life's priorities. Which, admittedly, is quite rare. But the mistress-mother has good chances to become legal wife if she can prove that her devotion and care are sincere.
Conclusion: in order for an affair with a married man to end in marriage, you need to make a lot of effort. What? Here are some time-tested tips for lovers. 
- If we try to combine the devotion and undemandingness of the masochistic mistress, the emotionality of the hysterical mistress, the naive romanticism of the eternal bride mistress and the reliability of the mother mistress, the chances of marriage with a married man will increase. This cocktail has a truly bewitching effect.
- If we do not try to replace a man with a wife, his interest will grow and, in the end, can turn into a very strong feeling. This means that we do not wash, cook or clean with him. A man comes to his mistress's house to take a break from everyday problems. And a beautiful woman should meet him loving woman capable of giving moments of happiness.
- If we do not throw tantrums when a loved one suddenly marked the meeting due to the fact that it was necessary to urgently solve some family matters We knew what we were getting into. Therefore endurance, endurance and once again endurance! She will be an excellent assistant in building the foundation on which a serious relationship is based.
- If we do not allow whining in the event that the ringed friend cannot appear for an anniversary, birthday, some kind of celebration, or hang around on the weekend. If he spends all weekends and holidays with his family, that's fine. The fact that the family (so far) has much more rights to a loved one is an indisputable fact, and one must come to terms with it.
- If we do not get used to a man, considering him the only one in our lives. He will go to his wife. And if we admit the idea that this particular person is destiny, and cultivate it, as a result, the habit will make parting very difficult, and separation will burden the pangs of jealousy. We do not forget about ourselves, suffering alone, when there is no loved one. We find interesting activity, meet friends and girlfriends, have fun in some companies and in no case do we torment the phone, calling him for no reason.
Be that as it may, the fate of a mistress is an unenviable fate. Even if as a result she turned into a wife, you can’t get away from the man’s past. It happens, of course, that it remains in the past and is forgotten over time. However, this is quite rare. Usually the connection with former family does not stop, especially if there are children left in it. The woman who caused the divorce needs to be prepared for the fact that her beloved will spend time with them, call up, help. And to the fact that the former wife will not leave him alone. She will ask for help, be interested in the affairs of the ex-husband, sarcastic about him new family and so on. And if the lady is also unprincipled, she will start pouring dirt at all corners. I must say that many will sympathize with her. And you have to be patient, wise, understanding. Is there enough strength for this?
So maybe it's better to find someone who is free and create your own world with him, devoid of outside interference? After all, no matter what the statistics say, there are enough worthy bachelors around. You just need to look at them and open your heart. Then everything will happen by itself. If you get rid of the thought that it is impossible to find your man now (they say that all normal people are busy and indeed they are very rare), he will certainly be found. Albeit with some shortcomings, but good husband need to mold. It doesn't fall from the sky. After all, the family lover before his marriage was different. It is likely that if the wife had not tried, we would not have paid attention to him, who knows ... Yes, the heart chooses itself. If he is allowed. And if you impose a taboo on yourself family men, the heart will obey. And it will reach out only to those who are intended only for us.
So what are the benefits of this position?
A woman owes nothing to anyone. Agree, at least once in your life you dreamed of an easy relationship in which no one puts pressure on you. You don't have to give everything to your man free time. If you wish, you can have relationships with several young people. And you don't have to feel guilty about a permanent partner (of course, if you don't have a spouse).
Great relationship experience. Communication with the opposite sex allows us to better learn to understand people. Any relationship is a valuable experience that helps us work on our own mistakes.
Good time. Contrary to popular belief, a married lover can give you not only enchanting sex, but also fascinating communication. Many couples enjoy visiting theaters, exhibitions, and make small trips. New person in your life can help you find an incentive for self-development and self-improvement.
Distraction from life. Unfortunately, it is everyday life that causes cooling of feelings in many people. married couples. On this basis, quarrels and misunderstandings often arise. WITH married lover you can forget about all these problems. Meeting with him is a celebration of romance.
Fresh emotions. How often in life there are not enough new feelings that make us take a different look at the world. The wise mistress of a married man enjoys secret dates, finding in this position some special zest and piquancy. If you are looking for just such sensations, then periodically you will have to change your lover.
Material support. By becoming the mistress of a wealthy man, you can receive from him nice gifts who could not afford before. There is nothing shameful in this: you give him positive emotions, and he pampers you with luxurious surprises.
Lover can provide material support
Why does a man need a mistress?
Speaking about the rules of conduct for the mistress of a married man, you should first understand why men decide to cheat on their spouses. What do the representatives of the stronger sex really want from girls? Here are the main causes of adultery:
A mature man wants to feel young and reckless again. To do this, he chooses young and pretty girls who are ready to give him their own time.
The man is tired of permanent relationship that are filled with scandals and quarrels. He is looking for an opportunity to pour out his soul and talk about his own problems. A man expects understanding and moral support from his mistress. This is not a wife who saws him almost every second.
Having lived for several years in marriage, a man realizes that he lacks fresh emotions. At home, he is met by the same woman, dressed in the same home bathrobe. He knows every inch of her body, thoroughly learned what brings her pleasure in bed. He memorizes the names of her favorite perfumes and TV shows. He simply lacks variety, not only in sex, but also in relationships.
Sometimes a man wants new emotions
Problems in bed. Intimate relationships in the family often gradually come to naught. Unfortunately, first of all, the spouses are to blame for this, who cease to monitor their own figure and appearance. There are also women who are practically indifferent to sex. So a man has to look for satisfaction on the side.
Revenge. Suspecting or convicting a spouse of treason, not every man decides to divorce. Some Husbands Just Have Mistresses Who Help Them improve self-esteem.
Thus, in a mistress, a man first of all looks for what he lacks in own family. And these are exactly the things that once accompanied the beginning of a relationship with his current wife.
A man never decides to cheat in order to get new family. From this follows the first rule of behavior of the mistress of a married man: never and under no circumstances should you wait for the continuation of the relationship. By allowing yourself to think that one day he will leave his wife and come to you, you doom yourself to suffering. Do you need it?
Do not try to tie a man to you with some gifts and cute surprises. Ties, lighters, perfume set aside for permanent partner with whom you will be connected serious relationship. Best gift for a lover, it's you. IN beautiful lingerie, neat attire, with good styling and natural makeup. Don't be a caring mom.
Do not meddle in your lover's personal life. Asking him about the family, you most likely will not hear any truth. Most often, men tell their mistresses that they live with their spouses, like neighbors, there is no intimate relationship between them, and indeed they sleep in different beds. Naive girls believe in this nonsense and ... invent feelings for themselves on the part of a man. At the same time, the hero-lover himself is having a great time with you and his wife.
A lover should have a private life
Realize that the spouse will be in the first place for a man. Let the feelings fade away, even if they really have problems with sex, but they are connected long years joint life and, possibly, common children. In addition, according to numerous surveys, a small percentage of men are ready to sacrifice their usual comfortable living conditions for the sake of a new adventure. Having enjoyed your company, he will go home, where dinner prepared by his wife awaits him. And it's not worth making a tragedy out of this either.
Do not try to become his second wife. If it turns out that you really fell in love with a lover, do not seek to take him away from the family by ironing his shirts or pampering him with gourmet treats. In this situation, his interest in you will gradually fade away, because there will be no intrigue left.
Do not introduce a man to relatives. Most likely, the offer of such a meeting will simply repel the lover, who will decide that you have some kind of views on him. This rule does not apply to friends and acquaintances.
Are you expecting gifts and expensive surprises from your lover? In that case, from the very beginning you should behave like a real lady. When you visit a restaurant for the first time, you should not take your wallet out of your purse and try to pay for yourself. Also teach a man to come to visit you not empty-handed. At the very least, a bouquet of daisies must be present. Be for him a weak and desirable girl.
Do not devote a man to your personal life. You have every right to communicate with other males. Let him know that your relationship will last exactly as long as you want, not him.
Talk to him directly about what you don't like about your relationship. For example, while at your house, he switches the TV to a sports channel. Or he is constantly late for meetings for no good reason. Do not be silent and do not pretend to be a sufferer. A man should know that in front of him is a self-sufficient and self-confident girl. You don't have to play by his rules.
Be busy doing something. In addition to work, you should find an interesting hobby for yourself. visit Gym, courses Chinese, a literary circle, go to theaters, etc. A busy life schedule will not only make your life brighter, but also show your lover that he is not the center of the universe for you. Let the man independently adjust to the rhythm of your life and find time for dates.
You must always be a little busy with your own affairs.
A smart girl uses many ways to attract a man, and wise woman does it in such a way that the man is sure that everything happens solely on his initiative. In no case should he decide that you are seeking him, and not he you.
Don't be hysterical. If a man once canceled a meeting or was unable to attend a holiday because of his wife, you should not make a scandal. Pretend that you simply did not notice this or considered what happened to be a trifle. Otherwise, very soon your relationship will simply come to naught.
Advice for married women who have a married lover
Relationships between not free people are the most convenient option for connections on the side, because in this situation, you both understand that you are not held by any obligations. However, in this situation, the woman has serious problem: she needs to make every effort to ensure that her husband does not find out about the side connection. To do this, you will need to follow these tips:
Never choose as a lover a man who knows your spouse. Often the object of sympathy for girls become best friends husbands. But this option should be immediately abandoned. Sooner or later, the secret will be revealed.
What does a woman who has a lover look like? New emotions overwhelm her. She smiles and flies on the wings of passion. In the eyes of the girl it is noticeable that pleasant changes have taken place in her life. Many ladies begin to pay increased attention to their appearance. Attentive Husband immediately notice that something is wrong with you. Immediately descend from heaven to earth and stop doing combat makeup in the morning. Try to make sure that your face does not express anything superfluous.
Glitter in the eyes can give out the presence of a lover
- A married lady who has taken a lover begins to come after work much later. Naturally, she informs her husband that she has a lot of things to do, papers that need to be drawn up, meetings, etc. crack down true reason this behavior is quite simple. Use an alternative method.
Get yourself a girlfriend with whom you supposedly will attend various events in the city. It is even worth inviting a friend for a tea party at your home. 1-2 times a week you can justify your absence by meeting with her. If you wish, you can meet with your lover even on weekends. To do this, inform your husband in advance that you are going with Masha / Katya / Sveta to some fashion exhibition that obviously will not interest him. You can even invite your husband to this event. Obviously, he would rather watch football or go fishing with his friends.
A good lover will give you some gifts from time to time. If you have new Jewelry or expensive dresses, come up with a believable story about the death of a wealthy distant relative of your mother or aunt. Remember: all labels from things must be thrown away immediately. If the husband suspects something is wrong, he can take a walk to where the goods were purchased. He can easily find out when the purchase was made and how it was paid.
What to do if a lover invites you on a short trip for a few days? Traveling is a smart option. It is desirable that the final destination is not known to your spouse. Naturally, this option is dangerous if your husband is well acquainted with your superiors or employees.
Any correspondence with a lover must be conducted on a work computer. Use your home laptop exclusively for other purposes. Otherwise, you risk one day forgetting to leave the social network, and the whole dialogue will be successfully read by the jealous.
Try not to communicate with your lover on the phone at a time when the husband is at home. If there is an urgent need to call the object of passion, think that you urgently need to go to the nearest store for bread. Next time, go take out the trash or take your dog for a walk.
After a passionate evening with a lover, do not rush to go to the bathroom. An observant spouse may think that you are trying to quickly wash away the traces of a vicious relationship.
Don't forget what you need to do marital debt in bed. If you start constantly denying your husband intimacy, he will immediately understand what is happening. Try not to change intimate behavior and not to demonstrate new skills to the spouse.
Do not allow your lover to leave traces of your sexual games on the body. Scratches, hickeys are direct evidence of your extramarital affair. Any arguments are powerless against such evidence.
A husband can find out about a lover by finding traces of love games on the body
Be in touch at any time. When away from home, never turn off your phone. Pick up the phone, even while in bed with your lover. Confusion can easily be explained by being in the gym, rushing to a meeting, missing the last bus, and so on. In this case, the risk of suspicion on the part of the spouse will be minimized.
Try to make sure that the lover does not have any evidence of your relationship. We are talking about joint photographs or even videos ... There are situations when a woman, having decided to leave her lover, is blackmailed by him. Protect yourself in advance, because you can never predict what might await you.
Pamper your spouse delicious dinners Give enough time to your children. Remember that a lover is a temporary phenomenon. And the family requires full attention from you.
Don't tell literally anyone about your lover. Even best friend may turn out to be a rare bitch. Be prudent. You can only trust yourself with such serious secrets. Of course, in no case should you start a personal diary.
Never give in to the temptation to confess to your husband of infidelity. Even if he somehow finds out that there are rumors that you have a lover. Even if the lover decides to annoy you and calls his spouse (and this happens)! In the most unfortunate situation, you can pretend to be a victim and say that your lover slandered you because you refused to enter into an intimate relationship with him.
Do not carry condoms in your purse if you and your husband do not use this method of contraception. It is better to buy condoms just before a date.
Do not, under any circumstances, bring your lover to your home. Even if the spouse is long business trip, you may be noticed by "friendly" neighbors who will gladly tell their spouse about what is happening. The ideal option is dates on neutral territory.
How to take a lover out of the family?
Unfortunately, romantic women are not always able to maintain their composure. Many ladies fall hopelessly in love with married lovers. What to do in that situation, if you are really experiencing strong feelings to this man? According to statistics, no more than 5-7 percent of unfaithful spouses go to mistresses. But there is always a chance. The main thing is to follow wise advice:
- If a man has children, try to show sincere interest To this issue. Surely he will be happy to talk about his kids. Even if a man has fallen out of love with his wife, he will never give up his children. Your inquiries will show your lover that, in the event of your reunion, you will gladly accept his daughter or son. And no problems like " new wife does not allow to see the children from the first marriage” will not arise.
Remember that if a man has not left the family after a year of your relationship, he will never do this. Therefore, it is necessary to act much earlier.
Try to study your lover well. He will probably constantly tell you about himself, problems in relations with his wife. Learn his habits and personality traits.
Let him know that he can trust you. Be an attentive listener and interlocutor. Keep all his secrets and problems in strict confidence. Do not refuse the help and support he needs if you are able to do something for him.
Remember that a man will leave his wife only for the sake of a mistress who will be much better than her. Therefore, you need to make time for your appearance, go to the gym and always look as neat as possible.
Take care of intellectual enrichment. Men love women who can keep up a smart conversation on any life topic. At the same time, you should not try to show your superiority.
Try not to disturb the man with your own problems. He should not see your tears and tantrums. With you, he should constantly feel warmth and joy.
If the object of your passion is over 40 years old, you should exercise maximum caution. You need to determine what this man really wants. Accustomed to many years of marriage, he will be able to go only to that mistress who can provide him with the maximum comfortable conditions life.
Learn different sexual techniques. You have to become a real master in this matter. Returning home, a man should feel that something is missing.
Try not to touch financial issue. If you need to find out the income level of a loved one, do it indirectly.
You should give the impression of a simple and rather docile woman with whom he will not have constant conflicts. Of course, you should also have your own point of view.
How to break up with a married lover?
If you realize that your relationship is hopeless, and over time you become more attached to a man, think about how to break this painful connection for you. First of all, you need to understand that your leaving is a conscious choice that will allow you to start new life without the pain. If you decide to break up, don't change your mind. Do not expect a married lover to change his mind and leave the family. Most likely, after a while he will simply find a new mistress. Remember that a girl's youth passes very quickly. If you cannot imagine your life without a full-fledged family, give up married lovers once and for all.
The first few weeks after breaking up with a married lover, try to spend in the company of people close to you. You may need to change your phone number (in case it rings). A good way out of the situation would be a short trip to another city or country. There you can unwind and relax mentally.
You should not withdraw into yourself and think that your former man – best person in the world and you won't find anything like it anymore. Understand that your love would not torment you. If you're lonely, let yourself be turned on new novel with a free young man. Even if he does not become your husband, you are guaranteed to receive a charge of positive energy.
We hope that this article has helped you get rid of many of the problems that mistresses of married men face. In any case, you should start taking things a little easier. You are the creator of your own destiny!
The word "lover" somehow did not immediately take root in the minds of a Russian person, it rather causes an instant negative reaction than leads to pleasant associations.
And the mistress of a married man is something even sharper and more confusing. Why do men so often find the joy of love pleasures on the side?
Reasons for the appearance of a mistress
Probably every woman, one way or another, mentally turned to this issue. We wrote about it in another article, and now it's time to consider the most relevant reasons for cheating:
- Polygamy.It has been scientifically proven that many men have a passion for adoring several women at the same time, for a long time this feature human body was considered an invented excuse of the male representatives themselves.
- meager sexual relations with his wife. intimate relationship play key role in the life of a man good sex solves many problems (and this is not only in the opinion of men).
- Insidious seducer.It seems that any girl met with such a type of men who not only enjoy the process of charming women, but also increase self-esteem, and replenish the number of sophisticated ladies.
- Frequent family scandals with a protracted reconciliation.For both husband and wife, any domestic quarrel is psychological stress which you want to avoid.
- Spouse not taking care of herself, without knowing it, pushes her husband to compare her with others, beautiful, well-groomed women. It is unlikely that this process will have positive results for her. All men love with their eyes, even husbands.
- The appearance of a child.Oddly enough, men are capricious children, they absolutely do not tolerate competition, even the birth of a son or daughter, one way or another, can provoke treason.
- Age changes.Men surviving an attack middle age, brave, try to resist the natural aging process and maintain their self-esteem through communication with young guys and, of course, girls.
Key turning points in a man's life are highlighted here, their number is not limited to those mentioned above.
But what about female reasons pushing for the status of mistress?
I became a mistress
It probably does not make sense to single out the main reasons, since there are only a few of them and they are all quite simple.
The desired feeling of one's need through the prism of love tenderness, victory over a rival - a wife and the absence or unwillingness of a stable relationship.
All this makes a woman think that being the third in someone's love is not so bad.
Mistresses ... what are they?
It should be clarified that there is a huge difference between a stupid mistress of a married man and a wise one.
- The first is tormented by doubts about the morality of the current situation, longs for the final break of a man with an incomprehensible wife, harasses both herself and another man's husband with numerous reproaches and a reassessment of the powers of her power over him.
- And the latter understands that relations with her are temporary, and it makes no sense to demand the impossible from a man. She does not throw tantrums, does not accuse his wife of stupidity and generally does not indulge in insults to everyone around, on the contrary, she is as polite as possible, impeccably beautiful and completely self-sufficient.
- A short-sighted mistress will become jealous of a man for his wife, become isolated in the shackles of fear of loneliness, cultivate a sense of guilt in her lover and talk about the lack of joint future plans for life.
- A smart lover appreciates her position, pleases a man and gets from it real pleasure, does not compromise him, but, on the contrary, preserves the mystery of these unforgettable meetings.
In any case, only at first female soul blossoms, the lover feels incredible pride in herself, for the fact that, as she herself thinks, she has won a victory over the lawful wife of a man.
Sometimes, however, she will throw tantrums, even to herself, wave personal love illusions and hope for the best.
Options for the development of love lines
Any story has its logical conclusion, as you know. no exception and intimacy men with mistress. She can consider several storylines:
- Divorce of a man with his wife- the rarest and most ambiguous outcome, because the dissolution of one marriage does not mean the conclusion of another.
- Parting with a mistress.The reasons for the breakup can be different, from the limit of male patience to the knowledge of the wife about the existence of a rival.
- wedding with mistressis a happy continuation of the first option, although it can not always be called such, because a mistress is the joy of a man, and a spouse is the joy of his wife.
- long love trio, not destroyed by time or circumstances, may well be a fundamental element of the harmonious life of a man.
Completion joyful meetings depends on the man: his degree of attachment to his family, duty and moral responsibility for it.
In any case, a mistress should not expect too much from a man, even the most ardent and gentle during dates.
Someone else's wife is someone else's husband's mistress
Mutual understanding, passion and love foreplay between a man and a mistress can be different: both mercilessly meager, and huge, and impulsive, and calm.
In the latter case, most likely, we can talk about the meeting of two people who do not belong to each other - a married man and a married woman.
What did they find in this comical situation and why, ignoring their families, did they dare to adultery? Married mistress a married man is somewhat different from free woman that seduced him.
Why do men prefer married lovers?
A woman who is married looks at many things more seriously than unmarried girl. Here are some facts that prove it:
- She, like him, does not need hysterical sobs, regrets and threats that border on insanity against the backdrop of boundless resentment. She won't ask for gifts heightened attention and surprises.
- Calling the phone during “family” time and disturbing his relatives is also not in her interests. She does not wait for someone else's husband to divorce and leave for her - she does not need two husbands. It's easier to part with her.
A married lover for a married man is a pure diamond, because her calmness, the need only for the very closeness and limited time able to please him for a long time.
Is the mistress a fallen woman?
Social stereotypes undergo a lot of changes, adjustments, and sometimes have destructive force. In the old days, mistresses were openly hated, despised and humiliated, considering them to be witches.
Currently, personal labels have been removed and do not carry anything serious. Now the phrase: “I am the mistress of a married man” does not cause such sharp negative emotions.
If a woman does not plan to get married in the near future, give birth to children, then why does she need to protect herself from love passion?
Lover is the most real woman, with quivering impatience awaiting the affection and tenderness of a man, open and smiling, despite personal adversity, mysterious and at the same time dear, close and, in her own way, loved by a married man.
