Indifference or hostility from parents. Glossary. neglected children - children deprived of supervision, attention, care, positive influence on the part of parents or persons

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Adolescence is a difficult time not only for parents, but also for children themselves. At this time, parents often understand that the rules by which they communicated with children are no longer valid, at this time parenting mistakes often pop up - they understand that something needs to be changed.

We are in website decided to find out what so often prevents us, parents, from building strong, warm relationship with teenagers and not lose their trust.

13. Insist on candor

It is difficult for many parents to accept that a grown-up child does not allow them into all areas of his life. Often they begin to demand more frankness from the child. But it is extremely important for a teenager to feel his independence, to rely on his own opinion. The more he feels pressure on himself, resentment from his relatives, the more he begins to close and protect his personal space: he moves away from frankness, begins to deceive.

12. Violate personal space

Sometimes, out of the best of intentions, parents begin to check the pockets, bag, correspondence of a teenager. By doing this, we not only disrespect the child, but also devalue his personal space, and he is just beginning to try to treat him.

This greatly undermines his confidence in both his parents and himself. It is worth making an effort to ensure that control is the result of an open and honest agreement between you and the child.

11. Ignoring the opinion of a teenager

When parents are not interested in the opinion of the child, do not take it into account - he feels that it is not important for parents, and concludes that he is not loved and respected.

Such behavior can provoke aggression in the child. The second option is also possible: the child will give up in response to your persistence and one day may simply lose the ability to make decisions on their own.

10. Make vague demands

Of course, at the level common sense the child will understand you, but it can be very difficult for him to implement the requirement, since the criteria are rather vague.

Over time, this can lead to a big difference of opinion between you.: the child will consider that he already meets the requirements in full, and you - that there is always something to strive for. To avoid this, it is worth knowing exactly what you want, and learning how to say it to children in the same way.

9. Devalue his feelings

Parents often think that children overdramatize events. But if the child does not regularly receive support from loved ones, he feels rejected and closes even more. Or begins to protest against his parents and behave aggressively.

Try to take seriously everything that happens to the child, respect his feelings, appreciate his trust. Let him know that he is understood and accepted, that his feelings are important to you.

8. Not Always Consistent

Sometimes, in order for the child to fulfill the requirements, parents resort to promises or threats that cannot be fulfilled in advance. But, when the desired goal is achieved, they forget about their words or simply do not rush to fulfill them.

But it is worth remembering: teenagers are very scrupulous about fulfilling the promises of adults. If over and over again relatives will say empty words, the child will stop believing them. So parents will lose authority in the eyes of a teenager.

7. Teach him too much about life.

You should not turn your parental authority into a dictate. Otherwise, this can simply lead to either a strong rebuff and aggression on the part of the child, or you simply risk breaking his integrity and self-esteem.

Parents of teenagers should strive for reasonable compromises. Make decisions together with the child, make concessions that will allow him to save his face. It is worth learning to see in the child, first of all, a person who needs to be respected.

6. Live his life

When the whole life of the parents is built only around the child, dissolved in it, this is already an obvious bust. Children, adopting the attitude of their parents towards themselves, may begin to treat them with the same obviously dismissive attitude.

Parents need to take the time self-interest find time to rest. Without this, it is extremely difficult to build right relationship with a child, and it is difficult for him to be proud of his parents and appreciate them.

5. Not interested in his life

Without knowing how a child lives, what interests him, it is impossible to build with him trusting relationship which are so important in adolescence.

If you try to learn more about what is happening in the child's life, about his hobbies and show your awareness, then you will earn his favor, you will have something to talk about.

4. Constantly criticize

Parents often believe that praise should only be given for excellent grades. However teenagers need approval in all their affairs. This gives the child strength to move on, helps to experience failures more easily.

At the same time, no one cancels healthy criticism. But it is always worth restraining emotions and remembering what goal you set for this: to punish the child? Express your attitude to the act? Help him realize he's wrong? Or solve the problem with him?

3. Not close to their friends

Parents will not be superfluous to get acquainted with the closest social circle of their children. To do this, it is enough just to often invite them to visit for a cup of tea with a pie.

This will not only strengthen your relationship, but also help you be calm for your own child. If one of the teenager's friends is very worried about you, you can delicately discuss it with him. Relying on your opinion, he himself will draw a conclusion about his friend.

2. Show no respect for him

Of course, sometimes the child becomes the culprit of situations in which it is difficult to maintain patience. But to think that the arguments uttered in a raised tone will become more weighty is a delusion. For him, they will mean your breakdown and his rightness.

If the situation repeats itself, the teenager will simply stop paying attention to you, stop respecting you. What will eventually turn into a closed whirlpool.

1. Spend little time together

It only at first glance seems that teenagers are already quite big and do not need parental attention and caress. Even if you have very little time - let quality replace quantity. On weekdays, it is enough to spend half an hour or an hour together, but without distractions for your business, you can devote the weekend to a joint trip, watching a movie or playing games.

If living together parents and a teenager is reduced only to formal communication, he may begin to feel unwanted, unprotected, feel hopeless, have low self-esteem.

There is an opinion that for a woman there is no difference between her children: maternal love and enough attention for everyone. Ideally, a mother should love and care for all her children equally. But we know a lot of examples when one of the children in the family experienced an acute shortage parental love, and someone was a pet that everyone pampered.

In fact, there are many more such families than we can imagine. As you know, the maternal model of behavior is inherited. And those who in childhood suffered from a lack of parental love have to make great efforts to break this circle. But, according to the writer Peg Streep, mothers' “favorites” also have a hard time in life. In her article, she writes about what leads to unequal treatment parents to children.

When a child is a trophy

There are many reasons why one of the children is the favorite, but the main one can be singled out - the “favorite” is more like a mother. Imagine an anxious and withdrawn woman who has two children - one quiet and obedient, the second energetic, excitable, constantly trying to break restrictions. Which of them will be easier for her to educate?

It also happens that parents have different attitudes towards children at different stages of development. For example, it is easier to educate a domineering and authoritarian mother completely small child, because the older one is already able to disagree and argue. That's why youngest child often becomes mother's "favorite". But often this is only a temporary position.

“In the earliest photographs, my mother holds me like a radiant porcelain doll. She is not looking at me, but directly into the lens, because in this photo she shows off the most valuable of her belongings. I'm like a purebred puppy to her. Everywhere dressed with a needle - a huge bow, fancy dress, white shoes. I remember these shoes well - I had to make sure that there was not a spot on them all the time, they had to be in perfect condition. True, later I began to show independence and, even worse, became like my father, and my mother was very unhappy with this. She made it clear that I did not grow up the way she wanted and expected. And I lost my place in the sun."

Not all mothers fall into this trap.

“Looking back, I realize that my mom had a lot more trouble with my older sister. She needed help all the time, but I didn't. At that time, no one knew yet that she had obsessive-compulsive disorder, she was diagnosed with this as an adult, but that was precisely the point. But in all other respects, my mother tried to treat us equally. Although she didn't spend as much time with me as she did with her sister, I never felt unfairly treated."

But this does not happen in all families, especially if we are talking about a mother with a controlling tendency or narcissistic traits. In such families, the child is seen as an extension of the mother herself. As a result, relationships develop according to fairly predictable patterns. One of them I call the "trophy baby".

First, let's talk more about different attitude parents to children.

The effect of unequal treatment

It is hardly surprising that children are extremely sensitive to any unequal treatment from their parents. Another thing is noteworthy - the rivalry between brothers and sisters, which is considered a “normal” phenomenon, can have a completely abnormal effect on children, especially if unequal treatment from parents is also added to this “cocktail”.

Research by psychologists Judy Dunn and Robert Plomin has shown that children are often more influenced by their parents' attitudes toward siblings than they are toward themselves. According to them, “if the child sees that the mother is showing more love and care for his brother or sister, it can devalue for him even the love and care that she shows to him.”

Humans are biologically programmed to respond more strongly to potential hazards and threats. We remember negative experiences better than joyful and happy ones. That is why it is easier to remember how mom literally beamed with joy, hugging your brother or sister - and how deprived we felt at the same time, than those times when she smiled at you and seemed to be pleased with you. For the same reason, swearing, insults and ridicule from one of the parents are not compensated good attitude second.

In families where there were favorites, the likelihood of depression in adulthood increases not only in unloved, but also in beloved children.

Unequal attitude on the part of parents has many negative effects on the child - self-esteem decreases, a habit of self-criticism develops, a conviction appears that one is useless and unloved, there is a tendency to inappropriate behavior - this is how the child tries to attract attention to himself, the risk of depression increases. And, of course, the child's relationship with siblings suffers.

When a child grows up or leaves parental home, the existing pattern of relationships is not always possible to change. It is noteworthy that in families where there were favorites, the likelihood of depression in adulthood increases not only in unloved, but also in beloved children.

“It was as if I was sandwiched between two“ stars ”- my older brother-athlete and younger sister-ballerina. It didn't matter that I was a straight A student and won prizes in science competitions, obviously it wasn't "glamorous" enough for my mother. She was very critical of my appearance. “Smile,” she constantly repeated, “it is especially important for nondescript girls to smile more often.” It was just cruel. And you know what? Cinderella was my idol,” says one woman.

Studies show that unequal treatment by parents affects children more severely if they are of the same sex.

Podium

Mothers who see their child as an extension of themselves and proof of their own worth prefer children who help them appear successful—especially in the eyes of outsiders.

The classic case is a mother trying through her child to realize her unfulfilled ambitions, especially creative ones. An example of such children is famous actresses- Judy Garland, Brooke Shields and many others. But "trophy babies" are not necessarily associated with the world of show business, similar situations can be found in the most ordinary families.

Sometimes the mother herself does not realize that she treats children differently. But the "pedestal of honor for the winners" in the family is created quite openly and consciously, sometimes even turning into a ritual. Children in such families - regardless of whether they are "lucky" to become a "trophy child" - with early age they understand that the mother is not interested in their personality, only their achievements and the light in which they expose her are important to her.

When love and approval in a family has to be won, it not only ignites rivalry between children, but also raises the standard by which all family members are judged. Thoughts and experiences of "winners" and "losers" do not really excite anyone, but it is more difficult for a "trophy child" to realize this than for those who happened to become a "scapegoat".

“I definitely belonged to the category of“ trophy children ”until I realized that I could decide for myself what to do. Mom either loved me or was angry with me, but mostly she admired me for her own benefit - for the image, for “window dressing”, in order to receive the love and care that she herself did not get in childhood.

When she stopped receiving from me those hugs, kisses and love that she needed - I just matured, but she never managed to grow up - and when I began to decide for myself how to live, I suddenly became for her the worst person in the world.

I had a choice: be independent and say what I think, or silently obey her, with all her unhealthy demands and inappropriate behavior. I chose the first, did not hesitate to openly criticize her and remained true to myself. And I'm much happier than I could be as a "trophy baby."

family dynamics

Imagine that the mother is the Sun, and the children are the planets that revolve around her and try to get their share of warmth and attention. To do this, they constantly do something that will present her in a favorable light, and try to please her in everything.

“You know what they say: “if mom is unhappy, no one will be happy”? This is how our family lived. And I didn't realize it wasn't normal until I grew up. I was not the idol of the family, although I was not a "scapegoat" either. The "trophy" was my sister, I was the one who was ignored, and my brother was considered a loser.

We were assigned such roles and, for the most part, all our childhood we corresponded to them. My brother ran away, graduated from college while working, and now I'm the only family member he talks to. My sister lives two streets away from her mother, I don't communicate with them. My brother and I are well settled, happy with life. Both started good families and keep in touch with each other.

Although in many families the position of the "trophy child" is relatively stable, in others it can constantly shift. Here is the case of a woman in whose life a similar dynamic persisted throughout her childhood and continues even now, when her parents are no longer alive:

“The position of the “trophy child” in our family constantly shifted depending on which of us now behaved the way, in the opinion of the mother, the other two children should also behave. Everyone built up a grudge against each other, and many years later, as adults, this growing tension broke out when our mother became ill, needed care, and then died.

The conflict resurfaced when our father fell ill and died. And so far, any discussion of the upcoming family gatherings does not do without clarifying the relationship.

We have always been tormented by doubts about whether we are living the right way.

Mother herself was one of four sisters - all close in age - and with early years learned to behave properly. My brother was her only son, she had no brothers as a child. His barbs and sarcastic comments were treated condescendingly, because "he is not from evil." Surrounded by two girls, he was a "trophy boy".

I think he understood that his rank in the family was higher than ours, although he believed that I was my mother's favorite. Both brother and sister understand that our positions on the "pedestal of honor" are constantly changing. Because of this, we have always been tormented by doubts about whether we are living the right way.

In such families, everyone is constantly on the alert and always watches, as if he were not "passed around" in some way. For most people, this is hard and tiring.

Sometimes the dynamics of relationships in such a family is not limited to the appointment of a child for the role of a "trophy", parents also begin to actively shame or belittle the self-esteem of his brother or sister. The rest of the children often join the bullying, trying to win the favor of their parents.

“In our family and in the circle of relatives in general, my sister was considered perfection itself, so when something went wrong and it was necessary to find the culprit, it always turned out to be me. Once my sister left the back door of the house open, our cat ran away, and they blamed me for everything. My sister herself actively participated in this, she constantly lied, slandering me. And continued to behave the same way when we grew up. In my opinion, for 40 years, my mother has never said a word across to her sister. And why, when there is me? Or rather, she was - until she broke off all relations with both of them.

A few more words about winners and losers

While studying stories from readers, I noticed how many women who were not loved in childhood and even made “scapegoats” said that now they are glad that they were not “trophies”. I am not a psychologist or a psychotherapist, but for more than 15 years I have been regularly communicating with women who were not loved by their mothers, and this seemed to me quite remarkable.

These women did not try to downplay their experiences or downplay the pain they experienced as an outcast in own family- on the contrary, they emphasized this in every possible way - and admitted that in general they had a terrible childhood. But - and this is important - many noted that their brothers and sisters, who acted as "trophies", did not manage to get away from the unhealthy dynamics family relations, and they themselves did it - simply because they had to.

There have been many stories of "trophy daughters" who have become copies of their mothers - the same narcissistic women who are prone to control through divide and conquer tactics. And there were stories about sons who were so praised and protected - they had to be perfect - that even after 45 years they continued to live in their parents' house.

Some have cut off contact with their families, others keep in touch but do not hesitate to point out their behavior to their parents.

Some noted that this vicious relationship pattern was inherited by the next generation, and it continued to influence the grandchildren of those mothers who were accustomed to viewing children as trophies.

On the other hand, I heard many stories of daughters who were able to decide not to be silent, but to defend their interests. Some have cut off contact with their families, others keep in touch, but do not hesitate to point out directly to their parents about their inappropriate behavior.

Some decided to become “suns” themselves and give warmth to other “planetary systems”. They worked hard on themselves to fully understand and realize what happened to them in childhood, and built their own life - with their circle of friends and their family. This does not mean that they do not have spiritual wounds, but they all have one thing in common: for them it is more important not what a person does, but what he is.

I call it progress.

Emotional abuse can take various forms. Parents are violent if they regularly yell at you, humiliate you, insult you, ignore you, reject you, or threaten you. Emotional abuse often creates feelings of hopelessness, longing, or worthlessness that don't go away very quickly. for a long time. Use basic techniques and strategies that allow you to properly respond to such manifestations of violence. If you need help and support, contact someone you trust. Try to take care of yourself and focus on thoughts of how to quickly heal spiritual wounds.

Steps

How to respond to emotional abuse

Talk to a trusted adult. If you are depressed and need support or advice, talking to an adult you trust can help. This could be your relative, mentor, or family friend. The person will offer you support and options for a way out of the situation or help you find a specialist.

• Be aware that some adults are required to report to the authorities unacceptable attitude to children and adolescents on duty. For example, a teacher or trainer is required to report such a situation to the appropriate authorities. A relative or family friend is not required to do so.
• If you are not ready to report emotional abuse and do not want other people to interfere in the matter, then tell a reliable adult about it. Ask them to respect your request and keep the conversation private.

Overprotection is unhealthy, exaggerated care for a child, excessive care. Also known as overprotection. Hyper-custody manifests itself in the desire and implementation by parents (more often mothers) of unhealthy increased care for the child, even when the child is not in danger and everything is quiet and calm. possible and useful, but excessive concern is harmful. The consequences of overprotection on the scale of a child's life can be catastrophic.

Why overprotection of a child or overprotection is bad.

• • As a result excessive care by the child's parents widespread helplessness develops, since the baby is spared the opportunity to make mistakes and correct them, make decisions on their own.
  • The child becomes unable not only to make decisions, but also to take actions aimed at achieving results, as it is waiting for help from adults. Among psychologists, there is even such a term as “acquired helplessness”, which is characterized by the inability to do anything independently without the intervention of parents.
  • As a result of overprotection, the child also develops inability to adapt under changing conditions of life, the inability to respond and adapt to new situations, since all necessary actions are undertaken for it.

• The saddest thing is that all this results in an adult who was brought up on the terms of unconditional “leadership”, because his parents always admired the child, he was the first for them in everything, although he didn’t even need to do anything for this. In addition, a cult of permissiveness was created. In general, as a result of this, a person grows up who is unable to discipline himself, unable to fight, unable to find his place in life, with a sluggish and incapable of achieving the goal of character.
• The consequences of overprotection or overprotection are primarily in the development of a number of negative character traits in the child: failure to make decisions and take actions, conflicting thoughts and actions, a number of complexes of self-doubt, avoidance of any difficulties, “stress” and risk in life.

Hyperprotection - negative consequences

The worst thing that parental overprotection can give is a constant feeling of anxiety and discomfort for your child. Such a psychological virus. This is where psychological ailments grow: insecurity, permanent care from risk, lack of normal communication, dependence on anything. Every parent should constantly think about whether his attitude towards the child is filled constant feeling anxiety or increased anxiety. At the same time, if mom or dad can honestly admit to themselves that they are worried about the child and correct it, as a result, the family will receive a normal atmosphere within the family.

What is hyperprotection?

• Inert hyperprotection- the child has grown up and should become more mature, more independent. At the same time, his parents still treat him like a little one. grown up child- more requirements. This is the normal state of affairs. The problem lies in the fact that parents, wanting to take care of the child, are more and more motivated not by caring for children in fact, but by the need to assert themselves. Roughly speaking, through hyper-guardianship, parents assert themselves. The child grows up and the parents begin to panic, as they lose the only source of self-assertion. After all, when a child grows up and he has his own opinion, the parent loses the possibility of authoritative domination. When children have personal growth, it frightens parents and they perceive it as a challenge, they begin to react, causing conflict. As a result - a complete collapse of relations in the family. Especially dangerous period- This adolescence. As a result of overprotection, a growing person has perverted concepts in personal growth and self-realization, which once again gives parents a reason to once again be convinced of the alleged immaturity of the child. Then this process drags on for years and slows down the development of not only the child (who is no longer a child), but also his parents
• Demonstrative hyperprotection. This kind of excessive concern is usually expressed in the indicative nature of the actions of parents, to the public. That is, parents are more concerned external effect their actions than by addressing the real needs of children. Again, the problem comes from the parent who needs affection and love. Therefore, this type of hyperprotection is more often observed in incomplete families where there is only one parent. Or where the parents are already elderly. In other words, the lack of attention and love on the part of the spouse is replaced by the attention of the child.

Where does overprotection or overprotection come from?

• Most often, parental overprotection occurs precisely on the part of the mother.. Moreover, if a girl is brought up in a family, then the mother, wanting to overly surround the child with care, will limit communication even with the father, which will negatively affect the daughter’s character, because every child needs both the upbringing of the father and mother. However, more often this is manifested to the son from the mother's side. If you want, you need to stop being overprotective of your son. Hyper-care of the mother in the future will come back to haunt the character of the son when he grows up.
• Moms with a mild melancholic nature are more prone to overprotection pitying the child and wanting to protect him from all the difficulties of life.
• In the same time ambitious, active mothers who achieve their goals by any means are also prone to overprotection. After all, even with a child, this is her child, he is unconditionally the first, the best and it cannot be otherwise! Therefore, growing in such conditions and getting gradually into real world“without a mother”, a person is lost and offended by everyone and everything, who does not consider him as such.
• There is also such a thing as demonstrative hyperprotection when all the care of the child is undertaken by the parent in order to show the people around him how good and caring he (the parent) is. In this case, the needs of the child are not taken into account at all.
• Inert overprotection- when the child grows up, and the parents continue to demand the same about him that they demanded from the little one, without raising the bar.
• Fear for the future of the child can also lead to overprotection or overprotection. And then we will be surprised in this very future, . And all because overprotection has led to the fact that the child is generally not able to do anything on his own. While vying to talk about how to take care of the health of the child, but at the same time they do not tell how to raise independence in the child!
• It happens that overprotection is associated with a difficult conception, for example. After such a procedure and complex and long way to conception, parents are especially worried about their child.

What to do and how to overcome overprotection?

As always happens with any psychological deviations, the problem must first be recognized, contact a psychologist.

How can a psychologist help? Of course, for a psychologist to solve the problem of hyperprotection is a difficult task, since most often such a problem has a rigid and deep character. What is interesting is that parents even more need to work with a psychologist, since the problem that has arisen is their hands (or, more precisely, heads) business. Plus, such parents cannot even accept the recommendations normally, because even in this they see a threat to their child. The fact that the specialist will take away the care that the parents provide to the child. At a minimum, you must first recognize and identify internal conflicts in yourself, problems in the subconscious, which are transferred to the fate of the child through the actions of parents.

The problem almost always lies precisely in the parents, so it is necessary to understand exactly your “cockroaches”. As an option, start pet so that the child understands that not only everything is for him, but he can also be for someone.

street children- children deprived of supervision, attention, care, positive influence by parents or persons replacing them, children's team and at the same time with the indifference of parents, educators to children.

Homelessness- an extreme manifestation of neglect. street children- children who do not have parental or state care, permanent residence, age-appropriate positive activities; deprived necessary care, upbringing; not receiving systematic training.

Charity- provision by individuals or organizations of gratuitous assistance to needy people or social groups population.

Deviant behavior- behavior that is not consistent with social and moral norms, does not meet the expectations of the group or the whole society.

Maladaptation- discrepancy between the socio-psychological and psycho-physiological status (capabilities) of a person with the requirements of the situation of life, which, in turn, does not allow him to adapt to the environment of his existence.

Delinquent behavior- deviant behavior in its extreme manifestations, which is a criminally punishable action.

Orphans- children under the age of 18 whose both or only parent have died or are declared dead.

Children's drug addiction- form deviant behavior children, which is expressed in their physical and (or) psychological dependence on drugs, gradually leading the body to physical and psychological exhaustion and social maladaptation children.

child prostitution– trade own body, the child's conscious entry into sexual relations for money, to extract material or any other benefit.

Children's environment – surrounding the child environment, social, social, material and spiritual conditions of his life and interaction with peers, younger and older children.

Children's alcoholism - a form of deviant behavior of children, characterized by their pathological attraction to alcohol and leading to social degradation of the individual.

Child care– measures to meet vital needs and ensure normal development children.

Commission on juvenile affairs and protection of their rights- is intended for the implementation of measures to protect and restore the rights and protect the legitimate interests of minors, is formed by local governments.

Correction – correction of shortcomings.

culture- a historically determined level of development of society, the creative forces and abilities of a person, expressed in the types and forms of organization of life and activities of people, as well as in the material and spiritual values ​​\u200b\u200bcreated by them.

deprivation parental rights – a family legal measure aimed at protecting the rights of children brought up in a family; rendered in the form judgment in relation to parents, if it is established that they evade the fulfillment of their duties for the upbringing of children; entails the transfer of the child to another parent or the care of guardianship authorities.

Mercy- willingness to help someone or forgive someone out of compassion, philanthropy.

giftedness- the level of development of abilities, which determines the range of activities in which a person can achieve great success.

Guardianship (guardianship)- a form of placement of orphans and children left without parental care, for the purpose of their maintenance, upbringing and education, as well as for the protection of their rights and interests. Guardianship is established over children under the age of 14, guardianship - over children aged 14 to 18 years.

Deviations from social norms- a form of manifestation of violations and moral imperatives, foundations, norms (the sphere of negative, negative behavior).

Pedagogical neglect- a condition caused by shortcomings in educational work with children, carried out in the family and educational institution; pedagogical neglect includes: shortcomings in general educational knowledge, means and methods of their application; lag in the physical, mental, personal development; distortions in relation to oneself, to others, various types activities, its results, etc.

Innovate experience socio-pedagogical activity– novelty, high performance and efficiency social educator, compliance with modern achievements of social pedagogy and methods of socio-pedagogical activity, stability and the possibility of creative application by other specialists.

Rights of the child- a set of special legislative norms and rules aimed at protecting the interests of children and adolescents in all spheres of their life.

Shelter- a place where the child can be around the clock, provided with food and necessary assistance.

Rehabilitation- a complex of medical, psychological, pedagogical, professional, legal measures aimed at restoring impaired body functions, as well as social, socio-pedagogical functions and the ability to work of patients and disabled people.

Family- a social institution characterized by a stable form of relationships between people, within which the main part of Everyday life people: sexual relations, childbearing and primary socialization of children, everyday life, educational and medical care, upbringing of children, etc.

Family at risk- a family in which the parents of minors or their legal representatives do not fulfill their duties of raising children or negatively influence their behavior, or commit illegal actions against them.

Socialization- development of a person throughout his life in interaction with environment in the process of assimilation and reproduction of social norms and cultural values, as well as self-development and self-realization in the society to which he belongs.

Social adaptation- the process and result of the active adaptation of an individual, layer, group to the conditions of a new social environment to changing or already changed social conditions of life.

Social protection- a regulatory system for stabilizing society, aimed at minimizing social contradictions that arise in the legal and economic status of certain groups of the population.

social pedagogy - a branch of pedagogical science that studies the patterns social education and social education of children in the process of their socialization.

social pedagogy- a branch of pedagogical science, the object of study of which is the child, and the subject of study is the patterns of his socialization.

Socio-pedagogical technology- an integrative variety of social and pedagogical technologies; the optimal sequence of socio-pedagogical activity, allowing to obtain a rational result in a particular situation.

social norms- legal and moral behavioral standards and expectations that govern people's actions, public life in accordance with the values ​​of a certain culture and strengthening the stability and unity of society.

social institution - a historically established stable form of organization joint activities of people.

Social teacher- a specialist in social and pedagogical work with children and parents, with adolescents, youth groups and associations, with the adult population in educational and specialized institutions, at the place of residence.

Adoption- the most preferable form of placement for children deprived of parental care, in which the child is legally fully equated with his own children, acquires parents in the person of adoptive parents and a family of his own.

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