How can a young mother take care of her emotional state and mental health during the period of caring for a baby? Psycho-emotional state of mother and child

Mom's behavior, her perception of the child from the very beginning of pregnancy has a huge impact on the mental development of the child. mom introduces little man into the world of other people, shows him an example of interaction with this world.

The relations themselves in the "parent-offspring" system, even in wild nature are built on extreme condescension, benevolence, affection, patience, combined with severity. An animal will never deprive its offspring of the most important things: food, warmth, rescue, protection of parents. Unfortunately, aggression towards children is characteristic only of human beings.

Based on research conducted by child psychiatrists of mothers from the first months of a child's life or even from the period of pregnancy until he reaches four years of age with special methods observations, scientists have identified 4 types of behavior of mothers:

"Reliable mother" - when dealing with a baby, she is always calm and friendly, unconditionally adjusts her life to the needs of the baby, concentrates on him completely and understands his needs. By her actions, such a mother creates in the baby a sense of reliability, security, trust in the world, a feeling that he is loved.

"Anxious mom" - has a hypertrophied sense of responsibility, focuses exclusively on physical health which can harm mental development limits the child's contact with the outside world ( excessive attention to cleanliness, “development”, a jealous attitude of other family members showing attention to the child in the form of “I am the only one who can adequately take care of my baby”).

“Depriving mother” - deliberately denies the child her attention, ignores the needs of the baby (feeding “on schedule”, and not on demand, lack of response to the crying of the child with an “educational” purpose, etc.).

Mom, partially or completely removed from the upbringing of the child. In this case, the functions of the mother are performed by a nanny or grandmother.

Recognizing these types of behavior is fairly easy. For example, by the way a mother takes a baby in her arms, dresses him: one will do it confidently and calmly, the other with rude gestures, despite the child, the third - for a very long time, somehow, the fourth - exaggeratedly lisping and overly caring.

By the behavior of the baby himself, it is easy to determine the type of his mother.:

• if the baby falls to the floor, attacks the mother with fists, falls into hysterics, and the mother herself is very neat, pedantic, spends a lot of energy on altruistic activities, then this may indicate a single available reaction of the baby to despotism in relation to the mother. Hysteria is the easiest way to get attention;
• if a child wets a finger or any object, lies motionless in the “Christ position”, or, on the contrary, pulls his hair, beats his head against the bed, then this may mean that the mother is not up to the child, she is busy with other things. Such a mother believes that there is nothing to worry about, that the child is crying: “she will cry and stop.” However, the insufficiency of love forms an alienation from the world, which can manifest itself much later, delay psychophysiological development due to a lack of warmth and affection;
• if the child begins to spit breast milk, pinching, scratching, then this may indicate an excess of attention, excessive "binding" of the child to himself. The child thus demands freedom, a sense of being out of symbiosis with the mother. This situation often leads to disruption of the gastrointestinal tract ( gastrointestinal tract), visits to doctors, examinations, even possibly forced curtailment of breastfeeding, begin.

The problem of a competent ("reliable") attitude of a mother to a child is, first of all, associated with the peculiarities of their upbringing, the lack of skills of maternal behavior in their childhood. Especially often, difficulties in behavior in relation to a child arise in pupils of orphanages, boarding schools, orphanages, who do not know how and do not want to be wives and mothers.

Is it possible to win the love of your child? Yes, definitely possible! Small child naturally friendly, forgiving and compromising.

Is it possible to truly love your child? Yes, sure!

And for this you only need:

• look deeper into yourself, give answers to questions, what exactly irritates and causes negativity, where these qualities are manifested in the mother herself - carefully work on your own fears and problems;
• realize that the child is not a reflection of the parent, not a copy and " Blank sheet”, on which the mother is obliged to apply her drawing, and a separate autonomous creature with own needs, desires and life path;
• occupy, occupy, occupy and learn to feel.

Love accepts everything and forgives everything, neutralizes all fears and solves all problems.

The benefits of breastfeeding are endless. Unfortunately, now many women, especially young women, refuse breastfeeding in favor of adapted mixtures under various pretexts. It seems to a woman that she does not have enough milk, and the child screams from hunger, or that she does not have enough fat and nutritious milk. It is generally accepted that milk can be lost if mommy is a lot of nervous. Yes, and the baby is transmitted stressful condition mothers literally “with milk”, therefore, allegedly, during a period of stress it is better to stop breast-feeding. Is it really?

How does stress affect breast milk production?

Scientists give an unequivocal answer to this question: “No way!”. That is, even during periods of extreme stress breast milk continues to be produced in the same quantity. However, stress affects the hormone oxytocin, which is responsible for the release of milk from the breast. So the situation when mommy gets nervous - and the baby starts crying at the breast, because he doesn’t have enough milk, is really quite common. Does this mean that in such a situation it is necessary to supplement the child with a mixture as soon as possible? After all, in this way we will only contribute to the reduction of milk production! On the contrary, we must try to calm down, relax - and breastfeeding will be fully restored. In such a situation, the mother needs to remember: there is enough milk in the breast, just the child will not be able to get it until the mother calms down.

Impact of breastfeeding on maternal stress

Sometimes the opposite question arises: how does breastfeeding affect the course of stress in the mother. And here scientists give the answer in favor of the baby. Even the most severe stress in a woman who is breastfeeding a baby is easier than in all others. On the one hand, a woman is aware of her responsibility to the baby, so she simply cannot afford to "plunge into the abyss of suffering." Where her friend in misfortune will give the baby to relatives-nannies and begin to selflessly suffer, the nursing mother will put the baby to her breast several times a day and completely immerse herself in communication with the baby. And stimulation of the breast and nipple during sucking launches into female body a number of interrelated processes. Those women who constantly breastfeed a baby during feeding (especially after the first few months of uncertainty) feel peace and tenderness, which leaves no chance for stress!

Does mother's stress affect the baby during breastfeeding?

Although it is commonly believed that the child literally "sucks up with milk" all the experiences of the mother, but this is absolutely not true! In fact, breast milk does not and cannot contain any substances that cause stress in the baby. Research by scientists confirms that maternal stress often affects the behavior and well-being of the child, but this has nothing to do with breastfeeding. Rather, the nervous behavior of the mother, the smells she emits, the intonation of the voice - that's what makes the baby nervous and capricious.

But the influence breastfeeding the stress on the child is colossal! The very birth of a baby is already a serious test for him. And only physical contact with the mother, her warm breasts, her smell, breast sucking can to some extent help the baby to get used to this alien world. As the baby gets older, the need for breast milk is no less. What is the easiest way to calm a baby when he feels bad, scared, tired? Of course, give him a breast! No wonder now pediatricians advise breastfeeding a child for at least two years, and some even recommend keeping breastfeeding up to five years! Data from British scientists who conducted a study of more than 30,000 children indicate that breastfeeding affects not only stress, but also intellectual development baby, his socialization and even his entire future life, increasing by almost a quarter the chances of successful career and personal life.

The emotional instability of a nursing mother in the first place has a bad effect on the health of the baby.

Breastfeeding is a big responsibility.

If a woman decides to breastfeed her baby, then she should carefully monitor her health and lifestyle. Errors in the nutrition of a nursing mother negatively affect the quality of breast milk, from which the baby suffers in the first place. The lack of key vitamins and minerals in breast milk leads to the fact that the baby grows and develops poorly. At the same time, the baby will often get sick, and all from the fact that his body will receive less valuable nutrients and biologically active substances.

However, adherence to the principles of rational nutrition and healthy lifestyle life, this is not all the requirements for a nursing mother. One of the main recommendations of doctors for young mothers is to avoid stress in every possible way. Never underestimate negative impact stress on the body. With emotional stress in the human body, changes occur at the biochemical level. This process involves endocrine and higher nervous activity - the main "orchestrants" that regulate the course of all processes in organs and systems. Therefore, under stress, almost the entire body suffers, including negative changes that are reflected in the quality of breast milk.

Stress hormones and breast milk

As you know, breast milk is produced under the influence of the hormone prolactin. Stress has no effect on prolactin, and the process of milk production itself is not disturbed. However, stress produces increased amount the hormone adrenaline, which in turn suppresses the production of oxytocin. Oxytocin regulates the flow of milk from the breast, and at low concentrations in the blood, this reflex is temporarily impaired.

In addition, stress hormones are able to penetrate into breast milk, and then into the baby's body. The most unpleasant thing they can lead to is digestive disorders in infants. Often with emotional instability in a nursing mother, the baby suffers from increased gas formation in the intestines - intestinal colic, which causes crumbs severe pain. With colic, the baby is very worried, cries loudly, kicks his legs and refuses to eat. In this regard, treatment intestinal colic in babies, it begins with a psychological conversation with a nursing mother, who should avoid stress, because it is the stress of the mother that can be the trigger for the development of intestinal colic in babies.

Dealing with stress

If your stress is caused by everyday problems, minor conflicts in the family and other minor circumstances, then you can cope with emotional tension on your own, having previously eliminated the source of stress. If the cause of mood swings is deeper, and you are not able to cope with it, then immediately seek help from a qualified psychologist. And it’s better not to put it off, because this is how you first of all take care of your baby.

• if your lactation has decreased, then you should not worry about this, because this phenomenon is temporary, and soon everything will be restored;
• don't overcool. Let it be warm in the room, drink warm (or hot) tea, milk, this only promotes lactation and helps to calm down. Especially good for stress warm baths with soothing essential oils;
• Avoid bright light, and provide yourself with maximum comfort at home: a comfortable chair, your favorite music (quietly), etc.;
• put the baby to the breast more often, and spend as much time as possible next to him. Rocking the baby in the chair has a calming effect on both the baby and the mother;
• avoid prolonged feelings of hunger. Eat often and in small portions. Hunger also releases adrenaline, which blocks the production of oxytocin;
• don't be too hard on yourself. Postpone your affairs for later, and mainly focus on your health.

How to deal with colic?

As mentioned above, with the emotional instability of a nursing mother, the baby may experience colic. Help to deal with this problem natural preparations made on the basis of plant extracts - the so-called Carminativums. One such remedy is the German drug Carminativum Bebinos, which includes extracts of fennel, coriander and chamomile. Fennel has long been used to combat bloating and flatulence. Coriander extract acts as an effective antispasmodic, and chamomile has a pronounced anti-inflammatory and calming effect on the child.

Carminativum Bebinos is available in the form of drops, does not contain sugar and has a pleasant taste. So the kids love it.

Information for the professional activities of medical and pharmaceutical workers. Karminativum Bebinos: RS No. UA/8686/01/01 dated 08/09/2013. Other information at the bottom of the page at the footnote: (1).

When reading the content of these appeals, the question inevitably arises, how did it happen that young people, who until recently sincerely loved each other, suddenly develop such hostility that they begin to act, as they say, “to harm” each other? What provokes the dying of their love and the birth of mutual misunderstanding and even enmity?

Of course, each family case is individual, and, unfortunately, there are a lot of factors that provoke such a rebirth of human relationships. One of these factors is the nature of the relationship of the spouses in the first year after the birth of the child. Often it is during this period that the first “microcracks” appear in relationships. loving friend friend of people.

About this difficult period marital relations an article has already been published on our website (“Take off your laurels”), therefore, in the following psychologist’s advice, at least practical tips, which are useful to read not only for young mothers, but also for fathers, as well as for those young people who are just preparing to get married.

The birth of a child is one of the happiest, but at the same time one of the most difficult periods in life for any young family, which brings a lot of different emotions and unforgettable impressions. The first year is especially difficult, when the child expresses his well-being only with sounds, body movements and facial expressions, and parents do not always succeed in understanding him, especially if this is their first child. It is during this period that a young woman devotes herself entirely to caring for a baby, and the first year of a child’s life is very difficult for her, because she has to give all the best physically, psychologically, and emotionally. And it is not surprising that, despite such pleasant chores, a young mother often has a breakdown, a feeling of chronic fatigue and a state of increased emotionality, incl. irritability.

According to experts, doctors and psychotherapists, this can happen for the following main reasons:

• sleep interruption, chronic sleep deprivation. The dream of a young mother is not continuous, as she has to constantly wake up at the first request of the child, and at times women do not sleep fully at all, but only doze off. Finding long time sleep deprivation and fatigue impair alertness, negatively impact performance, and can lead to a range of physical and mental health problems.
• Hormonal changes that occur in a woman's body after childbirth. Against this background, most young mothers experience emotional disturbances, whims, causeless crying, bad dream and others. In some, these disorders turn into a depressive state.

That is why in such a period, a complication of relations with a husband is likely, who, due to a lack of life experience, does not always understand, and sometimes does not want to understand, the state of the mother of his child, and therefore continues to lead his usual lifestyle - delays at work, business trips, friends etc. And a young mother is not always able to calmly and clearly explain her difficulties and problems to her husband because of her "wound up" emotional state and resentment.

Financial difficulties are also possible in the family, tk. only one spouse works, which can result in family conflicts, which will also affect the mental state of the young mother, and therefore the child.

Whatever it was, dear mothers, always remember that your condition affects not only your mental and physical health, but also has strong influence on your baby's health and development!

In this regard, we offer you the following tips for keeping yourself in good condition, which allows you to smooth out many of the problems and difficulties of this period.

Try to always be attractive

It is important for a woman to like herself in the mirror, like her husband and loved ones. After all, you always want to be not only a mother, but also just beautiful. well-groomed woman. Charm, surprise, inspire your husband daily - first of all, with your appearance and joy! A man is always pleased to know that his wife is the standard of grace, beauty and charm, no matter what. Try to look neat and fresh not only "in public", but also at home. Of course, after giving birth, there is desperately not enough time for this, and sometimes even energy, but you need to allocate at least 10-15 minutes a day for a minimum of the usual procedures. You can get yourself a trendy but easy-to-style haircut, and then you do not need to spend a lot of time every day to make your hairstyle look beautiful. You can also purchase a comfortable, but fashionable clothes for the house (you should not walk around at home with your husband in a comfortable, but in an old washed dressing gown) and for walking on the street with a child. It is important to take care of your body, for example, do recovery exercises or fitness at home, if possible, several times a week, finding everything necessary exercises in the Internet. Remember that doing small joys for yourself every day, you become happier yourself, and make your whole family happy.

Take your husband as an ally

The birth of a baby is joyful and happy event, which is designed to further strengthen the union of two people who love each other. Of course, at this moment it is not easy for both spouses: new parents have new and not always pleasant responsibilities (for example, change diapers), the intra-family load increases, which quite often leads to tension in their relationship, and sometimes leads to quarrels, resentment and disappointment in family life("really, how good it was before marriage - daily signs of attention, evening gatherings with friends in a cafe, etc.").

That is why during this period it is especially important to try to be closer friend to a friend, do not forget to show care and attention, compromise, be able to give up part of your own I for the common WE.

And it's common WE you need to build, taking into account the psychology of communication: if you (even if calmly and affectionately) in a conversation with your spouse discuss his actions, appeal to him with some arguments, then you may not achieve positive results, so it’s better to say to your spouse what and how you need to help, what you want, using a kind psychological technique – I-statements.

Remember that listening and hearing each other, creating comfortable conditions for yourself and your baby, it will be easier for your family to cope with any difficulties. And in order not to get hung up on your problems, there is nothing better than sometimes laughing at them together with your spouse, because it often happens in life: those problems that seemed very serious or unsolvable to you, after a few years seem mere trifles.

Learn to understand the child

In the third week of a baby’s life, he begins conscious communication with his mother, and therefore you must be ready for this. moment in the life of a child, incl. to the need to develop one's own sensibility and intuition - understanding one's child even at the mental level. In the future, it is through this interaction that the child learns the world around him, so it is important that the baby perceive communication with his mother exclusively positively.

You need to get used to correctly and calmly respond to the crying of the child.. In the vast majority of cases, crying does not mean any disease. The main thing for the mother in this situation is to learn to distinguish crying caused by objective reasons, from crying manipulative. Remember that the baby with all his behavior shows what he expects. heightened attention and understanding from adults.

By the end of the first year of life, the child's behavior is not yet established, he is looking for a mechanism to influence his parents. If the baby understands that what you want can be achieved by whims, crying, screaming, pulling your hair, then your communication with him will be constantly accompanied by such excesses - this child's behavior is called memorized. If, by your behavior, you let the child understand that such actions do not lead to the achievement of his desired goal, then the baby will eventually stop crying, screaming and acting up without a serious reason.

In the event that you constantly focus the attention of the baby on his negative actions, then he will repeat them on purpose to attract your attention. Try to form positive attitude in the child's behavior. By creating favorable atmosphere at home, you will reduce your child's desire to be in opposition.

Talk to your child more

Talk to your baby as much as possible, even if he is only a few days old. Constantly talking, "cooing" with the child, you yourself calm down, bringing your nervous system into balance. The benefits of such communication for the development of the child's emotional system, his intellect and speech can hardly be overestimated. With good psycho-emotional contact with the mother, the baby expands the arsenal of ways to communicate and transfer information.

In addition, it is well known that the baby is calmed by the beating of the mother’s heart, to which he is accustomed even in the womb, but each time taking the baby in his arms to calm him down is probably not The best decision, sooner or later, the hands will begin to get tired, and the child will begin to get used to the hands too much. And only mother's speech can replace the beating of the heart - calm, affectionate, benevolent - it will become a soothing background for the child.

Let them help you

Do not refuse the help of loved ones in the first time after childbirth. Even we are talking about a person with whom you did not get along very well a good relationship(for example, the mother-in-law or the sister of the husband - it happens in life and this). You can always ask loved ones to do some homework or take a walk with a sleeping baby, but for now you can at least get some rest (but do not abuse your requests).

No lack of communication!

One of the problems of young mothers is a sharp decrease in the social circle: "child - husband - child - child - and again a child." In order to reduce the lack of communication, try to get acquainted on the street with mothers with strollers just like you. You will have many interesting topics for a conversation. Often after such "meetings with strollers" women remain friends on long years. And don't forget the Internet. This is a great opportunity to communicate at a convenient time for you with people who are in the same life situation. At the same time, of course, you should not take everything that is advised to you literally. Discussing problems, you will understand that you are not alone in your experiences, and mutual support will give strength. You can meet new people, and when you find out that someone lives nearby, make real friends!

The following factors can also help improve your mood:

• do not be in a darkened room, let more daylight into the room;
• include bananas, dark chocolate, fruits, dairy products in the diet (if breastfeeding allows);
• get enough sleep! There are ways to sleep a short time that you can learn and feel more fully;
• cultivate the complex in every possible way positive emotions, for this you need, first of all, to find time for yourself and interesting activity- hobby, additional education(for example, courses, master classes), sports, etc.
• use modern technologies for convenience and benefit ("radio babysitter").

Use innocent tricks

It is well known that men and women are different not only in physiology, but also in thinking, in their personal perception of various situations. Sometimes it seems to a woman that she quite clearly hinted to her husband about her desires, but "he," thick-skinned ", does not notice and does not understand anything!". This is true, since men are less receptive to speech than women. Then you need to use innocent female tricks.

For example: the spouse came home, you fed him, the child sleeps peacefully in the crib - a great time to take a little nap (it is not known what other night will turn out). There are two ways to do this: the first is to tell your husband that he should look after the child while you get some sleep; the second is to sit with your husband on the sofa in front of the TV and, talking with him, peacefully fall asleep with your head on his shoulder. Believe me, in these cases the reaction normal man will be different: in the first one, he was given an assignment (“I myself was tired at work, I could have slept during the day!”); the second - the wife is glad of his arrival and wants to talk, but bad luck - she fell asleep (“darling got tired!”). Men do not like it when their wives give them instructions (although who loves that?), so in the second case, if the child wakes up or gets worried in a dream, the father himself will take the initiative to care for the child without waking up the spouse.

Finally

Duality needs to be understood psychological state young mothers: on the one hand, many women experience a deep sense of relief after childbirth, they are overwhelmed with joyful excitement, sometimes reaching euphoria, and this state can last for several months; on the other hand, young mothers often have a feeling of anxiety, oppression and fear that they will not be able to cope with new responsibilities, and in most cases healthy anxiety prevails due to changes in their usual way of life. All this is normal, so it was and so it will be for many. But if anxiety state expressed very strongly and becomes permanent, it is necessary to seek medical help.

Remember that your emotional state is in your hands! And the most important miracle you already have!

The time in the history of parenting is coming to an end when prolonged breastfeeding (for example, up to 1.5 years) caused surprise and even disapproval of others, and an increasing number of people give up under the pressure of the phrase "recommended World Organization Healthcare” and accepts what yesterday seemed at least strange. And an increasing number of mothers are prolonging the period of breastfeeding and even becoming adherents of self-weaning of the child. And now, when the decision is made and you can sigh “Ugh! Well, that's it, we feed! ”, The time has come to take a closer look at this very GW and understand its intricacies, psychological moments. Because long-term breastfeeding is, as has already been proven, good for both mother and baby, but comfortable and harmonious breastfeeding that brings mutual pleasure is a bar that many of today's pioneer mothers have yet to take.

Mother and child initially exist in a kind of symbiosis, and although the baby has already physically separated from the mother, the emotional and psychological separation is still in its infancy and will continue until adolescence. In the meantime, it’s not for nothing that mothers, even in speech, often do not separate themselves from the child, saying “we”, “we ate”, “we took a walk”.

Infants extremely sensitive to the state of the mother, her emotional mood. They still continue to “live her life” and feed on her “juices”, although not through the umbilical cord, but from the chest.

There is also an opinion that babies are sensitive until a certain time and not only to the mother herself, but to people in general. Since ancient times, it was not recommended to show a newborn within a month after birth to strangers, it was believed that he could be jinxed. The evil eye acts especially strongly on impressionable and sensitive natures (a child is 10 times more impressionable than any adult). Yes, and mothers themselves, purely intuitively, tend to retire at first, avoid traveling with babies in public transport. And the well-known founder of rebirthing (one of the methods of psychotherapy) L. Orr says that children have extrasensory sensitivity and generally does not recommend showing the child even to relatives for as long as possible ...

However, any mother who has even a slight inclination to self-observation will confirm that children very subtly feel the change in her emotional state and instantly react with a change in theirs.

Breastfeeding is not only a process of saturation, it is a sacrament, and the paintings of nursing mothers by famous artists speak about this without further ado ... When a mother feeds her child, she herself becomes for some time a Madonna - loving and accepting her child without any conditions, absolutely and fully.

None of the mothers will deny that breastfeeding is the communication of a mother with a baby ... folk wisdom(and speaking psychologically, the collective unconscious) says: "to absorb with mother's milk." More and more modern authors, closely studying the intricacies of the interaction between mother and baby, believe that during breastfeeding, the child receives not only useful material for your body, but important information necessary for his soul: the emotional state of the mother is transmitted to him, and even her experience of the entire universe. For best contact with a child, they are advised to retire for this sacrament and focus on the child and their feelings. And some Orthodox priests invite mothers to pray before each feeding.

In this regard, it is interesting to note one recently made discovery by the Japanese scientist Masaro Emoto. In general, it has long been known that water is a substance capable of storing and transmitting information, and the latest discoveries of this scientist, which are becoming increasingly famous, show this shockingly clearly. Here is how one Internet publication talks about his research:
"Masaro Emoto investigated droplets different water under a powerful microscope and recorded the results photographically. He studied how different sounds and even words affect the structure of water. Beethoven's music, folk, hard rock were included in the laboratory. Then the water was frozen, and it was found that the music of Beethoven and folk songs led to the formation of geometrically correct, beautiful snowflakes, and hard rock - to a disorderly heap of needles of ice.

Experiences "linguistic" were generally on the verge of fantasy! Paper with printed words was pasted onto a container of water: “love”, “mother”, “God”, “I will kill you”. It turned out that even printed information is perceived by water! The words "mother", "love" were reflected in the beauty and correctness of the snowflakes, and their shape was identical. The word "God" was accompanied by the formation of snowflakes with ... the face of a man in the center. The phrase "I'll kill you" led to the formation of ugly snowflakes, as if blown up from the inside.

A person is 80% water, and then how much is mother's milk? Milk "hears" all the thoughts of the mother and perceives her feelings and, of course, passes on to the child. Apparently, milk is a very powerful carrier of information about the state of the mother, it is not surprising that babies are so eager for him, and especially if they are worried or afraid of something. After all, a mother is always a reminder of that serene state when the baby was still one with her.

It is very possible that many difficult moments breastfeeding, legs grow out of this situation: breast rejection, which occurs in babies in the first months of life, breast bites, which become for some mothers real problem when the baby gets teeth.
Why is he biting? Maybe because mom herself at this moment is angry with someone or something. I don’t think that the child himself is angry with the mother or, moreover, takes revenge on her, most likely he just, like a sensitive radar, glorifies the mother’s mood and, apparently, enters into similar condition, and clenching of the jaws involuntarily occurs when experiencing anger, sort of like clenching fists ...

What happens, the baby is aware of everything that happens to mom? But after all, mom has so many worries and anxieties, and it’s not without reason. And so you want to protect your child from everything bad - for this you try! But what a trap you fall into - the trap of your own efforts!
How to use this information so that it will benefit and serve the parent, and not become a reason for another headache? After all, mothers are people who are fairly loaded with worries and moments of feeding for many - this is one of the few opportunities to briefly escape from worries, relax or think about something of their own, but it turns out that here you have to work hard - and not work too hard for long! I want to warn you against such an attitude. Information is pouring in from all sides about what an ideal mother should be, and how can you not give your child the best! And now the parent has to tighten up ... but is it good for the child, does the family benefit? In fact, what a child really needs is happy mom, and not ideal, and therefore, most of all, mothers really need to take care of themselves and give themselves more love, and not at all strain even more to be more the best mom. Let me give you advice on how to deal with this information that I offer you. Do not try to force yourself to control your thoughts, feelings during breastfeeding, do not force yourself when you feel that you cannot be in a good state of mind - violence against yourself will only aggravate the situation. Let everything go as it does at such a moment, and don't blame yourself for being weak. When will you be in the mood, oh! Here is where you can practice. At this favorable moment, think about the fact that your baby is very close to you, maybe even closer than you thought, think about all the good things that you would like to convey to him. About the secret that lies in the depths of your soul and is prepared especially for your dear child. About what you really really want and what gives you strength in difficult moments in your parent path. Let this beautiful image appear before you and just stay, bathe in its rays. Think about the fact that your baby is now bathing in these rays with you, and at this very moment you are giving him everything that you dream about. Imagine how the warmth of your soul flows along with your milk. Now your child is at your very heart, and it may not be accidental that it is during breastfeeding that he is closest to his mother’s heart, so let milk flow to him from the chest, and love from the heart. Stay with this image for as long as you want, as long as it will nourish you. And repeat this exercise every time the desire arises.

Let this information help you become more confident and happy parent, and do not focus on the fact that it is not always possible to be in good mood while breastfeeding, but rather be glad that now you know something else that will help you in caring for your treasure.